TTC after MC#6 - the lucky one for all of us!

[Romeolovesjuliet]

New thread. Hoping for lots of lovely BFPs over the coming weeks

Hey ladies, sorry to see you are feeling low today, it is just such an emotional time and crying is sometimes the best thing to just get those emotions out so allow yourself to do that if you need to.

Keys maybe going away would be a good distraction, DH and I did lots of day trips while I was off work and it really helped. But I understand you would be missing DH and his support.

Disney so sorry af has arrived, hopefully your LP is just short due to the Wtf cycle and hormones getting back to normal. Get yourself some comforts, all your fave things and lots of cuddles...and obvs wine!!!

Mega no more spotting for me! Wtf cycle is really Wtf is going on for me?!

Has anyone else had some spotting (1-2 days) almost 4 weeks after d&c then nothing and had to wait even longer for af to arrive?? It was 4 weeks yesterday since my d&c. Had spotting on Monday evening and the tiniest bit on Tues. Now nothing! What is going on?!!!!!!

I just added up and it's 7 weeks today since my erpc - blimey !!

Mama do you know when/if you ov'd? Could it have been implantation?

keys - good luck too lovely x

I hear you Mama I'm so having wine tonight ... With a big pile of ironing! Hopefully it's just your hormones settling done that's causing the funny cycle ... Fx it sorts itself out for you!

I was going to could it be implantation bleeding hun? maybe worth doing a cheapy if no sign of af next week I do wish you all he luck in the world for a bfp xxx

Thanks Romeo/Honey/Keys. I don't think I have ovulated as was still testing positive after the mmc (last pos test was 10th may) then didn't test again until yesterday and got bfn. But we haven't dtd since 9th May as DH has been away with work. But I guess with that research I put on here that it could be possible to ovulate with low-ish levels of hcg that are still being detected on preg test.

I don't know. I dare not to even think that it could be implantation bleeding as it took almost 2 yrs for our last bfp so I wouldn't even be getting myself in to the mindset (lies....it has crossed my mind...) I should not allow myself to think such a thing!!!!!

I'm sure it's all hormone related due to the Wtf cycle and nothing more. I just hate that it is similar to how I got my bfp as I had spotting for 2-3 days then nothing for 4 days and they got my bfp (I usually spot right up to af for about 5 days). My body is playing cruel tricks on me and I refuse to play this game.....AF is coming! I must accept the inevitable!

Awwww babes my heart goes out to you im crying because im sad for all you guys aswell this is torture for us all this is so not fair. so much hurt behind our strength its unbelievable xxx

Need to stop crying at work - so embarrassing. I rang the miscarriage association at lunch as I was worrying about such a short luteal phase and they helpfully said some people get back to normal quickly and some never do - so now I'm panicking that it will now always be like this and I won't get the chance to ever get pregnant again

I know that's probably irrational and likelihood is it will get back to normal but I'm so scared it will take ages and at 35 I don't have that long

Disney, it is so early to know what's happening cycle wise for you but I understand your worry. I'm sure your cycles will settle again. I had a short LP and vit b6 and b100 complex sorted it out so wait and see how your next 2 cycles go (but hopefully get a bfp instead) and if still short LP try those vitamins. Try not to worry too much, I know that's easier said than done but it's probably all the emotions from your mc and getting your first af that are making you upset so the LP is worrying you more. Try to do something nice over the wkend to take your mind off things, it's so hard and I know soon as my af arrives ill find it difficult to even take my own advice. I will likely be a mess too.

I agree and be the same its the hurt of having a baby there then losing it then having so many hopes up of reading how quick ppl fall the month they mc to then yourself getting af after the mc!!!! its heartbreaking and so unfair and every emotion your feeling we all understand. its not fair huni its just aint im hurting for you all. as i said we try to be so strong but with our trauma is it possible?

