ttc after mc- the best shit place to be! #3

[northdownmummy]

looking forward to new beginnings in the new year

yes definitely. so it could have been a dream but i have these experiences alot where i feel something physical whilst asleep and think ive dreamt it.

anyway i turned over in bed last night and my uterus / womb (im not very good with anatomy) felt almost like it was stretchig / acheing and i just thought to myself im pregnant. i know what they mean now. it was very vivid i kept thinking remember to tell dp tomo just incase you're right.

for info if i av 28 day cycles i am on day 14 today. i dont know my cycles well though as wasnt really ttc before so just used my planner to monitor when i was due af really. so i dont know when i tend to ovulate and cnt remembe if i has 28 day cycles or less.

i wont get complacenet with the dtd incase im massively wrong but i duno ive kinda convinced myself now. watch my mind start giving me lots of phantom symptoms in the next couple of weeks

oh jus an example of dreaming ive felt pain when i really have...after medical management for mmc i dreamt my back was acheing and it woke me up however at first when i woke i felt fine so thought oh ive dreamt it. hadnt though, was contractions.

Ginger if your cd14 now you are probably ovulating right now. I'd dtd lots. Perhaps it'd your subconscious giving you a pre warning that this is your month

yeah maybe be lucky if i fell first cycle though. i will give it a try. lots of dtd in order i think.

Thanks for the support ladies. It helps to be able to talk here, I often can't get my thoughts and feelings ordered enought to be able to talk about this with DP.

So concerns I'm going to raise with the Dr:

• have been using OPKs and DTD at least every other day during my fertile period. 6 months now with no success.
• periods have been much lighter since the MC. 2d heavy and then 2d of light or spotting. Could my lining be too thin for implantation? Could this be low progesterone?
• I've been getting a pain every month from when I ovulate till AF arrives.
• I'm about to turn 40 and worried that im running out of time.

I'm going to ask to get my hormones checked and if I can get a scan to check uterine lining thickness. Any other suggestions on what I should be asking for.

I'm a bit of a control freak, so not knowing what's going on and how I can fix it is driving me crazy

I think pushing for bloods and a scan is definitely what you should do. Be firm and don't let them fob you off. Try not to let your emotions fuddle you. (Like they do me!)

Good luck x

Hi all, just checking up on how you're doing.
Going to have a little read back x

brummie you here love? Thinking of you.

Hey treacle! How's things going?

purple giraffe how are things progressing? Good I hope.

So.. I decided to get back in the opks sp that I was on top of things for next month. I've had a positive opk yesterday and today- but while I usually have loads of (tmi) cm all cycle through... I'm dry as a bone.. how can this be if I'm ovulating?

What do you all do about having a drink when ttc? Completely teetotal? Or more relaxed?

Hi chasing :)
I'm ok thanks. 6 weeks today. just trying my hardest to keep calm!

I stay teetotal myself x

Happy Birthday for yesterday chasing, I hope you had a lovely day

Am enjoying having a lazy day today with absolutely no guilt as... AF finally came!!!!! Stomach is heavy and sore but at least I can start thinking about ttc again and start tracking with the apps. So happy to finally be out of the wtf cycle!

treacle great to hear you're doing well! Did the pains ease up?

guy I take a pretty relaxed attitude but don't go crazy- a glass of wine a few times a week. I know that's probably not what the recommendations say.

A belated happy birthday chasing!

I'm on cd 33 of the wtf cycle and phantom symptom spotting like crazy. Although I didn't manage to catch the LH surge despite daily OPKs I am hopeful I ovulated last weekend, which is what my temp charts would indicate. Since Friday I've been having cramps and for the last week there's been creamy cm (sorry for tmi) which Ovia says might be a sign of early pregnancy (oh I'll be angry with the inanimate piece of technology if it raises my hopes in error!!). Boobs possibly slightly bigger. All crazy early for symptoms obviously but am wondering really really hoping if maybe my body is snapping right back into the pregnant groove. Am going to do my utmost to wait until Friday to POAS. Let's see how my willpower holds out (or if AF's arrival deems it irrelevant)

Sounds promising molly, fingers tightly crossed for you!

