April 2014 ttc thread - come on baby cupcake!

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Shiny new thread and this time I got the title right!

We're all waiting for baby cupcake to come along

Oh no lulu! Is that the first cat scratch he has had? Ds grabbed dm's cat the other day, she was not impressed at all and now won't go near him.

It means no contact cupcake liquid morphine sounds amazing

And at your mil for not seeing ds her loss.

It isn't his first Ducky, he has had a few.

Cupcake, it sounds like 'mick, mick, mick' when he says 'milk' and 'ki, ki ki' when he says 'kit'

He does lots of oooohing and aaahing and listens when we talk to him, sometimes with a very serious look on his little face. He makes a sound for a sandwich but it is just a sound.

If he likes food he goes 'umumumm'

We have decided that we are going to start TTC number 2 when DS is 1. If it took a few months to get pregnant (if we're lucky), I would go on maternity leave in September/October and give birth when DS is 2ish.

DH has been talking about it for months and trying to persuade me and I have been burying my head in the sand a bit because I want to work and I have no idea how we will manage two but he is right- we need to get on with it. Decision made. I will be 37 at least when he/she arrives (if I can get pregnant again).

Ooohh that's exciting lulu!

I would really like another dc but think I need to wait and see what happens.

How is ds getting on at nursery?

He loves it. He only goes for an hour or two hours once a week. We are building up to a half day and then full days by Christmas.

DH would be happy for me to not work, and we could manage- we have not spent any of the money we saved for my maternity leave. Infact we have still been able to save. It is me who does not want to give up although I can see life would be much easier. DH would happily give up and I could work which is worth thinking about. I am going to talk to the Head after Christmas about the possibility of an extended career break- another year or 18 months after my next maternity leave. It might suit him because we are going to struggle with the budget for a couple of years. But I would only do it if I could definitely go back at the level I am on now even if it was not exactly the same job. Then DS would be at school and number 2 would be at nursery properly. I think 2 is enough.

What do you have to weigh up Ducky?

Oh! No contact! Of course! How did I not think of that!

Lulu how exciting !!!! TTC again! :) that first positive test is such a blessing to look forward too!

Sorry I've been quiet, I'm not feeling fantastic tonight, I have such a bad back :( my stomach feels 10 times heavier, and somewhat bloated. Eugh, can't wait to just go into labour and get him out :(
1 weeks and 4 days left!

It's difficult lulu, some days now me and h are fantastic, some days I just don't know why I am with him it seems like I get the strength to do something about it and he will change and be great for a few days or a week. Then I wonder if maybe it's just me and the truth is I am terrified of being alone, I have been with h since I was 16 years old and that was straight from another relationship. Then I worry that if I leave him I won't be able to have any more children as it would be unfair on ds. so much to think about

This pregnancy hasn't been easy for you cupcake! But it will be worth it how are you and your exh doing now?

Maybe tonight is the night Cupcake. It would be nice if he decided to arrive early and you got it over with. It is not sounding like any fun. I hope DS sleeps through and you get some rest.

I don't know when to stop taking the pill. How long do the effects take to wear off fully? I am getting some folic acid and pre- pregnancy vitamins tomorrow. I was thinking Christmas for the pill or maybe the start of December. I don't want to get pregnant before January and I would prefer February onwards.

I can understand what u mean Ducky. I'm pretty glad my 2 children have to same dad. I think I'd find it slightly strange to have another child with someone else. It wouldn't feel fair that they don't share the same dad me n exH have got on well again. He shows me why I'm not with him and I think this is why we aren't together but then there are times where I regret not being with him as he's being so lovely. He's changed a lot since we broke up, I can tell he's grown up so much more, think he needed to break up to become more independent. We talk about what life would have been like together and stuff, it's weird :/ it feels like I'm still with him but we just live apart.
He's been great with helping me out with DS this past week as I've been in a lot of pain. And he brought a load of bags of chocolate round for me the other day!!!!! said to put them in my hospital bag and treat myself once baby is here! I was shocked haha!

Lulu tonight isn't the night. As much as I'd love to go into labour naturally before my induction I just don't think it'll happen.
I'm not sure about the pill Lulu, I came off mine in January the year DS was born... I conceived him in November that year. So took a while. I wasn't trying tho! Lol! But I know it can be effective straight away after uve come off it. Like 24 hours and ur no longer protected so pregnancy could happen straight away.

Well, I am taking it until DS is one.Otherwise we will be using condoms until then and that is how we ended up with DS earlier than we had thought. We didn't use them

That happened to some friends of ours Cupcake- they get on better apart than they did together. They have been separated years, divorced now, but are good friends. Both with other people but are really good, together, parents. Hope that us what happens with you and ex. The children are what is important, so if you can that is great. They still see that they can drive each other mad but are not ever together in a situation where it matters so can just ignore it.

