Positive Decembr - All aboard for Santa to bring a BFP!!

[MrsMcJnr]

Well, I thouht I'd better start this thread as I am CD1 of my 6th cycle of trying for our very precious first baby. This is going to be a lucky and positive thread, I can feel it so I'm laying down the babydust now so that as you join me, you can collect your dose .

For those who join me, what are you doing differently this cycle?

sorry popped of to watch im a celeb!! i know what you mena about posting if i post about m/c or termination it seems to kill the thread so i dont do it on any boards now unless its that "type of Board"

I am on day 15 - we bd last night and dh is away until friday but i dont normally ov until 18/19 so important time for us will be over the weekend trying to relax and be calm but well, you know excatly how it is. Last time i was chilled out i did fall preg! I was drinking red wine 2 days before i found out!
Despartley want to be preg but also very worried if it does happen. Our time will come Mrs x please try and keep smilingxxxxxx
well done on your weight loss xx

MrsMc, your final year at uni just wasn't the time for you to have a baby. That's now a long time ago and you're now in a completely different stage of your life, so your choices then shouldn't be expected to have any bearing on your desires/beliefs/lifestyle etc now. Plus, I don't think ovaries, womb linings and hormonal systems use the 365day calender, do they?

I can completely understand why you'd worry about being kicked in the teeth by circumstances, because it'd hurt. But there is no reason why your termination should affect your chances of conceiving this month. Poor you for feeling down about it. You really have been having a tough time lately!

Greedy, I'm so sorry we entered a discussion about baby sleeping that made your dd wake up! ds is 15months, and has never been a good sleeper. We were never happy to let him cry, and loads of people told us we were setting ourselves up for trouble. So perhaps they're right! dp still can't bear to hear him cry but I think he is getting old enough to understand quite a bit when I say It's time to be asleep, and I love you but I'm going to bed now. Of course, I then get into bed to have him still crying and dp then berating me for letting him cry, so then we usually snipe at eachother, and ds stops crying to listen, and then when we stop sniping and relax thinking he's gone to sleep he starts crying because there's nothing to listen to! Er, still think we're doing the right thing trying to get ourselves any/more babies?

MrsMC its natural to have those thoughts but you did what many people do in similar circumstances. You made your choice and it was the right thing for you at the time albeit very difficult.
However hard you need to move forward and be positive. I agree with everything pinkranger and impatience said. You musn't worry about something in the past that you can't change and you seem to have a nice supportive dh and lots of reasons to be happy and positive moving forwards
Its nice that you can share something so personal with us and I hope we help. It's a shame I can't wizz up to Scotland and give you a big hug! Chooster you're nearer you can do it for me

MrsMcJnr - don't think you're alone with those 'confessions' either... so many people I know had terminations in their younger days (including me). I was talking about mine earlier with a friend, coincidentally, but I really don't think there's any point trying to put yourself in your 'younger' position and beating yourself up over decisions made. Whatever you may think now, it seemed like the best decision at the time.

AF due for me on Friday, my tests from Access Diagnostics still not arrived although probably for the best! My TCOYF book arrived today; it's pretty bloody big though! Bit daunting to start reading. I've had unbelievable cramps & really sore boobs for about 10 days - much more than normal.

Being on this site has really calmed my expectations though - I really can't believe that I'll be pg this cycle as we haven't tried that hard. It's all new for us, but hopefully next cycle will start charting properly and have more of a clue as to what we're doing!

Best of luck to all those (inclduing me!!) testing over the next few days. xx

Awww, MMJ - no-one would judge you sweetie! Lots of women make the same choices, and you say yourself it wasn't the right time. There should be no reason for that to be going against you now.

Ready,yes I am Flossam. Not been farting as much today, but then I have been working all day and frankly I just don't have the time too!! BD'ing sounds plenty to me.

I am in a foul mood atm it seems. DP can do no right. I can't figure out if it really is him being a complete git or me being hormonal and giving him hell... Poor Sod.

Impatience, you will be testing soon won't you? Fingers crossed!

Hello everyone else I will try to post properly tomorrow if I make it on!!! Off to bed now. Night!

I cant remember which cycle day Im on!

