ttc after mc- the best shit place to be! #3

[northdownmummy]

looking forward to new beginnings in the new year

drdonna yay!

guy again, another 7:30am coffee almost coming out of my nose

"Finding out the gender today" really rates me, irrationally so but I just want to scream NO its to check baby has everything where it should be, gender is irrelevant! I was always worried about the 20 week scans not bloody excited about gender. We only found out with eldest DD as I ended up having weekly scans and were told she'd be early so we were advised to know the gender so we could prepare.

CD13 here and a stronger OPK this morning so tapped that into FF as a definite positive. Its DDs 4th birthday tomorrow, it would be lovely to conceive over this week!

Huge congrats donna!! Fantastic news

shazzy is clearly a joker.

Woop woop super start to the week drdonna! Congratulations

Fingers crossed the BFP fairy is quickly followed by the sticky bean fairy

Thanks all

treacle.. omg yay!!! So so pleased. I see you are worried (understandably) .here's my hand. Xx

Doctor! Awesome news. Bfp fairly is back it would seem!

YY to all the posts re the awful throwaway or well meaning but missing the mark entirely comments. I also get ALOT of "you have dd.." ..or the one that really, really makes my skin itch "you're so young, you've got time to try again"

Yes. Yes I do. It's wonderful we have time on our side. BUT I WANTED THAT BABY. I don't want to have to keep trying..I want the one I had.

I'm cd 28 and praying for a normal length cycle. Some of you might remember my cycles were 50 days or so.. but the cycle I caught must have been a normal length. Fingers crossed.

So we had decided that we didn't want to try anymore, but I think we've turned a corner emotionally with the mc and I can see why they now say 3 months. . It's been 2 months now and we're going to wait for our March cycle and hopefully. . Well..just hopefully. It took is 16 months for the last bfp. I'm praying I don't have to endure that again.

I'm 7 lbs down and hoping to drop another 14 lbs before a bfp.. If not more.

Missed you guys.

chasing Hello lovely! Have been thinking about you over the weekend.
I'm at 10st 9lbs now, ideally another 14lb to go but would be very happy at 10st, have managed to stay off the crap food for the last few days and have had fruit and yogurt instead of Christmas chocolates. I have a photoshoot on 30th January with a friend who's building his portfolio to launch his business properly so that's providing masses of motivation right now!

We also turned a corner over the weekend, I was dreading ovulation week, thinking it would make me anxious/panic but actually I'm excited and am madly charting everything I can!

Stocking you sound so much. .brighter. its lovely to hear. . I'm also charting/writing notes and hoping it'll make me super efficient come March. . Targeted approach :-D. I really think sex eod is the only way to do it. When I tried to aim for ov it never happened. Both time we dtd eod I got a bfp.. its exhausting mind!

That's so fab about your weight. I have a lot to lose but my current aim is to drop as much as possible and stick to healthy eating during pregnancy. I need my bmi under 35 at booking in to get in at the birthing unit here. I'm only a smidgen over now but want to get as under it as possible. . Problem with being short!

I'm also a shortie, 5'3. Husband is 6'6 - my ex is 5'5 and we had small babies, I just feel like I'm gonna have a baby twice the size of my DDs with DH

I definitely agree re writing everything down, I'm fascinated by the female cycle and how different it is from woman to woman, even my own cycles have varied wildly since the Mirena came out and it's so interesting.

Being still "newlywed" (we've been together a little over 2 years and married 15 months) we tend to have sex EOD as a bare minimum my friend says that'll soon wear off and I'll be telling him I've got a headache every night soon

But I appear to go into overdrive during Ov week and pounce him every day, more if its a kid free weekend. Poor bloke

Hahaha stocking! We've been together 7, married 1. It's once a week outside ttc ;) enjoy the honeymoon stage lol

It is sooo interesting isn't it. But you know I really don't understand temping charts. I bought the book taking charge of your fertility but find it mind baffling!

