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[Rainy34]

This is the bus where we will get our BFP, hop on with your summer skirts and grab the bfp 's!!

mega at a guess, in 10dpo but if my cycle was going to be 35 days as last months then AF was due yesterday. Cycles definitely still settling down after coming off bc in jan! Now on cd37!

Well, we finally decided to bleed properly so it's CD1 for me. Thanks for all the votes on Saturday. Lots of black bits which is a bit freaky IMO and the rest normal bright red stuff so either it's a result of the progesterone or else it was a chemical.
I just had lunch and indulged in a million shots of espresso, bought tampons, and will try and do some work. At least we now know where we are at. Which is cd1. Yay. I'm so stoked. Get to do it all over again. Joy. actually I'm relatively okay with it all but sarcasm still seems to be leaking from me like a confidential memos from a Fifa meeting
Will catch up when at home tonight.

August - you can be my cycle buddy for my last cycle before IVF! Apparently it's lucky, night was my cycle buddy and look at her!

Sorry for af, she's being horrible to me too. Really heavy and painful :(. I want a hot water bottle. Xx

Sammy and August sitting in a tree
Cycling buddies for the TTC
First comes love, then comes marriage, then oh just pass me the fucking wine already

Sorry pixa. I'm still hoping it's just too early for you.

Woolly you will surely be missed on here but I do understand what it's like when ttc starts to dominate your every thought. Take care of yourself and don't stay away too long. I can't wait for you to get your bfp and come back with the news

Rice I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. He is in the best of hands and I really hope things start to look up. Take care of yourself too

Twinkle sorry I missed your posts yesterday. You've had excellent advice on here so I'd just like to echo what the others have said. I also think your DP needs to start being realistic about all the options available. This isn't only about him, it concerns you and he is being selfish to dictate what he doesn't want without thinking of how it will impact on you. I hope you can talk and work your way through this.

Pug exactly what purdie said. I don't think a man would even think to do anything out of the ordinary in these situations as they're just not wired up like that. You are a strong couple with a strong bond so focus on that and don't let any disappointment cloud over you. When it mattered the most he was with you and will continue to be. This is what's important

Aug so AF finally decided to show her face?! Onwards and upwards to the next cycle. You will get there lovely.

Sammy sorry AF arrived but it's not long for you now either.

Can anybody interpret my chart for me. Spent ages this morning trying to work out what's going on but I haven't got a clue. Has it just been a crappy month? I think temping is getting really stressful for me and it's only the second month in!

Sorry Sammy and August . I can sympathise! AF kicked off in earnest this morning and so far a heavier bleed than my MC. Had to sprint to the garage at lunch to get massive pads! Now waddling like a duck and feeling very fed up indeed!

Fx it's brief for everyone.

Dizzy, if temp stays up tomorrow you ov'd on cd21

Just my luck purdie we stopped dtd on cd18

I did notice I thought we agreed on eod?

I couldn't carry on any longer. I hated most of the sex this month and although I started to enjoy the last couple of times I just couldn't will myself to keep going. Oh well better luck next cycle!

Hi all,

We have been super busy over the weekend, so I haven’t had chance to post, but am catching up now.

Night, massive congratulations! You will be an amazing mummy. I am so pleased for you.

Twinkle, I am so sorry to hear about your husband’s SA. It must be terrifying, especially if he has ruled out adoption. I don’t know anything about why there might not be sperm, but am hoping it can be fixed easily.

Boris, please forgive me if I am speaking out of turn, but I know you & DH have had a lot of issues recently. Do you think he is just using tiredness as an excuse for not having sex? Is he completely committed to the idea of children? My DH often works really long hours, and comes home exhausted, but still manages a quickie.

Sparkles, it is so good to hear from you. I am pleased things seem to be settling down a bit. Hopefully you can start to enjoy your pregnancy now.

Pug, that sounds like a bit of a crappy birthday, especially after going through such a horrible few weeks. I imagine your DH probably felt terrible when he saw how upset you were, and will make it up to you sometime soon.

I am very pleased to hear that there are other goat’s cheese hating veggies out there! I can’t stand the stuff, yet so often it is the only veggie option.

Rainy, sorry you are leaving us. I hope we see you again soon.

