ttc after mc- the best shit place to be! #3

[northdownmummy]

looking forward to new beginnings in the new year

Stay strong Brummie

Welcome Sliced and Romeo, so sorry for your losses

Congrats again MrsE, wish you have boring uneventful pregnancy

Was going to POAS tomorrow (although hoping for entirely different result ) as had very little spotting, and mostly on the tissue and none on pad (sorry for TMI) but today I'm getting some more brown gunk I guess I'll have to wait another day.

thanks carrot puff. still not getting too excited until doc confirms tomorrow!

sliced and romeo you have had tough times but welcome

chasing I temp, and I love it- I'm such a nerd. I got a cheap one on amazon (search for "Centigrade Digital Basal Thermometer reads to 2 decimal places"- comes with free OPKs and HPTs too!) and it works really well- way better than an expensive ear one I bought and then returned because it was totally inconsistent. I put the temp into Ovia every day. I knew yesterday morniing that AF was on the way which was shit good beacuse I could come to work prepared. And I had an inkling I was pregnant before my bfp beacuse of the sustained high temps. I know some people don't like it but I am so weird that I find it quite fun

Molly you've convinced me to give it a whirl. this is not healthy for me but I can't help it

MrsE OOhh those are some great lines!!!

Romeo so sorry fingers crossed for your next sticky!

Has anyone faced any (cough) unsupportive comments when you've mentioned ttc?

I've had, from people that usually are supportive, the following beauties:

Dm: 'No you should just stick with dd, I don't think it's a good idea to ttc again'

Dad: 'Definitely not, it nearly killed you! Think of dd'

MIl: 'Dear God don't tell me you're pregnant! I couldn't handle it again'

I've not asked opinions, it's just I obviously must seem a lot happier since we decided to try again so just responded yes, we are trying again.

I did do a massive cat bums face at 'I couldn't handle it again'

Oh couldn't you? Feck off. I mean I know they are worried but that doesn't give them the right to control my ovaries does it?

Sorry, can you tell it's wound me up? Back to the positivity.

Ha ha, chasing that made me lol! I think I'd get even more OCD if I temped... Ovia is enough for me at this point. The approach I took the month I got my bfp, and will be using from now until bfp is, DTD every second night from CD10 to CD20. Six times over ten days, no excuses. It worked then so no reason why it shouldn't again. Poor oh, we haven't DTD since mid December as that's when m/c started. Once AF buggers off it will be all go... Hopefully he won't mind too much though ;)

Sorry to those joining, heartbreaking to know how many it happens to. Right now thisthread is my safe place, hope it helps you too.

Would I be mad to poas tomorrow?

MC 6 weeks ago today at 11 weeks. Had bfn on 31/12 and 14 Jam, however still no AF. DH and I haven't been using any contraception. Sometimes think I feel PG but think it's just wishful thinking

why not reverse. psyche yourself up for bfn then if its bfp it will be amazing!

romeo i cnt imagine going through that with any dc in tow. for what is worth i ended up with emergency erpc and wish id just opted for that in the first place was a walk in the park compared to everything else.

thank you everyone. damn we really need to dtd tonite b no chance dp been at work all day then uni. ive laid down for half hour after dtd every other time hopefull some swimmers still in there.

here is a question for you, you know when you get the pinch as if u can feel the egg releasing, if it after this u should dtd to catch it lol?

i cant temp or anything ill get obsessed but ny gosh what is this cervix checking you talk of?

gingerbread its on the ovia app!

you check how high/ low your cervix is and how open it is! when you ov it should be high and feel soft like pressing your lips and it will be open so feels like circle. when not oving it will be lower and more closed and feel more like prodding your chin or nose! it actually helped me to get a better reading on when AF would start after wtf cycles!

sliced we didn't tell anyone we were TTC. just went did it. dreading telling mil because she is very opinionated and as everyone has been telling me or asking me is now the right time to have a baby? why not wait until.you're older/have your own home/ have done your courses/ are married and my reply is always those things will happen maybe it will take a little longer but I will appreciate it even more when it does!

dad never says much
my -monster- mother will have a lot to say and will probably try talking me out if it but I didn't ever tell them about previous MCs for fear they'd be disappointed!

and dp is in full panic mode! [confuswhere as I can't stop consuming cheddar cheese!

