April TTC girls! Lots of babies being born! And the rest of us are gonna grab those BFP's!

[Cupcake92]

Thought id start a new thread girls before the old one gets maxed out! :) let this be the thread where we all get out BFP's and babies!! :)

They have no interest in him at all Cupcake. They don't like him crying and stalk out of the room looking offended if it goes on for too long.

DS has had a little tantrum tonight after his feed. We put him in his moses basket because we wanted to go to sleep and he had a strop. We have had crying, pet lip, screwing his face up with his hands either side of his forehead, red face. Everytime we picked him up he stopped and as soon as we put him back started again. DH put him on the bed with us and he lay happily. Eventually, having exhausted himself, he fell asleep and we got him in his own bed. Little so and so.

Aww Lulu, when you talk about pet lip it makes me smile. Glad he settled down finally for you both though.

MIL is on her second week of treatment today, I'm starting to feel a little anxious about what might happen if the outcome isn't postive. I know it sounds a bit selfish but It's the timings which are worrying me more than anything. This little girl is literally due around the date of the big operation and the weeks before then we will find out if the treatment stopped it spreading.

If it has spread then they won't do the operation (or so I'm led to believe) which means potential bad news just before the birth. Or potential fatal news on the days surrounding (or on the birth!). I just have this horrible worry about what will happen if the news is on the same day you know? But that's where the selfishness stops because it's more about the mental state of my DH, his dad and I put myself right at the end of that because I'll cope whatever happens.

I'm have a good feeling about it all generally, like I think if anyone can get through this it's my MIL she's really strong. But I am one of those people that assess every potential timeline if that makes sense.

Siarie- how awful it must be for you all. I can't imagine what you must all be going through. Really hope there is a good outcome for MIL.

Today we have had lots of leg kicking and arm waving and shouting from DS. He has really enjoyed his little self

He is sitting on DH's knee at the moment making lots of noises.

Oh Siarie it must be so hard for all of u :( I wish ur MIL all the best.

Ive said it before lulu but Ur DS seems so content and happy! :) sounds like u always have such a lovely day.

Ive been trying to pluck up the courage all day to tell H it's over and how I feel but can't quite do it. :( why can't I do this?
I'm so scared. I just want it over with. I just don't know how to start the conversation ? :s

Did you read last night's do with him Cupcake? He wasn't very content then But on the whole I think we have been lucky so far. MIL says if they are good now they are naughty later. I think DH was probably very naughty and DS is just like him.

Jus tell him. Say 'I need to say this. We said we would review where we were in the New Year. I don't know how you feel but I don't think things are really any better and I think we have come to the end of it. It's over.'

Or don't if you don't want to. It has to be what you want Cupcake.

I agree with lulu cupcake, you guys were on a trial thing weren't you with him going to his dads and that, just say you said you would review it and you think your both not happy? Hope it all goes as ok as possible.

Think I'm coming down with somethig had a sore throat and am snuffly. I don't think ds slept at all last night so don't think that's helped!

Well I hope my Ds becomea very good soon! He's been quite hard since day 1 lol

And Im ready to be on my own lulu, my mind is 100% made up. I think me wanting another baby so so bad sort of made me stay with him of that makes sense? But I know I shouldn't have another child if I don't love him. I love him but im just not in love with him anymore :(

Cross post Ducky!
And yes exactly and that trial just hasnt worked out. He never kept to his side of the bargain anyway and only went to his day 1 night maybe 2 if I was lucky!

I just want this to be over

You will get through the hard bit Cupcake. You are a strong person.

I am in bed with DH and DS. It is really cold and we are tired - me and DH are, DS isn't.

I need a good sleep. DH needs one more than me, he has had a tough day. DS is lying between us with a dummy!

This may seem silly to some of u but I'm too scared to start it off face to face. H is upstairs watching tv and I'm downstairs. Ive sent him a text asking if we could speak about us as a couple as I don't think things are going well.
I'm waiting for him to come down now.
I'm terrified.

Good luck cupcake, you're doing the right thing

Good luck cupcake x

Thanks everyone.

That was so so so so so so hard :(
He cried and said we will work it out and he'll chuck his ps4 away and do this and that. But I just told him, it's more he fact i jusst don't love him anymore. We will be better people for DS apart. So, it's done. He goes tomorrow as he has work at 4:30am so will go after work

So proud of you cupcake! What a difficult thing for you x

Thanks Ducky but it's so hard. He's said he wants to see how things go till Sunday then decide (he's obly saying this because it's convinient for work to be here ) and also said I'd have yo move out as he needs to live here to get to work as its a 5 min walk and he don't drive and I do so I can go anywhere. But I can't afford to pay a deposit on a place, plus everything including bills is in my name here and DS's school is physically across the road so will be easy for me when he goes. DS is settled here all his stuff is here. The cat has just been able to go out without his litter tray moving him will be s nightmare as he won't know the house for a while.
He's doing everything to make us stay together. Feel like I'm being forced to stay with him.
I'm staying at my moms on Wednesday night so going to see if we can work a plan out for H to move out and still be able to get to work. He just doesn't get it when I say I want to be On my own.

Cupcake, don't leave the house and stay at your mum's. Get him out. Don't let him pressure you.

Tell him you need a bit of space and time apart and he will go to his dad's. Once he is out change the locks- all of them- and get the tenancy changed.

If you give in now he will never go. You've been really brave. You justneed to get him out of thehouse. You don't have to move. Just get him out- he might think it is for a few days but you know it isn't.

Don't give in to the bullying.

He's trying to pressure you into keeping him cupcake, that's really childish of him. Can you just tell him if he has any respect for you or ds he would leave, tell him he will be making his son homeless if he doesn't go! That shows how cruel he is. Fair enough he said he'd get rid of the ps but he gave you all that bs last time, then he wS lovely for a short time then changed to his normal self again.

Your stronger than you think to get this far

Lulu im gonna say that. He's at work now but I'm packing some of his stuff things he'll need till the weekend. And will give It him when he's back. Then I'll be packing everything so it's ready to pick up by the weekend.

And Ducky thats exactly what I told him! Said he's had all these years to change n never has. Said he is nice for a bit but always goes back.

Stand firm cupcake, you don't have to move out everything is in your name. He does, he can go to his dad's and the rest of it is up to him to sort.

I would be filing for divorce adapter so he knows you mean business this time too. Box his stuff up, get the locks changed, sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind.

Asap*

Oh and he can get a bus to work surely? Or public transport. Eother way it's none of your concern. You don't need to work anything out for him he isn't a baby. He's got the rest of his life to sort out without you.

He has a motorbike too Siarie. But said he can't ride it at 4 in the morning as its too icy n he'll fall off. And there's no buses here till 7am unfortunately. But I just said to him put ur winter tyres on and maybe it's time to get ur drivers license.
He can easily get there it's not hard. And I said if it's that bad ask to go on the day shift (starts at 12) it won't be icy at all then.

It just sounds like an excuse to me, he doesn't want his "carer" to leave.

Two people in my family ride motorbikes to work all year round.