TTC after miscarriage - new thread

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I just spotted that the old thread was now closed to new messages so thought I'd start another. The old thread for reference: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2457787-TTC-1-after-miscarriage-looking-for-some-buddies

Thank you Jo, IC and elderberries. Feel better for resting. Had to get up though as hubby had to take our bed to pieces ready for our new one tomorrow.
Had my beta hcg results back, they are at 55 now so not quite under 50 so have to go back to the hospital for another test next Tuesday!
Sick to the back teeth of bloody hospitals!!

IC your GP sounds lovely. When I had my scan they found a 6cm cyst on my left ovary, they weren't overly concerned about it and said it was probably to do with the pregnancy. My GP won't call me for a follow up I know it!

I'm not doing so well with af. its like I'm having mc flashbacks. I really thought I had coped well but this has floored me. I feel so poorly too.

Cheeky I was the same after my mc. As it happened just before Christmas, I was off until the new year then was feeling okish energy-wise. After the 2nd week of being back at work, things went downhill and I haven't picked up again yet. I am part time for another few weeks before attempting full days so hoping I will pick up by then.

So sorry you are feeling ill Amy, your body is just demanding the rest it needs, give it that and enjoy being waited on :)

Did your GPs or EPAU request for you to have bloods taken through all this? I hadn't had a single blood test throughout my miscarriage. When I went to GP saying I was still exhausted after 1 month, she measured iron etc but haven't had any HCG measurements

I'm sorry Loki, I know exactly what you mean about flashbacks. I had the same with my first one and it was so unbelievably heavy with awful cramps that I just did not cope.
Just keep reminding yourself that it is a good thing your body is returning to normal and getting ready to try again.

Back for another moan ladies. I really hope nobody minds...I know this thread is about TTC but that is what I will be trying to do as soon as this bloody MC is over!

Went for a scan today as still having positive tests and bleeding 2 weeks after my first heavy bleed. They thought they could still see the sack, so booked me in for a D&C Sunday.

Went back to work, met Prince Harry (not related but had to get it in there!!), then after work was delivering a staff meeting when a very heavy bleed began. Awful timing as I was standing in front of an audience!! I had to duck out and run home.

This had BETTER be it.

Riddles the epau requested the bloods because they couldn't tell what was left in my womb during the scan and as my bleeding had turned to spotting then they wanted to know I defo wasn't still pregnant.

Loki I also know what you mean about the mc flashbacks. I had cramping and now more bleeding today, it's awful and feels like it's happening all over again.

Missclarke I hope you're ok, must have been awful for you! I hope for you that it's the end.

I hate knowing how many other ladies are going through this now and no doubt how many more will. It's such a lonely and upsetting time I wouldn't wish it on anyone.
I just want my body back, my energy back and my life instead of feeling like I do now. Grumpy and drained!
Fingers crossed for our future bfp's, our twinkle babies will be watching over us I'm sure

Loki please take some reassurance that it will be over soon. It's awful, the flashbacks, the sensation of the cramps and bleeding and the massive hormone crash but it will be over soon.

Take some time to yourself to process it all and - yep I'll say it, wallow a bit - it does help. Is your DH around to look after you?

DH is around and is supportive but he doesnt get it really. Thanks for your support everyone. I've got 1 and a half insanely busy weeks and then I can crash. km trying to distract myself. Miss Clarke I hope this is it for you.

Miss Clarke I was at work when my miscarriage started so can empathise with how hard that is, I ended up putting a tampon in since I didn't have any pads (which I know I shouldn't really have done but no problems caused that I know of), and staying on at work due to taking the view that there wasn't really anything I could do to stop the miscarriage, but I could help the people I was about to meet and the sense of feeling useful at a time I otherwise felt useless and helpless gave me back some sort of sense of control I think. DH was having kittens about it and wanting me home, where I did go as soon as I finished and spent the rest of the night sobbing inconsolably. Probably no right way to do it I suppose, it just sucks. And moan/rant away, that's what we're here for, hope this is the last horribleness of it over for you xx

Well I finally got a bfp this morning 3 days after af should have started.
Part of me wants to be excited but the majority is thinking I've had 2 mcs in the last 6 months, what's the chances of having a third
It's the least excited I've been about a pregnancy and I feel sad that I'm not more happy. I'm just terrified its going to happen again

Wishing you congratulations twinkle. I hope this is it for you x

Twinkle congratulations, I hope everything goes well for you xx

Hello everyone, sorry I've been awol - I just wrote a really long reply to everyone and then went and lost it somehow

So, to summarise:

What lovely news Northern and Twinkle, congratulations

Welcome everyone new, to everyone having a tough time, and everything crossed including the dog's paws for those in tww.

I had a second sort of trough too after my first AF, and am now feeling much better a week later.

As well as obsessive ewcm-watch, I got to grips with opk's (superdrug and clear blue) for the first time over the last few days - having always been far too impatient for them - and after much crossness got a line and a smiley face on day 16 (after ewcm for at least 4 days, which surprised me). All necessary measures have been taken, womb fleece at the ready

good luck twinkle, third time lucky I hope

Congratulations twinkle! You've been through a lot but try not to stress and take a day at a time. I hope this pregnancy will be smooth for you.

Lucky and MissClarke I was at work too when mine started happened - Found out the bad news on a scan on the weekend but decided to come in to work anyway as there was nothing to do but wait. Had to leave halfway through a meeting as was in agony with almost contractions.

I hope the worst is over for you

Thankyou all.

Sorry I'm feeling a bit moany and miserable at the moment. Maybe it's hormones I've been using that excuse since August!

Congratulations twinkle

Congratulations twinkle wishing you a very healthy pregnancy.

Yay twinkle great news!!

Ovia is telling me to test today but I'm too scared!! The HPTs are in the car, but I really don't think I can do it !

I've braved it - what do we think?? Not sure if it's wishful thinking?!!

That's positive lex!

Really?? Scuse the language but Jesus fucking Christ.....

Twinkle and obsessed congratulations! I know it's very hard but people who have had miscarriages in the past have told me that they regret not enjoying their next pregnancy and wish they did just be happy. Hopefully this time it will go to full term and even if it doesn't, you'll be just as upset regardless of whether you were overjoyed/excited or not. I thought that was brilliant advice as we often wish time away but I know ill be the first to struggle with it. I will however try!

That's such good advice cheeky - I'm going to try but I'm just terrified now!!