23yrs old TTC

[BloomingR0sey]

Hi all!
Me and hubby are 23, I've been off the pill since we've been married so coming up 2 years and we've been TTC for a little less than a year. I tend to go by my cm for ovulation as I have a 33day cycle, we do have regular sex through the out month too. I'm also taking folic acid. It's really starting to get to me that it's taking so long, everyone my age seems to have first time luck or getting pregnant unplanned.
Anyone have and advice or stories? I'd love to hear!!

I am in the two week wait, it's looking promising but in only 1 week in! So I could just be imagining it all because I want it to happen! Where abouts are you at in the cycle blooming?
My hairdresser was going to get married in July last year, she came off her pill before Christmas thinking she'd let her body get back to normal before the wedding and then they could start trying .... The lucky cow got pregnant the first month so had to cancel her wedding! She didn't have a clue and spent new year getting absolutely sloshed but she now has a little 1 year old!
Then there's someone else who gave birth one week before she got married (by elected C-Section!) because she wasn't going to cancel her wedding ... I don't know how she got her dress fitted!

And queenoftheworld ... Me and DH both put our hands on my belly, closed our eyes and wished for a positive pregnancy test before Christmas that resulted in a healthy baby (so Santa doesn't think he can give me a positive HPT and no baby!). Very cheesy I know but I'm really hoping Santa heard me, I've been a good girl haha!!

Ahhh that is very sweet. I hope you both get it!

Goodness me, gave birth a month before? That's what I'm trying to avoid. Dress fittings would have been difficult enough if I got pregnant now, can't imagine that close to the wedding!

Oh how exciting! At least if you have something super exciting to look forward to if it doesn't happen for you this time! Don't give up hope you've still got another month!
I thought it would have been easier too! But good things come to those who wait!

So then, to take my mind off symptom spotting crazy stuff, tell me all about your wedding planning queen ... What's the dress like, colour scheme, big/small guest list, family dramas etc....?
When we got married, we decided the day itself didn't really matter, just the outcome - so I paid £70 for my dress from Coast, didn't have any bridesmaids or anything and just got married at the registry office, then went for an Indian with our 25ish guests! Then went home to get changed into jeans and went to the pub and to a club, before getting a pizza from the kebab shop on the way home ... Perfect for us haha!!

Aww that sounds lovely! I would have been more than happy with that but DP is a romantic and after looking round venues I fell in love too! Only having 40 guests for the ceremony so small-ish. Getting married just after Christmas so it will be really nice :) almost a year to go!

How is the tww going? Any symptoms?

Bailey I wish I went for that kind of wedding! So sweet about asking Santa! I love a big Christmas so I hope you get your pressie ;)
Queen, it's hard not to fall in love with lots of weddingy things ha!
Are you both in your tww? I've just come off AF!

My DH is totally unromantic, he's a softy with me but he hates everybody watching him etc so we just went for something really small and casual (but he still shook like a leaf saying the vows, then went to put the ring on the wrong hand!)
Aww I bet you can't wait for next Christmas now then! Hopefully with a little one there too.
Plenty of 'symptoms' but I don't know if they're the right kind, I don't want it to be my mind just playing tricks on me so trying not to get my hopes up too much! Are you in the TWW wait too queen?
And blooming, at least it's time to go go go again!! And this time you can crack the preseed out too ! What kind of wedding did you have?

Ugh tell me about it so hard not to SS! I am currently late for AF but no BFP so it's very frustrating!

Awh! How sweet, bless him!
I know :D I hope the preseed comes in time!! Well done to you trying to distract yourself a little!
I got married last June and had a small wedding outdoors at a secret garden kind of thing then had a BBQ! And fell on the hottest day of the year! My mum was quite fussy with people coming and my dress now I wish I stood my ground and had less people and a less fussy dress. My husband was the same as yours fumbling with the ring ha!

Queen, you're not out until AF comes!

Aww a secret garden sounds lovely, and you can't beat a good BBQ! But please tell me your DH wasn't doing the BBQ in his wedding suit?! Haha
Queen I'll keep my fingers crossed for you! How are you feeling?

Haha! No he wasn't! He's not the best at cooking bless him!

Rosey your wedding sounds lovely! Ours will be freezing so jealous that it was lovely and warm at yours. DP is hoping for snow

16dpo, still no AF.

Ooohhh queen this could be the month! What symptoms are you having? Have you taken a test?
I'm getting so excited for you and I've never even met you, isn't the Internet a strange thing?! Hahaha
I have 5 more days before I can test :( why does time drag when you're waiting on something?!!!?

It was lovely and we were very lucky! I must admit I'm such a winter baby, I'd love a Christmassy snowy wedding!

I agree Bailey, it's so exciting Haaa!
It's all so exciting! Remember the wait might be worth it!!!

Hi ladies,
I'm 24 and my husband and I have been trying to conceive for 2years, we have had two miscarriages. Neither of us had any vast medical history which could cause this and he's on well man, I'm on pregnacare.

I know exactly what you all mean with regard to Drs and their on look to us younger ladies trying to conceive. I attended my GPs the other day and explained i was 5 days late (now 7, usually like clockwork) and only brown spotting - minimal, the GP simply said you're very young and its very early test again in 7 days. I feel this is fair enough, but with my previous gynae history more should be investigated. I don't feel age comes into it, a young person can have worse health than an older person, its a matter of lifestyle and genetics. The fact that he said I was young just makes me feel like 'lets wait 10 years, then see...'

