The Bumsnet Bus: All aboard for destination BFP!

[MagpieCursedTea]

Hope it's not too presumptuous but the last thread was nearly full so thought I'd get a new one ready!

Boris very true! Last time I asked I got a very condescending "why do you want it, would you even understand it?" From the receptionist. I'll definitely ask though.
How's things with you?

She sounds like a right patronising bitch, Magpie! As Boris said, it is your data you are asking for.

Dizzy, I hate the time between AF & OV too. It is so boring.

Aww maaaannn yes it really does suck!! Chocolate and wine will be getting destroyed if/when AF arrives this time! I feel like we've really put everything in this cycle so fx

Acupuncture is growing on me....like some of you have said the hour chilling out is pretty sweet tbh 👍

Yes any lurkers say hi 👋👋

An intro would be good on the new page. I think everyone here is lovely! Hugs to you all xx

I've been testing again today (Like a wally) going to TRY and wait 4 days till I test again then I'll be 13dpo

Hello all

sorry for lurking :/ Have been wallowing in self pity ever since rejection from Fertility clinic :( Sometimes I just don't want to talk about it.

Have been getting teary more and more lately. So depressed and upset and even worse at the moment because of the Norithisterone which means no chance of bfp anytime soon. I hope it would help me relax for a bit but it's done the opposite, I just keep feeling like it's putting everything off even longer, and i'm not getting any younger!

And because of the whole weight issue I can't even drown my sorrows with chocolate! :( :( :( (but thanks for the offer Nomio!!)

Gah! It's soooo frustrating. Had a chat with another friend who is ttc and having problems the other day. She has been at it even longer than me (15mths so far for me) and she and her DH are about to go private. I was feeling a bit jealous and then she told me she'd been baby bombed by her sister in law :/ and to make it worse her mum had a go at her for being depressed about ttc because she 'should just be happy' for her bro. which of course she is - but it doesn't make it any less frustrating!

Anyway, sorry for the rant and the previous silence. I'm really grateful for you all really.

Magpie big hugs - so glad your blood tests are tomorrow and hope they get something sorted for you. At least once the tests are done you could maybe try something like Tranexamic acid to try and stop the bleeding while the sort out the underlying cause?

Dizzy and Nomio sorry for AF. Very sucky. have some more chocolate from me

Sammy hope your holiday is fab :) Tell us all about it when you get back and cheer us up!

Fascinated by the accupuncture conversations. Not something I've looked into yet, but currently resigned to no bfp before the rest of this weight is shifted sigh

Hugs for everyone xx

Okay I'll bite a piece of Nomio's chocolate I've been lurking for a while but never built up the courage to join in, however this TTC lark seems to be taking over my life so I might as well join you lovely like-minded people (if that's okay?) Hello to everyone, and sorry for AF, BFN and FC rejections - for all!

Morning blueberry and Gen!!
Lovely to have you here with us
Hugs x

Have you got a plan to loose the weight blueberry? I started yoga beginning of the year and have REALLY been enjoying it. But I think I'm a bit of a hippy deep down, I love all the breathing techniques in Kundalini 👍 still in learning about my body, losing weight and got rid of my stiff shoulders...I think I was holding a lot of tension there. If I can't make class I do it on www.gaia.com
it's really good. The concious cleanse might be worth a look? I enjoyed that and there's a video update daily 😃

3 days till I test here (who am I kidding?! I'll be POAS within the hour) 2ww almost over!

Morning!

blueberry sorry to hear you've been struggling, don't worry about taking some time away, we all need it at some point. Stay strong and keep off the chocolate though! It will only help! Find some other way to cheer yourself up, shopping trip or holiday planning perhaps? When I last got af I booked tickets for an event in the summer, was so excited it took my mind right off ttc!

Welcome genghis, tell us about yourself....

Sorry for bfn hey, feeling your pain! I nearly tested again this morning but af will be due this evening so I stopped myself, there's. No point.

Hey Nomio sorry to read about AF rearing her ugly head and hugs to you xx

Oh dizzy I love that! I'd take a shopping trip over chocolate ANYTIME a good ol mooch cheers me up no end 😃👍

Is there a chance AF won't show dizzy? It's not over till the day lady sings...xxx

Blueberry good to see you! Sorry you've been having a tough time you're doing so well with your weight loss though. I know it feels like nothing is happening and it's all on hold but everyday you're getting healthier is a step towards that bfp. You will get there!

Genghis welcome! How long have you been trying for! Tell us about yourself! I know what you mean about it taking over, I'm TTC #2 and I swore I wouldn't get obsessed this time (I was terrible last time) but 14 months in and I'm just as bad again.

Hey good luck with POAS, fx for you!

I'm off for my blood test now, then it's just the wait for the results (so much waiting, so little action, that's just TTC all over isn't it?)

hey I'm sure there's a small chance, but my temp dropped slightly again this morning. It's been slightly decreasing for the last few days which is a common pre-af pattern for me. Af never shows until the evening, I usually get brown cm in the late afternoon, then cramps, then bleeding for bed. So I just need to get through the next few hours and then I'll know! But I couldn't face doing another test this morning . Fed up as we actually had good timing this month for once and still no joy.

I'm interested about the gaia app, I used to do yoga but haven't done it for years. There doesn't seem to be any decent classes around here, does the app have full workouts? I used to like power yoga rather than the slow breathy style classes!

Fx for a bfp for you today!

magpie hopefully you'll feel better once you've had the bloods taken, that sense of actually doing something if you know what I mean.

Thanks for the welcome! My story is that I've been TTC#1 since Jan 2015 so over a year now, and not even a hint of a BFP. Last month I visited my GP and have an appointment with a gynaecologist at the end of Feb. so hopefully that'll start the ball rolling for tests etc.

