Bumsnet- you would be amazed at where we stick our thermometers to help us get our BFP's

[Reluctantnympho]

New cycle = new hope

xpost nomio - so sorry for your BFN How many dpo are you now?

Haha!! You ladies make me chuckle, let's have a foof cushion sew along!!

Eskimo sounds like a super plan to me. I'm so so pleased for you lovely one. Slightly disturbed by the thought of 15 women in bibs. I would hate a "baby shower" but I know my mum would love to do one so I would insist on a tea party but absolutely no presents. Again I know my mum so would tentatively allow £5 book vouchers if pushed so we could make a baby book library.

Mega I'm with you, I hate not being able to plan my life. I feel like I'm in limbo. What's the project for?

DizzyNB hope the hospital apt goes well and they get to bottom of why ears are ringing.

Nom sending big hugs, sorry for bfn.

14DPO, Robot, so it is pretty definite.

I too hate the limbo of TTC. It is so hard to plan anything when you don't if or how pregnant you will be.

Cd18 here I am hoping and praying I ovulated yesterday. No sign of any FF lines, but techincally I ought to be 1dpo now. Had a dip and a rise but it's out of our hands now all we can do is wait.

This TWW is going to kill me. Can I POAS yet?

I would, Frog!

Haha!! Nom you are so naughty!! You should be saying stop it frog

Well frog I've officially handed in my POAS police badge so I say if it doesn't move - piss on it! Fx the next 2 weeks fly by.

nomio I'm sorry my love - next cycle is ours, I can feel it! I will stop banging on about that time I tested at 14dpo and got a BFN despite being actually pregnant because it is not helping anyone Hope AF doesn't leave you hanging too long.

Forgot to reply to question! frog it's a performing arts project, outside of my main job, so would mean extra hours to co-ordinate and lots of physical rehearsal in the evenings when I know I would be having my arse kicked by pg tiredness (if I'm lucky enough to get pregnant again). I'm a bit wary because of my recent MC too. Have decided I'm going to do a bit more research over the next few weeks and get my application ready to send if I get a BFN on my next testing day! A nice little consolation prize

That sounds really interesting, Robot. Next cycle is definitely ours. It is my turn to get pregnant, dammit!

Frog, I am like a drug pusher, but for pregnancy tests!

Sorry for AF pug and boris. Next cycle is the one.

Step away from the tests frog it's far twerly!

Hope your ear appointment goes well today dizzy. It must be so frustrating.

Sorry for bfn nomio. Good plan about adjusting the clomid.

I'm on cd31 and waiting impatiently for AF to arrive. The one cycle I want her to show her face she plays games! Anovulatory cycle so I hope it doesn't drag on any longer.

I have been really thinking about going for a private HSG scan to check my insides are in working order but the experience I had last time has really put me off and being anxious about it will mean I will just tense up anyway

dizzymerry a scan sounds like a really good idea - but I can sympathise with bad hospital experiences. What happened? Would it be worth taking the plunge to try and get some answers?

nomio I'm hiding from you when it gets near my OTD. I have a feeling you are a bad, bad influence!

Mega it was excruciatingly painful and they couldn't push any further up but tried for about 30 mins. My consultant did say it was due to severe endo which was in the way but it's really put me off all internal examinations. I know I should get it done but the fear of last time stops me.

I would be pretty scared too after that kind of experience, Dizzy. Maybe there is something slightly less invasive they could try if you explain your fears.

Eskimo, I only take my Clomid for 5 days, I was just tired last night & seem to have forgotten how to count! I will be taking it days 3-7 not 8.

dizzy that sounds wretched - I understand endo can be horribly painful anyway without it being messed around with . I agree with nomio - is it worth raising with a sympathetic GP/consultant? Sometimes it's just a case of getting the right person who actually listens to your situation rather than some jobsworth who just ploughs on regardless. I had a colposcopy once where they were frantically trying to get the speculum out of me but I was too tense, resulting in a totally non-hilarious tug of war and lots of yelling and a student who looked like they were going to faint. Mine was nowhere near as bad as yours and I was still a bit traumatised!

That sounds traumatic to me robot. My GP knows all of this as she now does my smears. I found the nurse too heavy handed so my GP offered to take over. I haven't spoken to her about a HSG but we're about to be referred to the fertility clinic. I now the NHS do a great job but are overstretched but I don't want to leave it too long so think I'll phone a few private clinics and explain. It's worth finding out at least rather than doing nothing.

Dizzy I always err in favour of taking action wherever possible. It's all about taking control back over this crazy journey wherever you can! Hope the referral comes through quickly for you.

I've just emailed two private fertility clinics. I would have liked to speak to someone but I'm at work and have my acupuncture appointment later so wouldn't have been able to ring them later and if I left it to tomorrow I would have put it off. Hoping they get back to me with some helpful info.

Ttc does put your life into limbo, I felt guilty spending money on a dresss yesterday incase I get pregnant and won't get any wear out of it!! I even did all of last years christmas shopping early incase I was up the duff and feeling too rough to shop... And look where that got me! I've put off doing my pgce this year because if impending babybump (can't ask school to fund it if I will be going off on mat leave)
Ttc is also making me fat and turning me into an alcoholic, as I drown my sorrows every month!

