TTC after MC#6 - the lucky one for all of us!

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New thread. Hoping for lots of lovely BFPs over the coming weeks

honey i just saw your post from yesterday-is there anyone you feel able to tell at work? I know its so hard (and it someways harder if it's slightly after the event) but it does help to have someone know-even if it's just so you feel less guilty about not giving 100% as they know whats going on. I was in two minds but then ended up telling my boss when I rang in sick on the day it happened. She was absolutely incredible (even though I might not necessarily have predicted her to be very understanding) and it made it so much easier as I didn't worry at all about work even though my MC happened at a terrible work time when I was supposed to be giving an important presentation among other things.

lion your story is just too amazing!

Sorry I've not been able to catch up with everything. Hope you are all well and I'll do a proper catch up over the weekend.

lion that is the most amazing story. When they thought you were mcing did they scan you and not see anything?

drifting been to the GPs today for a good cry. She said I might feel better over the weekend doubtful but if after my scan Monday I still feel too overwhelmed by the idea of work then she will sign me off for a week.

mummy I'm glad you have a supportive GP. It's important to give yourself time to grieve, the pain is so intense at first-I promise it gets better (although maybe never goes) it just takes time. Take care of yourself-I hope you have something nice planned for the weekend

clouds I am going to try to focus more on DS over the weekend. And try to last a whole day without a nap.

Sorry to hear of the peeps having a hard time :(. Big hugs.

Drifting Hope you enjoyed your wine huni. Fingers crossed 2ww goes quick for you.

Honey Is there anyone you can confide in? Its a very emotional time for you right now its still so raw I really feel for you hun. Can you tell somebody who will pass the word round but tell them not to approach you about it but also give you some space? Big hugs hun.

mummy Awww such a lovely doctor wouldn't be a bad idea to have some time off just to get your head around things we've lost our babies its a very emotional time for us. Hug hun.

Good luck to everyone on there 2ww now and gl to everyone testing soon. Were due another positive soon.

Nothing to report here really still bleeding a little but its like the end of af where it looks like old blood so sorry for TMI :(. So just maybe going to be late ovulation and af for me as body may still be recovering who knows. Have defo taking a rest this month though my heart jumped in before my brain really last few weeks.

Big congratulations to lion- best of the luck for your dating scan and the next 7 months!

CD 12 and a flashy face on a CB opk. I'm really hoping for a positive this month.

Enjoy the sunshine everyone- let's have a positive summer of bfps!

Good luck red :). xx

lion what an incredible story, congrats!

Congrats to temp too, I hope you both have a plain sailing from now on!

Sorry to see you here fellow Carrot, I didn't know you had a mc,

Nothing to report here, AF due next week, not feeling anything in particular. Although I did have a baby brain moment a few days ago, which was actually my first "symptom" in last pregnancy. Not holding my breath though...

Just had a bfn on a superdrug hpt ... So that's a good sign. No signs whatsoever of ov'n yet so guess I'm in in for the long haul this month as d&c was 16 days ago. Joyous!

fingers crossed for more symptoms carrot!

How are you feeling mummy?

Thanks drifting and keys for your responses ... It's a really weird time at work and I sort of would feel daft saying something now if you see what I mean. It sounds stupid, but I don't want them to know we are planning a new addition as I know it will effect the way they are with me. It took a year to catch with my daughter so could be a while yet before any announcements. feel like I'm being a right diva!

I'm going through a phase of obsessing over age gaps between dd and hopeful future baby. It's really stressing me out as I dont want a huge age gap. Strange thing is, we weren't even ready to start trying when I 'accidentally' caught just before mc. There's no pleasing me! I know, I sound totally stupid .

Honey I know what you mean saying something now and people will be talking every month is she isn't she and just brings back more the hurt.
Yea thats great you got a negative. The first response for me comes out positive still but the cheap ones and the one the doctor uses all came back negative I must admit I dont know if you felt this also I felt so sad when the one line come up relieved but very sad.
The best way to conceive is not planning haha it happened to me as well so now I have started planning this one its going to be a few months for me but after the d+c you just never know what effect its going to have on your body. Lots of success stories on here though.

