April 2014 TTC Girls- babies almost all here and last one on his way!

[LuluJakey1]

Here is our new thread everyone.

Ducky he's certainly getting comfortable! He's stopped this morning tho which is a relief! Well DS went to sleep at 9 but woke at 3:30am!! :( so the nice sleeping didn't last very long. How was ur DS ? And oh gosh how come u had a false Alarm? How did that happen? Must of scared u stiff!!

Lulu I'm 26 weeks but yes I think he's a big baby! I'm quite big for how many weeks I am. A lot of people reckon I'm near my due date.,, I'm not lol. Oh and my bed is absolutely amazing!!! I love it so much! It's closer to the ground that my last one so my short legs can actually touch the floor and getting out of bed is so much easier. And the Matress is very supportive on my hips. It's great
The meal was okay thank u, just hectic as DS just wanted to go off and play but it was so so so busy he couldn't so was hard to keep him at the table. I had the most amazing macaroni and cheese!! I wish I had it right now. Tho, as it was a world buffet and u just help ur self I ended up eating it with pancakes! I craved pancakes so much and weirdly pancakes and Mac n cheese tasted amazing.
Lulu I hope u have a nice day today!
And sometimes u can be late on a pill, tho if deffo test in case!! DS1 was conceived on the pill :) I was on cerazette.

I rang GP and she said not to worry, just to start next packet as per expected. It is quite common she said.

Your new bed sound great Cupcake, just what you need. Did you chase up your physio appt?

I love macaroni cheese. It is our favourite tea.

Ds slept for almost 12 hours last night. It was bliss. He is full of beans this morning. Has had his porridge and is sitting eating a banana, making lots of noise and laughing. Babies are weird little beings aren't they - he is so happy with his banana.

I have no idea cupcake, I think he might of wiggled off the sensors, he was right at the end sideways with his arms and legs through the bars!

It was around midnight and the alarm woke me up so I jumped out of bed so fast and ran in and flipped him over and he didn't wake up, I was so scared then I started speaking loudly to him and then h came in and put the light on which woke him up, he was still wide awake at 2am!

Ducky, that sounds scarey. Was DS just fast asleep? Nice to hear your DH got up and ran in too. He seems to be getting better and not as nasty as he used to be. Do you think having DS has changed him?

DS is busy throwing his Oleg grub around the room. DH retrieves it then DS throws it again. It is quite deliberate and he enjoys it (they both do TBH)

He is almost 30 weeks!

Ha sounds like they're having fun lulu! H and me have been ok, he's still a bit of an arse we had a huge argument a couple of nights ago and I think it kind of cleared the air.

When does your maternity finish lulu? And have you organised child care? I'm a bit lost with it all!

I extended it until January - well Dec but then the Christmas hols happen so I actually go back 5th Jan. We have got a nursery place for him and it's really nice. He'll love it but I bet I'm upset. He's going to go for some half days before Christmas to get used to it. I'll be able to go Christmas shopping Are you going to go back to work- not your old job I know but back to work?

DH is not feeling well, he says he's got a pain in his side, he thinks he's pulled a muscle at the pool with DS.

DS is asleep, DH is lying down and I am sitting with a mug of green tea and the cats.

I think I will have to I really don't want to though I'm dreading it

Lulu I have to call up Monday as they said I should be top of the list then and wow DS slept 12 hours! That's rele good!!

Sounds rele scary that does Ducky!
I've got DS into nursery finally lol he starts on 8th September, has some starter days from 18tg August right up till he starts properly :) will be in 2 and a half days! :(
My mat leave starts 3rd September so I'll be all on my own those 2 and a half days! :(
When would u need to start back at work?

I've had 4 braxton hick contraction in the last half hour!! :s is that normal??

Cupcake if your worried at all ring mau that's what they're there for. Iir as long as they aren't regular and uncomfortable they're ok? But maybe just ring them for advice? Just because of your history with ds.

I have my redundancy money that should last another 3 months after mat pay finishes (in August) but really I wanted to put that away for ds.

I just feel totally lost in regards to childcare I don't know where to start or how to organise it/what to look for. There is a new nursery opening down the road from me in September, I have requested info for them but I have no idea if they would be full up or any idea on the costs etc

I have a number for the midwives to ring between 8 and 9am for any concerns or advice so I might call that in the morning.

The cost of childcare is ridiculous. It's usually £42 for a full day (7:30am till 6pm)
So it's a lot! I can only afford it now as DS is 2 n gets free 25 hour funding. Which is great.

I don't know what I'm going to do. Tbh I have £900+ worth of bills coming out my account a month and after aug I'm on £20 something child benefit a week I'm scared shitless. H seems to not care, I've always paid for everything, I suppose it's my fault for that. No way his wages would cover everything.

