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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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April TTC girls! Lots of babies being born! And the rest of us are gonna grab those BFP's!

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Cupcake92 · 05/02/2015 16:23

Thought id start a new thread girls before the old one gets maxed out! :) let this be the thread where we all get out BFP's and babies!! :)

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Siarie · 07/02/2015 11:28

Yay another girl Popple that's two now assuming I've not missed anyone's announcement. We're on our way to over taking the boys. Did you have a preference either way?

I'd like to just agree with what Lulu said, pretty much what I was going to say.

Oh I forgot to reply to the question about my blog. I set it up when I moved to Londom and quit full time work, it's just a life blog with reviews on house things, books and now my pregnancy. I've been enjoying reviewing lots of baby products lately.

LuluJakey1 · 07/02/2015 17:58

It has been lovely up here today- so many signs of Spring. We walked miles at the country park and had cappucino and scones at the little cafe. DS had a lovely time and lots of fresh air. He had very rosy cheeks and smiled a lot.

I hate this government and what they are doing to us. Education, health and social care is just being eroded away. They have no idea how poverty stricken the north is - the gap is now huge in every way between the north and the south. They are doing nothing to support us. Yet, my great hope has to be Milliband and a Labour party who seem to have forgotten what they stand for.

lillamyy1 · 07/02/2015 22:07

Hello popple! Nice to hear from you! Congrats on the girl

Aww Cupcake As far as you not wanting to ruin your H's life, I feel like he's pretty much ruining yours. He's demanding and unkind and makes you feel like shit. The thing about you not wanting to lost DS is a very difficult issue though. If I were you, I'd try to get some legal advice. Surely it should be obvious that you're the responsible one who takes care of DS all the time? Maybe you could keep a note of the irresponsible things he does as proof. I know a fight for custody would be awful but I'm sure you'd win and in the end you wouldn't be stuck in a relationship that makes you feel like shi

Ducky, how has your H been recently?

Mine annoyed me a lot yesterday and this morning. I asked him to do just a few, very small things around the house (literally, wipe the work surfaces after he made a mess with his breakfast and tidying the living room) and he didn't do any of it! Then today I asked him to pop to the shop which is less than 5 mins away and he whinged about how he's got a bad back at the moment. I reminded him that I'm in pain nearly all the time with this PGP and I still manage to keep on top of everything and hardly ever ask him to do anything. He went to the shop very sheepishly

lillamyy1 · 07/02/2015 22:13

I feel a bit bad complaining about him, because he does try, bless him. He always cooks dinner for me when he's at home, and he is the one to do the food shop 85% of the time.
He does try to help around the house (after a lot of nagging encouragement). But he never does anything properly or thoroughly and I have to finish the jobs off!

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Cupcake92 · 07/02/2015 22:23

Well I've just come to bed and H is in bed already and is asleep. So I put the tv (which is what he does everytime im asleep so didn't think itd be a problem!) and he's shouted at me saying he's tired and telling me to fuck off and swearing at me. So I'm sat here in bed hardly any quilt as he's pulled it away, crying.
I say this through tears but I know I don't love him anymore. Being in love you can't wait to see them and spend time with them but with H I get excited when he leaves for work or if he goes out as I get peace on my own :( it shouldn't be like that. I feel I have to tiptoe round him or be careful what I say incase he snaps at me. He calls me awful awful names but says its a joke, yet it still hurts :(
I don't want to be with him anymore, so I'm going to citizen advice on Monday to see what I can do before I actually act upon things so I know where I stand etc. I'm going to speak to my mom so she can be there for when I tell him. Probably won't be till next week after I know where I stand with everythjng.

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lillamyy1 · 07/02/2015 22:26

I know how hard it is, but you'll be so glad when it's done. He's horrible to you and you don't deserve it. I feel so thinking of him yelling and swearing at you He doesn't deserve a wife at all, especially one as kind and lovely as you

lillamyy1 · 07/02/2015 22:31

And bear in mind as well, it would be horrible for DS to grow up living with parents who hate each other. It would be so much more damaging for him than having parents who have broken up. He's probably too young to understand or realise at the moment, but very soon he'll become aware of the tension between H and you.
Sending you lots of hugs

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Cupcake92 · 07/02/2015 22:49

DS already knows when H is horrible to me, he cries and comes and hugs me. :(
I just want a good life for DS and for me. I wanna be happy.

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LuluJakey1 · 07/02/2015 23:01

Cupcake, he is such a knob.

iamdivergent · 08/02/2015 08:07

What an arse

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Cupcake92 · 08/02/2015 08:49

I know lulu and Iam. He's both of them. Just hope I'm doing the right thing and hope when I tell him there no commotion.

Ducky how are u? Didn't hear from u all day.

Live got a lot of cleaning to do today. And washing. Sunday is my cleaning day haha

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Ducky23 · 08/02/2015 08:57

Lil, my h has been hime one day he seems lovely, the next he's an idiot!

