Anyone on their first cycle 2ww want a cycle buddy to chat with ?

[PinkButterfly]

Hi. I am on my first two week wait and completely consumed! Can't think of much else and as we haven't told anyone we are ttc I have no-one to chat with about it!! Anyone ??

Hello - yes me too!! I'm obsessed already, which is ridiculous...cant imagine what I'll be like a few months down the line.

Hi KitKat. Where are you on cycle then ? I am 4 dpo so can't test for another 10 days. Have an early test kit at home but would rather wait til 14 days dpo for an accurate result (though whether I manage to wait that long remains to be seen!).

oh crikey - what's dpo?? Cant quite get the hang of all the abbreviations!

Reckon on 13 or 14 days before I can test...but I really dont think I will be. Felt really strange the day before yesterday - odd prickly butterflies and weird stretchy feeling across my stomach...and I'm constantly hungry. But I'm ALWAYS hungry!! Sure it's all in my head and it's just wishful thinking...

Finding it hard to predict my ov day - I've been charting for about 6 months, and my cycle changes from 29 days (shortest) to 35 (longest)! Have invested in one of those fertility monitors - so hopefully that should help next month.

It's difficult to think about anything else really isnt it?

dpo is days post ovulation. I have an irregular cycle also but only use the ovulation predictor kits (opk) so know I ovulated at the weekend and were BDing like mad!

Actually feel I may be experiencing symptons already but trying not to get hopes raised. I knew within a matter of days with DS2 - light-headedness, queasy, v thirsty and crampy. Put is down to something else and that I was just reading into things as I so desperately wanted to be pregnant but turn out I actually was pregnant! Having same symptoms yesterday and today. Again could be nothing or something! Cant believe we could be lucky enough to fall pregnant on first attempt again!

Do you have any children already ?

No kids, this will be our first (I hope, if things go well) - so have absolutely no idea what to expect or look out for. So would you recommend the OPKs then? The monitor I got was a bit pricey but I thought it would be worth it as I have absolutely no idea what I?m doing!

Will this be your second or third? Your symptoms sound positive ? this could be a v short mumsnet buddy conversation! Will keep fingers crossed for you!

How old are you (if you don?t mind me asking)? I?m 32 and I?m conscious of the clock ticking with this being our first?

And as you?re a seasoned pro can you give me any tips?!

I only tried OKP's for one month with DS2 and they obviously did the trick for us. I think its v difficult when you have such a sort window of opportunity each month and you don't really know for certain when you are ovulating. I know alot of people get ov-type symptoms but I personally dont so need to test to find out LH increase. Temp charting is v popular on here but I don't sleep very well generally so resting temps are all over the place for me and don't give me anything to go on.

This (if successful) would be my fourth pg - m/c 1st, have ds1 - 7yrs and ds2 - 3 yrs. We had really thought our babymaking days were over but just recently agreed to try for a final child. My ds and I are both 32.

I dont think you need worry about your biological clock at this stage - 32 is not old my any manner of mean (check out some other threads and you will see).

I am no pro compared to some of the woman on MN - some have 6 kids! Alot of them have been ttc for some time and/or having IVF and such so I don't really like to crash their ongoing threads as I have no experience of this.

Delighted to have someone to chat with and look forward to checking in with you to see how you are doing.

I know what you mean ? I feel a little foolish obsessing considering this is only month 1, especially when some of the girls on MN have been trying for years. But it?s so hard to not get carried away when you want it so much. Very glad to have you to chat to as well hon!

32 is OK ? maybe a little late for the 1st, but I?ve never felt ready before. My dh certainly hasn?t ? he?s a year younger than me (and considering some men?s years are a bit like dogs and cats ? that?s more like 5!). He seems pretty happy about it now though ? trying not to let him see quite how obsessed I am though!!

Keep posting and let me know how you get on!

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DS1 home - homework time. Speak soon. x

Pinkbutterfly & KitKat - I am on my 4th cycle of TTC and it still feels the same as the 1st month though tinged with a bit of fear as to why it has not happened for us yet but that's just impatience, some on here have waited far longer. Hope you don't have to wait too long! I am 32 too by the way and DH and I are trying for our 1st baby like you KitKat

Yay come join this thread! Always nice to talk to people in the same boat.

