TTC after miscarriage - new thread

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I just spotted that the old thread was now closed to new messages so thought I'd start another. The old thread for reference: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2457787-TTC-1-after-miscarriage-looking-for-some-buddies

Brenna that's really rude! The mood I'm in at the min, if that happened to me I think I would have bopped them on the nose!

Still have cramps they are worse than period pains! No spotting or any sign of anything. Did anyone else have cramps like this?
Managed to DTD last night, DH text me from work saying he had the best nights sleep!

Hi can I join here? Sorry to see so many others here.

We went for our scan last Friday (day before my birthday so learnt a lesson there) and although the baby was the right size they couldn't find a heartbeat and said it must have happened that morning or night before. Had to go to the epu on the Tuesday and they confirmed it and then had surgical management on Wednesday. Hoping to start ttc again as soon as the bleeding stops but scared at the same time particularly as this was my first pregnancy.

Brenda and CheekyChickSSS I can't believe how rude people can be.

CheekyChickSSS two weddings in one day. Wow. Hope you have a great day and happy 5th wedding anniversary for yesterday.

AmyB I noticed in your last post you said that you had lots of clear cm. That sounds like fertile cm to me... could the cramps be ovulation pain? I used to get that a bit.

How does everyone cope with seeing close friends who are due the same time as them? We found out on Friday that close friends of ours are due with their dc2 the same week as we should have been. My instinct is to hide away and never see them again but I know this isn't a realistic option. They don't know about our loss but shes been texting me to tell me about how she's feeling and how shes gone of chocolate etc and I keep nearly saying things like oh I had that when I was pregnant too. Nothing bad just conversational stuff almost without thinking. It was my first pregnancy as well and as hardly anyone knew about it everyone seems to assume i dont know anything about pregnancy etc and keep explaining things to us. DH thinks we should just mention it in conversation but I feel like you can't tell a pregnant woman how horribly wrong our pregnancy went.

Waiting that really sucks, and I'm so sorry you find yourself here. Have you considered telling your friend and just being honest with her? And saying you're really happy for her but you're just not in a place to be able to hear about all her pregnancy stuff at this point in time?

Is this a positive OPK? Never really had them work properly before despite falling pregnant twice.

Waiting sorry for your loss and that you find yourself here. Not everyone knows about my loss like you. I explained to a few close friends, one of which is pregnant. She felt she couldn't talk about her pregnancy but I told her I wanted her to, I didn't want her to feel awkward towards me and I'm also over the moon to see a healthy pregnancy progress. However people who are not close to me, posting about their 'happy accidents' make me want to pull hair. I've distanced myself from Facebook and other platforms just to feel some sanity.

As for the cramps and cm mentioned, the cramps aren't like ovulation pains, they're in the middle like a few days before af comes but much much stronger. I don't think I'm ovulating as my hcg levels have only just reached zero after my mc. Maybe it's just my hormones kicking back into gear I don't know. I could barely move yesterday and this morning but it's much better now, still there but dull.

Loki looks positive to me!!

Amy I had all of those cramps at the same point as you are. GP decided to give me antibiotics in case it was an infection. I felt so much better after. Then af showed up.

I'm ovulating. All of the signs are there and it is bang on time so that's at least a good thing. I'm getting back to normal at long last.

Loki I'll book to see my GP tomorrow, I've already had one course of antibiotics which finished two weeks ago. Not sure what's going on.

My OPKs are all negative, yours is defo positive. I keep taking them because of all this cm I'm having. It's really clear ewcm. Had one small amount of pink spotting once when I wiped a couple of days ago then these cramps and nothing else since. If I had ovulated I would have said it might have been implantation but I know I can't have because my hcg was still 19 on Tuesday!

Amy I've been getting loads of wierd cramps. My HCG was 5 last Sunday so I think I'm either gearing up to ovulate or for af. I've been off work for 2 weeks and go back tomorrow. I had 2 days in hospital due to low blood pressure which is one of the reasons they thought it was ectopic but I think it was just due to the heavy bleeding. People in work know due to the nature of my job. I know I need to face them. I just don't want to deal with it.

Just want to ovulate soon!

Somethingfromnothing I think that's what's happening with me. It's taken 4 weeks for my hcg levels to drop down. I want af to come so I can figure out what my cycle is.
Due to the depo injection I've not had af for a year. The only bleeding was with my mc. Must have fallen prego on he first ovulation else I would have had af.
Hoping I fall quickly again but dread that positive test!

