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April TTC girls! Lots of babies being born! And the rest of us are gonna grab those BFP's!

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Cupcake92 · 05/02/2015 16:23

Thought id start a new thread girls before the old one gets maxed out! :) let this be the thread where we all get out BFP's and babies!! :)

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iamdivergent · 10/02/2015 13:36

Well done cupcake stay strong! Thanks

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Cupcake92 · 10/02/2015 16:52

He's literally just left now

:/

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iamdivergent · 10/02/2015 16:55

Thanks how you feeling?

Ducky23 · 10/02/2015 17:25

How did it go? X

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Cupcake92 · 10/02/2015 18:12

It was awful.
DS was crying. He was crying.

I feel like an awful person :(

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iamdivergent · 10/02/2015 18:15

You are NOT awful! He was an arse, he slipped back into his old ways and was making you miserable, please don't feel bad Sad you're doing it for ds sake as well as your own Thanks

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Cupcake92 · 10/02/2015 18:34

I know Iam :( but everyone keeps going on about how much he has changed. And yes he has but I wasn't happy. He may have changed a lot but that's no excuse to stay with him and not be happy.

The only person who can understand me is my mom. Even my best friend don't get it. :/

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Ducky23 · 10/02/2015 18:40

Whatever it takes to make you happy cupcake. You deserve to be happy and will meet someone who makes you happy Smile

It will be difficult, especially at first, but stand your ground.

So proud of you!

LuluJakey1 · 10/02/2015 18:59

How had he changed Cupcake- you have said he kicked the cat, threw you on the floor once, refused to give you any money when you were short of nappies and cat litter even though he had money, called you names, bought himself food when you were short and said you would have to pay for you, DS and the cat, has been flirting with a woman from work, does not really know DS because he does not spend timewithhim, he was horrible after you had the miscarriage, threw keys in your face just missing your eye, was horrible on Saturday night, has huffs and moods? I am struggling to see his better points TBH.

You deserve someone who treats you with respect all the time and who you love.

You have done the hard bit, don't give in now. If you give in and go back to how it was you will never get out of this. Work on maing sure he can not get into the house and his nae is taken off the tenancy. Then apply for whatever benefits you are entitled to and for maintenance.

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Cupcake92 · 10/02/2015 20:24

Thanks Ducky. Hardest thing I've ever had to do. Ever.

And wow Lulu. I'm shocked. When u put it all together like that makes me realise how bad it was :(
But thank u, I needed to see that.

And Tori I agree with her too :(

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lillamyy1 · 11/02/2015 02:33

Well done cupcake! You've done so well, it must have been absolutely awful but having lulu list all of those things he's done really shows how much better off both you and DS are now! He had plenty of chances and didn't change and now you can finally be happy Flowers

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Cupcake92 · 11/02/2015 03:35

Lill it's so weird. Not been able to sleep too well tonight as keep hearing things and thinking 'I hope I locked the door!'
On the plus side DS has been good tonight and are ALL his dinner! 1st time in a week he's done it! I made my homemade beef stew :) he loved it!

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LuluJakey1 · 11/02/2015 06:40

You have done really well Cupcake. Keep your resolve strong and change the locks today. You don't want to be in a situation where he can walk in to your home- whether you are there ornot. Once he is in, he will be much harder to get out. You need control of this and to feel safe.

LuluJakey1 · 11/02/2015 06:46

DS has been awake since just after 5 am but has had his feed and is lying quite happily with his dummy on our bed. DH is up now, showered and getting dressed- looking very tired. Was marking until half-11 last night. Roll on half term. My hair is like a birds nest this morning. I have a spot on my cheek and a croaky voice. I must be extremely attractive today. Thank goodness the room is dark. Grin

Ducky23 · 11/02/2015 06:55

Has he contacted you cupcake?

I am so tierd. I don't know what is happening with ds but he seems to be half crying or straining really really loudly all night. I don't know if I have slept Confused I fed him and changed him, tried putting another blanket on him incase he was too cold, took one off incase he was too warm but it just carried on Confused am just sitting on the sofa in the dark with him in his basket next to me hoping he will become tierd and have a nap so I can get a little bit of sleep.

