'TTC after a miscarriage - new thread'

[Janus]

Well tried to add my bit to old thread and we have reached 1000 posts again!!
Chocolatepeanut, am so sorry for what you are going through, although you sound as if you are handling it well so far. Hope things aren't too bad for you in the coming days.
Rubles, sorry if AF does arrive, bloody bitch! My blood tests will be next week. DP sperm test threw up 'abnormal sperm' and he needs to go and discuss with the GP later this week although she did say it wasn't too much to worry about. Been meaning to start a new thread on this but haven't got around to it.
I'm looking for a yoga class to try and help me relax! Do think this whole TTC is stressing me out so much, I'm so conscious of age gaps, both our ages working against us, even worrying about if we do conceive in next couple of months as worked out it would be a July or August baby (my oldest is July born and is struggling bit with school etc). Part of me thinks it may do us all some good if I just stop ttc for a couple of months, then the other half panics about an even bigger gap, etc!!
How on earth do you all manage to relax about all this stuff??

I'm not surprised your are scared. But you are not alone, we are all here sending you lots of good vibes.
Personlly, I don't think I coiuld have got through what happened without Mumsnet, it has been very cathartic to be able to discuss (sometimes in too much detail!) what's been happening to me physically and how I've been feeling. You do feel restricted in real lifer, especially face to face, you see other people's faces in the look of unconfortable sympathy and you have the overwhelming urge to put a brave face on it to make others feel better. Here you can just let it out, and everyone here will support you and understand because they've been through it too.
Anyway, must dash, off to work.

thanks hun, have a good day x

Zimbojoules: no news yet. Still haven't talked to dh, although I'm planning to do so tonight. Haven't decided yet whether to test before I talk to him, or to do it afterwards.

Still feeling a very low level grade of queeziness/"heavy" stomache - barely enough to notice unless you were thinking about it. Not enough to put me off eating. No other symptoms.

Still really scared at the idea - yet this is what I had been wanting. Now I'm worried that it's the wrong thing to do.

NSH - poor you! Seems you are in a right quandary. Hope it all works out okay. I think I would be inclined to test and then tell dh. When I first feel pg, I felt queasy and had what felt like butterflies in my tummy, which actually was quite uncomfortable at times, it felt like they were industrial sized ones! So it could be a sign you are pg.

Babydust to you all

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Thanks!!

hello everyone

Notstoppedhoping - have you spoken to him?
I can't believe that you've been so restrained and you haven't taken a test?!

I have several friends and close family who have had 'additional' babies, later on in life, and none of them regret it. It's definitely not the "wrong" thing to do.

good luck with speaking to yr dh!

my news is that scan went well . perfect size for 9weeks 4 days. little one has heartbeat and moving around. just a few more weeks and then i'll feel that i can relax. after 2 missed m/c i didn't sleep well last night, but that could also have been due to the fact that our boiler's stopped working and i'm cold.

take care all

Hi ladies - hope you are all well! we have had a bit of good news - no baby yet but we have had an offer accepted on a house we like - it could still all fall through! We have yet to sell ours and surveyours etc but fingers crossed! And it looks like we can still afford to carry on TTC. God I really want to get pregnant soon - am reminded how horrid and yucky periods are (not that I want to get rid of mine forever - well in a baby pregnant sense). Anyway I now can't wait for it to be over and get bd - although dh is away at the best time - typical! But fingers crossed he will get back just as I ovulate and this egg will be a good 'un!

zimbojules - I am so happy for you! That is such good news. Being sick and tired (although horris) is a good sign. Both of my pregnanies I felt sick and was tired and both my mcs I was not!

thanks Cazzybaby - and good luck with the house purchase! that's great news too!

Congrats, zimbojules... How exciting!

NSH - I don't think there is ever a right time for a baby, they just happen or not as the case may be. I'm sure that if you do have another baby, it will be much loved by all of your family...

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Great news about the scan Zimbo ? you must be starting to be able to relax a bit?

Cazzybabs ? good news on the house sale ? hope the rest all goes as smoothly as possible!

Catbabymummy ? how you doing? Hope you are feeling more positive, now you?ve had the all clear.

Lissielou, I hope the scan goes well ? you?ve certainly been through a rollercoaster ride the last couple of weeks.

Anyone heard anything from D4phne or Oinker recently? Haven?t seen them around very much.

I?m doing ok ? still not relaxed, checking every weird feeling. Quite bad AF-like pains from time to time as well and may have some very light spotting at the moment. Going to call EPU next week, if not got worse before then, as no point having a scan until then as they won?t see anything until at least 6 weeks.

Hello to all I haven?t mentioned ? typing this discreetly at work and don?t have time for a full thread scan!!

Take care all
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Great news on scan zimbo. You must be relieved. Try to take it easy over next few weeks, then you can relax properly.

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Well, I didn't talk to me dh last night, as I had decided that I ouwld test first - and couldn't find the spare pregnancy test kit that I was sure I had from the last time.

Anyway, bought a kit at lunch-time and got a BFN. Must just be my hormones starting to go skew-wiff as I'm getting older and approaching the menoause.

Will still talk to dh sometime over the weekend.

Not sure how I feel: sad or relieved? Mostly sad - but at least it might help me begin to complete the grief process that ds will indeed be my only child.

Hey everyone, just a quick one to day hi! Hope everyone's okay

NSH - sorry to hear that. I am putting off testing myself at the moment because I am scared I won't be pg and will be devastated again... After two consecutive m/c, I am considering the fact that ds may be my only child which is a very sad prospect as far as I am concerned, so I can imagine how you might be feeling... Hope you have a good chat with your dh and he is supportive of you.

Beginning to think I must be pg! Not only have I not had any pmt, which is unusual for me, but I have been driving around in a haze (normally, I'm quite alert, but got dopey when I was pg with ds) and I just forgot to do a pg test when I went to the loo, despite taking a test up there especially!! If I'm not pg, then I'm losing my marbles...

It's all those extra hormones in your when your pg, they start killing off brain cells... Or maybe the baby doesn't grow it's own brain cells, it just nicks a few of yours

Finally summoned up the courage to do the test and I seem to be pg! Rang dh to tell him that he is going to be a father to four and couldn't remember where I'd put the pg test... Seems that pg head has kicked in super early this time...

I might try to get an early scan on the pretence of dating since I'm not sure when my last period was... Quite pleased, but of course now feeling nervous and dh is saying is there anything they can do - think he might be more nervous than me 'cos he hasn't done all the research...

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Thanks, firststar. Think I will definitely push for an early scan. Now that I know I am pg, I am actually feeling physically sick with worry... (Never had morning sickness yet.) Can't be good for me.

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Congrats Mumpbump... think happy thoughts!!

oh NSH sorry to hear your news

mumpbump - congrats on yr fab news!

this is quite a roller coaster for us all isn't it? tears of sadness and joy at the same time.

I am much more relaxed and quite relieved as result of the scan, thanks for all your good wishes!

hope you all have a good weekend xx