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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Bumsnet - where we get it on and get our BFP!!

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Rainy34 · 24/05/2015 19:38

This is the bus where we will get our BFP, hop on with your summer skirts and grab the bfp 's!!

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Rainy34 · 27/05/2015 21:14

purds iv got my fingers and toes crossed for you!!

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DizzyMerry · 27/05/2015 21:15

Sorry for the bfn sammy. They're soul destroying.

I'll be entirely honest purdie, I feel like sticking a finger up at this ttc business. I'm properly pissed off that my body hasn't been able to ovulate and had another faint IC tonight. I'm just tired and fed up with it all. Those sodding Chinese herbs were supposed to help me as was the epo and acupuncture. Surely I can't ov so late in my cycle Hmm

megarobotdiscoparty · 27/05/2015 21:18

Just popping in to say eskimo my AFs stopped dead after I came off the pill and I definitely wasn't ovulating. Really felt like I would never get anywhere with it, was in a right gloomy hole. 1.5 years after starting out and still no sign of AF or ov -I got put on 50mg clomid and got pregnant 1st round. From zero to baby in a matter of weeks. It can happen! Plus since I've had DS, although my cycles are still a bit knackered, I have managed to ovulate by myself. So once the cogs start turning, things can work themselves out. Sorry if this isn't exactly relevant to your situation but I read your posts and felt like I could have written them myself 3 years ago! Keep the faith Flowers

DizzyMerry · 27/05/2015 21:19

Oh and sorry to drag others down with my woes. Purdie your levels are excellent. I'm so pleased your back under the care of the consultant.

megarobotdiscoparty · 27/05/2015 21:25

Oh pug.....This will be me next week. Nothing helpful to say other than I'm right here with ya, in this puddle o' crud. You'll get to share your good baby news so soon, I really believe it. That opk looked SO good...

Pixa · 27/05/2015 21:25

Mummy I have been thinking about you today. Your pots and plants are beautiful.

DizzyMerry Please don't be down, all of this hell will be worth it when you have your child. Flowers It's crap, it really is, but do not give up - we will all get there. I am sticking two fingers up at TTCing for you, but no giving up! Sending you a huge hug.

Welcome Mama and Robot

Queen Fingers crossed for you!

Boris how are you?

Sammy laughing at your dream. Hope the pack is good.

Night I wasn't with any social workers today! Sorry! Oh, update about the Landlord sounds very promising!

ThePug I am so very sorry that you're having a crap time. You will get there. it will happen. Flowers

Ibeka Welcome back, wild camping on Dartmoor sounds lovely.

Nomio it sounds like you had lots if CoC! Grin

Howling Glittery, 't is almost as bad as the time my bosses caught a picture of my cleavage... Hmm

Autonomousplum Following your cycle with interest!

Eskimo sounds like a lovely time in London, regardless of the cold! I am so sorry you're going through so much confusion. Camping in Pickering will be lovely - it's a lovely place to head to.

Sammy Far far twerly!!

Purdie you're having Octuplets! Pass those babies around. Grin

I am okay thanks all. Managed not to kill anyone. I passed a huge work target, so we're celebrating tonight. DH said that it gets him down whenever another month passes but we had a heart to heart and all is good. He brought me a bottle of Asti, a card, and some well done cheesecake to celebrate my work thing. I am really looking forward to our break away.

Woolly84 · 27/05/2015 21:30

Evening ladies!

purdie that sounds like an awesome score love! Grin I'm glad you posted the detail here actually as I had no idea about the normal levels. Also loving the people you told - damn right you should relish in this!

eskimo Flowers you're on your way, knowledge is most definitely power in this game lovely, the docs will sort you out in no time xx

pugster I'm so sorry, hope you're okay and enjoying the comfort of being around the parentals. Hope that cold buggers off soon Hmm

mega and meatballs welcome! Grin I would have welcomed you earlier but I was sulking over an aunt's impending arrival.

glitterypants did your boss see it then?! Haha oops! Grin

sammy Flowers I think BFNs should show like flowers or something instead of just nothing...maybe even an inspirational quote to lift us out of the misery of the red wave of doom.
This is it lovely, IVF is here and I am so excited for you!! Smile

I've forgotten the rest...off to catch up again...

nightandthelight · 27/05/2015 21:32

I haven't forgotten you Lucie! Please note I am not an expert although I have tried to read up on it all :)

The official literature all says 4-6 months for approval but I get the feeling it is often longer! Then you have to be matched with a child. In my head it will take as long as a pregnancy :)

Not sure about working full time, I think the rules are different for every organisation. In my area working in school hours is possible :)

Can't remember what else you asked and on phone so can't read back! Please let me know if any more questions!

Yay for work success pixa Star

Sorry for BFN Sammy however as you know t'is twerly!

Woolly84 · 27/05/2015 21:33

dizzym I'm mooning TTC for you Hmm

FlowersCake Wine for you

glitteryflange · 27/05/2015 21:33

Dizzy don't be silly. Rant rant away! That's what we are here for.

megarobotdiscoparty · 27/05/2015 21:34

Brown wave of doom in my case woolly- no idea what's going on down there anymore! They don't call it the WTF cycle for nowt... Pretty sure this means I can drink all the wine though Wine

glitteryflange · 27/05/2015 21:35

Woolly you always make me laugh Smile

Pixa - how did your boss see your bazooka's? Hahaha

Pixa · 27/05/2015 21:42

Christmas party. I had sent a quick tit-shot to DH. Forgot about it. Then my got my phone out to check something work-related out in front of my managers, and it was there on the screen. Oops.

