TTC after MC#6 - the lucky one for all of us!

[Romeolovesjuliet]

New thread. Hoping for lots of lovely BFPs over the coming weeks

[brickiemum2]

red I think you might've cursed the weather up here in sunny scotland lol. I'll be 38 at the tail end of the year too. Should've had my baby by then I would've been 23 weeks by now

[daisyspice]

Red u defo jinxed the weather

[redredwine4]

Sorry ladies- it's pure pi**ing down now...

[brickiemum2]

Aye, and I left a washing out too lol.

[megarobotdiscoparty]

mama did have a few aches earlier... but have since poas and got a faint line So whatever it is it's unlikely to be ovulation as still no BFN. Bah!

So tired of not knowing what my body is doing! not that I'm a control freak or anything

Never mind - nearly glass of wine and a nice sit down time

[Mamama31]

Mega that's exactly what I'm doing, glass of wine, forget about it all. I am also still testing pos, it's annoying but got to put it out of my mind as much as possible! Cheers! Enjoy the well deserved vino :)

[driftingclouds]

adventure I think it's totally normal to have a panic every now and then. My pregnancy that ended in a miscarriage wasn't actually planned (although not prevented), but much wanted and I was devastated by the miscarriage. Now I definitely have moments of 'what am I doing' especially as my kids are very independent nowadays and I am scared of rocking the boat. However, whenever I think of what could have been and when AF comes around every month, it feels so hard and I know I want another. I also feel guilty about even complaining about the whole TTC as I am lucky enough to have 2 kids already and I know there are many people on the boards struggling to have their first....it's all hard.

Sorry to all that have been baby bombed-particularly hard when at work and with no warning.
mega my first AF arrived exactly 28 days after my MC started-however I'd bled for over 2 weeks so there wasn't much time inbetween. Has the spotting settled? Hope you are ok.

Hope everyone else is doing ok and to all

[ibeka]

drifting thank you. It was actually a private clinic the bitch worked at. My EPU were bloody fantastic. I have sworn never to stray from the NHS again!

mega sorry the wtf cycle is so shit. I had random bits of brown spotting on and off throughout the four weeks following surgery. It's all so confusing! My advice is just make the most of being able to drink and have pressure-free nookie!

adventure sorry you're feeling wobbly. I think it's totally normal. Having a kid is a huge change to life and the prospect of that is bound to make you feel uncertain at times. We've all been there and will again.

Sorry for the babybomb disney. My boss brought his baby in today but I quite liked seeing him. My boss knows what I've been through and is a star and I am genuinely fond of his kids but some other babies make me want to lurch off a cliff.It's so random.

Just been to see far from the madding crowd. Gabriel Oak - phwoar!!

Wel jel of you Scots. I have been nagging DP to consider a move north of the border for years....

[megarobotdiscoparty]

ibeka I had a similar experience with our scan at our (NHS!) fertility clinic - really would have thought they'd be a bit more sensitive! Really sorry you had to go through that - not the first story I've heard like that about private clinics either. You'd think if you're paying.....!

mama hope you had a lovely evening! How long past MC now? You're a lot more patient than me...

drifting yes thanks, settled now. It was fresh blood (sorry TMI! ) which was what worried me, but only the tiniest bit and all quiet for now. 28 days I could live with...that sounds like a logical length of time. Did you ov, do you know?

Happy weekend all! Hope you're doing lovely things.

[Mamama31]

Thanks Mega, I did have a lovely eve with a big steak dinner and some red wine :) hope you enjoyed yours also. I am far from patient but if I start obsessing again I won't stop and it becomes very unhealthy. My d&c was 3 and a half weeks ago. No sign of anything apart from pos pregnancy tests. I have noticed a change in my cm (tmi) so I think something is happening, it's similar to how it would be a week before the fertile week and so hoping I'm right!

How is everyone else doing? Any nice wkend plans? I'm off for a long coastal walk then to my friends house for dinner.

[DisneyMillie]

That sounds lovely mama - I've got the day alone with my dd5 today - OH is having to work extra (he's a site manager and his building project is in it's last couple of weeks) - so we've been cooking a 3 course meal to say thank you for how supportive he's been for when he gets back. Well, potentially I am, I'm not sure my choux pastry has gone right for my salted caramel profiteroles.

Then a cosy night in front of the tv and a friends daughters party tomorrow.

I'm trying to keep busy so I don't get obsessed with whether my mc is any different / any other sign etc in the 2ww and failing spectacularly

[driftingclouds]

mega I'm not sure at all if I did ovulate in my WTF cycle....I was really surprised that AF returned so quickly. I didn't track anything at all that cycle (ie temps or opks) and to be honest, its all such a blur (Christmas happened soon after) that I don't remember any symptoms. I'm now not convinced that I have been ovulating properly since the MC although last month I used the expensive clear blue sticks and I did get a peak eventually (around CD17) - however AF arrived early which made me wonder if I did actually ovulate or panic that my luteal phase was too short...This month I have started temping and I have seen a good temp rise, again looks like I ov'd around CD17 - just crossing fingers that either AF stays away for longer or my LP is a proper length. Its all so complicated - feel like I'm driving myself insane! Glad your bleeding settled although I totally get wanting to know what is going on in your body (as evidenced above!)

ibeka - I'm very pro-NHS! we don't know how lucky we are in this country to have the NHS (although I definitely appreciate that individual staff can be lacking in compassion at times)

brickie sorry for your loss. Its really hard to think of what should have been - I do it all the time. hope you get your bfp very soon.

mamma ooh a long costal walk sounds lovely! beautiful day for it too. I've just put some washing on the line - I am absolutely addicted to drying clothes outside and the weather today is perfect!

