ttc after mc- the best shit place to be! #3

[northdownmummy]

looking forward to new beginnings in the new year

Is WTF cycle literally mean What The Ef cycle? LOL

When do you start counting it from? When the bleeding started, when it finished, or from mc itself? Just curious...

Went to Tesco today and walked past Krispy Kreme doughnuts... I wanted those when I was still pg but DP forgot to buy me some. Made me so sad... I bought some regardless. Will have one in a minute with tea and probably cry while I eat it

I'm comfort eating at the moment. I know it's wrong and probably not helping but I don't care. I'll deal with it later.

reverse I'm a short cycle person. Always between 24 and 25 days. After MC 1 it was 27 days on the wtf cycle and mc2 28 days. So late for me but still pretty normal.

I have no idea when to count from on this cycle. The day I had my ERPC or the day I started bleeding - which was after ERPC??? My mc this time was silent so had I not had a scan at 9 weeks I could've easily gone on until 12 week scan which was supposed to be next Thursday.

Carrot on both my wtf cycles I counted the first day of bleeding on MC as day 1

And absolutely nothing is wrong at the moment. You do what you need to do.

I'm still experiencing tiredness and I'm still bleeding which is really fucking me off. I had my ERPC 11 days ago but didn't start bleeding until last Wednesday. I'm really feeling need to be close to DP but can't DTD until the bleeding stops. It s really light and dark brown so I know it's old blood and its close to ending but come on!!!!!

Feel like I'm waiting, I had to wait 3 days for surgery, waiting to stop bleeding, waiting to get a negative test so I can have my bloods done for testing, waiting to see consultant, waiting to try again. I'm desperate to try again but need to wait until I've seen consultant.

Miserable

Ah brummie you poor chicken. You really are being put through the mill. Really hope you stop bleeding soon so that at least that would be one less thing to suffer through

Thanks all expect af in a few days the

Yes we are ttc already, had a bfn on 31st dec and not exactly trying but not preventing either dice then iyswim.

Did a test at lunch which was bfn so just waiting for af now

Just popping on to sat brummie, sending massive hugs. You're really being put through it all. Look after yourself xxx

Hi ladies.
I had an ERPC on Dec 31, as MMC had been confirmed at an 8 week scan - baby had stopped developing around 6 weeks.

Could I be ovulating already?? Bleeding stopped Saturday.
I've had some pinching pain/discomfort, lower back ache, headache, tender boobs, and a lot of cervical mucus (watery).
If I hadn't have had the ERPC and just had normal AF, I would think so.
First step I guess it to see if I have a BFN.
We want to TTC again, so I guess this is my WTF cycle, and we should just DTD and not stress.

Just thought I'd pop in to send enormous un-mumsnetty hugs to Brummie. I was advised not to ttc for 2 months after my ectopic (although in the end we did ttc in month two), but even a month of not ttc is really tough when all you desperately want is to be pregnant. If it's any consolation though (and although I know some people are super lucky and get a BFP in the wtf cycle), I'm confident it's taken my body a couple of cycles to recover after each loss, such that for me I'm fairly sure that getting a BFP in the wtf cycle will never happen, so please try not to feel as though these next few weeks are a wasted opportunity (harder said than done I know).

13dpo at this end and after a BFN on an FRER yesterday, I know that AF is imminent. A little bit gutting as I don't think we could have done more this cycle.

Only one more cycle to go if I'm going to have a BFP before my first (6 March) EDD and it's not looking promising. On the advice of the ladies on the January bus I've decided to make an appointment with my GP to see how long we need to ttc before I'm eligible for any tests. February will mark month 10 of ttc for us and after a cp in cycle 2 and an ectopic on cycle 5 I'm just desperate for some reassurance that my remaining Fallopian tube is clear and that we do still have a chance of conceiving a healthy baby naturally.

Hi ladies

Brummie massive hugs to you

Carrot I'm also in the WTF cycle, I've read there is no 'correct day' to count as CD1, AF will come when it comes and every woman's body is different therefore there they quote 4-8 weeks on the info I was given. This is no use to me, I need to do something so am counting day of actual mc as CD1 and am now on CD27 which would normally be when AF comes. I was positive AF was on her way yesterday, the cramps were so bad I took ibuprofen and put a pad on but nil, nada, nothing... Very frustrating.

