ttc after mc- the best shit place to be! #2

[chasingtherainbow]

Roll up roll up... onto a new thread. Keep those lucky bfp' s coming and unmumsnetty hugs all round.

epski please go to a&e. It may not be a full mc and you might get very poorly. Am worried about you xxx

Epskie I had a complete mc with labour-like contractions and then had further episodes of these over the following week. They were weaker than the original one though. In each case I had a couple of hours or so or contractions and then passed clots etc (apart from the original episode which was 5-6 hrs)

However I had had a scan so I knew I had passed the sac and these were just clots. I'm not sure from your previous posts what medical care you have had. If you are having unbearable pain or severe bleeding you should go to hospital.

Sorry you are going through this and to anyone who has joined us over Christmas. Also to Brummie, so sad.

Thank you. I started bleeding on 21st December and lost large amount of tissue on Xmas eve and Xmas day. I'm terrified of general anaesthetic which is why I opted for trying to pass naturally. Should I call them tomorrow? I'm so fed up and sad x

epskie darling please call now. Please. I had to call nhs 24 with one of my mc and I am glad I did. Please don't put yourself at risk. I had simaler pains but at the early stages as others have said. Just call them. Hand holding here.

I would call EPU first thing tomorrow and they should arrange a scan to check all is clear. But in the meantime please monitor yourself and any severe pain or bleeding or any temp or feverish symptoms please go to A&E straight away.

I went to hospital during my mc and received excellent care, I was treated for possible infection with ABs but had no medical or surgical management for the mc so please don't think you have no option but to have a GA if you go to hospital.

Please don't be afraid to seek out medical care. we are all here for you. The sooner you get help the closer you get to the "end" and it all being over. If something inside isn't quite right, like a wee bit of leftover tissue it really is best you are seen asap.. Please don't ignore it, or put it off. Xx

Just checking in epskie. Hope you are ok.
I was terrified of the general anaesthetic too and had never had one before. It is fine though. Honestly am erpc is a million times easier than mc naturally. It is a simple routine procedure and the general is just so quick. Hope you are ok this morning.

Oof. My first period after mc and erpc is heavier than usual.

Just checking in to say that I'm thinking of you today Brummie. Hope the ERPC goes as well as it can do and that you have lots of support in RL.

P.s. Sorry to all those having a hard time at the moment - sending enormous unmumsnetty hugs to everyone who needs them.

Allthequeens - I totally understand your fear of another BFP. After two early losses, the only thing that keeps me going is the belief that at some stage I will have a pregnancy that will actually work. That having been said, I'm not sure how I'll cope if my next pregnancy turns out to be another ectopic. I really hope that you get a BFP and a healthy, sticky bean very soon.

Loving NorthDown's NYE. Sounds idyllic. In a bid to start 2015 on a positive note, for the first time in about a decade I found myself writing a list of new year's resolutions, which are all things I hope to achieve in 2015 and none of which are pregnancy related. Although I'd love to get pregnant with a healthy, sticky bean in the next few cycles such that 2015 becomes the year of the baby for me and DH, if I don't, I'm hoping that the list can serve as a reminder that there are plenty of other positives in my life that I should be grateful for, even if the thing I want the most at the moment is eluding me.

Thanks guys, and sending out thoughts to everybody else who is suffering too. This thread is amazing and I couldn't have coped without it xx

The pain eased through the night a little, did a test this morning and still showing as positive. Called epu and they've booked a scan for me on Monday. I still have a bearing down feeling pretty much all the time. Perhaps I'll lose whatever is left before the scan? X

Brummie I am so sorry to hear your news . I don't understand why life has to be so fucking cruel sometimes.

If your ERPC is today it will be too late probably, but I wondered if you could ask that they perform tests on the foetus and find out if there were any problems. I think it's really important that they refer you now and as someone said up thread there is a thread within Conception I think, that is about recurrent miscarriages and tests, referrals etc. if your GP isn't sympathetic then find one that is.

My GP couldn't give a shit about the two MCs I've had this year. I asked if they would test my progesterone levels to check they are high enough and they said they are prepared to do precisely nothing. I've decided that if I lose this pregnancy and they won't refer me I shall move doctors as I'm sick of the attitude of supposed health professionals.

Lots of love to you and to everyone else on here that is suffering xx

sebsmummy/ NewEra

Happy New Year ladies. Fingers crossed that 2015 brings an abundance of sticky BFP's.

I'm sorry to see many new faces since I joined the thread following my first MMC in June (although I'm more of a lurker), it sad that MC is so common.

Am having a particularly tough time at the moment, my due date is in 6 days and as I would have had a c-section at 39 weeks I should be holding my new born baby. As it stands I'm not, I'm not even pregnant as the stark white BFN that was this morning. I shed so many tears yesterday it was unreal, I'm dreading going back to work on Monday, instead of being on maternity leave.

This TTC malarkey is not much fun especially with PCOS. I did conceive again in the WTF cycle but MC at 5+3. Since that MC in August i have had 3 cycles, 1 of 56 days, 1 of 43 days and the present cycle current in CD28. I just wish I knew what my body was doing. I have been taking Soy isoflavones for the last 2 cycles and EPO this cycle. This cycle I had EWCM on CDs 12-16 so DTD plenty during that time and thought the timing was perfect. But since then, zero symptoms and a BFN today. I'm gutted to say the least. I'm just waiting for AF to rear her ugly head but when is anyone's guess. I am
Becoming obsessive about becoming pregnant, too obsessive I think but at 40 time is not on my side.