I am so sorry your Dad is still not well, Rice. I have been thinking about you over the last few weeks & wondering how things were. I hope you have lots of RL support.

Dizzy, I have been in that situation many times! Sometimes the thought of yet more sex makes you want to scream!

We have had a busy, but good weekend. Saturday we took my nephews out for the day, then yesterday we had a house viewing & family meal. I have been doing lots of driving too. At least it is helping the TWW go quickly! 6DPO already.

DH is away for work tonight, so I will be relying on you guys to keep me company.

August that made me laugh!! Totally how I feel about things! Xx

gah, sorry august, mega and sammy

Thanks for all your lovely comments. I appreciate them a lot As for the sperm donor, I understand that for some people it works and is wonderful, such as purdie and her family but for others it's not n option and I can't force DH to raise a child that isn't biologically his if it's against his wishes. I really think counselling is a great idea and will definitely be needed if they tell us we can't have any children Will the GP organise this for us?

pixa I'm so sorry for your bfn this morning, you must be gutted. Our bodies play horrible tricks sometimes don't they

sammy really hoping this cycle works for you, but if not you've got your action plan

nomio thanks for your message. DH already has a child and he's a great dad. I was really sure he wanted more but now I do wonder if he's sabotaging the idea? He tends to run into work and play lots of footy etc after work which with the long hours is an exhausting lifestyle. My big fear tho is that he does still want kuds but not with me. or he no longer wants to sleep with me and in actual fact he's just trying to push me away.
Bring on some therapy we have issues.
I'm now 37 and getting desperate. I don't want to loose the chance to have children and loose my marriage. It's all too horrible.

My mum and dad died ages ago and I was on my own in the world for a long time. I always sort of knew that I'd have a family of my own so it felt ok. Now I can see it all slipping away from me and the grief hurts.

Twinkle, I don't know whether the Dr could organise it or not, but whatever happens, we are all here to support you.

Glittery, how are you doing lately? You have been really quiet. I hope everything is good.

Where is everyone tonight?

Nomio Its not me that is leaving , i think you mean Wooly

Hope you're too busy enjoying yourself in the hot tub to see this Pixa but if you do, sorry for this morning's result. Hope the quality time you are spending with DH is taking your mind off it

And all others with AF mega August Sammy - Don't let her get you down!

Twinkle Glad you're holidaying in a lovely place. Hopefully the Dr will be able to tell you more soon and you and DH can discuss your options fully and frankly.

August Love the poem!

Thanks everyone for the birthday commiserations - and I know birthdays aren't the be all and end all and I should just get over myself! Fortunately I haven't had any more time to mope about it as been ridiculously busy. Flying off to Ireland tomorrow for a couple of days work and then again next week so I'm delighted that FF has given me some dotted angry pubes for last Tuesday, (3 days before you reckoned though, purds ) so seems it has been timed well for us being in the same country to at least give us a shot. So according to FF I am currently 6DPO on CD36 of WTF cycle.

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Mummy if you want to have a stab at updating my stats they are

ThePug / 30! / TTC#1 / Cycle 3 / AF/BFP due 9th June at a guess (which would be 14DPO and I'm definitely not testing before then)

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BORIS Come here, have a cuddle. Your posts are so sad. Please don't give up, and please book that appointment. There could be all sorts of things behind DH's behaviour/tiredness (like medical things) so until you have thrashed it out please don't torture yourself with 'what if's'.

I am 37 too, Boris, so know exactly how you feel. The ticking clock gets louder every day for me.

The reason I asked about whether or not he wants a child is because before my DH was ready, he would behave in the same way. Instead of talking about it, he would try to ignore the problem to avoid conflict. Will DH talk to you about these issues, or does he just clam up?

I can imagine how terrifying it must be, especially given the way you lost your parents, but I honestly think that it is time you forced the issue. If DH is not willing to put the effort into your future, you deserve someone who will.

If you ever want to talk, feel free to send me a message. X

Oops, sorry, Rainy!

Pug, we are cycle buddies. I am 6DPO & due on the 9th! It is my sister's birthday, so am really hoping it brings us good luck.

Oh Boris your post broke my heart! You are such a lovely person and deserve a wonderful marriage and many many babies. Have you spoken to DH about him potentially sabotaging your efforts? I definitely think that counselling is the way forward for you.