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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Relaxed TTC Feb/March/April 2016

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stumblymonkey · 29/12/2015 17:34

Hi,

We've just agreed to start TTC #1 in March so just starting to look at preparing for that - prenatal vitamins, losing some weight, etc.

I'm 33 and have only been with my OH for just over a year but we're both sure this is the relationship for us...we'll be getting married but want TTC as a priority and fit any wedding around Mother Nature.

Not planning any temp checking or charting or such like....maybe I'll change my mind if I'm not preggers after six months or so!

Anyone planning TTC about the same time and want to keep in touch on this thread for relaxed catch ups about preparing and then TTC?

Sarah X

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snowy1982 · 22/01/2016 13:09

Poison at times i find it hard that he is so laid back about things and i just want to shake him to get a response, but then when i am really freaking out about something and he is able to stay calm and also calm me down i really appreciate it then!

SA is sperm analysis - well in my head it is, dont know if it is official lingo - he has an appointment next week to make the lab arrangements

thisisbloodyridiculous · 22/01/2016 16:23

My OH is a very laid back person & the way our relationship works is I research & plan way more than he does - but he's the more sensible head > heart one. I know when we get a BFP he'll be excited & he will be an incredibly father.. We've talked about it lots whilst we've been on honeymoon and I can wait to get started haha!

TheresaMarie55 · 22/01/2016 19:56

Hi everyone, just popping in. I'm gonna keep up with the thread but probably won't post as often as some until I'm actually ttc as I'm trying to put it at the back of my mind a little. Little bit gutted that the dates have worked out that we can't start trying until April. I worked dates out and if I came off the pill after my March pills and got pregnant first cycle I'd be due around December 23rd. Although, I must admit I am now getting thoughts of "does it really matter if we have a Christmas baby". If this was our first I'd not be bothered at all but the thought of there being a chance I'd have a baby on Christmas and miss being with my girls on Christmas day horrifies me. Then I think, but if it takes a while I've 'wasted' a month. Ugh, so hard to decide!!! Wondering whether to just take half of April's pack to take chance of Christmas baby put of the equation and then come off.

Sorry for the ramble x

mangocoveredlamb · 22/01/2016 20:07

I've worked out that we can't start tryin until MAY!
If we conceived in April I would have a due date of December 31st and as DD was early (2 1/2 weeks) DH doesn't want to risk it. I have quite long cycles so this feels like forever.

I'm trying to look on it as an opportunity to get a bit fitter and sort out my sugar habit. It's hard though!

TheresaMarie55 · 22/01/2016 20:25

Argh! It's so annoying isn't it?! I worked out that I'd conceive around 1st of April giving me a due date of around the 23rd. I was ten days early with my first but five days late with my second so who knows what will happen next time! I'm pretty sure I won't finish my April pack though lol. Think ill take two weeks worth to take me that bit further away from possible Christmas baby then start trying x

raddersmrs · 22/01/2016 20:25

I too am wondering whether to hold off as to not have a Christmas baby but then you do wonder whether you are "wasting" a month. And waiting until April seems like such a long time away!
I don't mind having a baby in December,but I just ideally don't want one right round Christmas. Although this sounds silly in some ways. I'm going to see what my cycles are like when coming off the pill. Only 3 more pills to go! Yay. Getting excited

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stumblymonkey · 22/01/2016 20:44

I had similar thoughts about whether we should skip TTC for the month that coincided with Christmas but then I've just decided 'what will be will be' and I'll carry on trying.

I can see why those who already have DCs find it a bit more difficult though...

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TheresaMarie55 · 22/01/2016 20:56

Yeah, with our first we completely weren't fussed, with our second we started trying in January and said if I wasn't pregnant by March we would use protection for a month or two, luckily never came to that. This time January has been a no no as we already have two October children and March is a no no because of the whole Christmas thing. I'm glad to be waiting in a way as I'm confident ill be at my goal weight by mid April but when you're ready to start trying it's so annoying having to wait x

AliceScarlett · 23/01/2016 07:06

7 days til POAS day/ or AF whatever comes 1st. It's just a week, its just a week...
Decided to test on Sat as I'll be on 16dpo so test has a good chance of being accurate and I don't want to test 1st thing then have to go to work. If next sat is a BFP (yeah right) I want to be with DH all day. Slightly worried how he could react, he has autism and surprises are not things he enjoys.

