TTC #1 after miscarriage - looking for some buddies

[Clareinthemiddle]

I have been ttc for 10 months. I'm 34.
Took it very easy the first few months and then went for it with OPKs, no caffeine, reduced alcohol and got my BFP in May, but sadly mmc at 12 weeks (a few days before my scan). The little thing had not made it past 5.5 weeks :(
Took July off to recover and then back on it again in August. Heard/read a lot about increased fertility the few months after a miscarriage so was really convinced August would be my month, but af arrived yesterday. Absolutely devastated.
Can feel a very lonely place, especially as I either have friends who conceived within 1-3 months, or those who always knew they would have issues so started with IVF a few years back and have thankfully all been successful. I guess I just thought I would have an easy ride, as my sisters did, but no such luck.
Thought it would be nice to share the journey with others dealing with similar situations or with success stories after a miscarriage. Please say hello :)

Spotting again light brown. I'm mortified
Last time I spotted on the Friday morning and then started to miscarry properly with red blood on the Monday midday/lunchtime.
Nothing happened in between.

So sad.
I've been through enough to have this happen again.
It's just wait and see now I suppose.......

Thanks for your kind words ladies.

Oh vap, try not to worry x

Hello, please can I join you all? I have got such great and understanding support from this kind of thread before so even though my last pregnancy didn't end in a miscarriage, the one before that did and I am terrified about anything going wrong again this time.

Fingers crossed for you Vap. I know how this feels second time round, I hope it settles down.

Sorry, just scrolling back - Sophia that's really tough & you're being incredibly understanding, but if you need a bit of a break you can mute the conversation so you're not getting alerts, and then you can just check that conversation when you're feeling up to it...I have niece and nephew threads on what's app that I've occasionally had to mute much as I adore them...

brenna how are you feeling? Such a roller coaster just waiting and wondering. There's still a chance this month though. Just hope you get a bit of bloody peace and clarity soon though - I'm in the same boat...

northern you're in the unbearableneverending wait too still, right? Hope you're keeping your chin up.

And sunday while you've every right to worry about symptoms, there's absolutely no need, every pregnancy is different and I'm sure they're in the post

Hi vap, I had spotting at the same point as you and I was petrified but after a day it completely stopped. Vap I have a scan booked for the week before xmas too.

I'm also wishing for symptoms sunday. Sore, and thats it. I'm envious of those that get morning sickness as I never had it, not with the last pregnancy either and that was up to 8 weeks. I'm also freezing cold, literally to be bone. Have been for about a week. Just can't warm up and a mouth full of ulcers

mascara did you have cramping too? God I hope I'm worried about nothing. I've been spotting and cramping all evening. So sad.

Hoping to get a private dr appoiuntment on Monday if it's not too late for some progesterone. So annoying it's the weekend.

I had some light cramps, had some today in fact, like shooting pains. Is it brown spotting? Got everything crossed for you vap x

Yes brown but fairly noticeable cramps. Will just have to wait and see. Thanks for the extra crossed fingers!
Hope your cramps are nothing to worry about too!

My cramps were noticeable too, almost like the start of AF. Feel totally different to last time. A lot more pains and pulling in the tummy.

Thinking of you both ladies!

Big, unmumsnetty hugs to you Vap. I hope it is just implantation.

I have spent the last few nights wearing white pyjama bottoms in the hope that that would tempt the witch. By this morning my basal body temp was down over half a degree C and I was feeling a bit achy and crampy again. I am bleeding lightly this evening, so I think she is finally here. Sadly her timing means that my fertile window should be the week OH is away is December. I would rather she had arrived days ago. Oh well. I guess I get an extra month to heal.

Welcome GinFuzz. I hope that you get your BFP soon and that all is plain sailing this time round.

We had a lovey day out today. We went down to just outside Edinburgh to meet friends and go and see Rosslyn chapel, then go for lunch. Sadly we went to a pub I used to go to years ago who used to be really good. It was packed as usual but we managed to find a table for 6. The day was somewhat marred by the fact that when the waitress came to take our drinks order 1 friend was looking for the drinks page to decide. She took our orders then said "OH for goodness sakes" and stormed off. Came back with our drinks and then was going to leave without asking our friend what we wanted. We called her back and said we thought she had forgotten one person. Her answer "SHE couldn't think!" and was going to storm off again. We called her back and told her her attitude was appauling and that we wanted to be served by someone else. Our friend was really upset and it put a bit of a dampener on things and they took so long to serve us after that that I ended up without time to put flowers on sis and BIL's grave.