I've now bought a tympanic thermometer, when AF returns I will be monitoring my cycle closer rather than using my Ovia app - which also has no idea what is going on at the moment either.

Sorry if this seems like a rant ladies, I look forward to hearing more from your journeys x

Well I'm pretty miffed, it's still 4 days too early but I decided to do a test with FMU this morning just to see (I can't explain why but I feel different this month). Did what I needed to do and absolutely nothing came up, no control line or anything! I've done enough tests previously to know what to do so this must've been a dud - arggghhhh!!! I'm thinking its a sign that I shouldn't test yet so I suppose I'll wait it out :(!

Welcome Rainbow! I agree with the age thing, I haven't been to the doctors (takes too long to get an appointment and I haven't been trying that long) but everybody thinks I'm too young to have kids. I'm married, with a stable and well paid job, a mortgage and a husband who I love - what the f**k does age have to do with it?!
But I'm sorry I can't shed any light to why your cycles are messed up. I'm going to start temping next month too if I don't get anywhere this cycle

Queen - any sign of anything yet?

Blooming - I would've loved a winter wedding but there wasn't any dates and I just wanted to get married! So February is close enough haha!! Has your preseed arrived?

Bailey I think it's a sign to make you wait just a little longer! Must have been frustrating though!
I agree with you and Rainbow! People treat us like we're 10, people don't expect people like us to be responsible and know what we want, they just expect us to make 'mistakes'
I think February is still winter ha! Especially in this country! I was all set for a Christmas wedding but my husband wanted to get married the date we got engaged (I think so he didn't have to remember so many dates haa!!!)

Preseed arrived this morning! Shits just got real!!

Now I have spotting - I'm so confused! I'm starting to think maybe it's not happening this month :(. If that's the case I wish AF would hurry up and get it over with!
Our wedding day in Feb was actually sunny, but I agree it normally is winter still! My DH has our wedding date as one of his passwords for something so he has no excuse to forget it! Try it with your DH - "nope you can't use your PayPal/online banking until you remember our anniversary date"!! Haha
Oohh let me know how the trial goes tonight, I'm presuming you'll be using it tonight?!
And yep I agree, just because others think we're 'young' doesn't mean we can't bring a little life into the world and raise them up to be a wonderful and polite child.

I always think it's funny, my 56 year old boss's boss has a better social life than me, I'm a proper home bod - and yet somehow everyone thinks I still have 'so much living to do before I settle down and have a child'! I am settled and I'd rather be sat on my bum in front of the telly than getting drunk in a pub!

Ow! That so weird! Just try hold out! You must be going crazy!
Ha! That's the best thing I've ever heard, passwords are such a good idea! Try train them up hahahaha!
Bailey I'm totally on your page there! My old boss used to actually accuse me of getting drunk every night! (She was a horrible person) BUT still was like I haven't drank since I was 19!?? We will probably bring up nicer children because we've had to put up with rubbish!
Random question but you said you have a mortgage, when you were buying your house/flat were people really judgey then too?

Evening all,

Couldn't agree more. I'd say my age is a positive rather than a negative with regarding to bringing up a child. I'll have more energy in their early days and find it easier to keep up with them. I've more of a chance to be here hopefully to support them when they're grown up and having their own children too. I have a stable job with a BSc degree to back me up, a home, a husband, and I've travelled the world. Most importantly of all a heart to love and nurture a child, a deep yearning. I don't know what people think the disadvantages may be, but I've met mothers of all ages who either wanted or didn't want to parent and I can honestly say they held very different values. I think people should be able to do what they want with their lives without the judgement of others - particularly those who are in a professional capacity and are being paid to deliver a service. My partying days were over as quick as they started and I've never felt more ready to parent.
Let me know how the pre-seed works out :)

I think all those close to me know I'm not a big drinker, I'd rather go bowling or to the cinema than have a night out on the pop - but those that don't know me think I'm the same as all the folk you see splashed across the papers getting sozzled in Ibiza etc...
Random questions are my speciality! Trust me, this isn't half as random as some I've asked today! When we were buying our house, only our immediate family knew at fist so they were fine. The estate agents were okay (you don't deal with them much, and they want the sale) and the mortgage broker was really good crack - he looked in his forties but he was a jokey and funny kinda guy. But then when we bought the house and everybody else found out, the people that didn't really know us were thinking we'd jumped into things too fast, nobody can afford to keep a house in this market, we'd regret it because we'd spend all our money on bills and have nothing left over etc., I can honestly say I've never been happier!
Have you got a mortgage too or are you renting at the minute?

Rainbow, completely couldn't agree more! We are very capable if not more! People slap labels on people far too quickly!
Bailey, we are two peas in a pod! I'd much rather that any day! Oh wow sounds like you had a really nice experience then! We've got a mortgage, People always said to me and DH we were jumping in too quickly and I must admit we did but we're both so open with what we wanted so it was so natural (here comes my life story ha!) within 6 months he moved into my parents and we decided to start saving a year later we had our deposit and we're looking for a house, took us almost a year and half to get our house because we had a house fall through and everyone we met was just so judgemental! Asking how much money we had saved and if we needed help from our parents, we were going to buy a new build but they were so awful we didn't! im so glad in the end though we found something much better!
sorry for going on ha!

You didn't ramble as much as I did! That sounds awful! I'm not surprised you didn't get one of their houses. We only have a 2 bedroom and eventually I do want a bigger house, but for now the one we have is ample and it's OURS - I'm really proud of that. I work my arse off but I have a house to show for it!