Cupcake I hope you get it sorted and he's not an idiot about it! It's so brave of you!

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Cupcake92 · 08/02/2015 15:35

Ducky I don't understand men! lol!

And Tori ur right. I saw this saying today... "Don't be afraid to start over. It gives you a chance to build something even better"
And it's true! Hate to say it but Im looking forward to the next chapter of my life :)

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lillamyy1 · 08/02/2015 16:48

Good for you cupcake! I met a really wise woman in Ecuador who told me a great saying: "When one door close, another opens". It's soooo true, even if you don't realise it at the time.

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Cupcake92 · 08/02/2015 16:57

That's true lill! I know after the initial sadness and emotions of a break up are done with I'll be so much happier and things will be a lot better. Who knows I may meet the most amazing guy in a few years who will shock me with his kindness and maturity :)

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lillamyy1 · 08/02/2015 17:10

I'm 100% sure you will

Ducky, how's your H been with DS? Does he help out? Are you still feeling like you don't want him to? I'm worried I might feel a bit like that.
I'm quite worried about my MIL wanting to interfere help out with my DS when he's here. DP has said "when you go into labour I'll call my mum and she can drive straight over!" I was like, "I do t want her there when I'm giving birth!!!!!!" He said that he might want her there for moral support for him! I felt like telling him if he feels he'll need moral support he probably shouldn't be at the birth!
It's really difficult because obviously I'll want my mum around, maybe at the birth but definitely afterwards and when we first get home for a little while to help out a bit, but then how can I tell DP I don't want his mum to visit for a few days while I'm still feeling delicate? She'll want to meet her grandson as soon as possible but I know it's going to take me a little while before I want anyone else to hold him but me, DP and my mum.

Ducky23 · 08/02/2015 17:47

No lil i still feel like I don't want him too I think the feeling is a tiny bit less strong than it was tho, apparently that's really common.

I would be livid if h said that to me about his mom! Id flat out refuse! but he knows I can't stand mil. I had dm and h with me for the birth and dm sees ds most days

LuluJakey1 · 08/02/2015 18:26

I am happy for DH to do what he likes with DS- he isbetter at lots of it than me. He has infinite patience with him whereas I get more frustrated when I can't stop him crying and I think I must be doing something wrong. DH is calm and just perseveres and I think DS senses his calmness and my tension.
However, loading the dishwasher is a different thing. He has no patience with that and just bungs stuff in it. Today I opened it when it finished and 3 mugs were the wrong way up and filled with water, a sieve was taking up most of the top bit, and he had stuffed the cutlery in any compartment so it was all mixed up and half of it was upside down. There were two bowls in the bottom half. That was all there was in it but there was stuff on the drainer he just had not bothered to put in when he started it. Grrr!

lillamyy1 · 08/02/2015 19:16

Hahaha lulu! That's just the kind of thing my DP does!! It's so annoying when they can't just use a bit of common sense! We don't have a dishwasher and when my DP washes up he just uses his hand and cold water! So all the glasses are still really grubby and covered in greasy fingerprints. I have to do it all again. I don't let him wash up very often.

Ducky I expect you'll get a bit more used to your H looking after DS. Is he any good at it?

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lillamyy1 · 08/02/2015 20:01

Tori that's a good idea about phone calls... I might suggest to DP that we only call my mum when I go into labour and everyone else once te baby is born and I've recovered a bit! It makes sense not to have people calling for updates, especially if it all takes a long time!

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Cupcake92 · 08/02/2015 20:05

It took me a year and a half to feel sort of okay with H looking after DS.

As for birthing partners my advise is keep it to a minimum as it's stressful with lots of people there when ur in pain, and visitors I liked whilst in hospital because I had a csection and was in so much pain I needed all the help possible so I liked having visitors lol

Ive done more research and found even tho we have a joint tenancy, I can apply for a Occupation Order from the courts which will mean getting he tenancy transfered to my name only and have a date for him to officially be out by. It says it will be granted to the sole carer of a child/children which will be me.

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LuluJakey1 · 08/02/2015 21:19

There was only DH and the midwife when I had DS. We didn't tell anyone I was in labour because it happened during the night. We weren't going to have any visitors afterwards but we were so excited we rang PIL and they got the train straight up. They just visited at the hospital for a couple of hours and went home on the train. But it meant the world to them and we wanted them to meet him on his first day.

Then we took him home the next day and that was New Year's Eve. So we had a good few days to ourselves at home.

He is wide awake having some tummy time on his rug quite happily and we are watching 'Gavin and Stacey'. The cats are ignoring him as usual and are tucked up on the sofa with us.

It is half term at the end of this week so DH will be home for 9 days. By the time he goes back DS will be almost 2 months!

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Cupcake92 · 08/02/2015 21:38

Lulu half term starts tomorrow down here. So I'm prepared for work to be very busy! Aaww do it cats every pay any interest to DS? My cat does his best to stay away from mine haha

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