With my job I took redundancy as with travelling/long hours/no overtime pay etc it would work out that I wouldn't afford everything anyway. And it was very unstable which wouldn't of been good. Problem is it's a job that doesn't really exist any more and it's all I know so now I'm starting from the bottom again (I was in a senior position at my old job) I just don't know what to do for the best.

Well I have just left DH at the hospital with suspected appendicitis.

The pain he had, turns out he has had it since early this morning and it has just got worse. By 6pm he was being sick with the pain. I rang out of hours but they said to ring 999 because it sounded like it might be appendicitis and I should not drive him incase I had to brake quickly and the seatbelt could make it worse. He would not let me call an ambulance so I called SIL who came and sat with DS and I drove DH to the hospital very slowly.

They are pretty sure it is appendicitis- blood test, examination, urine test, temperature. If it is no different in the morning they will operate. He looked really pale and poorly and kept being sick. He was more comfortable by the time I left - had had a bit of pain relief- and they had moved him to a ward.

SIL has gone home. DS is fast asleep and I am sitting here worried about DH. He didn't say anything about it until tea time. He says he woke up about 3 am with it and it wasn't too bad then and until after he had been swimming it was manageable. He knew it wasn't a pulled muscle so I don't know why he said it was.

Thank goodness SIL moved this week! DS would have had to come to the hospital.

Lulu I don't want to scare u but rele they should operate as soon as they diagnosed appendicitis. My exH had it and we took him to hospital and they had to operate asap. They said he was only hours away from dying as it was on the brink of bursting. It was awful. He couldn't walk with his pain and kept passing out, so I'm thinking his may have been more severe. I hope ur poor DH is okay Lulu, he'll be better soon, send some hugs and virtual flowers over for him from us!

Ducky I hate to say this but maybe u should say to DH it's his time to pay now, other wise u can't afford anything at all and if he wants to keep a roof above his head he needs to pay the bills now.
Write down how much u will get, ie the £20 a week child benefit, and then write how much is going out. Show him this, might help him see if he can see it all wrote down.
Also do u get ur child tax credits?
And how many hours does DH work? U can also claim working tax if he's on 30 hours or more. It'll be a joint claim and it can go into ur bank account. (I did this with my exH)
And u can get a childcare element of tax credits where u get some money towards nursery fees etc.
it's all so so confusing
I have housing benefit now, I had no choice but to apply for it as I can't afford it on my own. Helps a lot tho.

Oh god, as I was writing this DS has thrown up everywhere!! He's all clean now tho feels slightly warm so I think he needs a bit of calpol. I asked him if he was feeling okay his reply was 'oh yes!' And nodded haha!
His dad has him tonight! Only for a few hours but how good is that! I'm off out for a posh French meal with my mom :) so I hope DS feels okay by then. He was awake at 1:30am last night.

They have operated Cupcake. I got a phone call about 3 this morning to say they were taking him to theatre. I put DS in his car seat - he just fell back asleep- and took him with me and went back up there. The hospital is only 10 mins away.

DH is fine, although they said the appendix was very inflamed. I saw him for about 10 minutes afterwards. He was sleepy but said he already felt 100 x better. I had packed him a bag to take up today so I took it last night so he has some stuff.

DS was awake by then but very sleepy and just snuggled into me and only wailed a bit when we went outside and the cool air hit him. When we got home he had some milk and fell asleep again.

What a night!

Visiting isn't until this afternoon but I'll ring up in a bit to see how he is. How long did they keep your ex in afterwards? I am thinking probably Monday so two days?????

Oh bless him Lulu! I'm glad they operated tho, it's the best thing to do. It's good he's feeling a lot better already.
ExH was in a week, mainly because he wasn't rele eating and he was still in pain and struggled to stand up straight. He had a few complications tho. And couldn't go to the toilet haha! usually it's around 2-3 days for abdominal surgery as long as he's managed to use the toilet and he's eating fine. Oh bless him, appendicitis isn't nice at all.

Thanks Cupcake. I have just rang and he is fine. Has had his breakfast and been in the shower. She went to check with him and came back to say, can I take his ipad and two books and some Rolos in and he says he is bored and can I ring him to talk to him. So I rang him and he says he had two breakfasts because there were spares and he was 'starving' and the nurse said he could have another one and can I take him a 'food parcel' and some money and he wonders what they have done with his appendix because he would like to see it.

Omg lulu! That happened so quickly! Yes get a pic of his appendix he seems to have recovered quickly too.

Cupcake we did get child tax but they overpaid us apparently and the over payment has wiped off this years award.

