'TTC after a miscarriage - new thread'

[Janus]

Well tried to add my bit to old thread and we have reached 1000 posts again!!
Chocolatepeanut, am so sorry for what you are going through, although you sound as if you are handling it well so far. Hope things aren't too bad for you in the coming days.
Rubles, sorry if AF does arrive, bloody bitch! My blood tests will be next week. DP sperm test threw up 'abnormal sperm' and he needs to go and discuss with the GP later this week although she did say it wasn't too much to worry about. Been meaning to start a new thread on this but haven't got around to it.
I'm looking for a yoga class to try and help me relax! Do think this whole TTC is stressing me out so much, I'm so conscious of age gaps, both our ages working against us, even worrying about if we do conceive in next couple of months as worked out it would be a July or August baby (my oldest is July born and is struggling bit with school etc). Part of me thinks it may do us all some good if I just stop ttc for a couple of months, then the other half panics about an even bigger gap, etc!!
How on earth do you all manage to relax about all this stuff??

Hello, I ttc straight away after m/c. M/c was in December (7 weeks but went on for another 3)and I so know what you mean about wasted time. Since I'm getting on (35 last month) I couldn't afford to wait so ttc again since af in Jan. Not lucky this time, but will keep trying. It is so hard not to be totally consumed with the idea of being pg for many women who have miscarried. I hope you are lucky soon xx

We had an enforced wait and Jan was our first cycle ttc again. I would have started trying straight away but we had booked a holiday over Christmas that would involve taking malaria tablets which of course you cannot do in the first trimester or whilst ttc. Some people are too scared to ttc again after a mc and others just want to do it at once. There is no right of wrong, just how you feel.

We started trying again immediately (well, I did - dh didn't realise 'cos he's clueless, but he wanted to wait for a bit). I didn't fall pg first time around and, being a rather impatient person, got really upset about it. I told dh that we would have to start trying seriously next month as he spent most of Jan being ill and not in the mood, but that's fortunately not necessary now.

BTW, both times I fell pg, after the first m/c and this time, I had no idea about when I would be ovulating, but watched out for the EWCM and then went home and jumped dh...

Hi Feedmenow,
I've had 3 mc's and know just how you feel about bd'ing again. I've just started ttc again since the last one. I quite often roll over with tears in my eyes after bd'ing. I fine it much easier to deal with when we bd at a time in the month when we're doing it just for fun rather than baby making. It's horrible how you can be enjoying yourself one minute and the next all your hormones and emotions take over.
I have just started acupuncture and had my 2nd session on last Friday. The first one didn't seem to do much, but when I left on Friday it felt like I was 10 stone lighter. I've recently been walking around with a big physical weight in my heart, yet on friday and pretty much since then, it has felt so much lighter and things seem so much more optomistic. It might be worth trying although it's not cheap so don't know how long I can afford to do it.
Good luck to all of you ttc. xxx

I am going to post one of these "just found
out that a very good friend of mine is 3 months pregnant". She didn't tell me because of all I went through. I am very happy for her but it caused a major relapse. Have been crying for hours now. I still haven't had a normal period yet (after m/c in Sep and 3 surgeries), so
not even close to TTC. Right now I just don't know if I can heal ever (physically and mentally).

Oh D4phne, I've seen on other posts what you've been through.
Heresfor2007, I've just started acupuncture too! Decided after m/c that I needed a bit of re-tuning, and the lady I've found specialies in fertility/pregnancy. Only had 1 session so far and am rather surprised! She said I would probably be really tired cos I'm so run down, but I've found totally the opposite! I'm usually really lethargic, but on Saturday we spent 2 hrs tidying the kids bedrooms (2 bl*y hours!!!) then washed my car inside and out (including hoovering!), THEN went to the park so the children could do some skating! Then on Sunday, I got up before 9am after being down the pub on Sat night and having not had the children for the night and actually DID stuff instead of just lazing around...I even got down on my hands and knees to scrub the kitchen floor. It could be coincidence, but it could be the acupuncture. And if it IS the acupuncture then WOW!

d4phne I am symatheise - my best friend is due in Aug 2 weeks after I was supposed to be.And there is a girkl who works at nusery who is due in July - oh god it is everywhere!

And today my dd brought home a book from the library all about pregnacy - a story book - god I wept! and to top it all off (won't bore you with the crapness of my day) my cat got runover and mayy need to be put down and dh has gone away for business! GREAT!

Oh no Cazzybabes, I'm so sorry

Well it's just bad news all around I think, when I got into work this morning, I found out that one of my colleagues (a very good friend) was in hospital after suffering a heart attack. He's only just celebrated his 50th, but he has been undertreatment for high BP and high cholesterol (it runs in his family, apparently). Very worried about him. Rang his dw this lunchtime to see how he was, she sounded very worried about him, but she's holding up okay I think. He's not out of the woods yet.

