TTC after MC#6 - the lucky one for all of us!

[Romeolovesjuliet]

New thread. Hoping for lots of lovely BFPs over the coming weeks

I think it's worth writing down the timeline of the bleeds, cm and OPKs and having a chat. Your cycle seems to be all over the place and they might be able to give better advice

Keys, I think Cv gives really good advice. I bled for 3 weeks after my mva, then had a week of nothing and now have my first period. If the bleeding is unusual then I would get checked out.

Can I have a little pity party post? this weekend I got my first period after my mva for mmc. I've already started to work out when I should Ov if I go back to a 28 day cycle, and then any hypothetical BFP dates and EED based on that cycle. I know I shouldn't.... If my pregnancy had progressed I should have had a 4 month old baby at the time of a big family celebration next year. It would have been the perfect opportunity to introduce a new baby to our extended family. Now I won't, and even if I do get a BFp this month I wont be going as the hypothetical baby will be only a few weeks old. even if I get pregnant the following cycle I wont be going as it involves a flight and I wont be able to fly at 36 weeks, and wouldn't even consider it if I was allowed as my previous pregnancy was delivered at 31 weeks. gah!

argh! So I miscalculated. If I get pregnant in the next three months I wont be going to the family event because I'll either have a baby that is 3 weeks old, or i'll be due the week of the party, or i'll be due in a few weeks and can't fly. If I do get to go to the event, it will be because I'm not pregnant! So it's a no win situation. Need to stop thinking about this now :(

So on the whole I feel like I have coped really well since the mmc and slowly coming round to the idea of ttc.

One of my really good friends posted some pics of her bump and it really made me feel sad. I knew she was pregnant and she was really supportive after my mc and I am genuinely happy for her but I just lay in bed last night and thought 'that should have been me, it's not fair'

Sigh.........

In better news DP is back home tomorrow although as expected I think he's missed the OV window which leaves me counting weeks again as I don't want an APril born baby (family bad luck month - so silly as I'm not even that supersticious) !!

Not too sure why I'm getting congratulations on bfn's guys? I mc'd nearly 2 months ago now, and got my first bfn a week after mc'ing ..... Have been ttc since erpc last month, ovulated two weeks ago and was in my tww......came on last night....gutted.

I suppose I'm lucky that I came on 28 days exactly after erpc, which is my regular cycle. Started charting this morning too.

Do I really need to chart though? As I'm very regular and know exactly when I ovulate...got a bunch of opks to try to time dtd as well as possible! Not sure if I really need to be charting bbt?

Sorry paws I read your previous post as saying that you had just got a bfn and were now looking to start properly ttc-ing and buddying up. Sorry af got you. It sucks.

autumn it's too easy to let the mind wander like this isn't it? It's difficult not to.

adventure could you see avoiding April as a way to keep the pressure off?

keys I think a trip to the doctor would be good. Mine has been lovely. It could well just be all your hormones still calming down but a doctor could perhaps reassure you?

That's ok red...not to worry! I'm hopeful for this cycle...have a feeling x

Positive thinking Paws !!

Totally think I ovulated yesterday or day before and DP is about to land at Heathrow but I don't get home from work until this evening.

Hi all. I've had a nice weekend in london trying to not think about ttc which has been really good for my happiness levels I think. Obviously it still came up a bit - we went for a lovely meal but I skipped the wine pairings as I think I'm in the 2ww so not drinking just in case (I know it's not overly likely but I figure then i can't beat myself up on what if I did something to stop implantation etc!)

Sorry for those feeling down at the minute - lots of hugs to you all and we all have those days.

I think I'm 4 dpo today - absolutely no symptoms but holding on to the hope that it's early days still.

Autumn I'm sorry you've been feeling like that. There is nothing worse than the sudden realisation that something you'd envisaged yourself at pregnant or with a baby is not going to happen any more. My best friend is getting married in September and it occurred to me at the weekend I no longer have to worry about getting something to wear to a wedding heavily pregnant. It was upsetting even though it's saved hassle! Also, this year is my family's turn for xmas (DP and I alternate which family we go to) and I was imagining it with my two moth old baby for so long.... You have to tell yourself that even if you miss this event, there will be others when you DO have a baby that will be special in their own way.