MrsEvans I've found that a loud resounding 'FUCK OFF' inside my head can be helpful.

I didn't set out to tell them, it just came out in conversation with one then spread like wildfire. I've just told myself that we went through it, if we want it and we are ready to try again then they don't get a say in it.

And...get that cheddar cheese down ya! (nods head sagely) Copious amounts of cheese are v.good for baby

It was always brown sauce on everything with me.

haha poor mil won't get a chance to react before I tell her to eff off!

hoorah of to the shop for the biggest block of cheddar they sell! (eating for two is acceptable at this early stage right)!!

Absolutely!

I'm going to start now you know, just practicing...

I temped successfully for years as a form of contraception and then ttc. It is good if you can religiously take your temp on waking and have good unbroken sleep. Not so good with young children if they don't sleep. Plus mine bleeped for what seemed like forever and woke everyone up when ds finally slept through .
Just boogie bounced again. Talked all my worries through with OH and he thinks I'm happier for exercising and what will be will be.

Oh unbroken sleep. . .

She wakes me once by climbing into my bed but then we tend to sleep. Do you think I'd be ok?

chasing you want to be asleep for 2 or 3 hours before you take the temp. But if the same thing happens pretty much every morning then I'd imagine it would be fine. You probably hardly wake up when she comes in do you?

I just downloaded the Ovia app- all this time I thought I was using the app I was actually just using the website on my phone. Busy checking out the new and exciting features hello loserville

Just lit a candle to remember baby number 1 and having a glass of prosecco.

We toasted our gorgeous ratbag 3 cats, beautiful new home had that we'd do everything we could to make 2015 a better year.

And I have survived due date number 1. Hopefully this means I can survive number 2 and. 3

'what's up down there?' made me chuckle every time! small minds...

Brummiegirl15

That's how we marked Alex's due date Christmas day.

I hope you can find some peace in it.

And a big prosecco cheers to 2015 being a fabulous year for all of us!

thinking of you brummie that's a lovely way to remember baby 1 x

heres to you brum may 2015 be the year pf brums baby and help you through all of your losses. thinking of u.

oh i dont even know where my cervix is i dont think ill get the hang of that.

a funny tale from my mc. cant for the life of me what th ad was for but have u seen the advert where there in a hospital and the patient is in for the camera. the consultant says ill just get the camera then in walks a film crew with the biggest camera ever. well the mw comes in for an internal and says ill just go and get my torch. comes back with a great big massive industrial torch the type my dad would have in his shed. my face must have been a picture. apprently she had to flip my cervix

if you take what ever stance you use when putting in a tampon you'll find it! I don't think you can miss it there's only one place it can be!!

brummie Here's to you and may the year ahead be full of joy. Well done you for getting through today.

ginger you probably never thought you'd start a sentence with "funny story from my mc"! But there's sometimes humour even in the darkest places (no pun intended!)

brummie lovely way to mark the day but I wouldn't hold back on 1 glass of vino.
Super news mrsE. Have everything crossed for you.
Pleased you boogie bounced again gr33dy! I really need to get my arse into gear and do something. I know I'd feel better for it.
sliced has the loud fuck off in your head ever leaked out of your mouth? Even just a bit? Quietly? Please say yes. It will make me feel better. I might have to hold my hand up to that "mistake"...

Big wave to everyone else!

Well I think I'm officially going cuckoo. I am really struggling to snap out of a unhappy place in my head. One full of babies. And mc. And ttc. And bumps. And pregnant sil. Colleagues. Bleurgh. I bounced back ... Kind of... After mc 1 but this fog won't clear.
Even dreamt i had tests done and the results came back and they were all normal except one for nylon. Wtf??? Nylon? Oh and dh had left Ds somewhere and forgotten where he'd put him in a big busy city.

Anyway... Enough of my crazy dreams. CD 9 today so gearing up to start all over again. Again.

thanks Mrs diddly bit concerned by the lack of speech from dp! has hardly spoken to me today! want to tell everyone but want to wait for docs to confirm!