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The BESH are cheating on Luck with Irony, all Hags aboard for the ironiclusterdiff of the decade (for the B's and the none B's!)

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Blue2014 · 27/06/2015 18:53

You know the drill by now ...

Rules of Entry - must be over 30, TTC no. 1 for over a year, be suitably evil and Hag like, willing to shout Cunt at the moon on regular occasions, consume extra gin when our fellow hags are unable to, and to get the nipple tassles out for any successful Hag ...

No admittance without a complete BESHtionnaire - see below.

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icy121 · 03/12/2015 19:16

It's all bullshit isn't it. Angry I've got a bfp next Friday so I've booked in a boozy lunch with clients.

icy121 · 03/12/2015 22:22

LOL just noticed that Freudian split. Bfn, obvs! Dream on

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Blue2014 · 05/12/2015 17:21

I never understand why people feed other people's animals? Weird.

Still no period coop?

Barren hags night out last night, 3 couples all as barren as me and Mr B. It was lovely

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cooperG · 05/12/2015 18:23

Aw, sounds great blue, my friends all either already have kids or don't want them for a couple of years. We're all alone... Sad

no, still no period, gonna ring my gp on Monday. It's just fucking typical though, I've had my referral for the next stage of testing (eg IVF eligibility checking) and I've got to phone on day 1. If they don't hear within 2 months they'll assume I'm no longer proceeding.

Fuckity fuck fuck fuck Angry

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Blue2014 · 06/12/2015 11:05

Poor you, hope the bleed comes along soon frustrating little bugger

The real life hags aren't actually my friends but Mr B work colleagues - just pure chance! My friends and family and all super fertile

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icy121 · 06/12/2015 18:03

coop the pcos means ive ovulated as late at day 23. I remember being a total n00b and using an app to "calculate" ovulation and then spending a week and a half pissing repeatedly on sticks. Clearly you're not a n00Besh, just reminiscing about when I was positive and happy that we were trying.

In 2ww and drunk about 2 bottles of wine this weekend. My OH encourages it tbh. He doesn't think it'll happen naturally, and we might as well go out for a nice curry & wine and then sink another couple of glasses by the telly Fire Xmas Wink

blue real life barrens rock, right?! I have a barren friend, she's a nice girl tho, and not BESH. But we enjoy wine (see above) and commiserating. And being able to be totally open and not find other people trying to shut you down and move topic on.

Glass of red and handful of celebrations time I think.

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Blue2014 · 07/12/2015 21:54

I say drink the wine icy - I've no hope of this happening naturally now. Although now if things go to plan I'm a month from treatment so I've had to start being healthy which I absolutely suck at so drink more wine (and gin and rum) for me

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barkingtreefrog · 09/12/2015 08:11

You fell of my 'I'm on'! I had to scroll through the conception boards!!

coop any sign of droid yet?

Icy/blue I am starting to really regret the no alcohol for another three months pre next ivf rule. Even with the compromise of a couple of drinks a week. I just want to drink right now.

I'm starting to stress about droid arrival. Due next week but obviously this is a wtf cycle post mc so who knows. Tempted to go for woo needles to bring on the bleed. But then think it's possibly a waste of money and I should just wait and only go if I'm late. After the 1st mc the droid stayed away for 90 days and that was when I turned to woo needles into the first place. Didn't take so long after mc2 though, so I'm hoping it will behave itself this time.

cooperG · 09/12/2015 13:33

Still not here, did another test on Monday, negative. Phoned doctor and he said repeat test in 2 weeks and if still negative and no droid he'll do blood tests. Annoyed now Xmas Angry

How are you doing barking?

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Blue2014 · 10/12/2015 11:32

Stupid non bleeding fanjos. Mine is going like a bitch at the minute, I might have everyone's!

Well I'm supposed to be in Czech today for my first consultation but my dad has been rushed to hospital and I've had to cancel (he may well be ok but I had told everyone I was going Xmas shopping which isn't really a good enough reason to go!) luckily the doctor was great and said I can still start in Jan without going today.

Never bloody no pun intended! easy is it hags!

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Blue2014 · 10/12/2015 18:49

Ps. I have spent all day researching IVF stuff. All fucking day!!! I'm sick of this shit - where is my baby already??