Oh disney I'm sorry about AF. Try not to panic about the LP though-the wtf cycle is exactly that and may bear no relation to what will happen going forward. Did you do opks and/or temping this month? (Or was it you asking about temping). I think there is a variation in how soon after a positive Opk women will ovulate so doing both gives a better picture of what is happening. I've read a lot about short LPs as I seem to have one too since the MC. There seems to be lots of women in whom vits have made a difference and led to bfps, but I also read a published scientific article about the 'clinical irrelevance of luteal phases' or basically there is not brilliant evidence that it impacts on fertility. My advice would be to give it a couple of cycles with charting so you can have a clear idea of what is actually happening and then you can think about upping your B vits if necessary (but you'll probably have your bfp by then anyway). I know it's hard, we all have dark days. Try to keep positive and see this as one step closer to your bfp and future baby.

mama thinking of you too-hope your wtf cycle sorts itself out very soon

Disney - I'm so sorry about AF, what a bump down to earth. Please try not to worry, I'm sure things will be back to normal next cycle. This is the WTF cycle for a reason, it's not just a clever name! This cycle is messing with all of our minds! Fingers crossed for some normality for everyone soon. Have a biscuit I'll have one too .

Disney if it reassures you I had no break between my mc bleed and AF - went from light bleeding Into full blown AF in my wtf cycle. Last 2 cycles have been pretty normal though. So really anything goes, try not to worry.
So, AF is due Sunday maybe Monday and it's my wedding anniversary on Sat. I've not been drinking at all but would like to have a couple of glasses to celebrate this weekend - assuming I'm not pregnant which I'm 99.9% sure I'm not. Would you test just to rule it out or just wait for AF? I really hate seeing BFNs but I would feel so guilty if I drank and then found out I was...

romeo hun honestly hun n drink throughout pregnancy not knowing they are huni. defo test before hun though babes fx foru xxxx happy weedding anniversary xxx

*wedding sorry baby on lap xxx

I would have a couple of drinks and pray for Sod's law to make an appearance

I'd probably test to be sure or you won't enjoy the drinks and you deserve a nice weekend for your anniversary.

I've calmed down now - sorry for being rubbish. I think it just took me by surprise - no AF symptoms and I normally get loads - but it's the wtf cycle I guess.

Back to PMA!!

Yes disney! PMA!!!!! :) and your not rubbish, your just like the rest of us- overwhelmed, emotional and not sure Wtf is going on! But it's ok, we are in this together! And there is no judgement on here.

Crampy and had a random bit of bloody cm....af is def coming...just wish it would hurry up now!

Just panted a plant and played twinkle twinkle little star let off some balloons. Im so heartbroken I just want the pain to ease xxx

Awh keys, big hugs. That's a lovely idea though and is the beginning of the healing process. It really is heartbreaking, that is the only word that describes this completely and I remember everytime I was asked how I was in the early weeks, all I said was heartbroken. I hope you are getting lots of comfort and cuddles x

And the pain will ease, you will never forget but the pain will ease. I remember feeling that the pain would never ease, but it has a lot. Time will heal things, but for now take it easy and make sure your being well looked after.

I'm so sorry that many of you are feeling down atm. Have a virtually unmumsnetty hug from me. xxxx

To those who are looking for ways to remember their babies, I bought myself a lovely butterfly pendant that I now wear everyday. I got the idea from a website that sells jewellery specifically made for those who have miscarried or lost children.

I'm not particularly religious but I also believe that, one way or another, my baby's soul will live on. Either as another baby or as a soul in heaven. Either way she was part of me and still is. It has been proven that a woman's body carries foetal cells in the cells of her body for the rest of her life. Even more impressive is that these cells can help a woman fight illness.

thats so lovely was going to get a star tattoo as when i look at they sky i c my babyxxx i am hun no other words can describe it im heatbroken xxx

That's a great idea keys. I felt a lot better once I'd decided what to do. Part of my sadness was at not having anything to remember her by.