TTC after MC#6 - the lucky one for all of us!

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New thread. Hoping for lots of lovely BFPs over the coming weeks

Sadly not resting at all - totally full on at work, building work at home so can't just curl up in bed all day, crisis with my parents and had a family funeral at the weekend.

I'm lucky that it wasn't/isn't too bad physically but I'm so bloody tired.

The EPU have been amazing and have promised an early scan and to monitor my blood HCG when I get pregnant again and generally look after me until after my 12 week scan

Does anyone have any ideas about checking for ovulation? I've bought some OPKs but I'm not sure when to use them

I used one for the first time last cycle and basically I just had a go when I started to get the tell tale cm but I guess it depends if that's obvious for you and also in first cycle after mc you may not see any ovulation signs ?

thanks for the link mega- I hadn't seen it before. mama I've bought some 50mg B6 tablets today so going to give them a go I think - really useful to know they worked for your cycles. That's great that your test is BFN now (well you know what I mean!). Hope work has continued to go well.

carrot welcome and I'm sorry for your loss. Hope things get a bit easier and you manage to get some rest - look after yourself.

Disney temping is relatively straightforward although (if you are me) it can become addictive and make you obsess over charts! You need a decent thermometer which will measure to 1 or 2 decimal points (not an ear one). Basically you take your temperature when you wake after your longest sleep before you do anything at all (even speak lol!) and should be at approximately the same time every day. My thermometer lives by my bed. If you start early in your cycle you should see your baseline temp is low, after you ovulate the progesterone causes your temp to increase and it should stay high until AF arrives (when it drops back down to baseline). If you are pregnant, it stays high throughout your pregnancy apparently. The difference may not be massive - my baseline is around 36.4 and my peak post ovulation was 37.0 I highly recommend an app (I use fertility friend which is free) - this makes it really easy to chart what is happening and works out when you have ovulated for you. It also has some really simple "user guides" to what it all means. I like it as its like watching physiology in action geek and makes me feel like I am doing something proactive delusional

Thanks Drifting, yes work has went well and bfn- it has been a good day! Just need af to hurry about now instead of dragging her ass in. Once I start spotting I just like to get on with it! Hope your doing ok drifting?

I'm ok thanks mamma, feeling more pragmatic about it than last cycle when I was a wreck when AF arrived. Onwards and upwards to the next fertile time!

Thanks drifting think I'm just too impatient waiting for the wtf cycle to be over and get on with it so far 2 days late

Glad your day went well mama - it's another good step back to normality and our positive end results! Congrats on the bfn too (which feels weird) although I'm hoping your spotting might mean other things.

drifting my friend got pregnant straight off with vitamins for a short luteal after no luck previously. Fingers crossed for you xx

Sorry for your loss carrot - although I don't feel I've bedbug lucky we've been trying in this wtf cycle - can't find a good medical reason not to!

Been even - certainly don't want bedbugs?!!

Oh and mega I hope your symptoms turn into something good - we must be due another bfp on here?!

Hi ladies! I was keeping track of you all early last month, I wanted to be caught up before I offially joined. Then life got in the way and I don't think I ever will. I had a Mc @ 5 weeks the very end of March, early April. It was just like a heavy period, and my hcg levels were to 0 within a week.
Marysprayer pointed me over to you lovely ladies from another thread. I was sad the 1st week, then thought I would just move on but I am surrounded by friends with babies due this fall and its really getting to me recently.
I stopped temping & using opk for April & May so far. We moved the 1st of May & DTD like rabbits the first 2 weeks. According to an app. I was supposed to OV on the 8th & I felt some cramping around then. AF is due the 23rd & I'm expecting her since I wasn't up for 'active tryin' this cycle hoping to get back on horse this next cycle...
Baby dust to all!