MC#3 happened this morning, damn painful but relieved I don't need an EPRC after all (although there was no tissue to send for testing). So I guess this is CD1. I got a little crazy with the whole TTC shebang last time so aside tracking AF, we're going to try taking a relaxed approach to it this time starting with some red wine, medium rare steak and some smelly Brie 🧀

Happy Valentine's Day everyone!

Welcome to the newbies but sorry for your losses

Loki that's a v positive opk and great to hear you're ov again.

I can't believe people can be so rude Brenda and Cheeky!

I ov on Thursday so I'm in that awful 2ww. I've also joined ovia as well as ff. I'm so glad I opk more than once a day as I got one smiley face and I do 3 a day! Could have so easily missed it. I did get my temp spike too which was a massive relief.

Hi and sorry Mimi, something and Waiting. I hope you all graduate from here soon.

Amy I have only been skimming so I don't know what the question of the cramps was but I had 2 days of cramps and bleeding 3 weeks after my m/c started. It turned out to be ovulation. I was so upset at the time as I thought it meant there was retained tissue. It was nice to figure out with hindsight that it was a sign of things being on the right track.

Hello to all the newbies, sorry you have found yourselves here.

I've had a fairly relaxing weekend, I downloaded ovia after all the comments so hoping I'll at least notice a pattern quickly if I don't fall pregnant.

I'm on cd9, ovia sys my fertile week starts next Sunday and as I'm opting to not tell DH about ovulation this month and make it all about the sex I need to make sure I make time this week too. So much to think about!

Morning all- still have mild cramps, not half as bad as they were and had a tiny, barely visible bit of pink spotting again last night. It always seems to come at the same time of night. After I've had my shower!

I've taken OPKs and all have been negative so I'm not sure if I've missed my surge and it is ovulation or whether af is going to come soon still. Hoping its ovulation and I just missed my surge. Only time will tell.

Good luck to all those in the fertile window and those coming up to their window.hoping Feb brings us some good luck.

I'm off to the hospital to visit my gran who was rushed in over the weekend feeling poorly. They are treating her for sepsis, she's been ill for around 3 weeks now. Poor lady is blind, has lupus and osteoarthritis and countless other things wrong with her. She's due to go into hospital to have a cornea transplant next week so hoping she recovers in time for that.

Ok so now I'm almost positive I missed my lh surge! The beginning of the week the tests were faint and got stronger but not the same or darker than the control line. Yesterday they were much darker than the one I've taken this morning. My temp also dropped by 1 degree on the 12th and is now slowly rising again.
Given the cramps it all ties in. DTD sat night and yesterday night so may have caught it!
Does anyone else get spotting around their ovulation?
Feel a bit panic stricken at the min!
If I did ovulate I'm 1-2 dpo, going by previous cycles I should have af between 13 and 15 days from now

Sorry to hear about your gran Amy. No sorry I don't get spotting in between my periods at all but I hear it's quite common. Exciting that you may have dtd at the right time!

Still waiting on AF to finish.

Amy I don't usually get ov bleeding but I did in the first 2 cycles after my ERPC. I also only got 1 positive opk and I do 3 a day - 9am, 3 pm and 9pm. So you could have easily missed it, especially as your lines got stronger then started to fade. Good luck!

Cheeky hope af buggers off quickly for you.
My gran should be fine she's in the right place. Glad she's in the Glenfield hospital and not the Royal in Leicester though, much nicer hospital.
She's absolutely exhausted and can't sleep because she says everywhere hurts. Come home to let her try and rest some more.
This year has started off horribly, keep saying to myself 'things can only get better'.
Hoping to see some bfp's soon to cheer me up! Even if it's not my own

Jo we must have been posting at the same time. Thanks, I think I did miss it for definite! Good to know somethings happening and that I can expect af soon. The pain was horrendous though, never noticed ov pains before but then I probably wasn't looking for them quite as much as I am now. It did feel like af was about to come

confused and pissed off. I'm ovulating and bleeding. dtd plenty but it's not going to be successful when I'm bleeding is it? It is pink rather than red but I've had to put a pad in.

Loki this is exactly what I was just asking. Friday I had a lot of bright red spotting which has since tailed off to pink when I wipe, not enough for a pad but did have a few spots on a panty liner on Saturday. It was brown rather than red/pink though.

I'm not sure what spotting suggests conception wise though. May have to take to dr Google

Loki it suggest a really good strong ovulation and is completely normal for a lot of woman to bleed and spot around ovulation! Apparently a really really good sign