Thanks molly :)
They're still coming and going.
Quite bad at the moment but I've just been for a walk.
Seeing the doctor on Tuesday to see if I'll have an early scan.

Fingers crossed for when you poas :)

Hi Chasing thanks for asking after me, happy birthday for yesterday! I am doing ok, permanently paranoid despite the fact that I am still being really sick at 16 weeks, yesterday was a particularly bad day.
I am still worrying myself to the point where I am considering paying for a reassurance scan. Guess it never goes away.

Hope those waiting to poas get that bfp very soon and you can get going next cycle Chasing.

speaking of reassurance scans, who will or won't be requesting/paying for an early scan for their next pregnancy? I got a private one last time at 9 weeks which showed a good hb and size but a very small sac. So the time after that was pretty sad as we knew an mc was very likely. The up side was at least we were somewhat prepared (as much as one can be). I am wondering if maybe an early scan can induce more stress/worry than it saves if that makes sense? So I was thinking of trying to resist the urge next time if I can... of course I will probably feel very different when trying not to say if! it comes to it. Any thoughts?

and sending loads of positive thoughts to purple and treacle and all others in the same boat, whatever the ga!!

guy I reduce my alcohol intake from a nearly daily glass of wine to occasional. Would stop entirely on a bfp.

I've been pondering that myself. Came across an article that over 29 and drinking were the worst risk factors for miscarriage so given I can't change my age might stop the wine.

I also read that energetic activities aren't shown to increase mc risk - the womb/uterus only grows when it needs to so the embryo is practically enveloped in an elastic ball. It used an analogy of a balloon with no air in.

Glad to see things going ok treacle.

Nice to hear from you treacle and glad you're doing well.
molly I think I will pay for a scan next time. I didn't mc until 11 weeks although had stopped developing much earlier. I don't think I'll be able to accept its really going to happen until I know so I won't be able to plan or bond for ages.
stocking are you there love? How's things?

Thanks Molly, I got a scan at 10 weeks thinking that if anything was going to go wrong it was quite likely to do so by then and the odds would be much better after that point if it was ok. Timings meant I had it just before Christmas rather than after so my thinking was that I would have that time to not be at work and get over it if it was bad news. It worked for me but depends on a lot of things.

It's sooo lush to see good bfp news continuing well.

molly.. I'm keeping fingers crossed. It does sound promising.

I'm 10 weeks post methotrexate today and ovulating. DH and I are waiting for a few days to let the eggy go :'( then practising ready for next month. We've not been in a "routine" for a few months so need some practising to get it right next month lol. My lower back is sore. Left boob a bit sore too! No obvious cramping. Just a very mild dull ache. Nothing like the last 2 times. Hardly any cm. Saw a teeny bit earlier but nothing like I usually have. I'm pretty sure my fertility book says it's all about the cm so I don't think we are particularly fertile this month anyway!

Oh and yes definitely to an early scan. Bizarrely I'm more worried about whether I'd ask for a hcg test. That gives me bigger heeby jeebies.

Actually I think they'd give me an early scan after having an eptopic??

i was glad when i had my mmc that they scanned me and i found out at 9 wks rather than 12 (i would have still bn blisfully unaware then as it happens). i dont know if i would choose to go for an early scan now though.

i cant put my finger on the reasoning other than at my scan i tried to convince myself dates were just out. i also carried on being pregnant for 4+ weeks after my first scan and knowing i had lost the baby whilst still being pregnant was traumatic for me, waiting to mc i felt like my life was on hold.

on the thread i joined a lady came on who had had a private scan at just over 6 wks, as they couldnt see the hearbeat she joined the mc thread. a week later a rescan showed everything was perfectly normal. thats a week of going through the emotions weve all been through which was unnecessary and for me i would worry about all that stress on the healthy baby.

I'd imagine so chasing. Sorry that you can't try this cycle. I suppose I've only seen the downsides of an early scan, it must be lovely to have one and hear that all is well!