Thanks everyone, I had a good day at work so I'm quite confused as to why I've just had a few tears :( I think it's down to hormones/af on the way must be making me emotional because I really enjoyed being back at work and felt great all day. I told my mum about our mmc on the phone there, and even though I have talked about it a lot to friends and DH, I felt really emotional. I had not told her before because I wanted to be strong before I told her as didn't want her worrying, I didn't break down but afterwards just on my own I felt sad and teary. Just a blip I'm sure....where is my PMA?!!! come back!!!!!

I think it's because she said "that must have hit you so hard after ttc for such a long time" just reminded me how difficult this has all been, especially in those early weeks. Reminders ain't good :(

Welcome carrot and rosie, sorry for your loss, you will find great comfort and support on here from these fab ladies!

Sorry you're feeling sad mama - it catches you at unexpected moments I think after the first couple of weeks. We'll all get through it together - can't wait til we're all on the pregnancy boards instead. (Touching wood so not to jinx it!!)

Sorry for your loss rosie and welcome - this thread gets me though each day at the moment x

Sorry af got you drifting. Onward and upward!

Glad you got your bfn mama. Here's to fresh beginnings. Well done for being strong enough to tell your mum.

Welcome carrotvan, not to be confused with carrotpuff who I hope has been dtd-ing away merrily! Welcome too to rosie.

Sorry you have been feeling so low ibeka. I can't recall who posted after you (think it might have been mega but could have been romeo) who said they have been here before their DD and thought they would be here forever but that looking back it all seems like a bad dream. I really appreciated that post. It is sometimes difficult to keep that it mind.

There is so much going on this thread that it's difficult to keep up. Thinking of you all though and sending positive thoughts.

I have invested in CB digi opks for this cycle. I want to give it by best shot, but not ready for temping yet I don't think. It would just be yet another thing for me to obsess over.

My dad had a word with my auntie about her very insensitive teasing about christenings etc... He told her about the mc and that we have just not told many people as we don't want to keep talking about it. She says she now feels bad about the teasing, so that hopefully means it's at an end.

Still feeling positive for those waiting to poas. Bring on the bfps!!!

Hi guys can I join you please? I lost my baby at 13 weeks at the weekend. baby stopped growing at 9 weeks however did see the baby at 9 weeks with heartbeat and was moving around so I am heartbroken. I had a d+c on sunday bleeding finally stopping so I am on the WTF cycle also. That was my 3rd miscarriage but never got that far on before so I am in shock.

We are just going to try again so heres hoping to get back on the bus again soon.

Lovely to meet you all and keeping my fx for you all.

my stats are 29, 2 DD's, 3rd miscarriage 6,8,9 weeks.

Thanks ladies, it does just catch you off guard sometimes. Going to have a nice bath and relaxing evening then early night. At least I only have 2 days at work then off for the wkend :)

Welcome keys, I'm so sorry to hear about your miscarriages that is so unfair! Have you been referred to a miscarriage clinic? I can not even imagine how you must be feeling, life is so cruel sometimes. You will find lots of support on here. Big hugs to you.

I am devastated hun they said they will do bloods in 6 weeks time. Thing is this miscarriage was caused by a blood clot. I had it all the way through my scans however they said it was nowhere near baby. Had a scan 9 weeks and baby was moving around heartbeat so strong blood clot still there but had got a little smaller and was told not to worry. It got in though that day at some point after the scan. I started bleeding on saturday but just thought it was clot passing but the pains were so intense so took myself down to em doc. They referred me to gyne they scanned and heartbeat had stopped so was admitted and operation was next day. My world come crashing down it really did. Bleeding stopped now so I am getting back on the bus.

Nice bath and early night sounds lovely :). Good luck with a positive soon hun xx

Awh keys that sounds absolutely heart breaking! To see the heartbeat and movement, and be told it's all fine then it all to end is just too much for anyone. You sound like a very strong lady and I'm glad you are getting some tests but also that you are jumping back onboard. I really love seeing the strength in people when they refuse to give up! And it is those people who get what they want and deserve in the end- you will have your baby. We all will :)

I try to be hun I cry alot but theres nothing I can do to make things different. The baby will always be apart of me now and I love it so much and know its in heaven. Or as I like to believe body was not right for his/her soul and waiting until the next body is here if that makes sense.
Im very tired and was unsure whether to wait a few cycles but theres no point in waiting as we never know when we will fall again its out our hands.