I think I am ovulating but im really unsure I bleed for a few days as well friday and saturday but who knows what that meant.
Hand holding with you hun xx

carrot Keeping everything crossed for you xx

honey congrats on you bfn... Sorry to hear both about work and about the age gap worry. Try not to let that worry you too much - I'm sure whatever it is will work out fine once it actually happens. There are 10 years between me and my bro....!

drifting red and disney CD9 here so not far behind you guys... red I'm loving your positivity! FX for a bus full of bfps!!

carrotpuff hope the next week flies by for you!

Thanks keys and ibeka, it's really comforting to 'speak' to people who understand. I did have a little cry whilst making Dd's breakfast this morning. Think it's just the roller coaster of the last few months hitting home. I hated ttc so much last time as put myself under so much stress and I'm adamant I'm not doing it again ... But it's so hard not to become obsessed! Hopefully you are ovulating keys and can hopefully get your body back to normal.

I'm not sure why I'm stressing, dd isn't quite yet 3 and I've really not felt ready for another until now ... Plus the fact we wouldn't have been able to afford it any sooner anyway! Crazy hormone lady I think! You just find yourself doing the age gap calc when you see people iykwim!

Dd slept in until 10am last today so all feeling a bit fresh today! All still in pjs on sofa watching kids films ... She's just at that age where she has started to sit and watch stuff so it's nice to have a snuggle!

honey sorry about work stresses. Try not to worry too much about age gaps. My DS will be 7 in September! Just think, the older they are, the more they will be able to remember of their sibling growing up and can be very helpful too. I feel like I've turned a bit of a corner, very cautiously as I'm sure I will relapse and be a mess again soon. I am feeling positive about trying again too. The bleeding has stopped and got a very nearly bfn on a IC. Plus we dtd last night and this morning - for fun!

Hugs all round to everyone x

mummy I think we all are going to relapse hun and get upset dont be hard on yourself its such a hard time right now. I am glad to hear you got close to your OH again sometimes their comfort in that way makes you feel so much better when your feeling down and teary.

Thanks mummy, you are so right, it really doesn't matter! Glad you are feeling more positive and enjoy practicing

Hello everyone, am 40, have DS aged 5 and have had two MCs in the last six months. I'm currently in that two week waiting period before AF is due... Trying not to fixate but it's hard.

Sending love and fertility vibes to you all xx

mama hi and welcome to the group. Sorry about your recent MCs - it must have been extremely hard to have two close together. Fingers crossed for you this cycle. I have no advice about not fixating - I am terrible in the 2ww!

honey I totally empathise about the work thing. I hate people knowing that we are ttc - I feel like its the elephant in the room whenever I talk to them. I can just about cope with friends/family, but work is very different. Very jealous of your 10am lie in! don't think either of my kids have ever slept that late. I feel you about age gaps. I'm worried as I have 2 years between my kids, now there will be 3 years and counting (if I manage to get pg) between my DS and a new baby. I worry that it will be very 2 and 1, if that makes sense. However, there are benefits to a bigger gap - it was tough having two so close together. I honestly think there is no right or wrong age gap - there are pros and cons to all. Also there is 6 years between me and my sister - we are very close.

mummy glad you are feeling positive! that's great about heading towards the bfn and double yay for dtd!

keys how are you? have things settled down a bit now? fingers crossed for you

red and ibeka love the positivity!

carrotpuff fingers crossed for you next week. So are you the next to test?! I need to live my poas addiction through others at the moment.

CD12 here and not much to report. No definite signs of ov yet (although tend to ov around CD17) although starting to feel like heading towards it. Trying to keep positive but feeling a bit despondent of late. Was flicking back through previous cycles and although a few months we did not time dtd well, there were a few that were pretty bang on and yet it still didn't happen. I feel a bit like "what's the point" which is ridiculous as clearly I know what the point is. I just want to be pregnant so badly, but I just cannot bear to get my hopes up again as the disappointment each month is becoming too hard. Ugh! I just need to give myself a slap and get on with it - just a tedious part of the cycle waiting for ovulation. Although I have been feeling very up for dtd of late frantically googling if this is an ovulation symptom which is all good

Right, no more moaning. Must be positive! Hope everyone has had a good weekend.

I know how you feel drifting cd12 today for me and despite lots of cramps yesterday which last month gave me a strong positive on a opk I've not even a hint of a lh line - I've definitely not missed as tested twice a day (once with monitor in morning) and with ic in afternoon. Just hoping it happens soon and I'm not going to have another annoying weird cycle.

But on the positive we've been dtd lots just on case which is always fun!

