Bumsnet - where we get it on and get our BFP!!

[Rainy34]

This is the bus where we will get our BFP, hop on with your summer skirts and grab the bfp 's!!

Af is here.

###New stats af due 28th June, cycle 20 - I think ###

It's due 2 days later than I thought... IVF pros; should I let the clinic know so they can adjust my scan days? Xx

Twinkle, I suspect I'm completely out of line for strongly elucidating how I feel here, but I think for your husband to put the kibosh on you ever becoming a mother (biological or adoptive) because of his defective fertility is a fucking disgrace. I would at least think he had a modicum of self-sacrifice and consideration if he offered to go for donor counselling with the excellent therapists who thrash out all the fears and doubts and worries all couples facing donor IVF have to wrestle with. To tell you he is absolutely and utterly opposed to this is sentencing you to a lifetime of childlessness. Tragic. I dearly hope you realise your dream of becoming a mum..one way or another

Just want to say thank you to all you wonderful ladies for all the congratulations today will be lurking to watch you all get your bfps!

Oh pug . Sorry about the birthday let downs.... I cried like a baby then drank myself into a stupor when I turned 30. It's a funny age. Men are just a bit rubbish sometimes. Once DP said to me 'would you like a little digital camera for your birthday to carry about in your handbag?' (this was before we had smartphones). I said 'hmmm, that's really nice of you but I don't think I'd use it so probably not a great use of your money'. Guess what I got for my birthday....???

twinkle it must be such a confusing time for you. Make sure you keep speaking to DH about how you both feel. He must be feeling really low if he said he's worried you'll leave him. Keeping fingers, toes, arms and legs crossed for your appointment on Thursday. xx

twinkle I really hear what purdie says...any chance of being able to get him to a counselling session as a first step?

rainy cor what a tease ov is...hope she pops up at a beautifully convenient time for you...with flowers wine and Barry White! This is cycle 8 for us but I've only knowingly ovulated once naturally (inc the 18 months ttc DS) so we are very reliant on clomid of which we have two cycles left! I do feel like time is running out. But I do have one DC already so it may be time to live in the present and stop wishing our lives away. I need to have a good crack at it over the summer and then pull up my socks and move on. Feel like I'm making us all suffer a bit at the moment!

ibeka at your DH. Maybe get him a hearing test for his next birthday?

Night huge congratulations on your bfp!! So pleased for you.

Sammy, yes I would let your clinic know your AF has arrived early. They will probably want to scan you on certain days of your ivf cycle so these would now be different.

Pixa, really keeping my fingers crossed for you!

Twinkle, really sorry to hear about your dh's sperm result. There's lots they can do nowadays with ivf so hopefully something will work out for you. I do think it's a bit hard of your DH too to completely reject all other options. I think the counselling like purdie suggested would be brilliant but hopefully you can sort something with his own sperm and won't need it.

Sorry about AF Sammy

Thanks Lucie, keeping my fingers crossed for your next round of IVF!

rice so sorry about your dad. I lost my own DF to cancer and watched him fight valiantly against the disease for 3 years. It's tough I can empathise with how you feel.

woolly if you are still reading I really have valued your support, your humour and your kindness. You reached out to me directly and in such a kind way - if I can be of any support please do vent on here or on in facebook. You are a lovely lady. I hope you have a good rest from ttc and clear your head but come back here if you need to talk any of it through. If you can keep in touch please do somehow, id love to know when you become a mum.

sammy sorry for AF. Big hug and to you. Xxxx

Thanks for the congrats Boris :) how are you doing lovely?

Thinking of you woolly, you are a fab member of the bus and I hope it won't be long until you are telling us of your bfp! Really hope you manage to get some TTC rest :)

Woolly! So sad to see you go but also completely understand your reasons. I hope you pop back to visit, I will miss your cheery posts very much.

Pixa!!! Omg tentative congratulations!!!

Pug so sorry about your birthday. I hope dh makes it up to you very soon.

Woolly enjoy your break away from the groups. Sometimes it all does get too much but I hope we see you back here very soon.

Rice sorry to hear your Dad is still sick, it is terrible watching anyone you love suffer x

Sammy sorry for AF. Onwards and upwards with ivf lovely. You will get your baby.

Twinkle I do think it is selfish that your dh is completely against using donor sperm so you can carry your baby. DS isn't DP's but as far as we are concerned he is his Daddy and they both love each other so much. DNA isn't everything - as I am sure Purdey will agree!

Woolly, you will be missed enormously on here. You are so well liked and funny and warm and kind. Please don't step back from ttc. Keep getting the sperm in and don't get sloppy with timings. Remember that any one of these cycles coming up could be the one. Come back soon xx

Pug, I think it's reasonable to think a man would not see a birthday on the back of a mc as a time to be super thoughtful or to break from the tradition of pointless cards, although I sympathise with your disappointment. I don't think men can possibly behave entirely appropriately in those months after a mc and certainly not to the degree that we expect them to. You have a great marriage and you will feel disappointed in him no matter what he does, probably, because they're not capable of that much more under these circumstances, I feel. Big hugs, sweetheart, he's a good man who loves you

Sparkly, yes I'm still peeing in the wretched pots I'll do owt for £30 worth of shopping vouchers, innit

It's £50 isn't it Purdie and then an extra £30 if you agree to do some extra ones throughout your pregnancy? I need to notify them of my bfp today so they can send more supplies! Like you am doing it for the wonga

Bad news all! Big temp drop and bfn. I feel like I am being taunted and tested a bit. I will catch up with everyones news when DH goes in the shower.

Oh no pixa I am so sorry :(

Oh pixa have a lovely time away and hope it takes your mind off.

woolly take care of you. Hope to see you back with your bfp v soon.

twinkle I think your DH probably needs a bit of time to think about it but hopefully now the reality is different, he'll come around. It's very easy to say something like that when you're not facing it as the only possibility.

rice so sorry about your dad. I hope you've got lot of rl support and are looking after yourself.

Nothing much to add from me. Still dizzy. No AF yet.

Don't forget that I had a massive drop at 12dpo though pixa!

Sorry Pixa :(.

Rubbish start to the month here, af is here, we spent £200 on a new fridge and then the old one decided to miraculously start working again and the dh and I had a row because he got cross with me for talking about the fridge

Here's to a happier day today... I feel really teary though... Stupid hormones. Xx

Sorry Pixa xx

Oh no pixa! Everything seemed so promising I'm so sorry. Maybe still a little too early to be sure either way? Hope you can lose yourself in your wonderful holiday. Distract distract!

sammy that's thoroughly pap. I am sorry. Sounds like the old one is maybe on its way out anyway? Is it old?

How's everyone else today?

queen how many dpo now?

I still haven't added my stats!

#######mega robot, 34, ttc #2, cycle 8, BFP due = not a scooby doo #########

Mega - it's almost 5 years old, the guy in currys didn't seem surprised at all that it had broken. I'm so annoyed to have wasted £200! Gah - say no more, I'm annoying myself with it, no wonder dh got cross! Xx

Stats updated x