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TTC after MC#6 - the lucky one for all of us!

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Romeolovesjuliet · 13/05/2015 15:22

New thread. Hoping for lots of lovely BFPs over the coming weeks Smile

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driftingclouds · 19/05/2015 21:52

red relatives going on about christenings sounds really hard. I'm sure they don't mean to cause you pain, but people can be so insensitive at times.

mega I bought a load of cheapie tests on amazon recently (combination pack of ovulation tests and pregnancy tests). Not really used yet so cant speak of their quality but it seemed like a bargain! I am also guilty of forward thinking/daydreaming each and every month and planning around the EDD. You would think I would know better as it brings such heartbreak. After the MC, that was some of the hardest bits - although I was only 8 weeks, I'd already decided when/how I was going to tell key people in my life. When those time points came round it was really hard. But still I cant stop doing it - it definitely feels like time is slipping away. We were first looking at end of September I think, now we will be on Jan/Feb at the earliest (if it happens soon) Sad

mama that is some good going research! really interesting. I know of a couple of people who conceived in their WTF cycle. Sadly it didn't happen to me. I hope AF turns up quickly for you. You are such a strong lady for dealing with your ex giving birth around your d&c - I don't know how you did it but you are right to feel proud of yourself.

marys I'm also 10DPO. Feeling very AF like and had a massive dip on my temp chart today. I've been having cramps/backache since friday - pretty sure I'm out and feeling simultaneously gutted and numb/empty.

adventure sorry about your long cycles. You are definitely not screwed though, 38 is not uncommon for a first baby. You will get your baby.

red sorry for AF, enjoy the wine though!

temp welcome to the group. I'm sorry for your loss. I also have two DC, aged 4 and 2 and had my MC in December (freaky coincidences there). Time does indeed drag. Hope your 2ww has a positive ending Smile

brickie congrats on your pregnancy! hope it goes smoothly and as stress free as possible for you

I'm planning on POAS on Thursday if AF hasn't arrived by then (unlikely)....I'm going to try my hardest to put everything out of my mind until then as I'm starting to feel consumed by the whole TTC process. I know i'm distracted for my kids and I'm not giving work 100%. Has anyone found a way to balance things?!

On a slightly different note - I was in Waitrose today and you know their green disc/donating money scheme? well locally one of the options was to raise money to create a baby memorial garden within the existing town memorial garden - for anyone who has lost a baby, somewhere they can go and sit and remember. I just thought that was so lovely. Its such a small town and I was really touched. I'm not going to lie - I shed a tear while reading the information (the shop assistant had given my kids two discs each so we put them all in that box).

Keep going ladies

goneswimming · 19/05/2015 22:23

I really struggle with moments like that red I'm unlucky enough to have quite a few crass people that seem to feel free with comments whenever they want to. It's upsetting.
Trying to be positive, at least my wtf cycle is done- my 2ww ended 1 week in with an apocalyptic level of AF! Maybe next time....

Mamama31 · 19/05/2015 22:37

Thank you Drifting. And I hope your 2ww goes quickly and ends with a lovely bfp. Also the memorial garden...what a lovely idea..but yes I understand why you would get emotional reading the information...it really can come over you anytime when you see something significant and that's ok.

ibeka · 19/05/2015 22:52

Evening all. Sorry I've been quiet the last few days. Been feeling pretty low about everything.

red I'm so sorry both that you are on CD1 and for your thoughtless relatives. About a week after my MC we had SIL and BIL round and she kept asking when we were going to get a move on and have kids.mi had to leave the room for a bit of a cry.

drifting that is lovely re. Waitrose. I'm sorry to see you think AF is coming, I hope you're wrong.

mama that's interesting about being able to OV with low HCG. I had really faint bfps for ages then AF really soon after bfn so assumed I had not ovulated. The thought that I may actually be on my second cycle post MC and not the first makes me feel a little bit less greedy for wanting it so bad his month, if that makes sense??

temperamental welcome and I'm sorry for your losses. Seeing you had three MCs before your DCs fills me with horror - it must have been awful and you must be a very strong woman.