Eekkkkkkkkkk If I dont know that how will I get obsessed about which day a test could possibly work!

Just popping in really quickly to thank you all for your tremendous support and affection, all gratefully received the things you have said to me about timing, choices and blame are all things I would say to anyone else who'd done the same but I guess you can't escape your own nasty little voice can you!?

Hope you are all feeling ok. So many of us are getting really, really close, I do so hope all of you make it and get your BFPs. Temps sank this morning by .3 Speak Later.

beccadeccarolypoly - if you dont know which day you are on that is BRILLIANT!!!! it means you havent let ttc take over your life completely like the rest of us have. well done!

mrsmcspink - i am sure the choice you made was the right choice at the time, there is no need to feel bad about it (easier said than done, i know) NOW is the right time for you, it WILL happen, don't worry. and if it doesn't happen this month it isn't a punishment in anyway.....just coincidence.......DON'T BEAT YOURSELF UP ABOUT IT!!!!! JUST CHILL OUT AND RELAX AND GET ON THE FIRST PLANE DOWN HERE TO STOP ME DOING A PG TEST!!!!!! the temptation today is even stronger!!!!!!!!!! i am so weak.

hello king of bods, nice to hear from you. hope you are feeling ok. have you broken the news to many people yet? glad to hear i am not the only evil australian mother! it worked a treat for me too!!!!!!

perve - hope you had a better night last night with ds. my dd only did one cry out while i was on here as a kind of warning, and then i didnt hear from her again. phew!!!!! they both had a lie in this morning too!......till 7.30am!!!! i cant believe i call 7.30 a lie in now!!!!!! i never used to get up till 11am! how things change hey?!

sparklybluetreeislush - i love your new name, i am thinking of changing mine too!

ready, oh ready!?........where are you? (see.....i NEVER forget you!_)

crossed posts mrsmcspink. sorry about temp, but dont read too much into it yet!

Morning MrsMc and Becca

MrsMc - I know how you are feeling because I did exactly the same thing in the same circumstances but 10 years ago. I have been thinking about it a lot recently too, for obvious reasons really including ridiculous panic that they will have done something to me at the time to make me unable to have another child. Obviously I know this is unlikely but sometimes it's hard to think rationally. I know it was the right decision for me at the time and I'm sure you feel that too but you can't help feeling what if.... Anyway hope you are feeling beter today and that you get your BFP this time

MrsMcJnr - my temp also dropped by 0.3C this morning, and AF is due tomorrow - I'm feeling extremely cranky, with sore boobs & cramps... was pretty convinced AF was on the way. Just did an Ultra test and it's a BFN

Even though it's early days for me, it's hard not to get down about it all.

Hi guys,
CD4 for me, hope to start BDing soon.
I read recently that 1 in 3 women will have a termination at some point in their lives.
MrsMcJnr- You are not alone in your feelings. I had a termination when I was 17, and although I deeply regret being in that position at that time, I have not regretted the choice I made then. I now have two DC, and of course the feeling of, what if..? never goes away.
I just wanted to say, that you will be surprised how MANY women have had the same experience, and feel the same way as you do.

On a lighter note, I am committed to BDing every night this month- not sure whether DP is though!!

Good luck to all who are approaching testing time. Fingers crossed.

hi Honeyapple - exactly, it is amazing how many women have been through this. I guess it's just that we don't generally talk about it. I work in adoption and we always say to adoptive parents that when they get their adoptive child placed it often brings up strong feelings/grief about their children that they couldn't/didn't have (for whatever reason)I guess it's similar TTC brings up feelings/emotions that can sometimes surprise us.

You go girl on the BDing!!!

Hi xcharlotte sorry you are feeling so low today still early days for us TTC too but hard to be patient all the time.

See MrsMc, noone thinks badly of you, of course you could speak freely on here Sorry you're wibbly because your temp dropped (and Charlotte too), but it might always be a blip. I know it is hard not to read into these things, but it still aint over yet! Mrs, you still up for a sunday test? My af isn't due till Mon, but I don't think I can wait till then!

