ttc after mc- the best shit place to be! #3

[northdownmummy]

looking forward to new beginnings in the new year

Bern house hunting all afternoon

been* so tired I can't type the only thing that's kept me from stopping stressing is going in Pinterest and making a baby board! a secret one though! dp has some wine at my parents and that's loosened Hus tongue slightly! in front of my parents he's his usual self with just me he's stroppy!/ and men say us ladies are hormonal!!

my dp always gets pmt lol!

teeny just get into bed kiss and cuddle and hopefully u will get to dtd. my tip would be to forget it is about baby making and jus concentrate on you 2.

tmi but dtd today. my lower tummy has ached since sunday when last dtd thought maybe did too much(never happened before) still acheing today. panicked a bit pre dtd incase was something inside but all fine still acheing tho. convincing myself this is a symptom, woops.

Thanks mollym

The Doctor was great. She beared with it while I snivelled through my concerns. I'm going back in 2weeks to have some blood tests done (needs to be around day 21of my cycle)

Also given my ages and she's already sending off a referral to the fertility specialist. Said hopefully we won't need it but at least that gets the process started.

I'd expected to really have to push to get some investigations so feeling very relieved she took me seriously.

is it too early to blame my poor grammar and sentence structure on baby brain?

north down I'm glad they are taking you seriously. fingers crossed you get some answers soon x

Thanks for your support yesterday ladies. I'm definitely finding this one harder to come to terms with. At GPs later so I will mention it.

northdown glad your dr is helpful and got things moving.

teenie kissing and cuddling sounds a good start (and a pre BJ often helps reluctance )

gingerbread I'm constantly noticing pain, aches and stretching. Its like everything is heightened and then there is the inevitable symptom spotting.

Day off and its snowing so that will cheer me up a bit.

Thanks gr33dy and ginger, it seems a bit silly worrying about it and defo possible I'm over thinking things... Sure will be fine once we get started although OH has had toothache for the past few days and found out yesterday he needs root treatment and as it is infected. His gum and cheek are all swollen, so dunno how much kissing we'll be doing over the next week or so anyway lol!

ginger I'm the same- very strange pulling and cramping sensations last cycle. And I assumed they were symptoms, so hard not to!!

north great news that they took you seriously and you didn't have to fight for a referral.

teenie I agree with the others- since it's been so long there is probably a sort of mental barrier there but once you get back in the groove it'll be no bother to you. Might be good to DTD this week while you're probably not fertile yet which would mean no pressure to "complete" and can be just for fun.

just wanted to say thanks to you ladies Ford all your support it seems that the only place I can be outwardly happy is on here. big cheesey grin (wiping tears away!)

keeping my founders crossed for you all that sticky beans happen this year xx

oh heck so the ache is nothing lol? well least yas have talked me down. i am out tomo with friends and its been a loonnngg time i was worrying about drinking but seems theres no need.

gr33dy (i jus realised i kept calling u greedy, i do apologise!) have you considered counselling? i had my first session tuesday and it was good i think i often need reassurance and just for her to say to me ur allowed to be upset i thought yeah im doing ok.

ooh can i ask a quick question to all u lovely ladies, not mc related at all but how to i embolden peoples names on here? i need to master it!

then name then without the gaps ginger

That's so good north that she took you seriously, you have a nice GP Hope all goes well.

I POASed this morning and it's BFP... I really thought it would be BFN by now. Called EPU and now waiting for a call back. Gutted

thanks mrse (have i done it haha)

oh carrot how long post mc r u?

gingerbread I've considered counselling, but have done courses in it myself so kind of know what they will say. Plus its finding the time for it! I need to not stress out so much over age, age gap and time! If we don't get pg however, then I will need that support.

My username means greedy so no probs. I thought you needed numbers in it

carrotpuff perhaps you need blood tests now? Hope you're sorted soon.

i did rhe access to counselling (never took it any further) but still find it useful. maybe cos i dont have much rl support though.

i take a lot of comfort in being told im doing ok. in rl everything is long forgotten about by everyone else.

MC was on 12th. So 2.5 weeks. They just called me back and said it can take 2-3 weeks and that I should do another test in a week and if it's still pos then they will do a blood test. I really hope it will not be necessary. I think maybe I'm rushing it too much. I've just about stopped spotting. In fact, I still am, but only sometimes when I wipe. So fx it will be neg next week.

Greedy I know what you mean about age gaps. I'm stressing about it too. I really wanted less then 2y gap (you are welcome to tell me I'm nuts), but it's very unlikely it will happen now. Trying to tell myself to chill out, and 2+ is still a nice gap... How old is your DC?

carrotpuff my ds is 6! And I'm 34, OJ 44.

Dr was lovely. Pointed out I still need to grieve loss, understood how hard it is not to stress and is doing a battery of blood tests including hormone profiles. Nice to have something happening.

OH not OJ! That would be rank orange by now

mrsb0710 I was in a similar situation in December. I found out at what should have been eight weeks that the baby had stopped developing, and then took drugs to make the miscarriage happen at what should have been nine weeks.

I don't know if this helps, but six weeks on, and I'm feeling a lot better in myself. I still have sad moments - and going for a check-up at the GP afterwards was difficult. But physically and emotionally, I'm in a much, much better place than I was six weeks ago.

I've also had a normal period since the mc, and we've started trying again.

It's a heartbreaking thing to go through. I hope you get on your feet again soon.

gingerbread I think it definitely helps to talk things through. I do have some god listeners in rl though. Definitely a maybe in the future!

good icy fingers not working well!

google is not being my friend. checking every twinge and cm like a lunatic every time I feel something different! its going to be a really long 4 weeks until the midwifery scan and dp is big a right royal ð??©

sorry my worries seem pantheistic on the grand scheme of things

gingerbread trying not to be too obsessive about TTC but it feels like it is slowly destroying my soul! Probably a sign that i need a break but can't help that keep going. Tried to stay cool last month with no opks and just lots of bookie but it nearly killed us. Back to opks this month... Fingers crossed your aches are a good sign.

northdownmummy glad your gp was helpful. Fingers crossed

carrot it took me over 3 weeks to get a bfn first time. Hope it comes soon. Its such a horrible thing to see... A positive when you need a negative to move on. Physically.

My Ds is approaching 2 and although age gap was important but I've given up on that, I am struggling knowing its nearly his birthday and there should be a 2 month bubba or big bump in our lives.

mrsE they aren't pathetic. Pregnancy after mc is different. I find it very difficult. Just remember today you are pregnant!

Three words from me... Roll on Friday.
Can't wait to get this week done. CD 11... Come on ov...