Need to get up soon anyway as I need to go and pick up his milk before h goes to work as he has to use my car for te rest of the week after his failed miserably on it's mot. His new one is coming Sunday. Confused

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Cupcake92 · 11/02/2015 07:33

Lulu that's all sorted the only way he'd be able to get in is if he knocked on the door and I let him in. Lol!
I also have a spot on my cheek Lulu, and my chin and above my lip! Ive never had so many before. Think it's all the stress I have had.

Ducky no he's not contacted me but he's put a status in facebook saying he's heartbroken. Before he went tho I atrange to take DS to him at his dad's on Thursday. Whilst I'm at work.
And bless u Ducky! Bet ur exhausted! Ur DS sounds so simar to mine when he was younger. Sleep just wasn't his thing. There was always something to keep him awake. I hope U manage to sleep a bit today tho!
My car is in having jts hand break fixed :( :( :( :( got given a curtesy car and it's awful!!! It's a 2 litre jaguar! It's so bad lol!

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Ducky23 · 11/02/2015 12:00

Hope it wasn't to expensive cupcake!

How are you feeling today?

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Cupcake92 · 11/02/2015 14:12

The car Ducky?
I'm in warranty so won't cost me to fix it lol! But the jag.... It drinks petrol!! So so hate it can't wait for my car back :( Gonna be the end of the week tho.

And I'm not sure how im feeling today. I just feel a bit weird. And DS has been like so so good today. He's just napping now.

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LuluJakey1 · 11/02/2015 17:57

DS probably will sense a calmer nicer atmosphere Cupcake.

Don't look at his Facebook account or any other social media about him. Don't get into texts or conversations and don't let yourself feel sorry for him. It will all make you vulnerable to giving in.

Just try to relax and look after yourself. You are doing amazingly. Keep strong. You will find better- you deserve that.

LuluJakey1 · 11/02/2015 22:21

Where is everyone tonight? Are babies being born?

I am knackered. DS has been awake most of the day and has been very clingy today for some reason. I just wanted to hand him to DH tonight to have a bit of space to myself. As soon as DH got home he was all smiley and
esy going with him Hmm Boys together.

Had my 6 week check today. Am back on the pill.
DH 'How I could ever have said let's have another one quickly, I don't know. He's just all-consuming. What did we do with our life before he was here?'
Me 'We went out together at night, ate in restaurants, went to the pub and the cinema, lay in bed in the morning at weekends, had lots of sex, read, watched films all the way through, saw friends, went out for the whole day and just wandered.'
DH 'Oh yes, so we did..........but this is better isn't it?'
Me 'Is it?'

Ducky23 · 12/02/2015 03:28

Has he smiled yet lulu? It could be that he's having a growth spurt so is being more clingy. He just feels safe with you Smile i did have moments when I felt like that, especially when ds was ill, I felt like I was failing and I felt I couldn't ask h to help out Confused but then he'd go and do something that made my heart melt and everything would seem ok again Smile

Have a bit of time to yourself and I'm sure you will feel good again.

Did you say you had a tear? Did they check that at 6 week appt? Only they didn't check my episiotomy and I think it might be a bit 'wrong'

LuluJakey1 · 12/02/2015 07:05

Oh it's OK Ducky, I feel fine and. his little smile just makes me melt- even when he is being clingy. I think you are right about the growth spurt. He has definitely put weight on and his newborn baby sleeping thing is too small now Sad

I had a tiny tear. They did not even stitch it. It is fine- well I think it is. She didn't check it, just asked about it. What makes you say yours might be 'wrong' ?

Siarie · 12/02/2015 07:23

No baby being born here, although she is getting really strong now. Bears is due this month though! She's popping the next one out.

Yeah ducky why do you think it's wrong? Tearing is the worst part for me, I'm going to try doing the massage recommend by the classes were doing. Did you both do that?

I'm also researching hypnobirth later today, I saw a video linked by another April lady and was really impressed by how calm the birth was.

Ducky23 · 12/02/2015 07:27

Major tmi alert Grin
It's like occasionally it aches and I'm having like heavy cm randomly :-/ and when I go to the toilet for a number 2 it's really really painful and there's always blood Blush think il have to go the gps Confused

Ds has been sleeping awfully again, but I thought we usually leave the bathroom light on for him so it's not super dark and his bad sleeping has started since the bathroom light has stopped working so I left his bedroom light on last night so a bit of light was coming into the room and we went to bed At 10, he woke up at 3.30 fora feed then slept through until 7Grin he's only woke up at 7 as I think he has tummyache, he was upset and we just had a bit of a poonami!

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