My temp is still up, but I am cursed with an excrutiatingly long LP: 16 days, sometimes 17! It's cruel to make me wait sooooo long! Also have v v sore boobs, am very tired and very hungry. But my boobs always get sore pre af, and I am always tired and starving - I eat sooo much, I don't know how we'll afford to keep me if I get pg and breastfeed! I'm feeling a bit crampy, so kind of expect it to be af cramps, but still keep remembering my own advice so keep ignoring them.

Greedy, ds was a complete darling for us last night and slept through - everyone have a drink of your choice to celebrate! It's a rare occurance. Guess he wore himself out the night before! And he also slept till 7.30, which is a lie in for us too, although poor dp was out of the house by then. I actually had a cup of tea in bed. I cling to the smallest of treats these days

Hi MrsMcJnr. Just wanted to say that I've been keeping quiet up until now because I haven't been through a termination, so can't possibly know what that's really like. But I didn't want you to think that silence from people who haven't been in that position is an indication of horror or disapproval! So just wanted to say that of course I support you and sympathise as much as I can... Must be completely natural that you're thinking about it now, but just try to focus on how wonderful and healing it would be if you were successful this month! And it's so lovely that you felt you could talk about it here. (sorry if any of that came out wrong - I'm a geek, not always good with words!)

Hugs and babydust to everyone getting nervous about approaching test dates, I can't wait to see who gets their BFPs this month!

Hey December ladies - just wanted to pop to say hello and GOOD LUCK for the next few days - there seems to be loads of you testing.

MrsMcj - As has been said before you are not alone with those feelings - I know it doesn't take the feelings away but hopefully it'll make them feel more normal. When I had problems with my last pregnancy I remember crying to my DH that it was retribution for the termination I had when I was younger - but we only do what we think is right at the time and this is no reflection on anything thats happening with you now. I'll give you a hug from me and one from cityangel when i see you tomorrow

Impatience - Your post could have been mine!!! I used to hate hearing my DS crying, and DP and I were constanntly bickering with each other in the night about leave him / don't leave him! It was around the age your DS is now that I thought I've got to try something else and did controlled crying - but kind of a gentle version. I'd go and see him and then leave, then go back in then leave, then go back in {repeat 150 times the first night, then only a few time the next few nights....} I think he just started to get bored!!!!! After about a week he was sleeping through (or at least didn't cry if he woke up) and now he can even sleep in til 9am sometimes - It does get better.

mrs mc j - you made the right decision at the time. even if af does turn up today, its just coincidence. i know what you mean, i make those links too - my current fave is wishing i'd remained a virgin till i got married as i'm concerned that by not doing so i've 'damaged' my baby making bits. total illogical!

hope you're alright. you shock us all when you're downbeat. hope hubby is okay?

me, i'm glad i'm not yet pregnant right at this mo as i was on a flightback from moscow on 26 oct which is on the list. had a 2 day af which seems to be tailing off today, but doctor did a pee stick test when i phoned and of course bfn. i felt like saying, surprise surprise. but phew. was vomitting tues a'noon and pounding head but seems to be a bug. no real news though from any of these sources
babydust to everyone else

Gosh female being on one of those flights is a bit worrying. I wish you and everyone lots of luck for a Christmas BFP

MrsMC hope you're feeling better. Personal question that you don't have to answer... I missed why you don't want to sell your house that's on the market?

I am CD7 today and to celebrate I taking dh to Bluewater. I don't want to risk taking him shopping when I am a bd bunny as he hates shopping!

Have we picked a date to go Blackpool yet?

Chooster, you give me hope! 9am would be such a delicious treat

Female, PMSL at damaging baby-making bits through pre-marriage sex. What were you doing?!

i never take Dh food or shopping when i need to bd and he can be in a foul mood for ages!!! Good Luck citya

Mrs Mc - hope that you are feeling more postive today

Female, CityAngel, what's this about flights on a list? Is this to do with the man being poisoned? I've had the news on in the background, but perhaps none of it went in!

Female, CityAngel, what's this about flights on a list? Is this to do with the man being poisoned? I've had the news on in the background, but perhaps none of it went in!

Apologies for double-post. Do you think my jittery thumb is an early pg sign? [wink}

I think I might have to test today rather than waiting until monday. Got metallic taste in my outh again and dringking pure peppermint tea has not helped.