April 2014 ttc thread - come on baby cupcake!

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Shiny new thread and this time I got the title right!

We're all waiting for baby cupcake to come along

Haha I know and the one thing I hate is when they tell u 'just put him to bed and leave him to cry!' I just do not like doing that.

I never get a break from the kids properly but I wouldn't change it for the world, I love them lots and I'd be sad if they were away from me for a night

Oh no what did H do?

I'm having to walk to nursery tomorrow
Then walk home, then walk to the doctors and then walk back to pick DS1 up from nursery! My car is in the garage having a service and its break fluid pipe thing fixed :( my poor car! I had it a big valet done today so it's like spotless and smells so good! So the garage better not mess it up!

Haha I know my mom had ds the other week and I didn't know what to do with myself, it felt very strange.

First off h forgot its dd's birthday tomorrow then he's been spreading money on himself behind my back. It's like my money is ours but his is his. I never have a penny to spend on myself, and I don't have any bras that fit as I've lost so much weight he's really not bothered about the family. I bet if it wasn't for having the house he would be happy to split up.

Oh no ducky how could he forget that ?!? :(
Men are just selfish!

I've been so poorly today my sinuses are blocked and I had to walk DS1 to nursery and then come home then walk to doctors to get DS2's jabs done n then walk to nursery to get DS1.
All cuz my cars In the garage. ExH has the day off so I asked if he could pick up DS1 from nursery cuz i feel so poorly and I've been walking everywhere feeling like my heads going to explode.
Well he wouldn't pick him up for me as he wanted to go pick his friends new car up with him

My HV called today and she coming over next week to talk n see how I'm feeling :( I'm so nervous now. Don't want her to think I'm a bad mom cuz I'm feeling down n not myself :(

Oh god cupcake that is awful. How selfish. I really don't know what the answer is.... With either of them

It seems like he just gets whatever he wants, he only sees the ds's when he feels like it, he can do whatever he wants, that's no father. But I don't know what to suggest. I assume I will have the same issue in a few weeks.

I think the way I'm going to get him to agree with me is by saying he can stay in the house, but that can't be a permanent thing. And by emphasising we need to be civil for ds sake.

Could you have words with exh and maybe tell him he needs to try harder? Or would it go over his head? Are you friendly now?

Big hugs for u today ducky and happy bday to ur dd

N it's like exH has no kids he lives a free and single life n I'm left with everything to deal with. As long as my kids know they have a great mother who they can come to for anything I'm fine with that :)
Oh I've tried asking him to try a bit harder I've done it nicely and I've shouted lol. It doesn't work he just tells me to fuck off.
We were being rele good friends to begin with n now he's just gone back to being a dick.
He's been horrible to me today, I asked does he wanna come pop over see the DS's as he's off and I'm in all day. He said he's out so of course I moaned at him as he needs to spend more time with them but all I got back was that I do nothing but think about myself haha I can't remember the last time I thought about me!

God I hate men

Thank you have been and put flowers on her grave, h has needed reminding a few times what day it is

Oh my god, I would say I can't believe him acting like that but it doesn't surprise me now. I have no idea how someone can show such little interest in their own children. He's the one missing out, when they're older they won't want to see him because he'll be a stranger too them. And he will be screwed if they ever find out how he treated you!

How has ds been getting on at nursery?

Why do men forget the most important things all the time?

And exactly ducky! He's missing out! They are the best boys ever and to not wanna spend time with them is ridiculous!

DS has been great at nursery, just had his monthly report back, and it says he joins in with singing and he's been trying lots of new food :) nursery has really helped him so much.

Ahh that's great of ds1!

Is h regular with his contact with them?

I'm a bit worried but also very flattered apparently 3 people have contacted my dm so far in the last week asking her to 'set them up' with me but I think do they know what's going on with me and h? I have told about 3 friends and my family know, I'm worried someone has told someone and words got out. Still waiting to hear back about the house.

Ds sleep just seems to be getting worse and worse now, I didn't even know that was possible!

*two weeks that was meant to say

Yeah he's pretty regular tbh I'll give him that

Aw bless ducky!! I wish I had men queuing up I wouldn't worry too much, did u ask ur mom if she thinks they know what's happening?

Oh no! :( how has it got worse?
It's exactly the same here.... DS1 doesn't sleep and DS2 does! Lol!

My boiler has broken AGAIN today!!! :( :(
Got no heating or hot water! N nobody can come out till tomorrow!!
The boiler is leaking water or something but it had leaked into my toaster!!
Thank god I always switch the plug off and unplug it! And also thank god that when I decided to turn it on this morning it just blew the electricity to the sockets off Instead of blowing up on me!! It could have easily caught fire if I left my plug on!
They aren't treating it as an emergency either!
It could have been so so dangerous :( dunno what I would have done if the house went up in flames

I didn't ask they aren't exactly the most gorgeous but I'm happy with it

Oh no, didn't your boiler break down not long ago too? I'd kick off, you have two very young children how is that not an emergency

Ds sleep is so crazy, he wakes up now and just screams and cries until I hold him, then he goes to sleep and I will put him back in his cot then literally 20/30 seconds later he screams again and it goes on for hours at a time

Haha bless!

Yep my boiler is always breaking! It needs replacing but the landlord just gets the plumber to patch it up. It's such a rubbish boiler I'm always without heating and hot water. DS1 woke up with a nasty cough as well :( cant wait to move! There's no houses out there atm tho!