9DPO here. I POAS today simply because I haven't pissed on anything for ages! It was negative, of course. Yesterday I was convinced I am pregnant, today I am convinced I am not. This is my first child I am trying for (adventure) and at times it just seems an unattainable dream. I look around at all my family and friends with DCs and just feel so jealous it's horrible.

Mamama31 · 19/05/2015 23:04

Ibeka it is interesting research, and conflicts with everything else I have read. However, I feel af is on her way (finally) and do not recall any feelings of ovulation so who knows really!

Ibeka everything you are feeling is a very normal and natural in this unpredictable journey. Never stop believing that it will happen, because it will and we can never lose hope and faith...PMA....positive mental attitude!! you will get through this.

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Romeolovesjuliet · 20/05/2015 07:12

Oh Ibeka, I remember feeling like that after my first mc before I got pregnant with DD. It does feel unattainable when you're in the middle of it all but it absolutely will happen for you and I hope it will be very soon Flowers.
I really hope we get some BFPs soon to get this new thread off to a good start!

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temperamentalamongcorvids · 20/05/2015 08:11

ibeka I remember that feeling, too. In some ways my first mc was the worst because it was a kind of loss of innocence, I couldn't have that pure joy at being pregnant again, but fear instead. I often wondered if I'd ever have children And I found it very difficult to see friends with new babies who were born around my due date. It felt like I was in that place forever, but looking back it's like a bad dream. I hope it will pass for you too x

Adventuregame · 20/05/2015 08:16

Ibeka that has made me smile this morning : " POAS simply because I haven't pissed on anything for ages" - brilliant ! God aren't we all in a bathroom drama !!!

Im CD9 today but Ovulation predicted for around CD26 when DP will be away. To be honest it's more likely to happen Nv/Dec/Jan like last time and I'm ok with waiting but then what if we mc again then we're really pushing the time boundries ??

Adventuregame · 20/05/2015 08:22

Lilliana how are you getting on ? ..............

DisneyMillie · 20/05/2015 09:01

Just cried at work - so embarrassed. Annoying ex husband (who knows about mc) decided it was a good day to inform me they're trying for a baby. I know it shouldn't but it's really knocked me. I speak to him every day on speaker on the way to school so dd can talk to him and I dread hearing pregnancy progress updates daily of I'm not pregnant by then Sad

driftingclouds · 20/05/2015 09:07

ibeka I hope you're feeling ok today. Ttc is such an emotional roller coaster. You will get your baby and this journey will all be worth it

disney I'm sorry about your ex. I would have had a similar reaction. Keep positive, even if they get pregnant quickly, it doesn't mean you won't too.

Well I'm definitely out-AF arrived today which was no great surprise although has confirmed a shortish LP of 11 days. Does anyone have any experience of this and/or using vit b6 to lengthen it? I think this is a new thing for me post-MC (cycles used to be long) and I'm torn that if vits will help I'll do it, but I'm scared of messing with my cycle and making things worse.

megarobotdiscoparty · 20/05/2015 10:17

Disney what an absolute swine!! Well, your baby will be better than his, even if it takes longer to come, because it will be yours and perfect in every way. So he can put that in his pipe and smoke it. Honestly!

ibeka I'm sorry you've been feeling low. Will you test again in a few days to be sure/because you now realise how much you've missed the fun of poas-ing on things? Can we form a club?

drifting I'm going straight on Amazon now to order a load! This is all part of my master plan to use sod's law in my favour. Last time I got pg (before MC) I'd spent a really expensive bottle of gin the day before I got my BFP. Going all out this time - unforgiving dress for a friend's wedding in September... hmmm what else can I buy.... .... looks like my car is on its way out, so maybe a sporty number?? I wish

adventure I'm crossing everything that you have a freakily convenient ovulation this time - plus don't forget the swimmers can last in there a few days too. Maybe if you have extra dtd before he goes they'll last longer (maybe you can make them tiny life belts?)

Romeo we are overdue a BFP - who will it be?? It's got to be one of us surely...

I'm all about this PMA - I'm blaming Mama!

