TTC and still breastfeeding? You're not alone! Thread# 2

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Marking my place...hoping I won't be here for long

Sorry, not through temping, through using OPKs (ovulation predictor kits)

I've been trying the ovulation tests but they're always negative. Haven't read through the whole thread but looks like the answer is to keep trying.

Whoever gets the next BFP has to start the BF whilst pregnant antenatal group! I will be waiting!

For those who asked I am planning on feeding DS for as long as he desires and hoping the nausea and sore nipples pass with the first trimester. I am willing to tandem if that's how thing go...

Sorry if this posts twice my app is being funny

Poor you ispy. Hope your dc are better soon & you can get some rest.

I think feeding to sleep is one of the best things about bf-ing. I have to feed dd to sleep every night or she takes ages to settle. It's like magic

Marysprayer sounds like you've had your work cut out with your lo. Glad it's got easier now though.

Glad I'm not the only one having trouble keeping up with the March bus! I post something then 10 mins later its moved on by about 50 posts lol! This group will definitely be easier to keep up with

Welcome spek. Hope this is a lucky month for you & us all!

Well done on feeding during your work conference, Puggle! my sister's colleague was going into work for important meetings while she was on mat leave with lo and feeding, I think it's great and that lady was bf'ing her 3 year old when she fell pregnant again, twice a day on the boob and expressing in between and she's older than me, if that helps anyone...

DD is asleep - hoping she sleeps through after last night. I can't keep up with her keeping 'student' hours anymore... it's made me question how I'd cope with lack of sleep if I had to take care another lo too after last night... I know we couldn't be as indulgent was we were first time found, feeding all night and sleeping whenever we could during the day, as I'd have DD to look after too.. ...I got used to functioning on only 2-5 hours sleep after I had DD and I would even breeze into the office and do a full day's work after a 'bad' night when I returned from mat leave, but lately I feel it's catching up with me... I guess you just get on with it though, don't you

Im so pleased to hear that many of you bf to sleep - I felt a bit embarrassed that DD couldn't/didn't want to go to sleep any other way. Our dentist advised me at DDs first annual check-up not to bf after brushing DDs teeth at night as there's sugar in milk, but we've just taken her for her second dental check up and her teeth are perfect and nothing was mentioned about the breast milk I'm glad I didn't take her 'advice' a year ago, or I'd have had even less sleep, lol x

Yep, I also fed to sleep. Why wouldn't you take advantage of the magic sleeping spell It always made me smile to hear formula feeding mummies say they were struggling settling at night. Made up for the fact they got to sleep through

Evening, jumping on from the march bus. I've been reading back on this thread and I can't believe I've only just found you all! So comforting to read about mamas in the same position as me. Still a bit teary from the weaning poem...
I have a 16mo ds who still feeds at bedtime and through the night. Desperately torn between wanting a new baby and not wanting to boot ds off boob before I am he is ready.

Spoke to my doctor today who said I could try to limit ds' feeds at night by popping him on when he beats me on the chest asks for milk but taking him off again after 30 seconds. If he is really hungry he will ask again and if he is just faffing around he will go back to sleep. Anyone else heard / tried this?

Stats are 37, ttc #2, cycle 2 (but no idea if ovulating - CBFM says nooooo), af came back when ds was 15 months, feed to sleep at night and through the night ( he jumps in bed with us if he wakes after midnight and usually stays there).

Hello Giddy ?? I sooooo know how you feel. I've only just stopped the 7pm feed 7 days a go myself. Only just feel OK about it. Took me a week I think I've been too harsh on myself, after all I have been feeding at 7pm for 21 months... of course it is normal for me to feel sad!! Anyway, I think your doctors advise sounds sensible. How do you feel about trying it?

Hello speculates. To make it easier for me if you want me to add you to the stats would you mind filling this in (applies to anyone else who wants to be added to the stats):

Name:
Age:
TTC number:
Cycle TTC:
Dc: -- mths
Bf story:
AF (period) returned when Dc hit ...
Bfp due:

Oh pear I feel really sad about it too! Oh doesn't understand why I'm procrastinating - time to try for another is not on our side - but I have the fear that I will lose my precious bond with my boy. I know that's ridiculous and I never ever planned to feed this long, but still sat in the sofa in tears just thinking about stopping. Someone shake me!

Giddy - I too was worried about the bond. Honestly...nothing has changed. He still calls shouts my name "Ma", still has that gorgeous grin for me, just as cheeky and demanding as ever, he still needs constant cuddles, he still likes me to cuddle him before putting him in his cot. I've kept the routine the same except now we read a story whilst he drinks his milk and then I brush his teeth. I think keeping their routine is key. I had two days of him kicking his legs when I said it was sleepy time but I held him tight and he soon got it. No tears. I think you will be surprised. The important thing is to be light hearted and reassuring about it. Saying all this if it goes wrong you can always change your mind.i told myself that il give it a go but no big deal if change my mind last minute.