Then when we got home i messaged my niece for an update as I knew she was back at EPAC today. Her miscarriage was confirmed on monday by ultrasound and bloods. The blood came back a bit lower than the week before but not a lot. So she was in on wednesday to get more bloods. They phoned her back thursday to say her HCG levels were elevated and they suspected an ectopic pregnancy, so could she come back on saturday for another u/s!!!!! Which I think is ridiculous wait as I would consider an ectopic an emergency. Niece is not in much pain and bleeding lightly now. She had one empty sac in her uterus the week before and potential PCOS on her ovaries. No signs of anything else. Thankfully was away this weekend, so she asked if she could come in friday morning. She did and they didn't do and u/s, just more bloods and booked her in for an u/s on sunday as her booking only said bloods, so that was all that they did. So she had to come back early for that. I messaged her tonight and she phoned me up, upset as they hadn't scanned her as they booked her in for 2 and only scan until 12 on a sunday! So, more bloods instead. They want her to go in tomorrow for a scan. She is supposed to be away on holiday from tomorrow until friday. She is so upset as she is scared and also feels messed around and really doesn't want to miss the rest of a well needed holiday for them to repeatedly make appointments, then not do things. She is not is a lot of pain and I think it sounds more like they are treating for a suspected partial molar rather than ectopic. No way would they leave it that long if they thought it was ectopic. I hope tomorrow brings some closure. I feel really bad for her. Any m/c is bad enough without complications and messing her around at that stage is awful. :(

oh vap, thinking about you hun and got everything crossed. will you let us know how you get on tomorrow? I've always read brown blood is old blood so no need to worry, however considering why we are on this board on the 1st place it is perfectly understandable. I'm really hoping everything is ok for you xxx

Brenna that's so sad about your niece, like you say she needs this holiday away to help recover from her mc and sounds like she is getting mucked about. I hope she gets her scan tomorrow and some answers to be able to understand things. hugs to her.
and sounds like the waitress had a right attitude problem today! I'm hoping no tip was left! where abouts in Scotland are you? I'm over on the west coast, have family in Edinburgh though and we're through often, I love it.

cd8 for me here, AF finally left the building yest and I'm excited to start using opks again on Thurs and start the trying again!
having quite a crappy time of it at work just now, finding it hard not to stress out about it and I'm hoping it doesn't affect ov in any way.
1st week when AF is here is kind of like no man's land isnt it?! This week feels a bit more positive for me and can't believe in a weeks time I will be back in the 2ww!!
must remember and not use up my frer stash tho because as positive as I am that I will get a bfp this month, I am also being realistic and I may very well need them another couple of months too. I think I will keep one out and give the rest to DH to hide..........

xxx

Morning all

I've just done another ic this morning and I'm pretty convinced the line is fading. Not as easy to see as yesterday's at all. I'm so sad. This is exactly what happened last time. Cramps and a small amount of brown spotting and a couple of days later it was all over. Absolutely mortified. I have a sales meeting for 2 days this week and I just don't know how I'll hold myself together for that if it starts either during or before it. This is just so incredibly shit. After all that hope of everything being well.

Hugs again Vap. I don't know what to say apart from that we are all rooting for you. This is where finding out so early sucks, in days gone by people just thought they had had a late period and never knew.

I'm in Dundee Frankie but I have family just outside Glasgow and just outside Edinburgh too. You are too right no tip was left.

Thinking of you Vap

I tested again last night, and had the faintest of faint lines - so I think I'm about to get a negative test after MC2. Will be good to see things going back to normal.

DH and I have been, ahem, trying, so who knows how this will go. Last time it turns out I ovulated on the day I stopped bleeding, so hopefully that will be the case this time round as well.

Saw the Dr
She thinks it's another mc

Been signed off for the week so I don't have to put on a brave face again at work
Sat waiting for a blood test which she was reluctant to give me.
I just wish this would all be over.
Although how can you ever get excited about a pregnancy ever again after 2 miscarriages? 1 I agree can be bad luck and I accepted that. 2 less so.

So sorry Vap. How far along were you?

vap I'm so so sorry to hear this. I don't know what to say but sending you lots of virtual hugs.

you know we're here for you xxx

oh vap, i'm just so sorry - my heart goes out to you.

for what it's worth, i think i'm in a similar boat. bfp on saturday morning and yesterday, but saturday's sore boobs have vanished and i had some brownish CM this morning, same as my last MC started. so i really do feel your heartbreak.

had bloods taken this morning as my doc's concerned that it may not even be a new pregnancy but retained tissue from my last erpc, and if it is a new pregnancy, she agreed that spotting/ loss of sore boobs as per last time were bad signs.

feel stupid for thinking i could have got lucky first cycle post-mc.

vap, i don't know how you pull through this or even hope for a safe, uneventful pg, but we will xx

Sorry to hear your fears Vap and Clara, and sending you love and strength. Let's hope doctors are wrong x

Vap so sorry it's bad news.

I'm another one who's worried as symptoms seem to have somewhat disappeared today. I don't have any spotting but can't help but not sure if the progesterone would prevent this. I know there's nothing I can do but wait it out like you guys and hope that all will be ok x

So sorry Vap and Clara. I am praying for a miracle for you. Mascara I hope you are happily puking away by tomorrow.

I have awful period pains. Very little blood but armaggedon in my middle.

AFAIK progesterone is not believed to 'save' a pregnancy, but to prolong a non-viable one. Hats what I've gleaned from the research I've read since my second mc at 8 weeks.