ttc after mc- the best shit place to be! #2

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Roll up roll up... onto a new thread. Keep those lucky bfp' s coming and unmumsnetty hugs all round.

westtoeast We were told a story by the dr after our mc of a lady who was suffering a mc and being regularly scanned. They saw the initial sac shrink and then a second appear and develop whilst the initial was reabsorbed. There are exceptions to every rule and our bodies do some odd things! Hope you have support in RL. Jx

brummie I'm so so sorry, it's so shit. I hope the hospital will start investigations into your miscarriages now. Life is so cruel. I hope you've got lots of support in RL.

My body is playing tricks on me and it's not fair. I know mc messes things up though. I'm peeing loads, my boobs are agony, Iv increased discharge and I can't keep my eyes open - all my usual signs of early pregnancy and not AF (usually just get overly weepy and some cramping) but tests showing BFN with AF due tomorrow. Cruel hormones getting my hopes up!

Gr33, that's an amazing story! I posted on the 40 plus thread too and someone there came forward to say that she had a similar situation with positives throughout her first AF post mc.
These threads are such a wealth of knowledge and support.

TMI warning:

I'm on my first AF since MC and it is horrendous - as heavy as the actual MC and I've got a lot of small clots coming out. My "uncontrolled" periods as in not on the Pill/coil etc have always been absolutely terrible, but this one is taking the mick. I've flooded 3 pads already today (good job I was at home) and I just feel drained.

I tested negative the day after the MC bleeding stopped.

Went back to the GP today and I have to take in a full urine sample on Friday to be sent off to the lab. Symptoms have come back since finishing the amoxicillin but they aren't as bad as they were prior to taking it.

Hi all, so sorry to hear the sad news Brummie :-( my heart goes out to you.

I mc on Xmas day and thought that was it over but today I had terrible pain and another two big tissue losses (sorry Tmi) has anybody else experienced this? Thanks in advance x

Epskie I experienced that too. Four different lumpy bits over a week. Along with lots of blood and some small lumpy bits.

Brummie I'm so so sorry this has happened to you. There are no words. I have only posted a handful of times on this thread but I can see how wonderful and supportive everyone is. Please talk to us if you need to, there are some things you can't say to people in RL, but you can say them here. No matter what you are feeling we will listen.

I'm in my wtf cycle atm and am on cd30. I really don't want to poas unneccesarily as the disappointment will be too painful. Any thoughts on how long would be reasonable to wait for AF to show up? I mc'd at exactly 6 weeks but i have no idea when/if I ov'd. I'm trying and failing not to obsess, I think when this AF arrives it is going to hit me hard.

Yey, first post mc period arrived this morning! 35 days since mc which is my usual cycle. Happy it's here now. We'll start ttc this month.
I can use my mooncup, right?

Sorry Ultimate, my post was really insensitive after yours. I'm happy about my period only because we weren't ttc this month as I wanted to get cycle back to normal first. If you don't know when you ovulated, you might have to just bite the bullet and poas. A negative doesn't necessarily mean you're not pg- as you don't know when period is due, it could just be too early. You might be pg, you might not have ovulated yet, you might not ovulate at all this cycle. Stupid wtf cycle- impossible to predict. Sending hugs.

Guy don't worry, i didn't find your post insensitive. Actually AF turned up this morning. I suppose it means everything is working properly. It's just so rubbish that it's another whole month without a bfp. Why oh why are cycles so long?!

Oh and yes, you can use your moon cup now.

AF got me. Such an evil witch she is. My dad asked how i was doing and i ended up crying on his shoulders. DP said we are DTD every day from CD8 - 20 next month to try get pregnant. I know we DTD 3 times leading up to ovulation and the day of last month so was feeling hopeful :(

Good evening ladies and 2015.

Been a difficult festive season and started the new year feeling blue. Drove last night and went to friends of dh for drinks. Ended up leaving around ten as dh, I repeat, dh, not me could not take anymore baby talk. One particularly insensitive discussion had me going for a walk outside, despite having not smoked for years. I did not smoke, but came close. I actually feel kinda blessed that he noticed as he is a big insensitive type and actually was a star. I'm rambling, but don't really want to type out what was said. The stupid things people say when they have not been where we are.

