Positive Decembr - All aboard for Santa to bring a BFP!!

[MrsMcJnr]

Well, I thouht I'd better start this thread as I am CD1 of my 6th cycle of trying for our very precious first baby. This is going to be a lucky and positive thread, I can feel it so I'm laying down the babydust now so that as you join me, you can collect your dose .

For those who join me, what are you doing differently this cycle?

Morning ladies! CD10 for me, CM is improving but my chances of conception are zip unless DH's mood improves . After the note and his positive responses, he came in late last night (he has a Spanish class on a Tues until 8.30) in a sad mood
(he gets in quite deep, sad, quiet moods and won't share what he is thinking, I've learnt not to ask as I'll always get some idea at some point from something he says). BDing was certainly not on his agenda. This morning, we were both able to lie in a bit and again, I was rejected. I didn't say a word but I felt so upset. When he got out of the shower he asked me not to be angry. I just hugged him. Not angry just upset . I'm feeling pretty low anyway, I haven't been paid and unless I get paid in cash before Friday all my dds are going to bounce, daren't mention it to DH, he has enough on his mind.

Not stressing just feeling a bit helpless as I can't improve either situation.

Flossam - that's a nice surprise about the money [gron] perfect time of year to receive a windfall. PMSL at DS, I might be being idealistic but kids must make your day with the funny things they do and say

Welcome Tor14 - I'm sorry about AF, we all know how you feel, it's always a disappointment when she turns up [hugs]. It's nice to have you with us though and I hope you get your BFP this cycle. I'm trying for my precious first nipper too. This is my 6th cycle of TTC.

Ready - I know what you mean about the tears, I've let them flow every cycle - wet an't I?

Cityangel - we are happy to have you visit us Sorry to hear you are feeling fed up, it is all consuming isn't it? The 2ww is hard but it also means that there is nothing you can do other than take care of yourself and stay positive All the things you are doing sound great and will be hugely beneficial to you both never mind the TTC angle. Remember, we cannot control when we conceive but we can control how we feel about it all until we do and you don't want to look back once you are pregnant and think that you wasted so much time worrying and putting your life on hold for no reason . Chin up chick!

Hello Natty of you getting that BD in! . Why not put your legs in the air and use the pre-seed on all the days you BD? you don't need to use the whole tube, 1/2 is fine. Hope it works out for you Natty

When DH was out last night, I was watching Maternity Ward on Living. I was in floods of tears each time a little premy baby was born. So fragile and tiny. Makes me hope that mine is a big, fat healthy one like some of the 10 pounders on the programme. My broody instincts are really kicking in, I would never have watched things like that before!

Oh I'm sorry MMJ about DH. Such a shame you feel you can't tell him about your problems - I'm sure he wouldn't want that. Is he home on time tonight? Is there anything you could think of to do to help improve his mood? Wouldn't always advocate pandering to moody chaps (mine can be one to say the least) but atm it is kind of important to have him on side eh? for you - hope he is feeling better soon (and you too).

Thanks Flossam third time lucky I suppose? makes me feel crap as a woman too when he rejects my advances, have to say. DH used to be randy all the time, now, I seem to have a higher drive than him even aside from TTC.

Natty - OH waiting result!!

Flossam - Sorry about your m/c (hug). Fingers crossed for you this cycle. I am pretty regular on 28 days too (although the last 2 cycles have been 27!!??)... will keep my eyes peeled for your result!

Cityangel - Keep your chin up flower! TTC is all about peaks and troughs I find. One minute I am positive and full of hope, the next I am convinced it will never happen and I'm down in the dumps. Fingers crossed, when is AF due?

MrsMc - (((((hugs))))) oh bless you. You really have got so much going on at the moment. Feel for Dh too, he must be so worried about his back, and letting you down. You shouldn't be carrying all the stress of not getting paid on your own. He would not want that. Don't feel crap as a woman, it's not you chick! It's stress. I was thinking yesterday, I get all upset when AF arrives... but DH must do too, he must wonder (like me) if something isn't working, or when it's going to happen. Your DH knows how much you want a baby (he does too) and probably feels like it might be him letting you down, and if you don't BD then you don't have to think there might be a problem cos that will be why you don't fall pg (does that make sense???) I think you need a heart to heart.

Thinking of all of you.

x

Hi Ready4, Mrs MC and Flossam and Natty I agree on the chilling out and cheering up I shall give it a good go

My AF is due on 23 Nov and I have been greatly cheered up today by our Nov BFPs and have resolved to patiently wait my turn!

Cityangel - Some of the non conception MNers could do with cheering up and chilling out huh!! What is all that about tickers and digging at our idea for some festive emoticons??? I am shocked that anyone would waster their time just to have a dig!!!

Fingers crossed for you on the 23. Would love for you to be added to the list of Nov BFPs! Exciting times for you. Be patient

no r in waste is there!!

Thanks for the support ladies. Booked myself a Reiki session on Sat. Don't know what it'll be like or if it will help but I got a free one so thought I'd go for it.

