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RESPONSE Trial for Recurrent Miscarriage - Thread 4

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Vicki272 · 05/08/2015 00:24

Thread for all ladies on the RESPONSE trial - all stages welcome, for a bit of well needed silliness and good old fashioned all round advice and support!

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Marchgirl · 14/08/2015 11:10

Sorry you've had a bit of spotting vicki, but try not to worry (hard, i know). Could be implantation bleeding, and i also had breakthrough bleeding around the time af was due with this pg. i think it's quite common as your hormones haven't quite got the message you're pg yet. Hoping it buggers off for you x

clairemorgan81 · 14/08/2015 13:09

hopefully spotting is just implantation Vicki, how's it now?x

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Vicki272 · 14/08/2015 13:57

Thanks ladies :)

march and claire seems to have stopped now, was a tiny bit of spotting this morning but L seems to think that it is implantation bleeding - which i guess is a good sign right?

Still having to reassure myself everytime i go to the loo... I woke up this morning expecting to be bleeding. Honestly - think i am going crazy!!!

I need to chill out!! Just told the boss at work that the appointments will be crazy now - he is so pleased for us! it is hard to get excited for me though... i am just so worried. OH is mega excited.

x

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littleb84 · 14/08/2015 14:24

I'm sure it is implantation vicki. I feel very slightly crampy today but thinking about it I've had this before when AF was due because I remembering getting upset because I thought AF was coming and so not preg...but that wasn't the case. But I know what you mean on keep getting a bit panicky that I'm going to be bleeding, just gave myself a good telling off when I went to loo even though I didn't need it, it was just to check.

Just left appointment & first injection all done. It was absolutely fine apart from I've been told I actually need to watch the needle rather than screwing up my eyes as I may get in fingers instead!!

philippa88 · 14/08/2015 15:16

Good work on your first injection! My oh did all mine so not once did I have to do it - I'm such a wimp!
I'm not sure the fear of bleeding goes tbh, I still worry all the time! It's getting less but with cramps and backache and stretching I still panic! Day by day, step by step xx

LouiseM1987 · 14/08/2015 15:40

Glad appt went well little.
As for worrying about bleeding I still worry now and check every time I got to the loo ;( I don't think it will stop either x

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Vicki272 · 14/08/2015 15:48

Glad it isn't just me!! I have been okay since... touch wood! (for now anyway...) I don't feel pregnant though...

Good job on the injection - got my first one at home later! eek... bit worried! any tips on doing it straight from the fridge?

I am convinced i feel crampy but not sure if it is all in my head!! xx

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Brummiemum87 · 14/08/2015 19:24

Evening ladies, I saw my midwife yesterday for my booking in appointment & I had to do a urine sample which she dipsticked...do any of you know if this would have been to test for a urine infection or was it for other things? Reason I ask is I feel really tender when my bladders filling up today & my stomach feels sensitive to touch...I'm not cramping at all but I feel like it could possibly be a urine infection but if she tested yesterday & it was clear then I don't want to bother my dr as it may just be things stretching. X

KLou111 · 14/08/2015 20:04

I think they just test your sugar levels. I think you'd have to give a sample to the gp if you want an infection tested. Possibility is it's just stretching, I had awful crampy, sharp pains around my kidneys about 13/14 weeks, Dr tested for infection but a all ok, it was just stretching x

littleb84 · 14/08/2015 20:26

Grrrr bloody paranoia has set in because of 'cramping' I can feel & there are only so many times I can fake needing the loo to go & check. This having a word with myself has not worked!!! I think it's because I'm bored & thinking too much about stuff. There is seriously so little to do on a Friday evening when your pregnant (even though just saying that sentence makes it all worth it).

I'm googling these colouring books you were all talking about & buying some new jigsaw puzzles! It's all rock & roll isn't it Wink

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Vicki272 · 14/08/2015 21:55

little I have been to the loo what must have been 100 times after the tiny bit of spotting this morning... Even after the phone call from L at the trial I am still going crazy... There's been nothing since but I am convinced that the discharge I'm getting is blood. Each time I psych myself up for it... Touch wood we are okay so far.

I can't even bring myself to think beyond the next appointment on Monday!! When is yours?

Injection really hurt tonight...

I'm really teary tonight too. Xx

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littleb84 · 14/08/2015 22:23

What are we like Vicki!! I said to oh earlier that out of blue I had sudden urge to burst into tears...but I've held it back. My next appointment is Tuesday. I'm sure we'll feel better soon, it's just all part of getting used to the fact we're pregnant again!

I think I remember someone saying that the injection hurts more when straight out of the fridge so to hold it in your hand for a minute or 2 before using it.

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Vicki272 · 15/08/2015 05:37

Right little I will try that. Maybe that's what made it hurt! Though the first one stung it didn't hurt like this one did! Glad we are going through it together!!!

Just got up (so early for a Saturday) and had to wipe again... I seem to have utterly convinced myself that it's going to be the worst! I'm do panicky!!!

How is everyone doing today?

kazz how you holding up lovely?