I am so glad I found you guys and looks like such a lovely support group for us ladies. So sorry to read through all your heartaches and yes hun we will all get that bfp again very soon and be there for eachother. Thank you for the lovely welcome xxx

Evening everyone. Lots to catch up on and reply to. Here goes:

Sorry for AF arriving drifting and goneswimming. Disney sorry about your ex being insensitive.

Drifting I can relate to your comments about thought of ttc taking over your life. It’s so hard not to become obsessive about something that you want so much. The memorial garden sounds lovely. I can’t imagine what it must feel like to lose a child.

Ibeka sorry you’ve been feeling low. Unfortunately this process of recovery is not a smooth predictable one. Allow yourself to have these moments of sadness.

Temperamental that is so true about mc and loss of innocence re pregnancy. The joy of a bfp will always be accompanied by worry and fear now.

Megaro loving the law of sod taunting.

Adventure hope the timing falls right for you this month.

Mamama glad your first day back was ok.

Welcome Carrotvan. I think we may have met before on the ttc boards. I’m sorry you find yourself here. I also had a bad feeling about the pregnancy from early on, despite getting good lines on hpts. It’s still a massive shock when it actually happens though. I hope you start to feel a bit better soon. I also went back to work after a couple of days. It was very hard but helpful to keep some normality.

Rosie, I’m glad you have now joined us. Sorry again for your loss. Mine was also at the end of March, at just over 5 weeks. I know two people who are due in the Autumn too so I understand how you feel.

keys welcome. You are another familiar name from the ttc thread (I think?). I’m sorry you’ve had such a bad time.

Gosh, quite a few newbies. It’s sad to read but I’m glad you’ve found us. We’re a nice bunch!

Sorry that was so long, and sorry if I missed anyone.

Oh, yeah: me! 11dpo, crampy and grumpy so will NOT waste any money on pee sticks. I won’t you know. . . .

heya hun yes I was on pregnancy thread I recognise some names can you believe were here after getting our bfp's :(.

Fingers x for you. So glad I looked this page up just reading through the support on journeys has helped me so much and in the nicest way that weve all experienced the same so we all understand how we all feel right now.

Carrotvan there's some good advice about opks on this website. I use Amazon cheapies and have found them to be very reliable, alongside other signs like cm and position of cervix.

Welcome key and rosie - hope you find some good support on here.

Mama let yourself off for your tears...you've done really well today. Funny how people's kindness can set you off. Hope it helped to share with your mum.

Not to jump on your bandwagon but I've just done my last Superdrug test and it's a BFN!! Holy smokes! So relieved, although agree with whichever of you ladies said it feels a bit down too...like a final goodbye in a way? I keep telling myself I'm going to go and buy a plant to remember our little bean by, and I think I need to do it this weekend now.

Sending chocolate to all ladies in waiting, and wine to those at the start of a new cycle. This will be the one for us! I can feel it!

Gosh this thread has got busy. Lovely to have such a great support group but rubbish to have so many of us going through such a difficult thing. A warm welcome to all the newbies.
Can't remember who asked about temping but I've done it for the last 2 cycles and it's very easy. I don't worry about being overly accurate I.e. Don't set an alarm to take at same time each day but I still see clearly when I have ov'd - I like it because I know exactly when AF is due so there's less of a temptation to test early.
Marys, those could be symptoms you know, just saying
I'm so certain I'm out this month I don't think I will even bother testing. 10 dpo and by now I would have had clear signs if I was (had implantation bleeding with DD and DS). Gutted doesn't cover it but onwards and upwards. June BFPs all round then, anyone in?!