Hey good luck with POAS!
Magpie hope the blood test goes well...and that you won't have to wait too long for the results.
Dizzy Hoping that AF doesn't turn up for you

Gaia is FAB I did the free week trial and loved it so now I'm enrolled. You should check it out dizzy there is yoga for EVERYTHING All styles and lengths of classes. Even reading material and videos. I watch some of the food videos on the train

Gaia sounds great, I might have to look it up. I tried doing a Jillian Michaels yoga workout (I love the 30 day shred) but it nearly killed me, it was so hard!

Genghis well you've come to the right place, these women are the most supportive people I know, they've kept me (relatively) sane the last few months and I can talk about anything here without judgement. I hope you get as much out of the group as I have.

Blood tests are all done, I should have the results in the next couple of days. I asked if I could have a copy and the nurse said "of course you can! Just ask reception when you get the results)" so hopefully that will be okay. I mentioned the extra heavy bleeding and she said she couldn't help as she didn't know my history but to see one of the doctors so I've got an appointment tomorrow afternoon.

Sorry for AF nomio

Dizzy fx AF stays away.

Sorry you've been struggling blueberry. Rant away if it helps we're all hear to listen and support. I've had a pity party of my own and still feeling rather down about this whole ttc thing.

It's great you've had the blood tests magpie. When do you get the results? Hope the appointment with your GP goes well tomorrow and they should be able to give you something to ease the bleeding.

Fx for you diddle.

Welcome ghengis hope you're not waiting too long for your bfp.

I got a positive opk yesterday at cd12 and we only started dtd yesterday. We'll carry on for a few days but I just have this sinking feeling that we've left it too late again

to all those struggling and big hugs.

Oh and sammy I hope you have a fab time.

I'll have to look up Gaia too! I had to do a fitness age test recently and got 61 Allegedly a lot of it is down to my lack of flexibility sure, sure, nothing to do with excess weight

Positive thinking DizzyM At least you dtd yesterday and isn't a positive opk a sign that ovulation is still to come? You could have timed it perfectly after all

no af yet......don't fuck with me now, bitch!

Or maybe FF got it wrong?

dizzym your timing sounds fine to me, keep at it and I'm sure you'll be covered.

That's good you've got an appointment tomorrow magpie, although they won't know the results of your bloods yet they might at least be able to give you a rough idea of what is going on.

Thanks for the welcome back and hugs everyone.

Gen welcome and good luck with the tests.

Hey how did POAS go? Fx for bfp for you! Would love to have come back just in time for good news ;)

In terms of the weight loss, I've already lost 4st (and 5 sizes) so far (11mths - Slimming World) but have to lose another 2st before fertility clinic will even see me! It's so hard after all this work, but i'm determined to get there. I just don't think it will be quick to shift the last bit and am worried then they'll say i'm too old lol!

It's just very frustrating that they won't even do the investigations yet. As I might lose all this weight and then find out i'm infertile anyway! (yeah i know, positive thinking lol)

DizzyN thank you lovely. I did a shopping trip just a few weeks ago actually - because my size and shape have changed so much I booked a personal shopper at Debenhams. It was fab, but some days i'm actually paranoid to wear my new things as I sometimes still see the 'old me' if that makes sense? Also took my wedding and engagement rings to be re-sized today! Such a weird feeling... Fx for you AF has gone AWOL and POAS was just too early to tell!

Magpie big hugs for you Mrs, so glad the tests are done and you have an appt with GP. Fx they sort something soon!

DizzyM don't give up hope and keep dtd this week - it's always worth a shot! If AF does turn up next month you can join my pity party again any time x (or we can just club her with sticks)

2 days until I stop the Norithisterone and hope my cycle goes back to normal with no more random bleeds - fx!

Blueberry it must be so frustrating to have done so well with your weight loss but they still want more. It's awful they won't even do the investigations though. I get that weight can impact on fertility but that doesn't mean they shouldn't look for another reason!
The personal shopper sounds fun though! I know what you mean about seeing the 'old you'. I kept buying clothes that were too big for me when I lost weight as the clothes in my size just looked too small!

DizzyN sorry your body is messing with you! Might be worth testing again? Fx for you!

Genghis I don't like the sound of fitness tests. I used to get offended by the wii fit ones

DizzyM I get my results in a couple of days. Sounds like you're timing it well if you've got your positive OPK and you're DTD, good luck!

Bfn yesterday but it's still early (11dpo)
Woke up to af like pains though 😳 so not feeling very positive at the moment another early period? Bum bum bum

Ugh. AF still hasn't arrived so I poas this morning and bfn. Af always arrives late evening on 14dpo. Have been feeling rough and have had a headache since yesterday but instinctively I don't 'feel' pg, so bfn wasn't a surprise but what is going on? FF must have got my dates wrong, it did only give me a dotted line after all. Rough feeling could be because of the 10 mile run I did yesterday

Chart is attached if anyone can give me their opinion.....

The thing that's now bugging me is that on cd26 I did get an af like cramp which could have been ov. But I don't usually get ov cramps and cm had dried up by then......Ill be annoyed if this is what happened as we'd stopped dtd by then.

Or maybe I haven't ov'd at all and this is anovulatory.

I guess I'm going to have to be on pant watch until the weekend, if no show by then I'll test again. Ugh sodding stupid body.

Sorry for bfn hey . Feeling your pain! It's still early for you though.

Also forgot to add that, what adds to my confusion is that temp spike at 11dpo (although it's an open circle...) I always get a spike at 11 dpo so chart seems to be following its usual pattern. Ugh I'm stressed

I'm off to Brighton these evening to spend the night, I bet I get caught out while I'm down there.