I?m so impatient too ? and I hate not being able to decide/control what?s happening to me?hence the OPK for next month. From what I?ve been reading though, there?s no need to start worrying until 6-8months+?easier said than done.

Are you doing all the usual charting etc? I?ve been charting my cycle, but haven?t quite going around to doing the BBT stuff ? feels like too much effort somehow! (Doubtless come Xmas I will be doing BBT too!)

How?s your DH taking it all? I worry about them sometimes ? trying not to make him feel like a performing seal!

Hi MrsMcJnr. I have seen you on other threads and on the hoping for pos oct thread. Was going to join you there but at one point you were discussing areas I have no experience in and could see some of your had been trying for a while so felt a bit unworthy (?!) and silly obsessing in my first month ttc.

Know what you mean KitKat - some days I felt like I was begging for it (sorry tmi ) and my husband said ... now you know what it feels like for me the majority of the time! .

I am on this site far too much for my own good - I do have a job but am so obsessed that I stalk this site most of the day and then have to work like a trojan to catch up

KitKat - the control thing is big with me. DH thinks TTC is a good lesson for me because I cannot influence the outcome (well, not much!)

I am on my 4th cycle of charting. I like knowing where I am in a cycle and what is going on. I find that less stressful than not knowing. BBT stuff? what's that?

I kept all the TTC stuff to myself for the first 2 cycles. DH wanted a baby but did not want to know any of the ins and outs but by the 3rd cycle of him saying he was too tired or rejecting my advances just when I needed him to succumb, I told him about fertile phases and not to reject me etc because it was stressing me out! He understands it all a bit better now.

Pinkbutterfly - never feel unworthy of joining the monthly threads. Whilst there are a lot of people who have been here a while, there are lots of newbies every month too and it is good for everyone as it brings in fresh hope, new ideas and enables us all to support each other. Most of us have learnt tons from Mumsnet.

Nice to meet you both!

Know what you mean about logging on at work - keep having to turn my screen so no-one can see the big Mumsnet sign!! (My internet surfing paid off today though - Statutory maternity pay increases to 39wks - from 26wks - after 1st Apr 07, which is great news. Prob old news, but new to me!)

BBT - basal temperature which you take every day I think? Where are you in your cycle - I'm waiting patiently for AF to arrive (due in a couple of weeks - boo)

At least these boards mean that we can let off a bit of steam to people who know what's what, rather than unloading on DHs who are under enough pressure to perform!

Just wish I could fast forward 6mths to see what happens...

Anyway am at home now looking forward to a nice eve of crap TV take my mind off things!

Have a good eve both, chat in the morning!

Hi Kitkat, well here I am again, meant to be doing the work I didn't do today but..........!

I work on my own so I don't have to worry about anyone seeing the sign! Slightly worried that my job might not last me until maternity leave though, it's a start up company and I am their biggest cost. Not a great time to be moving job when you are TTC. I believe that you need to be in a job before you are 3 months pregnant to qualify for stat mat pay but then again, I am NOT putting TTC on hold. What will be will be!

Sorry, re BBT. Yes, I do temp and I find it really interesting. It also teaches me to be rational e.g. you think AF is coming, you try and convince yourself it isn't but if your temp starts dropping you know you are not pg (once you have lost the hope that it is an implantation dip that is!!)

Hope your AF doesn't show up at all!

Hello Ladies - just logged on for a mo while I make some supper! I am lucky in that I just recently gave up my job and can sit at home all day on MN if I wish however feel I am neglecting my 2 children sometimes chatting/reading about subjects to do with having another babe!! Happy to have started this thread though and "meeting" you both. Think KitKat and I should join October thread too!! Catch you both tomorrow. x

Morning girls...yawn another day in the office - the thought of 9 months maternity leave is just too fab!

Very jealous that you're at home PinkB! How do you find it? Do you miss work at all? I don't know what I'll be like - at the minute I think I'd like to go back after 9-12 months, but you just have no idea what you'll feel like when thay baby comes along!

MrsMcJnr - have a look on the DWP website, it has all the info about SMPay. It says to get SMP you must have been:

• Employed by your employer into the qualifying week which is the 15th week before the week your baby is due.
• Employed by the same employer without a break for at least 26 weeks into the 15th week before the week your baby is due. Part weeks count as full weeks.

