ttc after mc- the best shit place to be! #3

[northdownmummy]

looking forward to new beginnings in the new year

my friend was the same. i guess im just trying to gage how many people conceiver 1st cycle.

i dont know if what i am in is classed as first or second cycle either. i had erpc 14 december then af 12 jan. was after erpc 1st cycle and this 2nd or is this 1st cycle? not that it really matters.

treacle I missed your post about scan! That's amazing. We had one at 6+3 with dd and she was a flickering pixel. I look at her now (she's 2 and a half) and it astounds me that is the same heart beating. Massive congratulations.

I conceived second cycle with dd and first cycle last pregnancy (look how well that turned out). Now on cd30 of first cycle the this time. Not sure if I ovulated. Not completely sure I want to get pregnant. Eek. Having a wobble. Period due Tuesday or Wednesday. Won't test until Thursday if it doesn't show.

treacle yay!!

ginger how long did you have in between stopping bleeding after the erpc? I think they say it's only a period if there is 3 weeks without any bleeding after mc. So that prob determines whether this is 1st or 2nd cycle for you now.

Thank you guy :)
It was the most amazing thing ever.
DH couldn't be there because work are being difficult but hopefully things will be well for our 12 week scan and he can come then :)

thanks guy thats reassuring. whats brought on the wobble?

molly its a complicated one with me i think. i barely bled after erpc i would say light spotting until 24 december. erpc i think was for retained tissue as my cervic wouldnt close and i bled very heavily every other day resulting in hospital admissions then emergency erpc. they dont explain much tho and i jus wanted to get out of there.

congratulations treacle!! when is your dad? x

Thanks Mrs :)
I'm due 20th sept, dh's birthday :)

haha I'm glad you got what I meant!!

Not sure. Had a wobble when I found out last time. I think because it's just such a huge thing. I hate pregnancy, I hate childbirth and I didn't like having a newborn. Once dd was 6 months and taking an interest in the world and I went back to work 3 days a week, I loved it. But the thought of all that other stuff first makes me scared. Plus the thought of having 2 is terrifying! It's hard enough with one. Life is nice and manageable though at the moment, why do I want to make it harder for myself?!
And I hate taking time off work. I'm a graphic artist and video editor. I hate the idea of anyone coming in and doing my work for a few months. I need to be in control of the creative stuff!

I guess I just oscillate between feeling irrationally certain that I want another child asap and then being suddenly plagued by all these reasons not to.
I know I do want another. I don't know. It's just scary.

I'm also scared of having another mc.

ginger I'm 23 in 16 days and dp is 27 Both my sisters were married and expecting they're first at this age and parents were really supportive.

I'm engaged, live with do in our own albeit tiny place it's ours. we had planned to get married in 2017 and move house this year to get further away from mil ( she lives next door which is how we got the flat!)

I'm incredibly excited about sticky bean and it seems the only person that is supporting me is the sister I wasn't as close to. I know families only want the best for us but when they start dictating to you how a baby will ruin your plans for life it makes me so angry. 2 people suggested a termination and they both know about previous MCs so why there hell would I do that? contemplating moving to Australia alone and starting again! I'd earn double what I'm on here!!!

sorry massive rant that I needed to get off my chest!!!

guy maybe you are over thinking it too much? i think everything you have said is very valid but at the end of it all you know you really want one. can you just try but not really try if makes sense?

i am petrified of hospital blood giving birth so didnt actively ttc but when got bfp thought f it uv got no choice now

mrse im not saying your family and friends are right as i dont think they are but in this day and age 23 is considered young to be a mam so i can understand their concerns even though fielded wrongly. oh and my mam had 5 kids by 25 so i know what it feels like to feel your lagging behind.

im sure u know your own mind though and if it feels right for you then its nothing to do with anyone else.

Definitely overthinking it! I do that...

Don't know if you're still reading stocking but thinking of you and hoping you're ok.

I'm not worried I'm lagging behind. I'm glad that I haven't done things the same way I just meant that my parents and is sisters were really supportive of one another I just know that they won't be the same for me which is really hard. I'm considered the baby as I'm the youngest but I'm actually far better off financially then they were at my age and I have a better career to follow whereas they've struggled to find something to do and just to make ends meet have had to do some awful jobs.

Even being as young as I am I never thought they would suggest a termination and following 2 MCs I don't see how they can't understand how much this means to me!

never mind!/they have 8 months to adjust!!

guy you're not at any greater risk of having another mc just because of what happened last time. i'm sure you'll have that bfp before you know it. And you don't have to like being pregnant. It's horrible for some people. I definitely don't enjoy it. Bleurgh. Just thinking about it makes me feel sick.

treacle lovely scan news.

mrse maybe its because of seeing your sisters struggle that they are concerned? i dont think theyre are any excuses for suggesting a termination thought how awful.

just keep your distance for a while so they dont spoilt this happy time and give them chance to get used to the idea. hope ur ok.

thanks ginger called my parents and told them, they took it really well! so I'm feel more relaxed! now just to tell the monster in law! (she's not really that had just Scottish and opinionated!!)

cheered my self up buy getting a snuggly baby blanket, changed my scan to 11 th Feb as I was starting to panic! thankfully ladies for keeping me sane and supported!

treacle fab news. So pleased for you.

Afternoon everyone, hope you are all ok.

I have had the worst week ever at work and am feeling very sorry for myself. I'm sitting here in my Jammies slightly shell shocked at it all and contemplating life. We have not been ttc this month and with everything else that's going on I have managed to not think to much about it.

That aside, I have had the most horrendous back pain since Monday. This morning my cup of tea made me run for the loo and I am absolutely exhausted. Af due Tuesday so it's probably nothing but it was mrsc and others mentioning back pain suddenly made me wonder. Part of me thinks it's would be just my wonderful luck to get a bfp when i may be unemployed within the month. Then I think, you know what, I don't care. I have worked hard my whole life. I have never been unemployed and the world works in funny ways. Maybe Mother Nature is telling me some things are more important. I am very sure that stress has been a huge factor in my two mc.

So, just thinking aloud really and af will arrive on Tuesday no doubt but it's funny how things plan out. I waited all this time before ttc to ensure I was financially secure and them it all falls apart anyway. I might as well have started when I got married eleven years ago.

Have a lovely weekend ladies and thanks again to you all for being there.

ahhh well mrse thats good news and someone to share in the excitement with you.

oh i was one of the posters with horrendous backache, it was that that made me test. didnt have any other symptoms at all. things happen for a reason if it is your bfp just enjoy it. oh gosh id be tempted to take a test ha! will kp my fingers crossed for u.

i kp convincing myself i am. im completely exhausted today out tonite wih the girls for the first time in forever and all i really want to do is go home and sleep. my eyes are burning!

Thanks ginger. I would try a test but with my last two I never got a bfp till I was about four days late. I'm kicking myself because I only have a clear blue in the cupboard and nearest chemist is a 30 minute drive away. I think I will hold fire till next week and get some then.

oh damn queens you shouldnt tease us saying you have tests to hand. your probably right tho could be a waste.

did you have backached in your last pregnancies? do you have any dc? could be stronger hormones depending on sex! (shamelessly giving u reasons to think an early test is ok ha).

ohhh allthequeens keeping my fingers crossed for you!

I did have backache but nowhere near as bad as this. I could barely walk on Tuesday so it is probably unrelated. I don't have any dc.

Do people often get a bfp prior to af being late? God you would think I would be slightly less clueless after this amount of time.