ttc after mc- the best shit place to be! #3

[northdownmummy]

looking forward to new beginnings in the new year

stocking how did you get on at the GPs?

I'm really worrying whether boogie bounce is something I should be doing while ttc now. I've booked drs appt to discuss but not til after the next session .

Boots have three for two on x

MrsEvans do you have any idea when you ovulated? My cycles are fairly variable in length but what is constant is the length of time between ov and period- that'd how I know if I'm late.
Having said that, something went wrong this month because I can usually tell when I ovulate and I just couldn't. Ewcm stopped after 10 days so I think my body tried and failed several times. No idea when to expect period. A bit concerned because I've always gotten pg quickly so assumed I would never have any fertility problems- even after a mc. Why would I suddenly not be ovulating? Maybe stress- combination of mmc and dad's cancer diagnosis happening in the same week has been the most difficult time of my life. I guess it could have taken its toll physically.
Sorry for the me me me post.
Did you get to the go stocking?
Hope you are getting down to business ginger!

Guy .. stress could definitely be contributing but I do believe I read that most woman have an anovulation month per year?

Also read that we don't ovulate on alternating aides each month as I always thought either!

P.s. so sorry to hear of your dad. Xxx

GP was not impressed with admin staff. I did another sample, he put a sticker with a bar code on it - I told him the admin staff hadn't done that when I handed it over to them and he was and said that's probably why they got lost. He's given me a different set of antibs to take in the meantime as he thought it had dragged on too long now. Got to ring every afternoon to check for results again. Sigh.

I also walked away with a 3 month prescription for Cerazette POP as this week some financial issues have hit (DH is awful with money and yet again hasn't paid his share of the bills and we've had a load of debt dumped through the door because he owes a lot - 2k plus - on an apartment he had before we met.) He swore before I had the Mirena out that there were no more debts and he'd be paying his half of the bills. One of them being rent. Which we are now in arrears with. Again. With him but mostly myself, when will I learn

Obviously I could be pregnant right now and if so we'll have to muddle through as best we can but I don't want to do that - I had no financial issues when I had my girls and was able to more or less buy whatever I wanted within reason (eg not £500 highchairs haha) and even as a single Mum on benefits I had no debts or anything. Since we married its been one thing after another. I'm an idiot, basically.

oh shit stocking.

Sorry, that's a totally unhelpful comment. But you must be so hurt he lied to you about it. Did he lie? Or omit the truth? Same thing I guess.

Big hug stocking just so much going on for you right now. Take care

Oh stocking ...so much on your plate. You must be so disappointed/angry/let down. Xx

Hi ladies, just catching up. Hugs guy after your dad's diagnosis :-( thinking of you xx
And hugs stocking with the money issues - one of my colleagues has a dh who has put her in similar situations as yours and its hard for her but after she took full control of the finances they seem much better xx

Hi
I was a bit confused as I can normally tell when I icefalls had twinges over both sides of my ovaries and ewcm for about 4 days which isn't normal anyway! AF was due Monday but still no sign. cm is more like 'school glue' as my app describes it. Don't know if that's normal if you are waiting for bfp or AF. I've read all the websites but head is in a mess! dp isn't keen to have a bean now but neither of us have been overly cautious

Only one way to find out. ..

Seriously how do you have this much self control? I love to poas

I love it to but had too many bfn and don't think I wasn't too poas just invade then have to wait for the joy of AF to arrive!!

I love it to but had too many bfn and don't think I wasn't too poas just invade then have to wait for the joy of AF to arrive!!

sorry phone is posting randomly!

Stocking that is awful. Glad your GP took it seriously and has hopefully sorted things out.

AF turned up yesterday (exactly 2 months after mc) so I think that's why I went a bit jittery and hormonal last week. The weird mega-ewcm I had a couple of weeks ago must have been ovulation. To be honest it feels quite a relief to be back to CD1 again.

Well you guys were not kidding about the first post-mc period being heavier than usual. Had to rush to the loo an hour or so after changing tampon this morning and then do some emergency shopping. Horrible.

