TTC after MC#6 - the lucky one for all of us!

[Romeolovesjuliet]

New thread. Hoping for lots of lovely BFPs over the coming weeks

Ibeka I'm so sorry, that's so tough. Is there any reason you DH doesn't want his parents to know about the mc other than keeping things private. In these circumstances it really might help a little if he mentioned it then maybe they could ask your SIL to back off a bit. Don't feel guilty, your feelings are entirely natural and justified.

Thanks for all the support yesterday ladies. Had my scan this morning and bean was measuring 6 weeks and saw a heartbeat flickering away. No reason for pain, she said it was probably just a pregnancy thing. I'm so relieved but know we are by no means out of the woods. But that was the best possible news we could get at this stage so I'm grateful for that.

ibeka I know my SIL is also trying and even though its not been announced as of yet I also feel the same as you as I just know she is. We have a very awkward relationship as well we are not close at all. Reading what you've put are you sure it aint mine.
I dont really know what to say to you hun other than keep trying and it will be your turn soon sod the rest of them it will be your beautiful little bean.

oh dear hun I am so sorry for once I really dunno what to say big hugs xx

Romeo sorry about your DD, glad she's feeling better. And wonderful news about the scan

ibeka so sorry, this is so tough I know nothing will make it better than a sticky pregnancy, but you'll get there

That's great news romeo

So sorry ibeka can you avoid her and this likely to talk about her pregnancy until you feel stronger, hide her posts on facebook and so on?

ibeka I'm currently putting off seeing my mil because I'm really not ready to see her. We didn't tell her I was pregnant and we won't be telling her about the mc, it will just cause too much drama. Going to be streaching dbil's half truth that I'm ill as for as long as we can. But I know as always when I next see her, hopefully atleast a few weeks off, her first question will be are you pregnant! Have been faced with an army of babies and pregnant friends, but not sure when I'll feel strong enough to see her.

romeo so pleased your scan went well.

We got nice(ish) weather here so I've been enjoying the sunshine with dd. The garden really needs some attention but I've been ignoring it in favour of playing football with her. Might be heading out to the beach tomorrow or for a ride on a canel boat.

Not sure if it's post mc wtf cycle or left over fall out of having the coil out, but have crazy amounts of cm! Labido is also through the roof. Both were happened first and only cycle of the coil. Never been through so many panty liners in my life!

Oh ibeka that's just rubbish! It will happen for you and when it does your baby will be better than hers wink

That's great news romeo ... Best possible outcome and amazingly good sign for things going forward! Lush!

Sorry meant

Great news romeo

Gaaa! Met up with mums from ante natal from when I had dd (we meet normally every month or so) ... One of the girls has just announced she's preg with her 2nd ... 13 weeks, so a couple of weeks behind what I would have been. Feeling a bit robbed today! Obviously really chuffed for her, but a bit sad again too

Hi All

I would like to join - Age 37, one ds aged 18 and have been ttc naturally with my dh for 4 yrs. I recently suffered delayed mc, and 5 days ago had a natural mc (@ 11wks)

I wondered if anyone could tell me when is ok to start ttc again after natural mc? I think/ hope I have passed everything and I have stopped bleeding now too. I ask because I feel emotionally in a much better place now ( we found out 3 weeks ago).

My hormones have really come back with a vengeance and we would like to be intimate again. Does anyone know how soon is too soon?

honey that's crap- no other word for it.

Welcome *happy

Sorry posted too soon.

happy unless your doctor says otherwise there is no reason to wait. So jump on board!

• honey

Sorry my phone is being annoying this morning,

honey did you ever get a solid smiley face? I have just had my ninth flashy so giving up, but I wondered about you since you got the probably-positive one evening. I got a deal on the CB digitals so will use them next month, but I am not a fan so will ditch them after that. cannot abide that flashing smiley face.....

Thank you all for your lovely posts. I was a complete wreck all of Friday but have felt a bit better yesterday and today. Just trying to keep busy and positive... I'm glad to know I'm not the only one feeling like this about various relatives. Lol keys unless you're actually me must be a different but very similar SIL!

autumn that must have been so painful for you. I'm sorry. It must have been just so amazing when you finally took your baby home.

romeo pleased about your scan. How lovely for you
DP is very private. He might consider talking to his mum but wouldn't want it going further than that. I don't think he trusts his sister to respond in an appropriate way. Also, once I was at his parents and told his mum about the friend we had just visited who had miscarried her 3rd IVF attempt at 11 weeks and his dad over heard and said something along the lines of how MCs happen and it's ridiculous getting upset about it! So I'm not sure I want him to know, he'll just think I'm stupid for being upset....

red can I join you in opk frustration? I only have ICs but I should be OVing today yet have had no positives... Random couple of nearly positives in the last few days but nothing proper. I've had good ewcm so am a bit confused. Sigh.