Love the idea of a bum on pillow, pillow! I would 100% buy one of those! But it would need some sort if wipe clean cover! (puke not envy!)

Hope your friend's special day was wonderful knickers

Evening all!

Eskimo I'm glad you're back and feeling determined! I hope your bfp is just around the corner!

Robot you will be preggo by October but you'll manage your big project just fine so just go for it!

Queen sorry to here there is nothing to report so far on knicker watch. Could everyone on the bus check under their seats for Queens missing AF? Hope the witch shows her ugly face soon. Or could it still be a shy bfp at cd45?

Pixa I love the idea of a 'bum on pillow' pillow, I want one...no, in fact I need one in my life.

Pikz sorry to hear you have a poorly DC, trying to work with little ones is an absolute mare :(

DizzyN are you sure you haven't ovulated? Reason I ask is that I was having bloods done when ttc dc1 and the month I conceived I was told I hadn't ovulated...I'm now pretty sure I did! Glad you're feeling ok though and you're so right, there is always someone worse off than yourself which helps puts things into perspective.

Sorry for bfn Nomio :( Have a well deserved drink tonight. You keep plodding and praying and we'll all plod and pray along with you!

Frog, I'm sorry but we can't let you POAS at 1 dpo, that's just crazy...everyone knows you have to wait until 4 dpo ;) ......apart from the lovely Nomio!

Robot I can't believe you've handed in your badge...it's gonna get pissy round here! The project sounds exciting and a great consolation prize...the law of sod will definitely ensure you get your bfp! Sorry to hear of your recent mc though :(

Nomio I've got some new 'gear' on order, I'll send you a picture when it arrives.

DizzyM I hope AF shows up soon so you can move onto your next cycle. Sorry to hear about your bad experience, sounds bloody awful! I agree with robot, I personally prefer to take a pro-active approach to ttc, it may be worth exploring further but clearly making them aware of your previous experience.

Nympho you should buy the dress, it will give you something to aim towards when you're trying to shift the baby weight! Worth every penny :) Agreed, my pillow will also need a protective cover as I'm prone to leakage :)`

Thanks you to those who thought of me and my friend today...it was a very emotional day and I cried like a baby but wouldn't have missed it for the world!

CD4 here, absolutely nothing to report other than I think AF is nearing the end, halle feckin lujah! :)

Thank you all for your lovely comments about my future child They really made me smile and chuckle to myself. You guys are awesome. Tonight is the SIL's birthday so DP is at her family dinner out that I am boycotting as a means of protecting myself. I had planned to go to my ballet class but am feeling inexplicably knackered so decided to stay home and read MN

pikz do you reckon you OVed today? I had a dark purple yesterday too so am hoping today was the day... I was expecting to OV on Sunday so am a bit disappointed it's a few days later... Looks like you, me and frog could be TWW buddies. I wonder who will crack and POAS first!

eskimo I don't mind a bit of slobber - I was brought up with Labs!! I don't think a St Bernard is really an option but I love big dogs so got a bit excited for a minute!! Sorry you've been feeling frustrated. I hope your drugs do the trick and you are soon shooting out eggs all over the place.

DizzyM brave girl emailing the clinics. I hope someone can offer you some reassurance without subjecting you to too much pain. I am always in awe of people with endo. I lived with a girl once for whom I had periodically to call ambulances she would be in such pain I was convinced there must be something terrible happening. Prior to that I had no idea who painful it could be - hats off to you for pursuing your answers despite your fears.

pugalicious I'm sorry AF got you. I found my WTF AF particularly hard because you read so much about being magically tip top fertile that month...

Bozza you too lovely, sorry for the witch's arrival

mega how was your day in court?

nomio you're house looks perfect! I hope it all goes smoothly. We bought our place nearly 4 years ago now. It was a complete wreck and we renovated the whole place. I remember the journey from offer to completing like it was yesterday - I hope it manages to way-lay your TTC frustrations a bit!

Babybump this month marks six months for me. And I'm only on cycle 4 because of the MC. I totally get how you feel.

fifi Glad you had a lovely holiday. Pics looked amazing!! Sorry about the work incident - there's nothing worse than being brought back down to earth after a holiday.

Ladies, I have disturbing news.... I downloaded Zita West's "Eat yourself pregnant" and have read the following line: After intercourse lie flat on your back for 15-20 minutes. Do not get up right away and do not put your bottom on a pillow Say... WHAAAAAA???? No bums on pillow?!? We might have to put the bum-pillow-sewing-cooperative plans on hold!!!

dizzyN how did the hospital appointment go? I had tinitis for a while. I had an MRI of my head which showed nothing and eventually it went of its own accord. I think, like kinckers I was guilty of excessive gigging....

Queen where oh where is that naughty aunt?! Hope she comes soon. Or that you are a late implanter and get a magic BFP....

PS Sorry mega and knickers I got the wrong name re. the day in court...

mega defo go for the project. I booked a ski holiday to Canada not knowing if I would be preg. I was and I had a slightly less fun than normal ski trip then came home and miscarried.... but I'm still glad I went!

Ibeka, STOP THE BUS!!!! Zita said what???!!!!

Well, there you have you ladies, that's where we've be going wrong...simples.

Does it say anything about Pot Noodles in 'Eat yourself pregnant'?...I do love a PN