TTC after MC#6 - the lucky one for all of us!

[Romeolovesjuliet]

New thread. Hoping for lots of lovely BFPs over the coming weeks

I wouldn't put it off for the sake of a holiday personally.

honey so glad you feel physically and mentally strong again to DTD you sound like you have such a supportive OH to not put any pressure on you. Fingers crossed hun your be back on the road again.

drifting these FF and opk's do my head in lol. I have no idea what I am doing so honestly I have no idea how many days past I am or even if I have. Tbh hun your body has its weird ways it as not over until AF hits however I'm so sorry if you have missed your window. Don't forget them little swimmer's last up to a week hiding so even a few days out can still get you :).

paws how you feeling today hun?

ERM tbh I have never got a negative first response but all others have been. I took two today both go it 2 lines I spoke to pharmasist today and he said the hcg level should no longer be there so take a clear blue but not digital do testing in the morning and see as I got a negative from that. So I got one with 2 in and you guessed couldn't wait was negative however can see an extreamly faint cross so I have got my hopes up to be honest I showed him the first responses and he said the lines are to dark for a 4 week d+c but to light for a less sensitive one to pick up/ so here's my dilemma is the first reaponce picking up old hcg level? Got doctors in morning she said I could have a blood test as worried old tissue could of been left in but my surgery notes say everything was clear after op. The first response lines are darker this afternoon as well the ones I took I'm a peeing fanatic ATM haha. Just suppose need to wait and see been so sure AF is about to hit since Wednesday the cramps have been awful and boobs very sore. Having to hold them when running down the stairs lol. But sore boobs could mean any of the 3 AF ovulataion or pg.
My d+c was 4 weeks ago today and no idea when ovulated had some bleeds in between as well not heavy though so they could of been my AF and could already be half way through a new cycle but then I am sure first response would be complety negative if AF had hit. So confused just staying off of alcohol and certain foods just in case sounds promising but then I don't get that kind of luck. Could it be because I've had a complete clear out will take my hcg levels longer to rise than normal.

I'm stressing TTC again can't imagine how I'm going to be when I fall pg again that 12 week wait is going to be agonising.

Sorry crossed post paws" I agree with carrot* I wouldn't put it off either hun?

carrot how are you hun? Did the spotting stop for you in the end?

So sorry things are so unclear keys - hopefully the doc will have some advice tomorrow

paws sorry you and MrPaws aren't getting along. I've found mrVan spectacularly unsupportive through MC and the aftermath - he doesn't engage with pregnancy until he's seen/felt it through a scan or a kick, until then it's not real to him. He doesn't understand that it was really real to me and that my hormones make me sad and flat. He's a good man, and he's had his own stresses over the past couple of months, but I wish he'd be more 'here' for me and less needy for himself at times.

This first period is just awful. Heavier than the MC with flooding and gushing. I'm miserable as sin and just exhausted with it.

I just want to be pregnant again and give my DS a sibling.

I know I'm v impatient as I only had erpc a week ago but the opk's arrive tomorrow and I want to start using them straight away to find out when I ovulate. Is it too early though? Do I need to get a negative pg test first? I did one of the cheapies and thought it was negative but I did a digital one this morning and it says pregnant. I guess there is still some hcg kicking around. Do you think I need to get a negative pg test before we start trying again? Otherwise I'm worried I'll get a bfp but it will just be left over hormones after the mc. DH thinks I am too impatient and should wait and see what happens for a few weeks before dtd but I just want to get on with it (and feel fine physically).

And another cross post keys - not had a period this heavy since my teens. Definitely progressed from spotting.

keys how confusing for you! I hope you get some answers (and preferably a clear-cut bfp) very soon. How difficult it must be not knowing what your body is doing.

paws I was so sorry to read your message posted yesterday. As others have said, this desperation to have your child back is something people on here can really identify with. I think men can sometimes get things in theory, but it is not happening in their bodies and so they do live with it minute by minute and hour by hour that we do. You sound a bit more positive today, so that's good. Personally I would not stop TTC for a holiday but everyone is different and that is just what I would do at this stage.

drifting- I'm not sure what to say to try to make you feel better, except to say that you are not alone with these good days and bad days and being up one minute when you think you know what your body is doing and down the next when it seems that might not be the case after all.