TheresaMarie55 · 23/01/2016 07:17

Will have my fingers crossed for you Alice for both bfp and hubbys reaction. Could you maybe poas and then wait and look at the result together so it possibly not as big a surprise? X

AliceScarlett · 23/01/2016 07:50

Yeah I'll deffo wait with him, it will help him to feel involved. BFP or BFN, get him into the routine every month Grin Hopefully not for too many months though.

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stumblymonkey · 23/01/2016 08:58

I went a bit crazy this week and started POAS and squinting at imaginary lines.

Have now promised myself not to test unless AF is actually late as (a) I spent £15 on tests and AF is a free test! and (b) I think I might drive myself nuts POAS all the time.

I also figure that you get BFPs and then 'lose' it in a chemical pregnancy and I'd rather not get my hopes up and then be disappointed and if I just wait until AF I'll never know about the chemical pregnancies.

Thoughts?

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stumblymonkey · 23/01/2016 08:58

Think this approach is going to take some willpower though!

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snowy1982 · 23/01/2016 09:27

stumbly that approach will take some will power but i agree it's a good one to try. Except for the one month AF was a week late I have had no call for POAS. My approach is to not do it unless AF is actually late (which she never is with the exception of the one time mentioned above) and even then to hold out as long as possible before POAS. The time mentioned above I tested when is was day 3 with no AF, got BFN but by day 6 she still wasn't there so tested again, another BFN, then on day 7 (maybe 8) she arrived. I intend to follow same pattern if AF is ever late again.... although you know what they say about the best laid plans Smile

TheresaMarie55 · 23/01/2016 10:02

I will be waiting until I'm actually late but Will likely test once I'm 1-2 days late. X

thisisbloodyridiculous · 23/01/2016 10:18

In theory I'd like to put off POAS as long as possible as my mum had a lot of fertility issues and as soon as I get BFP I'll likely just worry anyway! That said I appreciate with these things (as with planning first baby) what you think you'll do and what you actually do when the time comes are two different things!

AliceScarlett · 23/01/2016 11:33

Yeah I think it's sensible, too much of an emotional rollercoaster otherwise.

Planeteer · 23/01/2016 12:41

Hi all,

Hope you don't mind a latecomer to this thread, but I suspect it might help me from going totally nuts!
DH and I started trying just after Christmas, and have promised to be relaxed about it, so no opks or temping.
My cycles are bonkers post pill and making any sort of calculating tricky. But my brain has decided it would like to obsess about it, and I keep being tempted to POAS. Unhelpful. No sign of AF for a while (last one was late November) but am putting off any sort of test for a while longer.
Look forward to hearing more from how you're all getting on, and here's hoping more BFPs start popping up on the thread!

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stumblymonkey · 23/01/2016 12:58

Welcome planeteer

My auto-correct wanted to change your user name to planet twee....I'm now imagining a whole planet of net curtains, doilies, tweed and grandmas! Grin

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Planeteer · 23/01/2016 13:48

Ha! stumbly love it! Suspect Planet Twee would also have a higher than average quotient of Disney-esque singing wildlife...

firstgo1984 · 23/01/2016 14:03

planeteer can sympathise with the bonkers post pill cycles. There is a whole thread of us elsewhere. Wish I could be chilled but I am doing opks to make sure I don't miss ovulation! 38, 32, 48 and 77 day cycles so far. On cd30 this cycle and not ovulated yet. TTC since august. It is very frustrating.

Planeteer · 23/01/2016 16:26

Sending sympathy firstgo, it's a royal pain having such loooong cycles. Know I'm technically on cycle 1 TTC, but can't help thinking it's going to be a bumpy old road. I know patience is a virtue, but it's not one I possess in large quantities...

AliceScarlett · 23/01/2016 17:57

Just started proper symptom spotting, felt really sick and dizzy today...any other day and I'd ignore it.

Long cycles sound really frustrating :(

JenG83 · 23/01/2016 18:46

Hi Ladies just joined mumsnet and this looked like the perfect group :-) me and hubby ttc from Feb so gearing up on the old health kick... dry Jan has been a big help! looking forward to chatting to you all. Been looking forward to starting a family for so long..I'm 33 and had a cancer scare before Xmas which turned out to be all ok so fingers crossed ☺ x

Planeteer · 23/01/2016 19:02

Hope the next week goes quickly for you AliceScarlett Keeping fingers crossed!