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icy121 · 10/12/2015 21:19

Why the fuck am I watching "18 Kids and Counting"?!

Woman crying because she had a stillborn. Yes, dreadful and horrible, but it was the 18th pregnancy, with 17 successful ones beforehand. It's hardly the one shot at a baby, ever, situation.

God almighty Wine

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Blue2014 · 10/12/2015 21:40

Turn the telly off Icy - you are worse than me!

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icy121 · 10/12/2015 21:58

TBF - their lives look shit. Most the kids seem fucking miserable being one of twenty. Being a BESH is preferable, surely... sigh.

18 kids is fucking environmentally irresponsible too.

Period due tomorrow, going to get laaaaaashed (lad lad lad) with a group of mostly men tomorrow; even if they talk about their kids, there won't be much of it. More likely to talk about idiot-man drunken escapades. Funny dynamic - having to drink and be 'fun' but could never cross the line and do the shit they get away with without getting an awful reputation.

FUCK WHERE IS MY BABY. I DON'T WANT TO GO ON STUPID CLIENT/AGENT XMAS LUNCHES. I WANT TO BE AT HOME WITH A NEWBORN AND MY CATS.

Blue - do none of your family know about the IVF then? do you have a big family? IVF research sounds like it can be completely all-consuming. Dreading having to look into it properly.

Egg sharing. Thoughts? I'm very up for it, if I produce enough.

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Blue2014 · 11/12/2015 09:27

No, no one in the family knows. I'm going for a "I'm pretty naive and 3 years of TTC is completely normal so it'll just happen won't it" approach around them but mainly cos Mr B is really private. I would tell everyone but it's not just my "secret" is it.

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Blue2014 · 11/12/2015 09:29

Egg sharing I honestly don't know. It's horrible of me but I just feel so unlucky at present that I can see someone else getting pregnant with my egg and nothing for me! Oh I forgot I'm a hag, I'm allowed to be horrible. I would totally take a donor egg though, and the Czech clinic also do donor embryos so they'll just take one they made earlier and pop it into you. I'm too old to be allowed to egg share now anyway so if if the table for me

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barkingtreefrog · 11/12/2015 15:24

Icy I wanted to do egg sharing 3 years ago, but the only option at the time was to go to London and I'm too old now. Took me too long to get through the nhs process another thing I'm bitter about
But given the tiny number of women I know who've had anything left to freeze after a round of ivf where they didn't share their eggs, I would now be very hesitant. What if the only egg that fertilised and got to blastocyst was the one the other woman got?
It worked for one person I know. She got pg and I don't know if the other woman who took her eggs did. I'd be tempted to go for it if you know your issues are male factor, therefore your eggs and your body should work fine, but not if it's you or unknown.You might be giving away your only chance.

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Blue2014 · 13/12/2015 17:03

So .. My dad died. That's shit.

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icy121 · 13/12/2015 20:00

Oh my god. Blue I'm so, so sorry to hear that. I don't know what else to say. That's so awful.

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Blue2014 · 13/12/2015 20:33

Thanks icy - i just wanted to tell the hags cos I can imagine it's going to make my bitterness worse ...

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barkingtreefrog · 13/12/2015 21:47

Oh my goodness Blue, I'm so, so sorry.
Was this totally unexpected?

cooperG · 13/12/2015 22:00

blue I'm so sorry, there are no other words. X

Fabuluce · 14/12/2015 07:16

Oh Blue I'm so sorry to read this. How are you doing?

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Blue2014 · 14/12/2015 08:43

Thanks Hags.

Not completely unexpected barking, he's had a chronic illness for some time so I knew he would die in time but his health just dropped out of no where this week. It's was so rapid .

He said he has been ready to die for a while but was hoping to hang on to see my sister marry and me have a baby. It does make me sad but I didn't feel awful about not having had a baby. It's weird but I feel it would have been worse if I was actually diffed but seeing as there is no way he would have lived long enough to see me produce a baby it seems more manageable

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Blue2014 · 14/12/2015 11:39

Oh see - I knew something would kick in. Now I'm sat thinking if I can just get diffed on the first round of IVF then mum won't be so sad and she'll have something to look forward to. She's so sad Sad

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