We've just been out shopping and for lunch and now I need to catch up some work so DH has taken the kids out for a cycle ride (i'd much rather be with them!)

Romeo - how are you doing cycle buddy? hope you are doing something nice with your kids to distract you from the 2ww

Right I'm banning myself from thinking about ttc/symptom spotting for a few hours and going to concentrate on work (yeah right). Enjoy the sunshine everyone!

[redredwine4]

I swore that his tww I wouldn't even think about it. Surprise surprise, I am slowly driving myself crazy.....

[Mamama31]

Disney your profiteroles sound yum!

Red don't allow it!!!! Quick! Distract yourself!!!! (easier said than done eh?) I wish you a fast 2ww!

Have had a lovely day, 2 and a half hour coastal walk and about to have my dinner made for me whilst I relax and sip on some red wine :) feeling positive and content today :)

[redredwine4]

Oh I would love a glass of vino- that's my favourite distraction. Tww are so cruel. Sounds like you've had a lovely day x

[Romeolovesjuliet]

mama that sounds like such a lovely day.
red agree the 2 ww sucks - it's DH's birthday today and I'm celebrating with a shandy made with alcohol free lager... Would much rather be having a glass of white wine, especially as it's been a beautiful day here.
drifting hope work distracted you for a while. I find the days I'm at home with the kids (work 3 days p/w) are much easier as they keep me so busy! The days I'm at work sat at my computer bring far too much temptation to obsess...
Happy weekends everyone x

[driftingclouds]

red im with you on the crazy. I've basically spent the afternoon spiralling about symptoms or not...darn 2ww-I hate it. I had a short bit of productivity but it didn't last. I'm only 7dpo and this afternoon started with backache and a right sided niggling pain. Now feel stressed that AF is on the way super early .
I'd much rather have no symptoms at all and then at least I could put it out of my mind! From tomorrow I have a few busy days so hopefully that will distract me until I find out either way...

Did someone say profiteroles-mmmm one of my favourites! I could also go for a (large) glass of (very cold) white wine-Ahh bliss. Wish I didn't feel so paranoid about drinking even during the 2ww. That will be one positive if it hasn't happened this month-will be cracking open the Sauvignon!

When is anyone thinking of testing?!

[megarobotdiscoparty]

Everyone's weekends sound blissful...coastal walks and profiteroles oh my!

drifting that sounds mind bending....I really hope you get a reassuring result (either a sensible AF or dare I say it a BFP) at the end of this cycle.

mama blimey 3.5 weeks is a good while! Really hope this is it for you now.

Ladies I'm sorry we are all on this roller coaster ....but also so relieved it's not just me driving themselves crazy with not knowing what's going on inside!

Not sure when to try POAS for my BFN again...how often is obsessive? I might aim for a week (ambitious!)

Lovely weekend here. Spent enough in a certain Swedish home store to make DH swear aloud at the tills. Pretty sure I can shop my way out of this. Only slightly in danger of filling the house so full of cushions they start coming out of the chimney.

Hope everyone else is ok.

[Romeolovesjuliet]

drifting that's freaky, I have also had back ache today at 6/7 dpo.
I'd rather wait until AF is late but will probably test on sat as it's our wedding anniversary and we have a rare night out planned and will def have a couple of drinks if it's negative.
mega I drove myself to distraction waiting for a negative. Hope it's not much longer for you or mama.

[brickiemum2]

romeo and drifting back ache was one of my first clear symptoms of pregnancy at about 5/6dpo, felt like my back was going to break in two.

[daisyspice]

Glad it's not just me that's going mad symptom spotting!! So far has random nausea, back ache and the worst farts in the world lol

Really hope my cycles aren't shot after this Currently cd25 I think

Hope everyone is having a lovely weekend I've spent the evening playing Jenga

[driftingclouds]

Ha ha, no daisy you are not alone in symptom spotting! Backache and (ahem) wind are my top two!

romeo that is freaky-fingers crossed its a positive sign for both of us.

I'm planning on testing Thursday if AF hasn't come by then. Although only 8dpo, my cycles have been 27-28 days for the last few months so AF due on Wednesday...

We are off to a kids birthday party later-hoping that will be a good distraction.

Hope everyone has a good Sunday

[ibeka]

red, drifting' daisy and romeo I'm going mad too! I was super grumpy yesterday whinging bout how much I hate living in London and that there was nothing to do last night because of not drinking... I felt really low and miserable all day. Is that a symptom? A little bit better today. I'm 7dpo. Will test on Friday as going away for the weekend to what should be a very boozy stay with friends in Cornwall and it'd be good to know. That said, if it's a bfn I'll probably still not drink unless af comes!!

[redredwine4]

Come to Scotland ibeka! Although I think we could teach anyone all there is to know about boozing, so no getting away at all with any 'I'm on antibiotics' chat.

Itchy boobs????? Is that a symptom?

Af due on Friday so I'm testing on Sat. marys what about you?

[ibeka]

I'm desperate to move to Scotland, red. I am - wait for it - a whole quarter Scottish! I've always felt more at home north of the border though and feel far more Scottish than English... DP has spent his whole life since age 8 in SE England and struggles with the idea of being so far away from here.