Cariad I think you've got good reason to ask GP for advice and possibly tests. It can't hurt to ask and get a bit of reassurance.

I can also relate with not wanting to leave the house. I mc'd on 19th Dec and had to go to Dublin on 30th for Hogamany with my best friend (who was 32 weeks pg) and her husband. I think I'd been to the supermarket once in that time. I thought it would be awful but the change of scenery helped and took my mind off what I'd just been through. Alcohol also numbed the pain. I came back to work on 5th Jan which has also helped me to keep busy. I find bedtime the hardest though, I go over and over and over everything in my head and struggle to sleep.

Thanks ladies.

I have to say I'm relieved to be at home. Signed off until 23 rd Jan but tempted to get it extended until 28 th as my first due date is 27th and I'll be honest I'm frightened about being in work facing my pregnant colleague on my first due date.

I know I should just suck it up and go back to work but I'm frightened that I won't cope

First lot of acupuncture today. But Cariad you are absolutely right, I just want to be trying. 5.5 wks until appt with consultant.

That said I still haven't got a negative hpt yet and I can't get bloods done until that's negative....

I intend to start trying after seeing consultant...

Brummie extend your leave. You have to look after yourself physically and emotionally, if that means avoiding your pregnant colleague on your due date then so be it. I ended up with 6 weeks off work (i only work 2 days) after advice from my GP and i'm so glad i did. Around the 4 week post mark i really struggled emotionally and would burst into tears all the time, which was a surprise, and i'm so glad i had that extra time in my bubble at home. You've really had such an awful time, take the time to stay in your bubble as long as you need. You don't need to suck anything up right now xx.

I can't remember who asked but i classed the day i mc'd as CD1 and i got my period exactly 5 weeks later.

I'm on CD15 and got a positive OPK today. We've been really shagging this month. Started on Saturday DTD every day except last night when DP couldn't finish as he'd gotten drunk at the football. I felt awful but my first thought was that it was pointless sex when actually it was enjoyable and i shouldn't be thinking like that. Will jump on him again once DS is in bed and every day through to Sunday! We're both in agreement that we have to do everything possible as last month, after our BFN, i spent days saying, 'we should have done this, we should have done that'.

I can't imagine how hard it is not to be TTC Chasing and Brummie but hopefully this time off will mean your bodies totally heal and are good and ready to carry a pregnancy. Have been thinking of you both a lot.

MrsB you could be ovulating now in theory. I didn't until 3 weeks after my MC. Have you had a negative test yet? I didn't get a BFN until 2 weeks after. My body really played some tricks on me during my WTF which isn't fair but lots of times i thought i ovulated, could be pregnant, AF was due and all were false. Just keep DTD as often as you can, fingers crossed for you.

hello ladies, joining for support from people who have been in the same boat. my first period after erpc ended yesterday (erpc 14/12/15) so i am now officially ttc after mmc. eeek! i am very excited, almost as excited as i am petrified!

How are you doing? Was it ok going back to work in the end?

Hi ladies, me again. Hope everybody is ok.

I've just had my next blood test to see if my hcg levels have dropped and hopefully it's halved or more then I may not need surgery. I've just started having stomach pain again though so not so sure :-(

I've been reading all your posts about your wtf cycle and I feel worried; my bleeding started on 21st December and hasn't properly stopped since. I'm very light now but when on earth would I count my cycle from? Thanks for helping me through this everybody x

hey guy, thank you. hugs right back at you!

returning after christmas was much better, settled down a lot emotionally so felt ok raising the issues with my line manager and fortunately they have been very understanding. we have updated office guidelines, still a few to do, hopefully if anything ever resulted in me being off they would now be able to refer to the guidelines and pick stuff up (doesnt explain why a pile of filing was left on my desk 6 weeks though, no-one need a guide for that and my boss even admitted knowing it was on my desk grrr!).

how are you getting on? i am feeling emotional today dont know why. part of me hopes i get bfp asap to stop me dwelling on whats happened but then i guess id only panic about it happening again.

