TTC after MC#6 - the lucky one for all of us!

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New thread. Hoping for lots of lovely BFPs over the coming weeks

keys fingers crossed! Hope medication is also helping with infection too.

tft I'm so sorry for your loss, such a rubbish thing to have to go through. My d and c was 4 weeks ago and not really sure where i am in my cycle, if you can a call it that. I'm trying not to think about it and hoping for the best!

red yes I got a solid smiley but I normally get sore boobs after ovulation and nothing this month - but maybe it's a new normal after mc? Maybe you missed a solid smiley if you tested once a day - surges can be quite short I think?

keys that's wonderful news - I have absolutely everything crossed for you xx

Oh no, I thought the bleeding had stopped but it's back today. Three days with no bleeding then it just starts again. I know I am being impatient but I just want to move on and start ttc! Grrr...

welcome tft, sorry for your loss. Hope the bleeding settles down soon for you. The wtf cycle can be really hard. It's fine to try again straight away, just try not to put too much pressure on yourself (easier said than done)

keys I really hope it's good news for you hun, all fingers crossed! Let us know how it goes with the FRER

Hi red how are things your end? I finally appear to have ovulated! Temp started rising a couple of days ago and today FF put in the cross hairs and have decided that I am 5 days post ov, meaning that I ov' don't CD20! This cycle has been weird with opks all over the place, ewcm all over the place. Am actually relieved that can stop tracking all of that now and don't think I will use them next month....(famous last words). boobs have been sore since just before ovulation-bit unusual for me as usually stop hurting once I have ov'd, trying my best not to symptom spot as way too early....

disney I do think 'normal' can change post MC-since mine I've had very painful boobs around ovulation, never used to have that before the MC. What dpo are you now?

we must be due a run of bfps soon-positive vibes to everyone!

Sorry you're here tft x

Haven't posted in a week or so. Hope everyone is well

Quick question about ewcm ... How long do you normally get it for and is it before or during ov? I've never thought about it before but getting obsessed about when/if I might ov at all this mth!

Had a couple of 'episodes thinking its ov but not sure if it is/was!

Glad you are feeling better drifting and can semi relax in the knowledge you ov'd. Hopefully something will come of those sore boobies!

Hi mummy hope you are ok.

keys excited to see your result!

I see a few still due to ov, cd20 post mc here and not even a nearly pos on opks. Temping too. Getting a bit fed up. Bleeding stopped ages ago then had a random clot today - no other spotting though.

keys fc for a bfp for you xx
Can any one help me?...
So I had my dreaded af on Monday (first since erpc, bang on 28 day cycle) finished very suddenly two days ago so only lasted 3 days, which is normal for me...but ongoing cramps and pulls!!! I tested the day before AF and got a bfn ....could swear I'm pg, boobs hurting since ovulation and persistent headache...but I know it was my wtf cycle...is it just my fluctuating hormones after mmc and erpc causing all these ongoing symptoms? I know I'm not pg due to period showing up and the bfn...but I 'feel' like I am!!! Am I being stupid? Is this normal? Should I test again,...see a doctor?
Feeling very sad...was planning on postponing ttc till holiday in September, but my fertile window is coming up as from Wednesday next week and due to ovulate that Sunday....going to be so hard to 'not' ttc 'knowing' that I 'could' conceive.....just feel hopeless atm..dh and I are not getting on and keep falling out, he says I'm boring etc etc, he asked me yesterday "can I have some sex tonight" I naturally kicked off and said he could have phrased that better.....we argued and he said "why would I want to go near that anyway"
Just feel completely SHIT...i want my baby back and want to be pg again. Sorry for long post, all my friends are busy and I don't really have anyone to talk to atm. X

Oh paws I'm so sorry. I think it's normal for your emotions to be totally all over the place and that's always going to put a strain on a relationship (I know I'm not always a joy to live with at the moment) but your dh really needs to be more supportive. Could you sit him down and explain how much this mc has impacted you and how you need him to be there for you.