Ducky that sounds like my DS. Will only fall asleep if he's with me.
Why don't kids sleep? They will rele regret it when tbh are older lol

That's crap! Hope they have sorted it for you! He should just get over it and buy a new boiler.

Any word from lulu yet?

I'm pissed off with h again, no particular reason. Seems to be happening regularly now.

I feel like the longer I stay with him the worse our relationship is getting, but I really need to get this house before I leave. We haven't dtd in 6 months or more, or kissed/hugged at all and he still doesn't think we have a problem. He tried it on earlier, ds was with dm and he asked me to go upstairs with him and I just can't.

Who knew you could be so lonely when your in a relationship.

Sorry, rant over

Here I am! How are you two doing. I have read the last few posts about boilers and not so D Hs.

Hope your boiler gets sorted Cupcake, you don't want to be without that. You must be a priority on their list surely.

Have you sorted out somewhere to go Ducky with DS and the dog?

We are fine. I have been workng a couple of days a week and really enjoying it. DS goes to SIL one day and we pay her and nursery the other day and she picks him up at 4pm. She loves it and so does he.

I have heating and hot water for now!

No word from Lulu at all :( I did send her a private message but had nothing back. I really hope she's okay.

Don't worry ducky, it's clearly just proving to u that ur making the right choice. :)
Soon ull be so happy u will be shocked how unhappy u rele were!!

DS1 is poorly again :( I'm so worried. He ran head first into another child and bumped his head he was then sick at dinner! Now he's in my bed and he's burning up so bad!
I have no car either so can't take him to hospital if I need to :( :(

Hope he's okay!

Took his temp it's 38.5!!

Lulu!!! Your back! that's great your enjoying being back at work, is this your new job now? How is dh getting on at work?

How is ds1 cupcake? Have you called 111? Probably best if he's hit his head and isn't well

How did I miss ur comment Lulu!!! Hello!!! So nice and relived to hear from u!
How's work? Is this the new job u were on about? How are u finding it?

Yes ducky I called 111 they said to keep and eye on him and keep waking him up slightly every 2-3 hours to make sure he's not unconscious. His temps hasn't gone down and he's been sick twice since. He's currently laying on the sofa feeling sorry for himself. He's had some calpol and managed to keep this lot down so hopefully it'll bring his temp down now.

Aww Lulu so happy to hear from u!

That's nice Cupcake People aren't usually so pleased to see me.
I am fine, so is DH- he is working very hard at the moment.

DS has become quite naughty in a very cute way- he says No a lot then giggles.

Hope DS1 is feeling better Cupcake- that is a very high temperature.

How's he doing cupcake?

Haha lulu that's cute! Does he have tantrums? Ds seems to be practicing for the terrible twos

Have sleep clinic next week, and need to book his allergy testing tomorrow. I'm a bit worried about it though he doesn't like needles one bit and afaik there's lots of needles involved

Not really tantrums Ducky but little wailing attacks that he stops when we ignore them. He puts his head on the sofa and wails and says Nooo. We ignore him and he peeks and giggles and forgets to keep wailing and just does whatever it is.

Yesterday he did not want his shoes on. We just got ready to go out and ignored him and he brought his shoes to DH. 'sooooos'

He says 'dic' for drink. It took us a while to work that one out

Oh bless ur DS Lulu! I bet u were very confused with his word for drink

Don't worry ducky :( I'm sure he'll be fine and once it's done he won't remember :)
Good luck with the sleep clinic. Can u take my DS too please?

DS1 is still pretty poorly so off nursery today. Got his temp down then it spiked again last night. He was awake most of the night just moaning and constantly asking for his juice. And typical that it was DS2's best night ever! He fell asleep at 8:30pm and didn't wake till 8am!
Why can't ds1 do that??!!!
Tho DS1 is asleep on the sofa now

Lulu that's so cute!! My ds loves his tantrums, but I laugh at him and he quickly starts laughing himself

Hope ds1 gets better soon cupcake and at ds2!!! That's amazing!!

We had a shocking night here too. Ds woke a few times then woke up at 11 and wouldn't sleep. I asked h to come see to him because I was so tired I felt sick. H just kept waking me up going 'he won't sleep' eventually h got bored and just wandered off downstairs to watch tv. I then had to get up and see to ds who was up until 1.45. We then had a few more wake ups and up at 5.

Still waiting on news about this house.

Thanks ducky I'm taking him to the doctors today because he still has a temp so just need to make sure he's not got any infections or anything. He also had an awful awful night. I don't think I got more than 10 mins sleep if I'm honest!

I've got the health visitor coming round today to have that listen meeting. I'm feeling so so nervous!

N oh no for u having a bad night :( n that's awful why could H just cope
And let u have more sleep! U deserve sleep more than him!!
Do u know when ull hear about the house?

How did you get on with dr and hv?

Sorry you had a shit night too

No idea about the house, need to chase it up again. I just can't wait to have somewhere of our own. I know I'll be so much happier. But it's still so scary.

If I get chance tomorrow I'm going to try and book a solicitor appt just to get a bit of advice.

If it would make things easier I would sign the house over to h. I'm not bothered about our house, but I don't know where that would leave me in terms of claiming benefits. I couldn't get a job atm as I'm caring for a relative