Anyone else feel scared of doing, or not doing, something you did or didn't do in your mc pregnancy? I know you were talking about exercise (body bouncing sounds fun) but I am freaking out a bit about vitamins, aspirin etc. I took high dose folic acid due to high BMI which almost certainly had fuck-all to do with the mc but a stupid part of my brain thinks, maybe I should stick to normal dose this time. Then I think, well I took the pregnacare conception multivits with my successful pregnancy so maybe I should get them again. I don't know, I am probably being stupid. There isn't a secret formula or we'd all take it.

MrsJ, I want to do everything different from last time. I don't think I did do anything to cause it but I can't help but fell I did everything wrong. I had a few drinks the weekend before my bfp, I cycled hard the day after my bfp, I had my fly jab at 6 weeks, I drank a cup of coffee every day, I went to bed with a hot water bottle every night. It's hard not to torture myself with those things. But do I think that pregnancy would have worked out if I did everything differently? No. I guess not.
MrsEvans, I would pinpoint the last day you think you could have ovulated which is most likely to be the day after you last saw ewcm. Then I would test about 16 days after that. Are you already beyond that? Poas!

I am! day 18 and no AF yet!! I've been to the chemist so many times and stood in front of the test but haven't got one yet!

Awww stocking I'm sorry to hear of your troubles. I hope the antibiotics kick in soon.
MsJ glad you know where you're at now. It's still depressing though. Watch out for the second one too (if you get one)
Things I probably did wrong? So many. Ran around playing tig, had a glass of wine. Went on waterslides, played wrestling with my son. Wouldn't do any of it again, but what reason can I give my 6 year old? He will just think I'm pushing him away.

MrsEvans you have patience of a saint! I would def POAS, and I always try to err on the side of AF being slighly late rather than pg.

Congrats on AF MrsJ! It's probably good to feel things are a bit more normal.

I too keep overthinking, and one thing that is standing out is my caffeine intake... With my first pg I really paid attention at how much tea I was drinking, although I physically couldn't drink more than 3 teas a day. Also couldn't drink tea after about 2pm This time however, it was tea, coffee all around, and they do say too much caffeine can cause a mc... Deep down my rational side is saying that's very unlikely, but can't help beating myself up... So yes, that would be one thing I would change.

Last 2 days have been awful. DS was in nursery on Thursday, and at first I quite enjoyed a bit of me time, but then in the afternoon got really teary... Then picked up DS from nursery, and he was in such a good mood he really brightened up my day. Until he went to bed... Then I got all sad and teary again and couldn't sleep... (DP was out)

Yesterday I got some kind of a bug. I was having chills and feeling weird the night before, but when I woke up I felt absolutely broken. Exhausted, achy all over... Had mild fever too. Couldn't eat much as felt nauseous... Spent most of the day in bed. Thank God DP was home.

Feeling much better today although still have waves of nausea... Just spotting now, but I don't think it will stop by tomorrow. Will probably give a call to EPU and see what they say.

It's a nice cold and bright day here, hope you ladies have a nice day

thanks carrotpuff I'm normally there must impatient person around!

just play fighting with dp and went to the bathroom for a tinkle and dp thought it would be funny to not let me shut the door which resulted in me crying! hormones are defiantly out if whack think I'll give in and poas later!

Hmm.. what would I do diff next time. I do wonder if my shell shock/immediate heightened sense of awareness did it. We'd been trying 16 months and I truly never expected a bfp. I couldn't quite believe it was true (even when I was being treated I kept thinking. . What if they've got it all wrong! because obviously having high hcg readings is normal for non pregnant women ) totally irrational. I took dd swimming the day I mc. I had a feeling it was coming but I went anyways. Maybe if I'd stayed in bed and kept really still or something it would have clung on. I do wonder if it's because I'm overweight. I haven't lost anything hugely game changing but I am trying really hard now so can only hope. I'd only been taking folic acid a short while so hopefully taking pregnecare- and folic acid will help maybe this time.

Oh I don't know. So much.

Got a positive OPK today. I'm too scared to risk trying.
Equally I think I'm always going to be terrified. I tried to imagine getting a bfp earlier and I came close to vomiting just thinking about it.

chasing it wouldn't have clung on if you hadn't gone swimming. It really wouldn't. It's wasn't going to develop no matter what you did.
That goes for all of us. I'm sorry if it is the wrong thing to say but we ask need to stop blaming ourselves.

I know guy.. I know it's entirely irrational. . Just those over thinking momenta x