Welcome wifey and sorry to hear your story. I think once bleeding has stopped you're OK to go (whilst still bleeding there's an infection risk).

Glad you're feeling a bit better ibeka. It sounds like your DP's family might not be the most supportive, or if that's unkind they might just not know how to act in this situation. You just have to do what protects you most (move to Scotland????;-)) I am totally with you on opk frustration. Ewcm is a great sign though and I'd rely on that more than an opk. I've unfortunately not had any of that either so I really do suspect that I've not ov'd since the mc. My gp is great though and is going to do a blood test next month to check.

7 dpo (according to OPKs) in my WTF cycle. Bored, tired, grumpy which aren't really symptoms of anything.

Hello wifey

Yes, red, good plan.... Been sending DP lots of emails with links to beautiful houses we could own mortgage-free and also to potential work places for him (I teach so should be able to find something in most places). Not sure if I'm just putting him off the idea more by harassing him though!! When did your MC finish? I definitely didn't OV in my WTF cycle (which was 40 odd days long) but did normal time the one after...

Hi red sorry for late response, I don't use opks I think it might have been disney?

Glad you are feeling a bit more upbeat ibeka it just takes the wind out of us sometimes doesn't it. It hurts! Ooooh mortgage free would be a dream! We maxed ourselves out last year but hopefully in our forever home now :)

I'm really not sure I've ov'd yet ... Thinking now that I might not at all this cycle but who knows! Was reading the other day somewhere it's common to ov 2-4 weeks after mc, but obv diff for everyone.

Hi wifey hope you are feeling ok. You were on the same ante natal thread as me and I remember us having bad news roughly the same day. I think like the others have said once you stop bleeding you're good to go! I had a d and c and was still having pains a couple of weeks after so haven't actually dtd yet! Not felt in the mood at all though I have to say.

wifey HELLO!!! Welcome
Do you want to buddy up ttc? I got a BFN today started bleeding too, so not going to be one of the lucky ones who falls pg straight after mc/erpc without having period ... Fc for a BFP this cycle x
hope everyone else is doing ok x

Sorry honey you're right I meant Disney. A forever home is what we're looking for at the moment- just hope we have some small ones eventually to have in it!

Hope you manage to persuade dp ibeka! I love it up here as we love the hills- you're never very far away from the middle of nowhere. A piece of advice- you'll have more fun at a Glasgow funeral than an Edinburgh wedding... (just joking-have lived in and loved both...)

Good news on bfn paws- it's a landmark on the ttc after mc journey, albeit it another one that can be quite sad

ibeka sorry to have read your going through a tough time hun. You will get your bfp soon im sure of it.

red these ovulation things are so confusing. I think next time going to leave them.

honey i think im ovulating. But hubby been away so think ive missed it this month.

happy sorry to hear of your sad news i mc 3 weeks ago and trying straight away.

Can I ask guys a silly question. On Friday I started bleeding again thought is was my af coming as the cramps were so bad but still took a opk line wernt there so really thought this was af, and saturday I got like really bad cm never had it like it before was like jelly but still bleeding so didn't take a opk same as yesterday as well. Today I stopped bleeding but no cm but first time ever I have a dark line on opk its a clear as anything. Last one I took was on friday and there was no line. I dont have the pains today or the cm do you think I have missed my chance? Hubby back today from his holiday so I know we will dtd today as I have missed him but I read your most fertile when you get the most cm even though there was no line on the opk?

Sorry for the essay I dont want to get my hopes up if there's a chance I have already missed my slot and I have no one else to ask.

I hope everyone had a lovely weekend.

paws congratulations on your bfp you must be so overwhelmed with it all. Hugs hun xxx

keys have you been back to the doctor? All this stop-start bleeding sounds really horrible for you and very confusing

I haven't hun I really dont know what to do. Maybe I should book in I hate going doctors. It has been stop start it happened to me the week before last as well and its in strange cm as well like big blobs of jelly sorry for tmi there :(. Been over 3 weeks since d+c now.