As a reiki sceptic (please don't cyberslap me!) I would be really interested MrsMcJnr in hearing your thoughts about it. I am not narrowminded so I can change my views on things

Good Ready - you are back here, don't let them wind you up, all it will do is stress you out. I'll let you know about the Reiki

thanks MrsMc - I know I should react, it's clearly what they hoped I would do. I just never understand why people have to go out of their way to belittle other peoples thoughts and ideas. Like I said, I am not a fan of those countdown things and the bling, but I would never say to someone who liked it that they shouldn't. IYSWIM?

LOL at me not knowing what a ticker was!! I genuinely thought that they were calling us tickers

shouldn't react. not should. Freudian slip there. it's just not the same as is it??

Good for you, I think they were in a way. I think that when you are TTC and going through what all of us are and opening yourself up and telling people really intimate things about yourself, it makes you very vunerable and I don't think people should take advantage of that. I think we should all take good care of each other and that is why I like these positive threads.

oops. couldn't resist another peek at the stressed thread... but I think I was nice and polite and calm. I feel it

Agree with you MrsMc - love the positive threads and the way we all look after each other!

Don't you mean another stab!? bad girl Not wading in to rescue you again though have to say PMSL at some of the comments and especially you rolling in the babydust! Ladies - sorry for this OTT chat - there is no need to go over there, nothing to see! Honest!

oops. Yes. Sorry totally hijacked this thread < ready steps up for another cyberslap as she knows she deserves it> I got a little kiss from Twiglett though, did you see

Who's being mean to you? I am feeling very protective over my new TTC buddies.

I have completely lost my calm karma. Please let me describe my cycle pattern, and tell me whether you think I'm missing my ov?

I'm on CD10, and just starting to get EWCM. On the basis of previous months I'm expecting watery FM over the next few days, and ov pain and LH at the weekend. Temp should then go up a few days later. Do you read this as me ovulating at the weekend? So It'll be OK to imsem on Fri, yes? I won't miss my ov if I don't insem tonight, no? Please help, I'm going insane wibble

cyberslap, please

Impatience - keep that karma lady! Have you had EWCM so early before? - some get it for 4 or more days prior to OV. how are your temps now in the scale of your pre OV temps? Weekend sounds likely to me. Will come back.

Thanks Mrs. (whimper - tries to recover professional self) This is a bit early, but perhaps my cycle will be a bit shorter than normal. Still, I usually have about 4 days before LH. But... I HAVEN'T CONCEIVED YET SO HOW DO I REALLY KNOW WHAT MY BODY'S DOING?

Where's an emoticom for having a complete stress?! A mix of and

Oh no, am being dragged off for a meeting! It's a bit late. Now where did I put that functioning brain...?

so need to stay on here and be slapped about

Hello everyone,

I havent been around for a while, but Ive been having the odd cheeky look to catch up. I really just wanted to say hi and that Im still ttc, still on clomid, CD2 today.

A big sprinkle of babydust to Mrsmcjnr, Natty, Coggy etc. Lets hope santa is feeling generous with the bfp's

baby dust to all

dd1

Impatience, try to relax honey! I'm not an expert at all, but from what you've said it sounds like a weekend OV to me, so insem tonight could be too early and Friday should be fine. But it sounds to me like you've got your body pretty sussed, and you just need to trust it!

Hope you found your brain in time for the meeting Maybe book yourself a good long soak in the bath this eve? Some candles? A good book/film/whatever floats your chilled-out boat?

Mmm, maybe I should take some of my own medicine too

Welcomme DD1!

Can anyone tell me what pre seed is btw (from a few posts this morning)? (she says, showing her ignorance )

DD1 - lovely is 'see' you again, hope you are well. Thanks for the babydust throwing it right back at ya.

Geek - Pre seed is a sperm friendly lubricant. You use it if you don't get much EWCM, helps the little swimmers.

Congrats to you lucky ladies

Can anyone shed some light on ovulation times? I had some brief ovulation pains last week on CD11, so we thought whey hey lets get dooown to it!!! Then yesterday on CD17 I had the same pains again and this time my skin has errupted in spots, so it does tie in with ovulation. Am I ovulating twice - is it possible or do I have a v.dodgy tummy coming on?? Maybe I have got my timings all wrong and am ovulating far later in my cycle than I the OTK have predicted

Help

Geek: Thank you! I am going to have a nice candlelit bath, with a glass of red wine. In that bath I shall not be allowed to think about timings or plan anything. Pure chilled-dom.

1n2s: My ov pain often goes on for a few days. I got really paranoid about this and spent many hours on the internet and didn't find anything that told me this was bad. Noone really knows what it is. Some think it's the pressure of the growing follicle , others think it's the follicle juices aggravating the surrounding tissues. The scientist in me thinks this is easy to determine: surely the first would happen before ovulation and the second after? So perhaps you're having both!

Anyway, I'll do what I'm told and go have that bath. That's the nicest cyber slap I could have had