TTC after MC#6 - the lucky one for all of us!

[Romeolovesjuliet]

New thread. Hoping for lots of lovely BFPs over the coming weeks

[redredwine4]

mama how difficult that your ex's gf gave birth then! How awful for you.

CD1 for me now officially. It's always horrible when I get the first pangs saying it's on its way. Yesterday evening I felt so low. Now it's here, however, I have only one thought- WINE!!

[DisneyMillie]

That must have been really difficult mama - hugs xxx

Sorry AF got you redwine - a nice big glass of wine and stay hopeful - next month will be the one I'm sure x

[Mamama31]

Red it was incredibly bad timing in a lot of ways, but I was able to detach myself from it and felt quite proud of myself for dealing with it so well. I even sent a nice, congratulating msg and bought a nice little outfit from ds....two things I thought I'd not be able to do, but when I did I felt good about it and felt stronger.

Red get that wine opened! You deserve it! Cd1 always = vino!! Hope your feeling ok.

[Mamama31]

Thanks Disney, it was certainly a testing time but I am proud I got through it and did all the right things. After all its not like they knew what I was going through (ds didn't know either) and you can't time everyone's pregnancies or births so the only thing you can do is accept and get on with it- even when feeling so sad for yourself and this whole situation.

[brickiemum2]

Sorry af got you redwine
You dealt with that better than I would have mama
Anyone due to poas soon?

[Romeolovesjuliet]

Sorry for AF red, won't be long until you get your next go and in the meantime there's wine!
I think drifting is next to POAS, then me and Mary's. Pretty sure it's not my month though - sore boobs but think that's AF. This month was my last chance to get to the 12 week point before my original due date too.
How are you feeling brickie?

[Mamama31]

Good luck poas ladies! Romeo it's so hard to distinguish af symptoms against pregnancy symptoms. The month I got my bfp I was convinced af was coming as I had my "usual" sore boobs, but that turned out to be a pregnancy symptom. You just never know! Hoping it's a preggo one for you! How long do you usually have sore boobs pre af? My only clue was that I'd normally have sore boobs 5-6 days before af and they only started getting sore 2 days before af would have been due, so a bit later and after that they were AGONY! Like 2 bricks!!!! ( I want my brick boobs back!)

[megarobotdiscoparty]

Mama that's crazy about your ex! That's a gutsy way to handle it too. This stuff makes you tough.

Just did an OPK - faint line so negative. Not going to do a pregnancy test - just going to put my feet up and wait for AF. Outside chance of a hit last week but definitely very remote!
Although lots of cm ever since...which was a symptom last time And I'm not symptom spotting so that's all there is to it.

Get that delicious wine poured red - here's to the next round!

[megarobotdiscoparty]

Ah adventure I have 1 DC - he's 2 this week. He was 2 years in the making and worth the wait. We never really expected to have more than 1 so I do feel a bit greedy sometimes!

[Mamama31]

Thanks Mega! your right though, you do get tough when ttc has taken a long time. Things become more easily accepted as you realise that you can't keep being a psycho as it could go on for a very long time.

Mega did you have any fertility investigations prior to conceiving your 2yo? It took us almost 2yrs for our bfp then mmc happened so hoping it's not going to be another long wait!

[temperamentalamongcorvids]

Can I please join in? I'm sorry to read about the tough times you've all been through, and it's great to see so much positivity. Makes me think this is a good place for me just Now!

We are ttc no 3 after a mc in December, I've got 2 dc, aged 4 and 2. Before my successful pregnancies I had 3 mc so am still technically under the rcm clinic.

Currently in the 2ww, pretty sure I ov'd Friday so now 4dpo. How time drags...

[Mamama31]

Temp welcome! Of course you can join. I'm sorry for your loss and it must be so difficult when it has happened previously also but wonderful that you have 2dc. You will be in the 2ww with some other ladies on here to help the time go in, I hope it passes quickly for you and results in a sticky bfp.

[MarysPrayer]

Welcome temperamental. That's one very long username!

I have one dd who is 2.6. I've wanted dc2 for 18 months now but dh only decided he was on board in January. Fell pg on the first attempt with dd, alas not so lucky this time. Being 37 isn't filling me with much hope either.

Oh ignore me ladies. AF is due soon and I'm feeling moody

[Mamama31]

Marys hopefully you won't have to wait too much longer for your bfp. I know lots of 37/38yo ladies who are pregnant now so it happens....often!

[Mamama31]

I'm back to work tomorrow after 5 wks off. Will be glad to have some routine in my life again but feeling a bit concerned that I'm going to feel very tired after lazing around for so long! Time to motivate my ass!!!!!

[MarysPrayer]

Thanks Mamama Good luck for your first day back.

I forgot to say welcome to Honey. Sorry to hear that you've had such a horrible time.

[Mamama31]

Thanks Marys. I'm actually looking forward to some normality (this could backfire massively).

[temperamentalamongcorvids]

Thanks for the Welcome!