I am so tired tonight. DS has had a limpet day- waily and clingy. Everytime I have tried to put him on the floor or down to have a nap he has cried. He wraps himself round me and just clings. He would not even entertain DH.He has just gone to sleep.
DH has just poured me a glass of ice cold cider and I am sitting with my feet up watching tv in the dark.
How has anyone else's day gone? Better I hope.

I couldn't get on MN yesterday! It wouldn't load at all for me

Lulu it must have been on of those days as my DS was the same. He wouldn't have a nap and it took till 2:30pm till he napped!
He was very moody. Yesterday as well!
He's just woken up now for some reason, I've told him it's far too early to be awake

Omg, ds slept 6-6 yesterday! I know it's probably just a one off but I feel amazing for it. I did wake up with a sore throat but you can't win them all

Hope both your ds are better today, and I hope you got some more sleep cupcake.

We have ds group today, I'm hoping he sleeps before as he didn't last week and was a bit naughty, him and another little girl kept taking all the toys and running off together over the other side of the hall and just sitting with their steals under a table

Wow Ducky!! well done to ur DS! That's amazing sleep!
Even I slept better last night which is weird lol!

Hope ur DS enjoys his group today! :)
My DS is at nursery this morning, he didn't want to go but then saw his friend at the table eating breakfast and suddenly decided he wanted to stay and went and sat with him

I have a weird sharpe pressure pain 'down there' this morning like baby keeps pushing every so often on my cervix!
It's horrible lol!

Oh no cupcake why didn't he want to go? Glad he changed his mind for you that pain sounds strange, no idea what it could be.

Well his group was a bit chaotic, I had to wake him from his nap to go so he was tired. Then he kept running off all over the place. I'm exhausted from chasing after him he was using the little walkers to run away from me.

I think it was because he was rele tired Ducky. He had a good day in the end tho! :)
Aww bless ur DS! they get so active when they start to walk! It's like a exercise routine :p

And that pain has been going on all day! I keep thinking 'it's not my waters bulging is it?' Lmao I get up so carefully

We have had another clingy limpet day. If I try to put him on the floor he lifts his legs and shrieks. I think he is teething. He has had his head on my shoulder drooling on me. And he has slept on me like that. He did perk up when DH came home and let DH bath him and played a bit. He is fast asleep now thank goodness. I can't cope with two of these

6-6 Ducky! Wow! Let's hope it's a new pattern.

I am convinced you are going to start in the next couple of days Cupcake. Convinced!

DH just said 'D'you fancy a large G and T with ice love? And I'll run you a bath'.

My answer without even thinking was 'Yes but don't think we're having sex because we're not.'

He looked like I had completely misunderstood him, gave me a look o disappointment in me that I could think that of him, shook his head and got me a drink.

I know what goes on in his mind and I was right. He can shake his head as much as he likes.

Oh no Lulu :( well I hope if it's teething he pops a tooth out soon!

Haha u are great Lulu ur DH probably thinks u have no idea how his mind works so he's shocked when u pin point exactly what he's thinking

And I hope ur right about me going into labour in the next few days! I had an awfully uncomfortable night last night. I'm slowly getting less and less sleep each night.

Yep surely the next few days it will start! I remember sleep being awful towards the end and I wasn't any where near as bad as you are with the pain and with ds you must be absolutely exhausted!

Lulu hope ds is back to himself soon, I don't know, do they still have them crazy growth spurts at this age? I bet it will be awful when ds starts teething, but I can't wait for him to have some teeth, it's starting to worry me.

Well he slept until 4am this morning, I was expecting a miracle as he stayed up until after 8 but it didn't happen. I thought last night would be bad though as we spent most of yesterday in the car and he was so bored. I'm starting to organise his first birthday it feels so strange. Still 2 months to go but I'm very organised with these things on his birthday he will be going to his soft play thing in the morning, then he will be going out to meet some reindeer (he LOVES animals) and look at some birds, then we will go for a meal. Then the weekend he will be going on a steam train and we will have a private carriage where Santa will come to see him he won't have any idea what is going on and will probably be terrified of a big beardy man but I thought it would be a nice day

Ducky uve no idea how exhausted I am. Bathing DS is becoming so so hard. Just bathed him tonight and my back is in agony from it.
Sounds silly but I keep thinking I should call up the pregnancy assessment unit and say how much pain I'm in due to spd, and whether they can get me induced just a bit earlier? But I literally have my scan exactly a week today, and they have said depending on his growth I may be induced on the same day. So It could only be 7 days. But it's 7 days of no sleep and pain. :/
My consultant said if I have reduced movement then I will be induced sooner. But I don't wanna wish that or even say that I have.

Ducky his bday sounds amazing! Bet he'll have so much fun bless him!! :)

You can always call and speak to someone if you wanted to cupcake, you are in charge of your care I really didn't know spd could get so bad can dm help at all with the bathing?

True, i think if tonight's bad for sleep I'll end up calling! And it's difficult for dm to pop out in the evening because of my brother. He's got autism so doesn't like to do something unexpectedly and hates not being at home and having his routine etc, especially when he's got school the next day.

I've added a photo of my bump now!
Last bump photo till he's here :)