Great news on the positive opk mummy!

tft are you still having blood tests? My EPU continued with blood tests weekly until the hcg fell to undetectable and then I had the all clear to start again. It took about 10 days but I was only 6+2 and things had stopped developing around 5 wks. I would wait until you have a clear negative and then start with the OPKs

Sorry you're feeling so low carrot.

tft I think you need a negative pregnancy test to make sure that any future positive is a new pregnancy.

I had surgical management and they just said to do a pg test after 3 weeks (I know, I know, it's only been a week but I just want to know what's going on) but no follow up appointment or tests. I had a MMC, found at 12 weeks but baby stopped developing at 9 weeks. It's confusing as the result on the strips they gave me at the hospital are really, really faint - you really have to squint at it after 10 mins to see anything and I'm not even sure if it's a line but the digital one says pg. I guess I need to leave it another couple of weeks and try again with the digital one to be sure. I hate waiting.

Waiting sucks but is sometimes necessary.

tft it took me a couple of weeks after my mmc to get a negative on a sensitive hpt - I think it's best to wait until you've had that before trying again as otherwise you could be setting yourself up for disappointment if you think it's positive later on but just old hormones.

paws I personally wouldn't wait - I've been on holiday pregnant before and other than having to be a bit limited on the food it was fine.

I'm feeling shattered today and snappy - am thinking it's pmt while secretly hoping it's of course preg related I really need to start being nicer to poor DP or he's not going to want to try anymore!!

tfp honestly waiting does suck its horrible but I promise you in a few weeks your be feeling more relaxed. I'm in a horrible position as 4 weeks on still getting a positive from first response negative tests everywhere else so I agree with Disney I don't feel pregnant so I've mentally prepared myself also whenever I've got a positive in the past all tests show positive not just the one so as gutting as I will be I deep down know I have a very slim chanceof it being a new pregnancy. My digital clear blue showed not pregnant 2 weeks after my d+c the first response has always been positive so until the clearblue digital shows up pg again or any other test apart from first response mentally I know I'm not pg. Its a very difficult situation to be in cause I know how much your hurting I really do and I was like you I drove peeps mad on here and they were all so supportive. We can only advise you but if you want to test everyday and have a moan or need a chat everyone on here will be there for you/ big hugs hun. I was where u are 4 weeks ago xxx

Disney pmsl that made me laugh they are good signs but poor DH haha.

carrot oh no I'm so sorry big hugs. I'm so sorry its so heavy as well I dunno what my first AF is going to feel like but I would be the same as you if it was like that no wonder you feel so shitty but in a few weeks will be over and your ur be in your 2ww again. Your DS will have his sibling hun again its just waiting I hate waiting. Xxx

Hi everyone hope you don't Mind me joining, me and my husband are trying for #2 we lost our angel baby at 22 weeks then had our little boy who's now 4 Since then we have has 3 mc last one was feb. Such an emotional roller coaster hope we all get bfps soon!! Oh and fizzie100 not sure if this is much consolation but I had spotting/light bleeding at 8 weeks with my sun on and off for three weeks and was often after lifting anything heavy walking a lot or dtd and I was convinced it was a mc but it turned out to be nothing! Sticky baby dust to everyone

Son not sun

Thanks again gals for all your posts...i definitely want to keep ttc...now to convince dh That will be a tuffie, as haven't been speaking to each other the last couple of days, been in separate rooms and everything! I'm gonna try sit down and talk to him, tell him how miserable I am and such, I hope he gets it...
I'm severely dyslexic so it's easy for me to get peoples names mixed up when replying to posts, so forgive me if I reply to some of you but get names mixed up ...
With regards to the ladies who were asking about waiting for a bfn before ttc, I would personally say it is best to wait, just to save yourself a lot of agonizing grief and stress wondering if that 'bfp' is 'real' or not. I know its hard but if you do wait then when you get a 'real' one you can chill a bit... I got a negative only a week after mmc, but it was a cheapy, hospital ones were neg too. I believe mine were negative fast because , although i miscarried at 10&5, my baby didn't get very far, and i was miscarrying about 2-3 weeks before I passed everything....so i think my hcg levels were dropping rapidly from around 8 weeks (all my pg symptoms disappeared around then too) .