Allthefours I am 40 in February and felt exactly the same way. I honestly believe that it was the combination of supplements (bloody expensive ones) and acupuncture that lengthened my cycle and allowed me enough time to mature the egg that ended up getting fertilised.

I wrote a really long post in Conception that listed the supplements I was taking and I found a fertility acupuncturist local to me that was affiliated with Zita West.

I think at our age it's totally possible but we do have to do more than just take folic acid.

That's really interesting sebs. I am also concerned about my age and fertility (I'm 38). I was taking high dose folic acid with the pregnancy I lost and part of my brain doesn't want to replicate anything from that time even though I know that's stupid. I do get really confused about what supplements to take so will look for your list on the other thread.

I might look into acupuncture. I have never had it before and I think it is worth a try.

Hi all. Well it didn't happen today - got cancelled as there are just no beds at Worcester. Plenty of theatre slots but no beds. Wards are full of medical patients - as its winter.

Got cancelled at 5pm after I'd eaten nothing for 21 hours!!!!! So chowed down a Dominos pizza, wedges and half a Terry's choc Orange. DP made a right face when I saud I wanted Dominos but let's face it, what was he going to say? No???

I start on nil by mouth again at midnight and hopefully get a bed tomorrow. And yes, I've signed all the paperwork for testing.

The waiting is agony

Oh Brummie, that's terrible. I really feel for you. It was very touch and go as to whether I'd have my surgery for my ectopic on the day I was admitted (due to competition for theatre slots as opposed to beds) and the waiting without knowing whether it would go ahead or not was agony (I definitely think it was the worst part) - I was just desperate to have it over and done with.

Thinking of you. Keeping everything crossed that it goes ahead tomorrow.

How is everyone doing? Feeling better or worse as festivities end?

I'm a bit down again thinking should have had a bump while taking decs down. Weird what triggers things.

I'm cd25 and not even sure if I ovulated this month. But still symptom spotting and wondering when I'd test. I tried joining the Jan bus, but felt a little left out of it so haven't posted since. Paranoia too!

Brummie I hope you got a bed today. The waiting must be awful.
Allthefours thinking of you this week.

brummie still thinking of you. Hoping you are sorted today.

Day 3 of first period and it is the worst period I've ever had. Heavy, painful. Feeling rough. Still pleased it is here though- and 15 days after I think I ovulated so hopefully cycle isn't too screwy. Think we'll start to ttc from now. Have always conceived quickly so not sure how I will cope if it takes a while. Really want to stay relaxed about it though. I've never done any tracking and I don't think I want to start! I'm a bit obsessive by nature so have to be careful what I start.
Hope your all doing ok.

eggs I understand what you say about the thread... sometimes I feel like that When are you going to test? I'm sorry to hear you are sad. I'm currently taking down Dec's too. procrastination

It's funny.. being able to Eat Christmas dinner did it for me. I remember going to a v early Xmas party and thinking "this is probably the last festive food ill enjoy this year"! . I was anticipating some serious sickness, as I had with dd. I mc not long after.

I was thinking alot about previous pregnancy. I wrote a thread a few days ago when I was pretty upset. . . When I tested with dd I did two (double pack) thst was it. It never, ever occurred to me to keep testing.

This time, I spent £60 on tests over 4 days .. sometimes my anxiety makes me think I was so highly strung over it that I caused mc. I honestly had felt in my heart I might never see a bfp again. It was like I couldn't believe it. . I just kept testing. They were do faint too.

Anyway. . I've not really helped lift any spirits with that wee ramble. .

Brummie. You're in my thoughts my love. X

Gr33dyeggs don't feel left out of the January bus- I'm on there too! There are lots of first timers but also plenty of familiar names.

Thinking of you ladies. Brummie I hope you got a bed.
I agree with the bus discussion. I feel like i don't really want to post on there anymore either.
I'm sooo tired.
Obviously hoping it's pregnancy but I'm only a few dpo. Not completely sure as we've been incredibly relaxed this cycle.

chasing If cycle is back on track AF due monday so I'll wait til Thursday when I'm off work. Got symptoms for pg of sensitive nipples and symptoms of AF with the red mist.
guy I feel like you. We have been lucky and conceived quickly 3 times and the thought of it taking longer is really hard. I so feel for couples ttc for months and years unsuccessfully.

Hi all, new to the page and thread.

Thinking about ttc not actively doing anything about it as DP is being horrifically practical and not listening to my hormones or emotions and I feel like a cow for being mean to him when we talk about this subject.

I've had 2 MC's first I was young and stupid so didn't deserve to go full term. 2nd was last August and didn't know I was pg just knew when ad turns up it wasn't normal. Doctors refused to believe me finally went to hosp and the confirmed I was right. Since then I'm stupidly obsessed with getting pg.

Constantly feel down when af comes but when it's late I shit myself! I'm 22 DP is 27 and has a DS already and it's got to the point I can't go to see DS-S because I get stupidly emotional that we don't have our own little family.

Sorry to hear that we are all here for the same reason thoughts are with you all. Hoping for BFP's this year xx