X

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philippa88 · 15/08/2015 10:25

brunmie don't worry about the bladder pain, I have the same thing! I went to the dr last week and they tested for infection and there wasn't one. It's worse when my bladder gets full - like in the middle of the night - so the dr advised to try and wee every hour even if I don't need to. He said it's because of the position of the uterus and bladder. It did get really sore at times and still does but not as much. I saw him again this week for a repeat urine test and it was still clear. I think it's just one of those things!! Xx

Kazz2112 · 15/08/2015 11:18

Oh lord. got horrendously pissed last night at DHS best mates house and woke up covered in bruises with a quid in my pj bottoms. no explanation for the quid but I apparently was dancing on the dining table and fell off taking a chair and DH with me. oooooppppssss

Marchgirl · 15/08/2015 13:17

Haha. Sounds like a good night kazz. Glad you got a chance to enjoy yourself and forget about all the other shit x

sizethree · 15/08/2015 15:12

Hi everyone. Sorry I keep dipping in and our a bit. Still very much struggling with being pregnant and anxiety is crippling.
Choccy you are so positive and excited, I'm very much at the other end of the spectrum and could fo with some of your positivity.
I dint know if it's becasuse I haven't managed to have a child akready, so that I don't know if I can actually carry to full term and have a heakthy live born baby, but I'm still absolutely terrified that something will still go wrong.
I still can't imagine myself with a baby, although I'm in my 29th week and everything seems to be going as it should.
I'm absolutely dreading starting antenatal classes next week as I've done my best to avoid smug pregnant women for nearly two years now. I'm not looking forward to having to participate and I'm very self conscious.
Ive avoided having photos taken of me and have avidly dodged any Facebook references to my pregnacy with militancy.
I'm finding it get hard to 'fit in' as there's nowhere for me.
I feel like I should be glowing and delighted about this pregnabcy, and I know I am very fortunate to be pregnant. But I'm still so filled with sadness and anxiety about my history of miscarriages and this deep rooted fear that things just won't work out.
Choccy where do you get the confidence from? I need some!
I had just hoped that I'd be able to relax and at least enjoy orwgnancy a little, but I feel constantly haunted as so very aware that I've missed out on so much with the previous losses.
So sorry to read your news Kazz and I hope I'm not coming across as insensitive.

Kazz2112 · 15/08/2015 15:23

Size don't be daft. I'm ok. (living I'm a permanent state of 'f* it let's get lashed atm' but I'm ok. just praying our shit news contributes to the development of some amazing drug that will save millions heartache. in the meantime... chink chink!

Kazz2112 · 15/08/2015 15:25

Oh the spelling mistakes there...

sizethree · 15/08/2015 16:10

That's a brilliant way to look at it Kazz. You have definitely contributed positively to help others.
Do you think you'll be interested in finding out if you can take part in the next stage of the trial?
I mean in all likelihood you'll already have had sucess at Coventry (and be handling pregnancy a lot better than me!) by then, but wondering if it's good to keep it waiting in the wings.
Totally supporting your love of booze. It's the only way I got through the weeks following mine. In fact after my first diagnosis of MMC I came home and had a swift prosecco and Chambord. Definitely helped.

Kazz2112 · 15/08/2015 20:42

Size im seriously borderline alcoholic atm and I'm not apologising for it. went into Manchester for drinks today financed by the 'maternity leave savings' which at this rate will buy another house and I was a bit tipsy when we went out but hubby was paralytic when we came home. I don't understand what happened. hes now passed out and I can't be arsed trying to make him get up to eat.

KLou111 · 15/08/2015 21:03

Size so sorry you're feeling like that :(
I'm staying positive because I've no reason to think anything will go wrong. Naive maybe as I know things can go wrong right at the last minute.
I panic if I don't feel the baby (which is not likely at the moment as he doesn't stop!), but I am excited, I won't deny it. I've waited so long for this, to complete our little family. This will be the last time I'm planning to be pregnant so I'm going to enjoy it :)
Every pregnancy makes you anxious don't get me wrong. I'd never had a mc before ds and I was still worried about him when I was pregnant, it's part of being a mum. Even though your baby isn't here yet, you're still a mum :)

Had a loooooonf day today. For home from Norfolk this aft about 2ish and have spent 5 hours making ds' birthday party cake for tomorrow morning. He had to pick the bloody hardest one!! But finally sitting down and chances are I'll be asleep in about 30 mins!
L from Coventry told me off on FB lol (she friend requested me last week bless her).
What do you think?

MAS7 · 15/08/2015 23:53

Loving the prize co and chambord size. I totally get you on the anxiety, I keep moving my own goalposts on when I will relax. Starting to think I won't ever now. Wish I could be more like choccy too, she comes a cross as so chilled! I know touch wood IF this all goes to plan I will look back on this pregnancy with sadness that I didn't enjoy it like I did DS. But even that thought can't make me shake the fear.

Choccy are you klou now? The SpiderMan cake is amazing!!

MAS7 · 15/08/2015 23:54

Bloody predictive text. Should be prosecco not prize co!

Choccywoccydodah · 16/08/2015 05:31

God I cannot bloody sleep!!!!
Been awake since 3.30 and it's driving me mad!!

Oooops, I was originally KLou when I was on here with ds, I was searching for something and must've kept my name on, sorry about that lol!!!