Huge congratulations DrDonna

guy your dog comment made me chuckle and the imagine a dog changing colour after peeing on it!

DP and myself have decided to stop ttc. Implant is going back in next week and having to take the pill to regulate my moods! I'll be lurking on here to keep up with progress! Keeping fingers crossed for loads of sticky beans for all you ladies :) x

Great news drdonna, congratulations!!!

Glad to hear you sounding happier chasing and stocking, both of you. Really.

Holy crapola.. AF hit like 3 hours ago and I am in agony. Jeez. Is it going to be like this every time now?

Congrats drdonna Hoping for an uneventful 8 months for you.

I second guys sentiments on happier places.

I'm stepping back a bit and trying not to over analyse and worry about setting a time limit. I want another baby, end of. Keep trying! OH is on board, just nervous!

I had the yucky brown streaked heavy cm again yesterday only day 7 (I think). I can definitely say my body took a bigger hit with this mc .

I am hoping to start boogie bounce, the new fitness craze and am doing am online course so trying to concentrate on other long term goals than just ttc no2. (No1 turned 6 today so off out to pizza hut for tea soon!)

Hope the optimism, positive thinking and BFPs continue here!

Again thanks everyone. We'd actually decided to really just see what happened and not try to conceive but no protection so whatever.
Both of DH's parents are ill so we needed to take the pressure off somewhere we'd actually only managed to DTD once this month !
DH is currently being quite smug saying I told you all you needed to so was relax!!!!
Anyway, I hope everything turns out for the best for everyone.

Fucking hell. Such a bastard of a day at work.

guy what happened?
chasing hope pains have eased a bit now?
stocking how much sex?!? Congrats!

Epskie did you find out about your sickness absence and if it will affect your bonus? Hope you haven't had to work today if you're still struggling.

Epski I haven't been able to follow you recently, did you get scanned etc? Are you ok?

Guy what's going on at work? X

Pains gone now but period is heavy. Hey ho. Hopefully only this and on more hey..

Bit bummed due to OPKs. Was a positive yesterday, line as strong as the test line. Today its faint. Wondering if I OVd in the afternoon yesterday! I'll have start tracking BBT if there's no BFP this month and I really didn't want to do that.

Just a bit of drama. Don't want to put myself! Sorry for mentioning it, was just ranting to myself. It'll be ok I hope!
Think I'm about to start fertile period. I don't do opks or bbt (because I know I'll get obsessed if I start!) so I just base it on ewcm. I've always been right before though! Should ov about Friday so will get shagging this week!

Hi everybody, congrats drdonna lovely news :-)
Hope everybody struggling is ok.

Thanks for asking after me - I was rescanned yesterday and unfortunately the tissue is still there :-( they're going to monitor my hcg levels this week then decide what to do. Levels were 210 yesterday (is this high?)
HOWEVER I had a big loss through the night (woke up at 1am saturated, sorry for tmi) perhaps that is the end of it?

Re work, I haven't gone back yet. I tried to do the school run yesterday and felt terrible and over emotional (I think my antibiotics are making me poorly)
I haven't got a contract but I've been there for 9 years so would think I have a statutory contract? The small research I've done on Google tells me that they don't have to give me my bonus. I'm worried about it :-( I'd like to find out some solid info about whether I'm entitled or not but not sure where to look. Any ideas? X

Hi Epskie. Have you tried ACAS the employment advice people?

Sorry to hear you're still struggling. I had the surgical management after my MC and do feel it was the best option for me. Hopefully you won't need to go down that route but if you do iI'm happy to answer any questions

Epski I had a gut feeling you had left over tissue. The good news is hcg of 200 is low. It needs to less than 5 to test negative but if it were up in the thousands it could take a long time to get back down. If you haven't lost it over night (i also had a few episodes like you describe) have they decided what to do? .. will it be a d&c? Xxxx