Well done for keeping the mind off TTC disney!

red any sign you've OVed? I finally got a positive OPK yesterday so am hoping tray was the day and really hoping for a temp rise tomorrow...

Adventure sorry you missed your window...

Tonight is SIL's birthday so DP is out at her family celebration. At my 30th I got paralytically drunk in a fit of depression at being old, unmarried and childless. At hers her husband and family will be celebrating her pregnancy. Trying not to feel too much but it's hard! I'm now cracking on for 33 and not much has changed!!

Hi everyone, sorry I've not really been on this thread for a little while-life has been crazy and I've tried to take a bit of a step
Back from mumsnet as TTC was making me a little crazy.....I have been lurking on occasion and thinking of you all though.

Hi to any newbies, hope you are doing ok. It's a horrible situation to be in but the ladies on this thread are lovely

keys what's happening with the bleeding now? Did you see your GP

ibeka sorry about your SIL-that is really crap. It's so hard when it's someone physically close to you experiencing what you should be. You will get there though and it will be worth it, I promise.

disney time away sounds lovely and well done for putting Ttc out of your mind! Fingers crossed for this 2ww!

autumn I feel your pain. I've had a few moments like this over the last few months. It's the curse of looking forward and thinking/planning how it will work with a baby, when then that pregnancy doesn't work out each of those moments hits hard again. It gets easier, be kind to yourself.

Sorry not to mention anyone else. I'm on my phone and it's difficult to scroll back too far!

well I'm on Cd 21 and still no ovulation! No idea what is going on but life has been pretty stressful (outside of TTC) so wondering if that's the cause. Had a positive Opk 2 days ago and got all excited but no temp shift since then...then on a whim did an Opk today and it was ridiculously positive-the strongest I've ever seen. Also had some abdo pain this eve that I get with ov so I'm hoping its finally happening. Madness. We've managed to keep dtd - 9 times already this cycle so far. Will do again tonight and tomorrow and then reasses. DH is hanging on in there just about lol! Really want it to happen this cycle as I'm just not sure how much longer I can't myself through all of this. Had a bit of a mind shift of late, finally feel like I'm accepting the MC-maybe hitting the 6 month anniverary mark was what did it. I don't feel quite as traumatised at the idea of my EDD approaching (though I know I will be very sad on that day), so I think I am in a slightly healthier place of mind. Beginning to think that if it doesn't happen soon, I might be able to make peace with not having a 3rd child (I know I'm extremely extremely lucky to have my 2 already).

Anyway, that's my slightly random update. Hope everyone is ok and thinking of those having a tough time

Ooh, I know what I forgot- romeo lovely to hear from you and that the scan went well-great news! I hope things continue to go smoothly for you

Hey ladies....kinda having to postpone ttc. Dh & I came into a small sum of money that we weren't sure we would get, so we have decided to go on one last holiday before starting our family. Decided on Corfu for two weeks end of September as its relatively cheap then! I didn't want to stop ttc between now and then, but as dh pointed out, if we do fall pg before we go, then I would be sick, hot, moody, tired, and couldn't drink! So just gonna throw myself into getting back into shape and lose the pre pg/mc weight I gained...that way we can start ttc while we're away on holidays! I'm gonna go back on the pill and 'time it' so I come off it again before we go away, then fc possible ovulation while we're there.....All very mathematical I know, but I need to go back on the pill so to alter the date of my menstrual cycle...as it stands I would be 'on' while we're away, so if I can change it so that I 'ovulate' while we're away, great!
Does this make sense? Am I being stupid? It would only be postponing ttc for 12 weeks. Would it be damaging at all to nip 'on and off' the pill to plan a cycle?
Sorry for long post x

paws So sorry hun I read your post wrong as well :(. Gutted af got you. As for holiday such a lovely idea I can see where OH is coming from personally I wouldn't go back on the pill then come back on in such a short time period but that what I would personally do sorry thats rubbish advice I am sure others can advise you better hun as I dont really know how the pill plays a part in ttc when coming off of it.

