Hello! How kind of you to ask after me, Chewy! I am 38+5 (due next Thursday 28th) and fit to burst. How are you? Are you going to try IVF? I haven't read back very far but I can see you have been discussing frequency of sex. I've posted my pregnancy chart where you will see we had sex only four times in the whole cycle, blowing apart my GP's smug theory that: 'You'll never get pregnant only having sex around the time you think you're ovulating...charting is pointless and encourages too-focussed sex...temperatures are not reliable...'
We tried every-day sex throughout the fertile window many, many times and simply got hugely bored of each other's genitals. We hated it. Zeta West also told me smugly (not directly, in her latest book) that high protein diets are anathema to conceiving. Well, in the three months leading up to conception I ate 21 eggs per week (a 3-egg omelette per day) and threw maca root and co-enzyme q10 into the mix, too.
At the risk of sounding smug myself please believe me when I say I'm not. What I'm trying to say is that, after 16 fruitless months of plentiful and well-timed sex I never had a sniff of a BFP, and then...pregnant. So..it was either a) My golden egg had appeared b) The supplements and omelettes suddenly boosted my egg quality (or sumfink) or c) The eod deposits of semen allowed the perfect ball-sack recovery time for optimum sperm.
Of course, if the sperm isn't there it isn't going to happen, and I believe Zita West when she says the main barrier to over-forties not getting pregnant is we're not having enough sex (I'm talking about me, not any of you. In fact the month we got pregnant we used artificial insemination using a syringe and DHs sperm; we had given up seeing it as lovemaking and I had more chance of guaranteed, stress-free ejaculate every other day if I ordered DH to simply go masturbate. He balked at the idea initially but I just cried and ranted and told him I needed sperm, sperm and more sperm and it was his duty to get it to me by whatever means possible. I also told him that macho pride had no place in the discussion any more: 'I'm getting OLD for f**k's sake!').
I'm sorry if that was TMI, but my point is there were many, many months during those 16 fruitless ones where, if I'm totally honest, we only managed to DTD once or twice near ovulation. It's just not enough, especially if the man has not-excellent sperm that perhaps only lives a day, day-and-a-half.
I wish you all masses of luck. Oh, and over on the Pregnant Over 40 thread there's a lady who popped on to encourage us all by saying she had her first baby at 43 (like you, Chewy) and is now four weeks pregnant at 46, after being told IVF was 'a waste of time'. 