I'm not sure re pregnancy. I'd have thought it's unlikely if you've had af as normal - but it wouldn't hurt to test as it will give you a definite answer.

We all understand the desperate desire to be pregnant again - we've just got to believe we'll get there. Until then we're all here for you

drifting I'm 8dpo but feeling familiar pms (I always get miserable and moody a few days before af and I totally feel like that now!)

disney well fingers crossed for you, you're not out till you're out! At least only a couple more days till you will know

paws I'm sorry you are having such a rough time. I can only speak from my experience but my hormones were all over the place for a long time after the MC. I felt sick constantly in each 2ww, wierd things going on with my boobs and just felt desperately sad and angry. It's got better gradually I would say that it's only this cycle that I feel completely back to normal (cycle 6 post MC). It's so raw for you and you have ever right to feel the way you do. I totally get the wanting your baby back and screamed those exact words at DH one day when we had a massive fight-all the emotions had built up inside us both and came out at once. I would say that things improved from that day and so I would highly recommend talking it through with your DH-they don't get it, they have no idea how you feel unless you spell it out for them. Hormones can mess with your mind but the guys don't have that so they can process the loss in a more rational way. You need him to understand how you are feeling. Good luck and I hope you start to feel better soon-it's an old saying but time truly is a great healer. Let yourself grieve for what you have lost.

hi mummy sorry you are in limbo-keep going! My cycle was a bit like that this month, temp only rose on CD22 I think, I was on the verge of giving up on the cycle! Hope you get some good signs soon. The bonus is you've got more time to get some dtd in before ov!

honey were you asking about ewcm? I'm not sure about really, I think usually the couple of days leading up to ovulation I but it varies. I believe you can get patches throughout the cycle though-i thought I might have a little today at 5dpo I may have googled it as a potential early pregnancy sign

Oh paws you poor love! I echo what the others have said, def try and talk it through. I honestly don't think it effects the men half as much when mc happens and they get back to normal quite quickly. I know my dh did and now it's almost like nothing ever happened. I'm just starting to feel physically normal but hormones etc are all still all over the shop ... So haven't felt at all like dtd, which has caused tension. So you aren't alone, but I think your dp does need a word! Hugs!

Thanks drifting I think I'm just fixating too much, but that's really helpful. Guess I'm just anxious that mc is going to eff my cycles up and it's so stressful having irregular cycles. Not just ttc, but for life and planning in general!

disney fingers crossed! You never ever know.

Hope all is ok keys x

Thank you all so much for making me feel welcome here.

I think you're right about men processing it differently to women. I thought my DH was being so rational and thinking logically about it because he is a scientist and tends to think like that about everything but I guess it's more to do with the fact he doesn't have to deal with the hormones. I keep going over the same thought processes and he's being really supportive but sometimes he just doesn't understand why I keep repeating myself.

Paws I am so sorry. Just read your post out to dp- he also says awful things in arguments. He said he doesn't know why men do it but they say nasty things to stop the argument whereas women argue about the actual thing they are meant to be arguing over. He said they only do it because they are silly. I hope you work things out soon and understand that isn't really how he feels. You do have to spell it out for them. I had a real heart to heart with dp about a week after mc when he couldn't understand why I still couldn't function and it really helped x

drifting after having a winge earlier I tested tonight and got a nearly positive opk! Did earlier this afternoon (first time all week) so will do every day and twice if we can to get the spermz up there!

Heya guys sorry been a mega busy day today.firstresponse positve clear blue not pregnant still have no idea. Will test in morning again first wee as I could be really early. I am carrying on like I'm not pg not in the sence of drinking etc but lay off that but just not getting my hopes up.

paw oh hun I'm sorry your feeling like this I completely agree losing a baby that desire and desperation to fall pg again is overwhelming I really wish I could get us all a bfp. Life is very harsh to the most loveliest people it's so unfair. You will get that bfp hun so easy to say but stay strong all of us on here are in the same position and know the pain your feeling. I wish I could give you a hug.

honey red Disney so hoping your at your ovulation stage now even though if I am pg i had no idea I had ovulated which makes me feel more negative about it. Time will tell.

mummy that line is so strong hun

lovely to hear from you drifting* your due to test soon aren't you hun?