That is cute pear. :) thank you. Apart from my emotional issues we have a slight practical one... He's never taken a bottle and we can't get him to drink milk from his cups.... We've tried warm and cold, and oh is now suggesting nesquik! Any advice welcomed. :)

Have you tried doidy cups or cups with straws (we have colourful plastic picnic cups with straws inbeddded in the cup from co-op that DS loves) I would try something that looks a bit more grown up for fun. Friends have tall beakers with flip tops that look more grownup for older toddlers but your Dc could probably handle one now.

DH asked me for our TTC schedule tonight so he can plan around work. Sigh. If only it was that simple I wish someone would print out my TTC schedule for me...imagine that

Hi Giddy Nice to see you back on here.

If your ds gets plenty of calcium from his food then I wouldn't worry too much that he doesn't drink milk.

I agree though, that doidy cups are really good.

Wow pear that's v organised of him!

I'm writing this post-coitally lying on a pillow with my legs in the air lol! I'm on cd9 but not temping or using ov sticks so who knows when I will ovulate. As af only came back a couple of weeks ago I don't even really know if I'm fertile yet! Oh well we'll see how it goes this month!

Hi Giddy

Btw pear I thought that was so sweet about the evening feed weaning story. I'm still totally demand feeding & as others have said it's such an intense bond I can't imagine not doing it my dd is only 10 months tho so I'm nowhere near that stage yet.

Mumofone - yeah at 10 months I too was NO WAY ready to think about weaning. The bond is intense Well done for starting your DtD mission

Hello lovelies, thanks Mary's! He gets a fair bit of calcium from food but he seems to still guzzle a lot of milk from me before sleeping and at crack of dawn. He is a little un so I'm worried if I drop too much milk he will lose weight. But he should be getting enough food at 16 months.... ?! Got myself in a right state about all of this. Know I am being daft. Hid his doidy cup after the regular drenchings we took when he first used it, may be time to dig it back out from cupboard.... And straw cups sound up his street too. Thanks all.

Ok

spekulatius
32 yrs
TTC 2
DD is 27 months
AF when she was 25 months old but stopped again after 2 periods
BF on demand, mainly to sleep and after waking up and during night, co sleeping
Cycle I have no idea
BFP is that breastfeeding & pregnant? No, that's the problem

Thanks pear

Giddy, good luck with the bedtime milk. No advice to add but it sounds like the ladies here have given you some really good suggestions.

Spek sorry to hear you've been having these problems. I wonder if it's worth going to the dr. I think they can do a blood test to find out if you are actually ovulating.

Morning! I sent the oh out to buy scales last night and weighed ds this morning - his weight is super dooper, one less thing to worry about! Now must hide scales before I become obsessed with them Also cbfm says high today - still no peak but makes me happier than seeing a low!

I prefer your definition of Bfp, spek.

Sorry I can't remember who asked about having a 24 hour feeding break to kick start things.... I'd heard about not feeding between midnight and six am might help (ie the main time ds feeds!). Ds was a bit poorly a while back and slept a lot longer than normal - could be a coincidence but had my first bleed soon after? Oh and I have talked about me doing bedtime and pre midnight dream feed, then oh (trying to) comfort ds if he wakes before 6 for a couple of nights if no peak this month, if that is any help to you? I would hide in spare room and cry when ds cries.

Have a lovely day everyone!

BFP is that breastfeeding & pregnant? No, that's the problem

Oh very good!

Well, my plan to try to get DD to settle down at a reasonable hour didn't quite go to plan. She was asleep by 7.20pm but woke up at 9.30 asking for 'petti and pudu' (spaghetti to eat and pingu on the TV) then she finally went to sleep properly at 1.30am which is an improvement on the night before (where I didn't get to doze off until 3.07am!) I felt much better prepared to deal with it though, after DDs epic lie in yesterday I'm hoping to get into a good 'routine' before she starts going to nursery in September but I'm not going to put pressure on us just yet as we still have time. It's not a problem missing playgroup now (we skipped yesterday but we'll definitely go today) but come September we won't have the luxury of sleeping in with having to pay for DDs nursery attendance in advance...

Apart from the occasional 8pm-8am or 9pm-9am, with feeds through the night, I haven't managed to get DD to sleep much before DH and I turn in much later and I'd think nothing of it, if it wasn't for a mother at our playgroup with a DD the same age as mine, who sleeps every night 7-7 with a wake for formula feeding once a night (!) Needless to say, i haven't shared our sleeping or lack of patterns with other mamas in RL...

DD has a bath and story but then she wants to read all her books and put all her toys to bed and she is too 'busy' for sleep (think she gets this from me... ) Selfishly though, I am loving this time with my DD and as long as she gets enough sleep I'm not overly concerned about her 'student'-ish sleeping patterns right now. She is a very bright and happy little girl. We've got years ahead if us with a regimented routine once she starts school so I'm going to enjoy this less structured time as much as I can....ahh, glad I got that off my chest x

Hope you had a better night, Pear?