I had really sore boobs/nips in the shower today (my biggest pg symptom), but also a massive spot on my chin (my big AF symptom) so I'm just concluding that my hormones are going nuts and that is all!

megarobotdiscoparty · 20/05/2015 10:32

Drifting I wish I had more advice! I take it you will have seen this thread?
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1179056-The-Short-Luteal-Phase-Gang
I really hope you find something that works.

Mamama31 · 20/05/2015 10:44

Mega I also bought gin last time before my bfp! Lol I did book a holiday though and I would not have done that if I though I would get pregnant again soon....come on sods law....show me all you got!!!!

Sorry about af drifting...that is shit...be kind to yourself for a few days with some nice comforts (wine) then start with a fresh new cycle and PMA!

Mega interesting symptoms. I also usually get a spot on my chin pre af, but have nothing. Have no other symptoms either apart from the brief spotting 2 days ago and tiniest bit yesterday. Who knows Wtf is going on in the Wtf cycle?!!!!

Drifting I took 50mg b6 to lengthen cycle- it worked for me and added 2-3 days on to my cycle.

Mamama31 · 20/05/2015 10:45

Oh...I forgot...im back at work...must actually do some!

megarobotdiscoparty · 20/05/2015 11:31

Hmm... spotting has stopped again Mama?

Hmmm!

Mamama31 · 20/05/2015 13:19

Mega don't even put anything in to my crazy head lol there's nothing when I wipe (tmi) but a little watery blood tinged cm. It is only noticeable because I'm going looking for it! (TMI)

In other news I did a poundworld preggo test and it's a BFN! Yay!!!!!!!!! Finally! Was previously doing superdrug tests and I know they are super sensitive. I'd imagine poundworld tests are not but it's a bfn anyway! :)

Adventuregame · 20/05/2015 13:37

Mama you got there in the end ! Do you feel some closure - as in move on to ttc obviously not to forget your loss ? Do you know what I mean ? I thought I would be upset when I got the BFN after mc but strangely I just sighed and thought 'right, that's that then'.

megarobotdiscoparty · 20/05/2015 14:04

Congratulations Mama!! Woohoo! At long last. Hope your day at work is going ok.

I've been using SD preg tests so interesting that they are sensitive... might do another later...

daisyspice · 20/05/2015 14:14

Hey guys!

How is everyone getting on?

Yay mama that's good news Smile

Does anyone have any idiot guide/tips on how to do temping think I'm gonna give it a try this month

Mamama31 · 20/05/2015 14:14

Thanks adventure and mega. I'm relieved to have a bfn! Just so glad things are back to normal so I can get on with ttc...just need full flow af to hurry up! then we can get to it!

Work is going well, slight lack of confidence initially but feeling good being back in routine and being busy. My mood is good today so it must be good for me.

Yes superdrug are most sensitive test, that's what I tested with for my bfp and also the last 2 times after d&c to check if hcg had dropped but were both positive and now finally a bfn on poundland crappy test strips! (good enough for me! :))

How are you ladies doing today?

Adventuregame · 20/05/2015 14:34

Mega I got my bfp on a tesco own brand test and it was only about 10 days after ovulation I think !

CarrotVan · 20/05/2015 15:20

Hello - may I join you nice people?

TTC #2 but had a MC last week when I was 6 weeks by dates but scans showed it had all stopped about a week before - I had never had a good feeling about the pregnancy and had been convinced something wasn't right. Still bleeding and with a slight infection so on antibiotics and completely exhausted.

I'd like to start trying again as soon as possible - should I wait until I've had a normal period?

Adventuregame · 20/05/2015 15:32

Hi Carrotvan there are ladies on this thread who have got pg straight after mc and some are choosing to wait. I think the only advice for waiting is to date it more accurately.

megarobotdiscoparty · 20/05/2015 15:32

Hi Carrot I'm so sorry about your loss. That's so recent too. I hope you're resting up and being taken good care of.

Medical advice tends to suggest waiting til after your first AF to try again, however this is purely so they can date the pregnancy (and save you any unnecessary heartache by not being able to date it properly, iyswm, so if it hadn't grown you would be sure of how big it should be). The miscarriage association has this advice: www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/support/trying-again/ which I found very useful when persuading DH to get back on it immediately!