How's everyone else? Did you get a solid smiley red

I've been using OPKs since the MC mid May just to work out what'd going on. I got my positive OPK over the weekend so hopefully have timed things ok. No ov pains though - both times I've been pregnant I've had right sided ov pains...

mummy glad you're feeling a bit better

hello mama fx crossed for you

Hello ladies, some of you I have had some much needed support from which I greatly appreciate. So I had an ERPC 3 weeks ago after a very long and drawn out mmc (failed to completely mc naturally, medical management failed twice, ended up with very small retained products that wouldn't budge!) Had a suspected infection a week after and spent 2 weeks in bed after the Op.

Was dreading ttc again, feel that mc has sucked all the naivety and excitement out of possible future pg's.......what I had once looked forward to I am now terrified by (being pg).......Anyone feel the same? Feel so alone.

Anyway, last week I knew I ovulated as had headache, dizziness, sickness, bloating etc...and was feeling very in the mood . We gave it a go, but it seems like such a military operation now. Not sure if we caught the eggy as our attempts didn't always go to plan! But am now in the ttw and am driving myself bonkers symptom spotting!!! My dh says I'm getting a bit obsessed with it all, and perhaps I am. But I feel like I've learned so much about the female anatomy lately. The last few days I've been welling up over the most stupid things, have been snappy, headachy, tired, spotty. Have tested on two of the hospital type preg tests and bfn's so far...but not due on till Sunday so may just be too early? What's going to do my nut in, is that my period may be late anyway due to mc and ERPC, so wondering if I am or aren't is going to drive me crazy!

I was directed here by a kind lady from a mc thread I was on, and have spent some time on the other thread trying to help other ladies who are now in the same place that I was in, as I felt I was really supported in 'my' time of need.
But now is the time for me to come here and try and start a new chapter. Fc this thread will bring me some baby dust and a bfp! HELLO LADIES x

Hello all

Whilst I'm ttc number one I totally understand about worrying about age gaps. I'm now 35 and a half and had I not had my mc I would have had my first at 35. In my head, I would have had my second at 37 and my third at 39. That's all gone to pot and is very silly anyway!

On day 3 of flashy smileys. In pre mc days I would expect a positive this coming Thursday. Really hope I get one this month. I'm trying temping this month too. I'm worried that the mc has rendered me infertile!

disney, drifting, ibeka- anyone ov'd yet? Sorry if I've missed the info I haven't been on here for a couple of days.

Hi to everyone!

Hi allmy sorry for your loss and welcome. Totally understand all the anxiety and feeling like it's a military operation rather than fun - we all go through it here - we'll all get there in the end

red no ov from me yet - hoping it comes soon and we get a chance to try this month.

Who's next to test?

Hello ladies,

Is it alright to join you?

I've just had it confirmed that I've had an early misscarriage, started bleeding at 5 weeks, last monday. Although I found it really upsetting when the bleeding started, I think I knew something wasn't right even before I was officially pregnant. Suprised myself how revlieved I was when the doctor confirmed it was complete misscarriage due to negitive urine test and didn't need to scan.

Bleeding stopped yesterday, so have come home and ordered a load of cheepy ovulation tests from amazon. We're hoping to try again right away, despite being advised to wait until next AF for dating and to know I'm ovulating, but got the feeling it was mostly for dating. Thinking if I'm vagly awear of when I do ovulate it will give a rough idea of date if we fall pregnant again quickly. But really just want to see what happens.

We fell pregnant on our first month of trying after I had the coil removed. We've got a 2 1/2 year old dd, who I'm looking forward to taking to the park and shops this afternoon, after spending most of last week cooped up.

Paws welcome over from the 'Headwreck' thread. I find it hard not to keep popping back on there to offer help and support but I'm trying to visit less and less as sometimes hearing all the sad stories just bring back my own experience and I think about it all over again. This thread is hopefully the right path !

I know we all have our obsessions on here like age gaps etc ? Well mine is stupid really........ I feel like I was pg at the perfect time for me as I wanted to be pg over the summer to increase vitamin D. Now that we had the mc I feel like I want to wait til December/Jan to conceive but that's just daft to wait !! Also I don't want to have April as the birth month because my family seem to have bad luck in April - even more silly !!

DP says I think too much and worry about everything - he says I'm scared of life ! That's probably a little bit true but since the mc I'm even worse !!