Beyond annoyed with my GPs. Took in a urine sample last Friday. Have called 4 times this week checking for results. Have just been told they have no record of my sample and as per usual none of the dipshits admin staff will admit that they were the one I handed it to. The one I handed it to has previous form for this sort of thing with other patients that I know but as she was the only one in that day I had no choice. DH now has to go in after work to pick me a sample bottle up and I have to take another in tomorrow. I love our NHS but I'm now in 2WW and quite very irrationally worried about waiting yet another week for results which may or may not get 'lost' - this UTI could easily back up into a kidney infection whilst they are faffing about. Sigh. I'm just so tired of being in pain and having smelly urine.

Epski I bled on and off with variable pain for a month, don't panic yet my love. I know it's scary when it all feels like guesswork. I had 6 weeks of blood tests constantly and I was physically and emotionally battered and bruised, hopefully with a hcg of 200 ish it'll plummet quickly, but we are all here to hold your hand no matter what happens.

Hi all. . Still on period.. cd4 and still v heavy and cramping. I really really hope this next cycle is 28/30 days too. I'm really struggling with what to do re ttc. The consultant said we were good to go from valentines. We had said we'd give it the extra month as guidelines used to be 6 months. . Now its 3. We felt that was a massive drop and wanted to give it the best shot of working this time.. but I'm desperate to try again. I don't know what to do! I don't want to be impatient and try as soon as the 3 months is up and pay the price. .

chasing I can't even begin to think about what I'd do in your shoes. Its such a hard decision to make. The waiting to TTC is agony. But the apprehension due to the waiting time being slashed. Argh. I have nothing helpful to say I'm afraid

To those of you struggling with time off work, I sympathise. Barring the school run I don't have to see anyone or do anything outside of my own home, I cannot imagine having to function in a work environment.

brummie I too would advise taking more time off work, especially with the edd approaching and having ttc on hold. Hugs to you.

stocking your surgery sound awful! How annoying having to wait when things aren't getting better.

chasing changing guidelines must be hard but you would hope there is evidence to support them. Putting off ttc when its all you want is hard.

epskie most of us take the day of mc or erpc as day 1. I hope your pains have eased.

Nothing to report here. Cd 9 ish, dtd a sunday and this morning, hoping to get some in over the weekend too. Trying hard not to go over the top and obsess or wear OH out - we have great sex and I don't want it to turn into a chore.

CD15 here. Think I ovulated yesterday which is strange because my cycle are usually at least 35 days. Unless I didn't ovulate yesterday. I usually just keep an eye on cm and have never been wrong before but maybe mc has screwed up my body and I can't tell anymore.
Or maybe mc has made me go a bit mad and I'm obsessive and irrational when I used to be relaxed.

guy I'm sure my body has taken a big knock this time. Although my periods have arrived at 27/28 days like prior, I have not had the obvious symptoms of ovulation I used to like side pain and ewcm. tmi but I have had little cm for most of the cycles, with occasional blobs of clear but blood stained cm.

I'm thinking mine are anovulatory atm. In fact, thinking back, the dr after mc said you don't ovulate until you're ready so perhaps thats the case with me.

I've just realised that my ov day will fall while we are away on holiday with all my inlaws in march. That pretty much wipes out that month. . Arghhh

arrghhhhh I've just been updating the family calendar, and have spotted that we're having friends over to stay for the weekend on what should have been my due date. It was booked early in the pregnancy and I hadn't made the connection till now.

Can't cancel as they've booked flights and are coming over for a wedding and spending time with us before and after.

But really wish I had the option of just hibernating instead

oh north that sounds difficult. hopefully they will be a nice distraction though, did your friend know about the mc? could be a good support.

My cycle is confusing me. Usually I have 4 days of ewcm and 15 days later I have my period, so ov on the last day of ewcm. Had ewcm this week Sun-Wed. Assumed i ov on Wednesday- I have never been wrong!
No ewcm yesterday. Now it's back! Lots today! So maybe I didn't ovulate? Argh, I don't usually get obsessed like this- I've started really over-analysing this month. But something is different.