I'm so wishing us them bfp this summer I'm keeping positive for us all even if AF hits i will be so deflated but we will get there I know we will.

I'm still keeping everything crossed for you lovely keys, first wee is the best wee :)

mummy that's Defo a strong line although I know nada about opks!

Am temping so at least will know when to stop dtd but gutted we gave up so soon this cycle!

Thank you gals! Its comforting to hear your responses...i have tried to talk to him many times, and I do think deep down he does understand, he just says things in the heat of arguments to 'get to me' ...
Just feels like we're complete strangers atm. What had once bought us closer together has now tore us apart. Thank you so much for all your comments.
keys a positive is a positive (so they say) Certain tests pick up hormones in different ways, so what 'brand' produces a +hpt quickly for some women, may take longer for others... Some women get a bfp quicker on a first response, and others quicker on a clear blue...hope that makes sense xxx
I know it'll be negative, but I've got a spare clear blue left so will test in morning to put my mind at rest. Would be some bloody miracle if I were pg! X

Think body could still be playing creul tricks on me negative this morning first res very faint fainter than yesterday so think could be left over hormone however its 4 weeks today since d+c so AF is due. Like you honey we have no idea ATM do we hun.

Oh keys I'm so sorry, what a bummer. Even when you are trying not to get your hopes up, it's impossible when you think there's a chance, it still hurts when you don't get the answer you want.

Is it worth going back to the docs again for them to re check your hcg levels? Did they check them before? Perhaps they can check what's going on?

I'm cd30 today and no clue what's going on .... Dtd for first time last night since d&c. First time I've actually felt ready to (physically).

honey well done on your first dtd. I ended up telling dp I was terrified of it after mc - which surprised him but it helped him know he had to take the reins for a change and made it very romantic.

keys sorry the tests are being so annoying and that it isn't clear either way. Different tests do have different sensitivies and I keep reading on mumsnet that the clear blue ones are not very sensitive. I don't want to get your hopes up but a line is a line! Although hormones can linger post MC, haven't you had a few bfns? I don't think they should go up again unless it's a new pregnancy. It's really hard-if you can bear it, it might be best to wait a couple of days and test again (I know I would be testing daily!). How many DPO are you?

mummy fabulous strong positive opk! Hurray-Have fun dtd!

honey well done on dtd-it's a big step the first one after MC. I felt quite sad I think about it. It gets better-onwards and upwards!

Well I've been a bit today-after I took my temp this morning, FF changed my ov date to CD22! Now that means I am only 4dpo (instead of 6dpo) and it means our dtd was less well timed-ugh! Also boobs no longer sore today so that was prob all ovulation related. Couldn't feel less pregnant right now (although clearly it's way too early for any symptoms) and just feel a bit pissed off that it probably hasn't happened again this month. Argh-I hate the roller coaster of the 2ww, I felt quite positive yesterday and now not at all. Also my test date is now Father's Day which I'm not convinced is a good omen. Oh well. Will give myself a good talking too and cheer up!

keys sorry you're going through such torment, its not fair at all I know...but haven't you had a bfn after the mc? As drifting said, they shouldn't be going back up...give it a couple of days...i know its horrid but a couple of days could make all the difference x

drifting chin up, you never know x

Well...ive been milling it over since last night...i just can't wait 4 months to start ttc again! I don't care if I'm pg on holiday...at least I will be happy I'm pg again?! My fertile window is coming up as from Wednesday and ignoring it and actively trying 'not' to conceive would be torture!
Am I being impatient? Would any of you ladies stop trying just because a holiday has been booked? X