Autumn What a hard dilemma. When it comes to ttc its hard to plan it around certain events and even harder when you've been pg and already worked it all out. I also have been feeling really down about things I would be 16 weeks today and nearly halfway through my pregnancy as I was a planned c section at 37 weeks. OH been talking about my 30th in October I was meant to be heavily pregnant on my 30th it does make you feel very sad when reality hits again.

adventure Sorry OH was away I hope you managed to catch the egg lol. You never know do you I find reading lots on the net even the opk's can give lots of false readings. I am glad your feeling better in yourself. Wont be long hun until weve all got our bfp's again I'm sure of it.

disney Hope you had a lovely weekend. Best thing to do is to keep busy on the tww. I am keeping everything crossed for you.

ibeka Its so hard not to feel envious I would be the same and youve had to much heartache recently its going to be very hard. I hope it went as best as it could hun.

drifting Hugs hun I know its approaching your EDD your going to feel really sad. I am really hoping you get your bfp soon. As you have said before you could be ovulating really late in your cycle which is why you've kept missing your fertile slot. I really think we will see your bfp news soon.

red Any news on your ovulation yet?

Thanks for all the responses guys got doctors at 9.30 this morning finally going to pull myself around the realisation something is not really right and may need some investigations. I dont know if it was my period or not I suppose the only way they will tell is a scan of my ovaries to see if I have been ovulating. Not holding out much hope though as my doctors are useless probably just tell me to wait another 4 weeks to see what happens. On a plus note bleeding stopped and abnormal cm. Pain sill quite bad though especially where my right tube is so better to be safe than sorry.

Good news about the money - and a great idea to have a nice holiday with it, paws

I wouldn't go on and off the pill personally as it takes my body a couple of months to adjust

Very impressed with the dtd marathon drifting

Glad you're seeing the GP again keys. Is your local EPU any good? If so might be worth ringing them for advice as this relates to the MC

Hi all

paws have been unwell for the last few days so haven't been on here. Sorry to hear your news , such a shame. How are things? Have you decided what to do about the hols? Would love to buddy up when you are ready. :)

We are starting but it has been only been a week since mc. How quickly do cycle's get back on track? We are going to use ovulation Kits this time too. I had kind of given up on them previously but what the hell am going to give it a go.

Hope everyone is ok.

Glad you've got a doctors appointment, keys, I hope they are useful - this has gone on long enough!!

Drifting thank you. CD 19 here and still no ovulation either!! Getting a bit fed up now. I've had positive opks three days running (sun, mon, tues) and had really clear ovulation pain Sunday night and yesterday so not sure what is going on! red any news your end?

paws I'm not sure I would go on the pill again. I'm just too anxious about upsetting things! But if you feel it would work for you, then go for it....

Hi guys thank god I followed your advice got a nasty infection been sent off with antibiotics have to go back monday if still showing high infection will be admitted into hospital on a drip and emergency scan.

I got so excited at one point as I have got sore boobs dizziness all the pregnancy symptoms and a faint line on a FR. But they have a feeling maybe bits leftover as their blood tests show not pregnant.

I feel very sad this afternoon but life goes on and dinner to be cooked lol.

Thanks for all your support guys and thank you carrot for giving me that push.

Hope the anitibiotics work quickly for you keys.

On my knees with exhaustion at the moment. All I've wanted to do is sleep since saturday evening! Not helped by the fact dd has hardly slept the last two nights, her bottom back molars are coming through. Dh wants to read all sorts into it, I'm trying not to think about it.

dobby so sorry to hear that hun. I hope you get some sleep soon :( with my eldest I managed to find ashton powder I think its called they dont sell it anymore I got it off the internet it was so good the only thing that help her.
Might be worth googling it and having a look im not sure if thats the correct name for it though.

I have really bad AF cramps tonight I will never be so happy and relieved to see AF. I am due on, on sunday so i am hoping she hitsso I can stop worrying.

Ashton and Parsons powder its called hun

Ashton and parsons is fantastic idea keys, we've got loads in the cupboard, I stocked up last time I found it in sainsburys. She's being dosed up on everything we can get our hands on so will add that to the pre bed time routine tonight. Might get her past 1 am, very greatful I don't have to get up for anything in the mornings. Almost there with teeth, two left after this, will be so pleased when it's all over, she's a misserable teether.

dobby sorry completely mis read your post. That is a very ood sign being tired when is your af due x