Lulu he certainly sounds a lot better! That's great tho :)

Oh no Ducky that's rubbish! They did the same thing with my council tax, they charged us too little and now the rest of this year I have to repay an extra £800. It's ridiculous.

We have been to visit DH. He wasn't as well as he sounded this morning. Turns out he was told not to have a shower but he insisted He was quite achey and his belly feels bloated but that's from the gas they filled it with because he had the op laparascopically. So it's only 3 small cuts. But his body has to absorb the gas and it hasn't yet. He said he feels a bit tender but the pain has completely gone. He's eating and walking. We took DS down to the patients's lounge and he crawled round.

DH has clearly been making friends- there is an old man opposite him who he has been chatting to and the nurses were all jokes with him.

He was really pleased to see us but he started to look tired. I left him with some food. He said he might have 'a little sleep' before his tea. Bless!

He can probably come home on Monday. He has to do a poo first.

So SIL and fiance are going in tonight. PIL are on holiday so we haven't told them- don't want to worry them.

Typically, tonight when I am on my own, DS won't settle. He has been in limpet mode, won't be put in his cot, or even sit next to me. He wants to be cuddled on me with his head on my neck. It's late now even for him. He has had his milk and we are sitting in the dark with a throw over us and I am waching tv with the sound down low and he is just snuggled in. But every time I try to move him he wails until I snuggle him in.

SIL rang to say DH was feeling better after his 'little lie down'. He rang before he went to bed for the night to say a) He has not done a poo b)He loves me and to give DS a kiss goodnight from him.

Poo, one way or another, has become one of our daily conversations.

Hope everyone is having a nice Saturday night. I am thinking everyone is out somewhere having a nice time.

What drama since I last checked in! Your poor DH Lulu, glad they took that horrid appendix away! Hope he manages to poo And hope that your DS goes down soon.
My DS is going through sleep regression atm. He had me up six times last night, and four tonight. He woke me up for the third time about an hour and a half ago and every time I out him back in his cot he gives me just long enough to get back into bed and start drifting off again before he squarks again and I have to get back up! He's asleep in my arms now but I don't want to risk moving him. A Friedman told me they ha e to be asleep for twenty mins before they're in a deep enough sleep to move them
He's in his cot for the first time tonight, although I doubt that's the issue. I'm really sad that he's not I. His Moses basket anymore but I bought him a mobile and if he was in his Moses basket inside the cot where he he has been the last week or so, he'd be high enough to grab at it so I thought I might as wells make the transition. It's sad though, I'm not ready for him to be a big boy!
I've started slimming world but fell off the wagon yesterday (the third day!) by having some nachos
Hope everyone else is alright?

Lulu glad he's hopefully going to be out Monday :) and babies can always sense when things are going on, he's probably realised his daddy isn't there and it's a bit different.
Hope u both got sleep In the end :)

Lill bless u! Babies always go through these stages. I hope he starts sleeping for u soon tho. And I hated when DS went into his cot. He was 6 weeks old as he was a chunk and HV said we had to move the cot into our bedroom. It was a nightmare
They grow up fast tho don't they!!! :(
DS is 2 years old in just over 2 weeks! Can't believe he's gonna be 2, he's deffo not a baby anymore. Then he's starting his taster sessions for nursery just after his bday! 2 years time I'll be buying him school uniform!! :( oh gosh!

I was out having a meal with my mom last night :) it was lovely! Sat and had a 2 course meal, in quiet, I ate it all, and I didn't have a toddler running riot! Was lovely :) not been out without DS in a very very long time.

Hello Lill, nice to hear how you are getting on. I am on a diet (of sorts) too at the moment. Am eating lots of fruit and salads- along with other things I shouldn't eat on a diet It is hard when DH is on holiday because he likes things I love but would not have in the house if it was just me and Ds through the day and then I nibble at things like blue brie!

Your DS sounds like he is re-establishing a sleep pattern. Hopefully he'll settle and need less feeds through the night. The thing I found hard about DS starting to grow up was putting away his newborn clothes. After a couple of nights of his being in his own room in his cot, I just loved having our room back to how it had been. I get really mixed feelngs about things. When he started to crawl I was so pleased but sad because it was another little baby thing gone- like he was less reliant on me. But now I have forgotten that because now he wants to walk and of course he can't (although he can stand briefly leaning against something but he has no balance and just falls over or his legs give way.) So that will be the next thing.

Cupcake, your meal sounds lovely. What did you have?

DH rang before- feeling better than yesterday. Thinks most of the gas has gone (gone where? ) Thinks he is well enough to come home and would rather be lying on his bed than the hospital bed.What do I think? Do as you are told just for once DH

Oh and he has managed a poo! That was the first thing he told me.