Well - there must be good news soon! I am praying the cat will make it - although I am not hopeful! And a baby this month - please please please if anyone is listening!

I hope you collegue is going to OK. 50 is so young!

I am, I sure hope your ickle puddy cat makes it!
Thinking of you xx

It's looking up for my colleague, they hope to move him from ICU to a general ward today, as he did have a good night. My boss is going to see him. He has been sat up and talking.

Just heard he has been moved. They are still waiting on teste results to see how much damage has been done on his heart, will try and see him later in the week.

Hello, I wonder if I can join in? I had a miscarriage last week at 6 weeks (my first pregnancy) (actually, am still 'having' it, will it ever end?). I'm rollercoastering around - yesterday I was really up and today I am really down, and what triggered it off is the knowledge that one of my colleagues is pregnant, two weeks more than I would have been, and I saw someone congratualte her and I had such a surge of jealousy, I've never felt it like that before. So now I am down and feeling guilty because really she is lovely and it is lovely that she is pregnant.

Now. Nurse told me not to try for another month, but some on the march thread have said that is just so they can date a subsequent pregnancy. Would I be putting myself/unborn baby in any danger if we slipped up and did conceive this month (whenever that may be)?

If these questions have already been answered, then I will find them - haven't read through all 867 messages yet!

Greenblock, so sorry about your m/c. If I knew back when I had my m/c what I know now I'd have gone for it straight away! I waited 3 months, general consensus, and am still trying 15 months later! However, that's just me, BUT, apparently, your body does have a surge of hormones after a m/c which can make it easier to conceive. There is no medical reason to not try straight away, yes, dating is easier. I don't think I was emotionally ready but if you are, I'd say go ahead. Good luck.

The nurse said she saw some 'ladies' who went for it straight away and were fine but also some who weren't and had another miscarriage, and she said they didn't know if it is related.
God, I'm impatient!

Hi all- I've been watching this thread and found it really helpful. I am new to all this-- I had a m/c at 12 weeks 4 months ago. I still haven't had a period and have been going mad. Has anyone experienced this?

Lulu- D4phne had a very experience of having such adhesions inside her uterus that her cervix was utterly blocked. She had periods, but the blood couldn't escape. I wouldn't say it was normal not to have had a period after 4 months. I think you should go back to your doctor.

Greenblock it's totally normal to feel like this, please don't beat yourself up. Whatever feels right for you about trying again.
Lulu - agree you should get checked out. Did you have any surgical intervention following m/c eg D&C?

Hi- thanks for chatting. Yes, I had a ERPC after the miscarriage. I feel really let down by the doctors. Is it normal to have scarring after? I just went for the ultrasound yesterday and that is when the dr said there was scarring. It just seems there are such delays...

That's a nightmare Lulu - I didn't realise you had already had an ultrasound - apologies. M/C aftercare is really non existant isn't it. It infuriates me that there is so little physical or emotional support. What did they say were next steps re: the scarring? Is there anything that can be done?

Yes- aftercare a nightmare. I still feel an emotional wreck after the miscarriage- just really thought I would be further along 4 months on. So the doc (who I am not sure I feel totally confident about) says to do a hysteroscopy to break up scarring and then to go on pill for 3 months to build up lining. The wait for the hysteroscopy is 4 months, so I feel time slipping by...

God, I'm so sorry. At least you have a course of action IFKWIM? It does seem like a long time though - how sad.
Not sure what to suggest on the consultant front, it is so important to trust and respect those people - your future is in their hands.

I am also 4 months post m/c although obviously not had any of your issues, I did have an infection after and felt nothing was explained to me. Hope someone else comes along with more info for you too. STx

Thanks for your thoughts. Poor you- I'm sorry for your miscarriage. My fingers crossed for you. It's just so hard as you try to bounce back and things keep knocking you back.

Hey Lulu & Strangetown, sorry about your losses. You are in good comapany here, we all understand what your are going through .
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Hi All
crazzy babs- sorry to hear about your cat, and sadness right now, hope all is ok soon.

Hello to the new people lulu- you poor hun, hope you are ok soon.

greenblock - My last m/c would have been due next week, and three babies have been born in family/friend circle this week. I'm happy for them, but find it a bit hard too, I always have friends/family pg at the same time as all 3 m/c. so alot of what if's and some jealously.

strangetown- I always waited one month, to give me emotional and physical healing, but i think you can ttc if you feel up to it.

How is Rahrah and Oinker long time no hear