drifting I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you hunny x
Well...now time to try and talk to dh!...wish me luck x

Shit!...sorry, meant keys not drifting....x

paws I definitely wouldn't put off TTC for a holiday, in fact I haven't as we are going away in 2 weeks! We discussed trying to avoid an October due date for practical reasons (laughable now) but decided against it and I'm glad we didn't-I would be constantly thinking that that could have been our month.

keys hmm, I don't know then-did you ever have a scan post ercp? I don't know if that's done routinely or not. I guess if it's still unclear in a few days it might be worth a trip to the GP to raise the possibility of any tissue left behind? Really hoping its a new pg for you though.

carrot I'm sorry AF is so hard this month, I found the first one post MC very hard both physically and emotionally. Sorry also that MrVan is not as supportive as they could be-men! They definitely come from a different planet. We are here for you, vent as much as you like. You will get pregnant and it will be the baby you are meant to have. Take care of yourself.

tfp I agree with the others-you need a negative pregnancy test before I would go near the opks. Although they test for different hormones, they cross react and so you could get a positive Opk which is actually due to The HCG that is still hanging around. I know it's hard to wait but at least you will then know exactly where you stand.

disney I hope those are early pg symptoms for you! When I was pg last time I felt an uncontrollable rage towards my DH for no good reason! Mind I felt a bit like that last night with him too, hmmmm. When are you going to test?!

red thank you-it does help to know that I'm not the only one going crazy

In theory we shouldn't have missed my fertile window as were dtd every other day-I'm just cross that FF has marked our efforts as 'good' rather than 'high' chance-just a perfectionist really . Although we managed to get 'high' last month and it made no blinking difference. Wish I hadn't found that particular feature on FF tbh! Latest symptom spotting from me-my back is aching and I have creamy cm...granted the first is more likely due to sitting with terrible posture at my desk! I've decided that TTC is much harder nowadays with Google around-the slightest thing and I'm googling possible symptoms. It makes me crazy! Back in the day I'm sure people just got on with their lives...

Welcome birdie, sorry for your loss my love x

drifting pmsl! I second you on that uncontrollable rage! I was terrible with it during the pg I mc'd....
carrot sorry your af is bad, I had my first one beginning of this week, was heavier than usual, but no way near as bad as the mmc for me. Thankfully af only lasted a few days x

Welcome lilbirdie gosh it sounds like you have had a very difficult journey so far. This group is very supportive, I hope you get your bfp very soon

You are all right, I knew that really but it's so hard! The whole thing has taught me a lot about myself and I definitely need to try to develop some patience. I will leave it a week before poas (any sort of stick).

Thank you so much for your understanding, it does help to know I'm not alone. I know mc is such a common occurrence but I don't know anybody around me who has been through it recently. Quite a few people have said something similar happened to a friend, sister or to themselves 30+ years ago but it is comforting to speak to people who know how raw this all feels right now.

Hello lilbirdie, so sorry for your losses.

Thank you everyone I would never wish mc on anyone obv but it's nice to speak to people going through similar

birdie so sorry for you loss . Really hoping you get a bfp soon.

drifting they never scanned me hun after just took their word for it. The doctor I see last Wednesday is so lovely and she booked me in to see her tomorrow so will take my test to her and explain everrything. The more I read and think about things the more I am sure this is old hormones got a positive opk tonight as well so strong but I'm to tired to dtd my eyes are closing already. Whenever I got a positive pg in the past I was testing positive on all of them but could of obulated late hubby was away 4-9th June so if that's the case I'm definitely not pg unless happened after. Best thing to do is ask doctor for bloods to be taken again and wait for either great news or AF lol. My DD's keep me so busy I hardly have anytime in the day so I! SSO lucky there. Does it sound really selfish of me to wish my AF here? :(. I should of waited a cycle before TTC because all ive done is confused it all. It's mad my body knows what's going on but the most vital part of my body (brain) has no clue haha.

Anyone else heard you don't ovulated until your hcg levels have hit 0? Just read it be good to know for more knowledge on all this. X