No idea at all re this month. Have managed a couple of ovulation days but to be honest, I feel that's the least of my worries. I'm actually frightened to get a bfp because I know what will follow. I'm just trying to ignore it all. So if you hear of someone that gets to like six months and has not done a test that will probably be me. I absolutely get that we are all different but for me, it's that roller coaster, bfp, mc. Just like that.

Anyway, promised myself I would be more positive so went for a ride on my very muddy pony in my Jammies today with my lovely dneice and cosied in now, thinking of you all. X

haribo I felt a litte like that yesterday but reminded myself that even with perfect conditions - healthy egg healthy womb lots of healthy sperm that the chance of conception is around 20% per month. So I don't feel as bad now. It did jarr when I realised my earliest due date would now be October 2015 and that feels so far away, and in reality, I think, given all the stats, its more likely to be Jan 2016 and that makes me

allthe cross post there. Its hit my DH far harder than it has me, but I think that's because of his previous loss, he can't tolerate any talk of baby related things at all right now, unless its just me him and either his DSis or my best friend. He can let himself go in front of them but not anyone else. He'll fall silent and the leave the room.

He's never been like that though stocking. It's hit me hard today watching him last night. He's farmer, sometimes hard, almost life cycle type. Does that make sense? I've really felt lonely as he just has not got it. But he did last night. I love him to bits but he really won't talk about it. I guess I know now he does care. Don't get me wrong, and I'm maybe typing this badly, he cares, but I just didn't think he got it??

Sorry to see some new names on here and that some of you are having a rough start to 2015.

We celebrated the new year with a few bottles of fizz, just DH and I sat in on the sofa with the tv off. We had such a lovely evening, reminiscing about all the wonderful experiences we had last year. I tried to think of my favourite thing each month.
It's been too easy to let the MC dominate but horrendous as it was, it brought us closer than ever. And considering we got married in May, even with that, 2014 was one of the best of my life.

Been making some future plans too. Going to book to see the doc in Feb which will be 6 months. Also going to get serious about planning and financing an extension. I feel much lighter looking forward instead of back ..... Just need to keep it up

north sounds like lovely NYE.

Welcome to the newbs, though gutted to see you here

2015 is our year ladies xx

allthe Yes I know exactly what you mean. It's only been over Christmas that he's started to show it, prior to that he just didn't seem bothered at all, almost as if he shrugged it off whilst I was breaking apart.

Thanks stocking. I worried that sounded like he was horrible, he's not. He's just my dh, big hug. And I extend that to you all, in an unmumsnetty way. I ignore that here anyways, I think we all need a hug. I certainly do.

Hi guys, me again. It would seem my ordeal isn't over :-( I now have severe contraction like pains, any body else experienced this? Thanks in advance x

epskie I've not had that but both my miscarriages were complete. Its possible yours wasn't and this is remaining tissue . I'd try and get a scan if you haven't already. Hot water bottle and painkillers may help. So sorry, big hugs.

epskie, iirc you were still having positive pregnancy tests weren't you? I would imagine this could be remaining tissue. My natural mc involved contractions increasing in frequency and intensity, exactly like my labour with dd. Very very painful. I then passed the sac and tissue and had a lot of blood loss. I was scanned the next day and there was remaining tissue so I had an erpc the following day. If I hadn't had the erpc, I would most likely have experienced another labour-like experience for the rest.
Remember that even though contractions like that are INCREDIBLY fucking painful, this is actually your body being really really clever. This is what your uterus is supposed to do- contract, open the cervix and push out the contents.
Remember to keep an eye on the blood loss and if you are soaking through a pad really quickly or are feeling unwell or dizzy, seek medical attention. Is there someone there with you?
Regardless of whether you do pass tissue tonight, I would give the epu a call and remember to mention how long this has been going on. When did you start to miscarry? The longer your cervix is open, the bigger the risk of infection so just make sure the epu can make an informed decision. If this is really prolonged, they should be scanning you tomorrow and booking in surgery if scan shows anything remaining.

Sorry you are still in the middle of this. This means it's nearly over though. Sending strength.

Still thinking of you brummie. Hope erpc is smooth tomorrow so you can find a way to begin healing. Sending you huge hugs. Miscarriages can fucking fuck off.