Marys I'm 37 too. The consultant didn't seem at all bothered when I asked if age was an important factor. she seemed to feel as I had dc 37 isnt a worryingly old state to be in.

Anyway I know lots of.people who've had their first at 40+!

[megarobotdiscoparty]

Welcome temp - I concede defeat on having the longest and most unwieldy username! The crown is yours!

mama I had suspected PCOS from before I met DH so I was ready for it when we started trying and it didn't work. I found a nice GP and didn't leave her alone til she referred me - took a while but we got there. I'm not sure where you stand having had a MC but a good GP could tell you...have you tried docs at all?

Mary I have confidence you'll get there, 37 is not absolutely not too late! It just feels like forever right now...but each cycle is another closer to your BFP. In the meantime...you sharing that chocolate?

[megarobotdiscoparty]

Ooh and good luck for tomorrow Mama! It'll be good to get those cogs turning - days will go quickly too!

[MarysPrayer]

Go on then, I'll share my chocolate. Only 'cos you're all so lovely. I might have gone mad without this thread you know!

[brickiemum2]

Welcome temp
I'm ok thanks Romeo 5+5 today but still a bag of nerves. Conscious of not using this thread to have a whinge though, I've spent long enough ttc and going through mc so don't want to then seem like I'm moaning about symptoms lol. As it happens I poas a cb digi this morning and got 3+ plus was late to work this morning as I felt far too sick to travel there (ended up going clutching a plastic bag...lovely)
Mary's I'm 37 too and I don't feel it's a major factor.
Good luck to drifting Romeo and Mary's when you poas.

[MarysPrayer]

Don't feel bad about posting brickie. It's good to hear how you're doing. I can understand that you're still very nervous. Great that you got a 3+ and also that you're starting to feel a bit queasy.

[Mamama31]

Brickie that's great news on the digi :) also glad your feeling sick, nothing personal, it's just a positive sign. I understand that you would still be a bag of nerves though, after mc pregnancy must be terrifying but I'm sure your doing your best to relax as much as you can.

Mega yes we have had all tests and are on a long waiting list for ivf, wouldn't be due treatment until jan probably. All is fine with me, DH has good sperm apart from 20% antibodies which could be the reason for the delay in conceiving. It's certainly not due to timing issues, we have more than covered every fertile period for almost 2 yrs so I do feel that his sperm may be slacking but he's on A LOT of vits and quite smoking a year ago so perhaps that helped to get our bfp when we did, but sadly ended in mmc.

But we did it once, we will do it again! And hopefully before we get up the ivf list as the thought terrifies me!

[driftingclouds]

red relatives going on about christenings sounds really hard. I'm sure they don't mean to cause you pain, but people can be so insensitive at times.

mega I bought a load of cheapie tests on amazon recently (combination pack of ovulation tests and pregnancy tests). Not really used yet so cant speak of their quality but it seemed like a bargain! I am also guilty of forward thinking/daydreaming each and every month and planning around the EDD. You would think I would know better as it brings such heartbreak. After the MC, that was some of the hardest bits - although I was only 8 weeks, I'd already decided when/how I was going to tell key people in my life. When those time points came round it was really hard. But still I cant stop doing it - it definitely feels like time is slipping away. We were first looking at end of September I think, now we will be on Jan/Feb at the earliest (if it happens soon)

mama that is some good going research! really interesting. I know of a couple of people who conceived in their WTF cycle. Sadly it didn't happen to me. I hope AF turns up quickly for you. You are such a strong lady for dealing with your ex giving birth around your d&c - I don't know how you did it but you are right to feel proud of yourself.

marys I'm also 10DPO. Feeling very AF like and had a massive dip on my temp chart today. I've been having cramps/backache since friday - pretty sure I'm out and feeling simultaneously gutted and numb/empty.

adventure sorry about your long cycles. You are definitely not screwed though, 38 is not uncommon for a first baby. You will get your baby.

red sorry for AF, enjoy the wine though!

tempermental welcome to the group. I'm sorry for your loss. I also have two DC, aged 4 and 2 and had my MC in December (freaky coincidences there). Time does indeed drag. Hope your 2ww has a positive ending

brickie congrats on your pregnancy! hope it goes smoothly and as stress free as possible for you

I'm planning on POAS on Thursday if AF hasn't arrived by then (unlikely)....I'm going to try my hardest to put everything out of my mind until then as I'm starting to feel consumed by the whole TTC process. I know i'm distracted for my kids and I'm not giving work 100%. Has anyone found a way to balance things?!

On a slightly different note - I was in Waitrose today and you know their green disc/donating money scheme? well locally one of the options was to raise money to create a baby memorial garden within the existing town memorial garden - for anyone who has lost a baby, somewhere they can go and sit and remember. I just thought that was so lovely. Its such a small town and I was really touched. I'm not going to lie - I shed a tear while reading the information (the shop assistant had given my kids two discs each so we put them all in that box).

Keep going ladies xx