But our policy at work says that you can claim SMP regardless of when you started. So I think it just depends on the company...not really something you can ask in an interview though!! Fingers crossed your job lasts till then anyway. Think you're right about not putting things on hold - you could end up waiting forever.

Dying to know more about you both, so I'm just going to be really nosey! How long you've been with your DH? My husband and I have been together for about 8 years, married for nearly 4 of those. Can't believe it's taken us this long to start thinking about kids really...

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Good morning KitKat! I've already been lurking on MN for about an hour now just catching up on some threads since last night! Completely addictive all this!

Yes, I do quite enjoy being at home. Was a SAHM for DS1's first year or so then went back to work part time for a year then full time for two years then was a SAHM again for two years with DS2 then went back to work for 18 months part time. Only gave up my job a few months ago as the part time was turning into more than full time and I was working every night until midnight most nights and after 9 months of it it was getting too much. My mother was diagnosed with cancer in June and I was her main carer - it just made me realise that life was just too short to spend it working all the hours that god sent and my family was suffering so I chucked it! Must admit we are pretty skint now but my home certainly runs much better, my kids are happier and we have everything we need (just not so many luxuries).

Ok nosey parker - my DS and I have been together for 13 years and married for four of them.

Well there you have my life history!!! (well you did ask - lol).

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Oh hon, really sorry to hear about your mum ? must have been devastating for you and the family. But you?re right ? I?m def with you on the work/life balance. For all my moaning, I do enjoy working, but it will never be as important as my family. If there was a choice between the two?! Well, no contest really.

WOW ? 13 years! That?s fantastic ? you must have been teenagers when you met? Was it love at first sight??

My DH and I worked together and it was a very gradual thing ? friends for ages, when it suddenly dawned on me that I actually quite fancied him. Def made work more interesting!

oh its fine Kitkat - mum had surgery to remove lung tumour and has been given an all clear of a kind so just going through the recovery process which is taking some time but she will get there. She had breast cancer 9 years ago so we have been here before - we have just been so lucky both times.

Yes DH and I were 19 when we got together. We had known each other since we were nine (went to school together) and had an on/off courtship of a kind throughout primary and secondary school. Went our seperate ways after secondary school but ended up back on each others path - fate I suppose!!

Havent ever been in a relationship with a work collegue but did have a fancy for someone once - does make your day more interesting and makes you take such an effort in your appearance (never looked so hot going to work!). Do you still work together ? What is it you both do ?

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Glad to hear your mum's in recovery.

Ahhh childhood sweethearts! I'm an old romantic at heart...have read too much Jane Austen for my own good!

We dont work together anymore - I work in marketing for a kids charity. I know I moan about my job - but it's OK really. I work with some really nice people, all of similar ages/interests etc, so it's not that bad.

How are your symptoms today? Still feeling positive?

Yeah, still feeling out of sorts and queasy but really trying not to get too positive. Telling myself that these are likely to be symptoms of something else. Think if I'd had these the last time and hadnt been pregnant I would be less likely to be reading so much into them this time! Ah well, only another 9 days or so and all will be revealed though to be honest don't think I'll manage to wait that long if I continue to feel off colour. I have the Predictor early test which you can do 10dpo which would be next Wed/Thurs though really want to try and wait until the following Monday - but can I ?? Maybe AF will have arrived in the meantime and provide an answer for me. What day will you best testing if AF hasn't arrived ? Joined the Hoping for a positive in October thread this morning - are you going to join that one too ? x

Well AF is due 21st-23rd, so I guess that Mon? I?m pretty sure I?m not though, so don?t feel too much pressure to test. If I had a vague suspicion I was, I think the wait would be unbearable! I?d probably be testing every day! I think the Hoping for a positive in October thread might be more likely?

Sorry - that should have been Hoping for a pos in NOVEMBER! Doh!

Well not everyone has symptoms before a BFP and some with symptoms they think are a sign end up with a BFN - so you never know. I'll keep everything crossed for you that AF doesn't arrive! We will continue to chat here anyway whether or not you are joining other thread this month. Going to get my butt moving and go out for a while shortly - too easy just to spend days chilling at home (& sitting on MN all day)! Speak soon. x

Enjoy the sunshine!

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