TTC after miscarriage - new thread

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I just spotted that the old thread was now closed to new messages so thought I'd start another. The old thread for reference: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2457787-TTC-1-after-miscarriage-looking-for-some-buddies

If anyone can help, I'd be so grateful xx

EllieJay not sure I can be of much use as I've never used OPKs but could you be pregnant so you're using the wrong test?

I've read a few threads and comments on here about people using OPKs and getting odd results and turns out they are pregnant?

Otherwise, maybe re-visit the instructions for the OPKs, it's so easy to make a tiny mistake which can throw results out like people who look at a pregnancy test after before/after the time has lapsed and get a different result.

Just my thoughts I didn't want you to go unanswered. Good luck!

Hi Twinkle. From what I've read mc can throw your cycle out of whack for a couple of months but everybody's reaction is different. Maybe give it a few more days and test again if still no sign of AF.

I have really low energy too and also low mood. In fact I feel like I usually do pre-AF but it's been for the last 2 weeks or so and I'm not expecting AF for about another week or two. Bleurgh.

Finally got discharged from EPAU today after my fourth scan and more appointments than I can remember. STILL have retained tissue but it is shrinking of its own accord and is just under 1cm now so they're happy that it should pass with my next period. Although the nurse I had today was a bit arsey that I have had so many appointments because, as she put it, I've been reluctant to have any intervention. Considering it started naturally, I passed the foetal sack naturally, and the dr advised against intervention because it was progressing well I don't think my lack of intervention is because of my reluctance but because going on medical advice it seemed like the best course of action! I'm not going to opt for medical and inducing more of what I've been through already if it's not necessary. . OK rant over

So glad not to have to keep trekking back and forth to the hospital!

Northern congratulations!! So very exciting, glad you're getting nice strong lines!

Loki I felt the same when I ovulated way before I thought I would- like my body had moved on before my brain had had a chance to fully accept what was going on. It's such a confusing time, hope your period isn't too heavy.

Riddles I've also been knacked! Also have a very physically demanding job and have upped my coffee intake to two a morning (and sometimes another in the afternoon). Just can't seem to shake it, but think it might be caused by the fact that I'm also sleeping very badly. My body is exhausted but my brain won't turn off. It's very annoying.

IC that's so rude she said that! Did you set her straight? I'm not sure who would recommend unnecessary medical intervention, that seems silly. Glad things are almost finally over for you.

I am having all my usual symptoms that happen a week before my period arrives, which I know I can't read anything into but still has me bummed. We are at a wedding in April and the bride (she is marrying my cousin) is due in August, a week after my little one would have been due. I'm really struggling with the thought of not being pregnant again by then. Guess we'll just have to wait to see what happens. Only having one shot at this every 4-5 weeks is complete bullshit.

ic you and I have been treated very badly - I begged for intervention and they refused - you wanted to go through the natural route and we're treated like crap. It is bad enough that we've been through what we have without being treated like crap.

Hi all, been and had my bloods taken again today. Should get the results tomorrow around lunch timeish. Hoping this will be my last bloods but I'm thinking not. I had a negative HPT yesterday but again today it's faintly positive without fmu so I have no idea what's going on.
I feel ill, have a migraine coming now too and just want to sleep.
Haven't taken anytime off work at all during my mc which I should have done but the guilt of letting my colleagues down again stopped me.
Sorry for the rant

Insufficiently I think the epau nurse was really insensitive. The Drs advised me to do the same as I had a small amount of retained tissue too. They said there was no point putting your body through anymore than it needs to go through and your wishes should be paramount anyway! I'm sure the NHS staff policy is to listen to their patients wishes, advise and not judge. Hope you get back to normal soon

IC Some people are just so rude. I know people don't often understand but surely she must have seen it before?

Elderberries we are exactly the same, wedding in June. The once a month thing is what I hate, I have no patience. I also work out my dates for if it does happen each month.

Sorry to ask everyone, but does anybody still feel extremely emotional? I'm not sure if it is hormones or grief or just me, but I'm still all over the place and crying most days. Is this normal?

Loki I found the bleeding for first AF quite hard as it brought it all back from the previous month but it is a relief to know my body has reacted how it should do and my cycle is regulating itself. Also reassuring that we can start trying again when we are ready.

JoMalones I am just taking Pregnacare conception vitamins which contain some iron. GP said they should be sufficient. I am really not keen to take separate iron supplements due to constipation and stomach side effects that go with them.

Elderberries I have similar issues with sleeping although it is improving a little because I am not working full time so can't take on so much at work. I've also found massages and reflexology help too. Saying that, I still have 3-4 nights a week where my brain is too active to sleep but am so grateful for the ones where I do sleep through the night! I am desperately trying to limit my coffee for when we ttc again but it is so hard to resist as we are lucky to have a brilliant coffee machine at home!

IC the nurse was really insensitive to say that - it is your body and your choice how much intervention you decide to take. The fact that the doctors advised you to take the natural option makes her comments even more inappropriate. As someone who also works in healthcare, I find it really annoying to hear about comments like she made.

JoMalones I have emotional moments although they are getting fewer. It was def hormones the first month but now I find that I am worst when tired and I fall apart at the smallest of things - really hard to control at work sometimes.

