TTC after miscarriage - new thread

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I just spotted that the old thread was now closed to new messages so thought I'd start another. The old thread for reference: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2457787-TTC-1-after-miscarriage-looking-for-some-buddies

Missclarke sounds miserable. You must hound the EPU for those swab results so you can start antibiotics ASAP if you need to. Let us know how you get on. Waiting is the worst part but I was amazed how quickly I recovered emotionally after my 1st miscarriage. A week seems like a long time away but life will look much brighter by then I promise.

brenna so sorry about the funeral but glad you and DH had a lovely time! Sounds like a result!

This morning I am convinced AF is on her way. Cramps bloating etc. But at least when she arrives I'll know what my body is bloody up to!!!

Hope you all have good days. X

Hi everyone, sorry I've been awol for a few days.

Kate that sounds positive, hope AF is with you soon.

Northern I know exactly how you feel about due date approaching, mine was in September last year and I really struggled that week despite being ok for everything else. Not helped by the fact we hadn't even started TTC again by then due to lots of other things.

Brenna I'm so pleased your friends service went well and you had a lovely weekend.

Things with me have improved immensely. After last weeks crying/arguing/feeling down I decided to take the advice of others and make it all about the sex and step away from MN.

Told my DH to ignore my previous upset as hormonal and and agreed to just focus on having more sex (we have issues with work/travel) and we have DTD more in the last 5 days than we did all last month. Feel so much closer for it, definitely the right way forward for me.

I'm in the 2ww, although 99% sure I missed the window this month I'm still annoyingly hopeful. Due AF around 8th Feb but I'm a bit irregular so we will see.

Good luck everyone!

Oh my god, after my rant the other day, I've just had a positive on a first response - terrified!

Oh my god! Amazing! Are you due?! X

Hi everyone. Sorry I disappeared after joining this thread, my husband took me away to cut off from the world and try rest for a couple of weeks.

Welcome to all the new people, sorry for all your losses.

Although I still had positive pregnancy tests 3 weeks after miscarriage, AF came 29 days after the miscarriage. It was the heaviest I have ever experienced and brought back all the memories of experience. Hopefully the next one will be back to normal.

Is anyone else struggling with low energy levels? It has now been 6 weeks but I am still physically exhausted and can't manage a full day at work. Admittedly, my job is more physically demanding than most as I am always on my feet but I didn't expect recovery to take this long.

Northernlight, thats brilliant, congrats.

Northanlight congratulations brilliant news, here's to an uneventful pregnancy.

Riddles I feel exhausted still too. My job is very physically and mentally demanding also but usually I can cope pretty well with the demands. The last 3 weeks I've been that exhausted it makes me feel physically sick. I thought maybe because I have been constantly drinking coffee that was making it worse. I'm on my second cup now as we speak. By now I would have had about 6!
Pounding withdrawal head ache!

Oh no Amy, that must be making you feel so much worse when you are already exhausted. I'm trying to avoid coffee for when we do ttc again so am limiting myself to 2 per week (with great difficulty!)
My job sounds like yours but I am managing the mental demands now - I struggled for the first 2 weeks but am feeling much stronger emotionally with the odd moment where I struggle. I can't cope physically though - like you, I also feel physically sick and that my body can't move by late afternoon. Are you managing to work your usual hours?

No riddles I'm not. Normally I do two 12 hour shifts so I have shorter week at work but I can't manage the 12 hours as like you I'm unable to move by the afternoon.
The last 3 weeks since my mc I've been drinking far more coffee to try and boost my energy so thought I'd cut it out to see if it was that making me feel poorly but it definitely isn't what was the cause.
Feel pretty hideous at the min, would love to go to bed (yawns loudly).

I'm in the same boat, don't know when I will manage a full day the way I feel right now! It definitely isn't the coffee causing it although it probably helped mask it a little when you were drinking a lot. My GP has told me it is nothing to worry about and I just need to give my body rest but I am finding it so frustrating.

Would never wish this on you but it is reassuring to know I am not alone in feeling this way - I read about people going back to normal in a couple of weeks and just got more and more annoyed that my body wouldn't work.

Due around now and strong lines. Can't believe it. Will try a CBD tomorrow x

Congratulations Northern! I think I'm about to get af. Getting all of the signs and spotting. The sensible part of me is happy but seeing the spotting had made me all wobbly and teary.

Riddles me too. My manger has even put me in a different department on Monday next week so I can have a slower pace but will still be on my feet all day just don't have to deal with all the demands of people with mental illness and dementia!
Hopefully soon we'll get our energy back. Can't stand this feeling for much longer.

Northern excited for you!
Loki is this your first af since mc? I'm dreading mine coming but will also be a relief.

Yeah it is. I'm a bit scared if im honest. Will see if it gets heavier.

Hi I'm a lurker - had an MMC in Dec at 12 weeks and ERPC which all went as well as it could - I've been on lots of other boards so recognise a few of you.
loki I know exactly how you feel, scared of the blood of AF but afterwards it felt good to know that everything was/is now working properly.
I had my AF about 5.5 weeks after ERPC.
Been v busy DTD since and I'm now due to test in a few days - eeeek! I feel terrified of the prospect of being pregnant again but equally long for it. There's just now innocence left now, the fear that things can go wrong is all too real. But I keep telling myself that each egg is a whole new start. I think that's all one can do. Good luck to you all in this club xxxxx

Congratulations Northern, how exciting! Good luck, I hope you have a happy and uneventful 9 months

for you Loki. Not knowing what is happening and what to expect is so difficult. I'm both eagerly awaiting and terrified of AF. Make sure you get lots of rest

Wow! Huge congratulations Northern that's amazing news!

Congrats Northern
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Riddles* are you taking iron or any supplements? I've been shattered until the last week and that's only because in now on steroids.

Loki, I agree with Lex, my first AF wasn't nice but it felt good to have a good clear out (sorry tmi). Was v heavy and again horrid to see blood but it felt good to move on afterwards so was quite cathartic in the end.

It is definitely af. I feel strange. My body has moved on. It's cd1 again. I feel glad and sad.
Miss Clarke I had to have antibiotics and they worked wonders. Hope you are okay. Keep on at the epu and don't let them fob you off x

Hi all
I had a mc in November. I had a period 5 weeks exactly after it. Previously I had a 28 day cycle. My period was due Sunday but no sign so far. My cheapie amazon tests are negative though. Is it likely to have a messed up 2nd cycle even if the first was ok? i'm sure I ovulated a couple of weeks ago due to pains and cramps and had sex around then.

Just on the low energy level, I was like that for my first cycle after MC but found in my second cycle my positive energy and happy hormones kicked up a gear. Now I'm into my third cycle and feeling anxious/excited which Ovia says is right on track for just before my fertile window - personally I think my mood is more to do with work stuff, but TTC has definitely made me pay more attention to my body and hormone changes.

Congrats northern and sounds like a lovely silver lining weekend brenna. Humanist services are great for capturing people's stories and characters.

Hello X

I'm going crazy with the peeing on sticks!

Totally nuts

This morning not understanding my advanced monitor (that I spent a fortune on) still showing highs after two months I brought the digital advanced (light purple) clear blue stick - showed peak

Did a pink Clearblue - and big fat nothing

After my miscarriage in November each month my cycle is regularly as clockwork but the symptoms around ovulation are so strong, pain in left hand side and a stupid spot near my chin... Googled this apparently a sign of ovulation, more emotional than ever

Then a few days before I get strong pregnancy symptoms

It's all driving me crazy and is so upsetting