Pixa · 27/05/2015 21:42

When I say tit-shot, 't was cleavage only because I am a classy bird apparently. Hmm

purdiepie · 27/05/2015 21:45

Pikz! That's the bastard spirit! That's the attitude you need! Go get that nipper! Grin

Pug, so Sunday's dark purple positive wasn't it?? What the..?? How deeply-hued was yesterday's positive then?

Boris, how are you, cockle? Thanks

Laughing at 'shart' Grin

loopylou1984 · 27/05/2015 21:51

Thanks All, I know it's early, but I also know af is coming. I can just tell.

Purdie - you hit the nail on the head, I'm utterly desperate for a pre IVF bfp. I keep thinking that if we've been timing dtd so well, sperms ok and eggs ok with clear tubes then what difference is IVF going to make? They're either not fertilising or not implanting. (Feeling like this is another clue that afs on her way!) xx

Mummyofonesofar · 27/05/2015 21:51

ibeka sorry for your chemical. Hope you had a love break.

Thanks Nomio hope you enjoyed QI.

Sorry you didn't get the right results eskimo fx clomid can fix things for you!

Pug I really understand how awful that must have been. Huge hugs. I have a family occasion when I should be 11 weeks and was hoping to share the news too as was booking a secret private scan and was going to surprise DP.

glittery I have been looked after by friends next door today. Went for a walk and saw a steam train and spent a couple hours round a friends who I work with. Spent the evening drinking wine and sobbing to DP. He had a crap day with a young lad on hos job going on about his "problems" all day so has spoke to his boss to get someone different tomorrow as he cant cope. Is it bad to feel good to know he is struggling too? Oh and I still hate everyone!!

Thank you for thinking of me Pixa

glitteryflange · 27/05/2015 21:52

Could of been worse. Could of been your flaps! Grin

I am soooo bloated. Left tit hurts. Spotty jawline. 4dpo. I feel so indifferent this month so will just wait for AF on the 3rd June.
(Yeah fucking right!)

Woolly84 · 27/05/2015 21:53

dojo hi! so glad your scan went well, must have been amazing Smile I hope you're feeling okay.

nomio good work on the CoC! Get than bun baking away now Wink

ibeka Flowers that's tough, I'm sorry if it was indeed a cp lovely, I know you'll get that sticky one soon xx

auto looking out for your update tomorrow and keeping fx for a healthy LP x Flowers

chops and lucie hiya! Smile hope all is well!

night fab news about the landlord! Smile

rainy hope your headache is better Flowers

pikz and boris hope you're both ok?

pixa yay for the work success! GrinFlowers well done you!

mummy thinking of you xxx

mega yes glug away all you like! Wine hope you're ok.

glitterball you always cheer me up too Grin

glitteryflange · 27/05/2015 21:54

Ah mummy glad you have RL support. Oh bless your DH. Sad

purdiepie · 27/05/2015 21:54

Dizzy, it only seems that all is lost. Yes..yes you can ovulate this late in your cycle; yes it may well be that the acupuncture and herbs are a pointless load of bollocks. But equally they may be powerful agents in contributing to your BFP. It's out there, Dizzy, it really is. You just have to ignore the demons that say 'it will never be you'; 'you may as well give up'; 'this shit isn't working'. You know, the power of others' opinions can be devastating on our hopes. I know Glittery won't mind my saying that my heart hit my shoes the other day when she admitted she had gone back to normal sex after being convinced that AI wasn't getting the sperm deep enough.

I went to bed thinking, 'What if Glittery's right? What if Ninja and Sparkly and PurpleKoala were just exceptionally lucky? Plus they're young; so much younger than me. It's absurd to think I will get pregnant naturally at almost 44 with one tube and using a fucking plastic syringe.' When I had this convo with myself I remember grinning in the dark at the absurdity of it all; that I could actually get my hopes up each and every bloody month; staring at charts and willing my temps to stay up. But they never did. I never got pregnant after my mmc at 40; I had to fly to that there abroad and use another woman's eggs to satisfy my yearning to be a mum.

What I'm saying is that you really really can not say this is not working and that you will never get your happy ending. You will. I promise. Thanks

glitteryflange · 27/05/2015 21:56

Exactly. Now I'm thinking of getting the syringes back out!! Lol

ThePug · 27/05/2015 21:57

woolly not me with the cold thank god!

Purdue yesterdays opk was as dark as Sundays on the left side of the line then a bit paler in the rest of it. If I hadn't seen Sunday's I would have said it was positive, but it wasn't as pos as Sunday's. Haven't dine one today as now not seeing DH til sat so didnt see the point.

pixa that's hilair about the tit shot! Im more worried about people seeing all my pee stick pics on my phone!

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Rainy34 · 27/05/2015 21:57

purdie I love your positivity , it's what we all need and to be reminded of when we are having bad dAys!!

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Woolly84 · 27/05/2015 22:02

Yess purdie we can all do this! Grin

oops sorry pug must have got you mixed up with someone! X

Oh god pixa that's hilarious about the photo! making mental note to tell DH to delete certain pics from his phone