Jo, I sort of work out my dates too but I did a lot of that in the 8 months before the miscarriage and it made it too hard. I hate knowing that if my chemical had stuck it would have been a week old about now I find it easier to not think about it. Instead I'm stuck in a job I really dislike (though not for much longer!) raising someone else's babies.

I was feeling great from about two and a half weeks ago until this weekend. Now I just feel angry. Had a cry to DH last night about unfair it all is. I think it is normal tbh, some days/weeks/months are going to easier and some are going to be very hard. I'm so so grateful I only have to get through another 3 weeks and then I'm finished my job and will be temping on a day-to-day basis, so can have as little or as much space as I need. That's been so key to me keeping my head above water the past few weeks.

Thanks Riddles. I take liquid iron as any tablets constipated me. I then take vit b complex and folic acid. Not sure if I'm lacking anything else though.**
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Elderberries* I was OK a couple of weeks ago but this last week (maybe because of AF) has been awful. I had a massage and cried in the middle! I cry in the shower, I just hope that once AF has gone maybe I might feel better. I guess ov is something to focus on but I just want to move on (whilst being pregnant)

Amy and riddles - my medically managed miscarriage was on 5/1 and I felt I build my energy up so went back to work two weeks later but seem to have come crashing down. I did have sepsis too though just before the mmc so I expect it's all come crashing down.

Northern that is so great! Do give us a recap on your story so the rest of us become hopeful!

Loki- totally get what you mean. AF is good and bad. We haven't had unprotected sex so I know I'm defo gearing up to AF and maybe that's why I'm exhausted?

I really feel like I could sleep for a week. I've got a nasty cold along with af and stressiness at work. I'm with everyone who is crashing right now!

Loki can't even talk I'm that tired. Keep getting mixed up lol

Having cramps again like af is coming too.

Hope you all feel better! I feel like af is coming on and off. Almost 4 weeks since mmc.

My first period was quite light so it may not be as bad as you expect. I was geared for a horrendous time but it was ok really.
My emotions were awful a coupl of days before it though. I couldn't stop crying but once it was over I reverted to normal.

Hey ladies,

So now I'm really confused! I'm now 20days past ovulation still no period and negative pregnancy tests but ovulation test came back positive today.

How could i have ovulated and then not had a period?

Is this a chance that it's due to the D&C or could I be pregnant?

I am feeling symptoms but worried they might be in my head.

Breasts are huge but not sore, bloated, feel sick

And day 4 after ovulation I had spotting that could have been implantation bleeding!

Aagggghhhh help, I'm going insane xx

ellie I think you're new to this thread? Welcome, but sorry to hear you've had a miscarriage too.

I used OPKs for the first time last cycle so not an expert but I'd agree with the person who suggested a run of high fertility results could be due to new pregnancy unless you've ruled that out? Could also be hcg still in your system from your last pregnancy causing that in dec? I've also read on here that it could be due to your body getting set to ovulate but not actually following through, and it can take time to get back on track after MC. When you say feeling pregnant just before, do you mean before AF or before ovulating? I had that before AF last cycle and put it down to progesterone probably being elevated, which would be the same for either pregnancy or late luteal phase. The more I read about it, the more I think symptom spotting is pointless for me until AF is late. That's my logical brain talking though, I'll still get into it again this cycle no doubt. For now I'm trying to focus on living my life, to keep TTC in perspective. Fertile window coming up soon though!

Mrs Bevo can you ask your GP for a blood test to check beta hcg? It might be you are pregnant but the hormone isn't strong enough in your urine yet. That would get you a clearer answer xx

Congratulations Northern. I am so happy for you.

I hope you asked that nurse why she had a problem with the Drs advice, IC?

We have only managed to DTD to completion once this month, relaxing weekends notwithstanding. DH has had a cold since Friday and his usual issue with finishing has flared up. I am fed up of this. Next month he is away for a week so we won't have much of a run up. The month after my Mum will be here. DH thinks it isn't a problem if we never get round to it. Aarrgghh.

Hi all. I'm so exhausted I've had to call in sick at work today. Starting to get a migraine I think, keep seeing flashing lights that aren't there.
DH has told me to get back in bed and rest up, he's being my waiter today
Hope everyone is feeling better than I am today and have a good day what ever you're doing

Oh AmyB get well soon! Glad you're being well looked after

I didn't say anything to the nurse, I was just really taken aback by what she'd said. Also focussing on the being discharged and not having to keep going back and forth everyday. Everybody else I've seen at epau have been really good though so she wasn't representative of my overall experience there.

My lovely GP called me as soon as she got my discharge notes from the hospital and arranged for me to have a blood test in 2 weeks just to be sure everything does clear up on its own and hcg goes to zero. Negative hpt now though and I'm using really sensitive ones.

Hope you feel better soon Amy

Brenna that's so frustrating!! And it's an impossible situation, you can't let him see that it upsets you because that makes it worse, but then they only have one job! We went through a phase of that for a few months last summer and it was so shit

Amy sorry you're feeling poorly but am so jealous of your day in bed! I had a dream this morning that I'd finished my job already and I could have a long, cozy lie-in. Then my alarm went off an hour early because I needed to be at work early this morning and I needed to wash and blow dry my hair before! 😭

Am meet a friend out later and have had a very healthy lunch (I do every day though tbh) so I can have a piece of cake later. Really looking forward to it!!