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TTC for 10 months, and all the rest. 10 plussers welcome.

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MuddyWellyNelly · 11/11/2014 16:23

New thread full of the most amazing women.

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ThatWayMadnessLies · 10/12/2014 21:02

Just quickly popping on to say to to Nelly that I worried about lack of morning sickness and said so to my lovely gp. She said it's an old wive's tale that people tell women who are being really sick because otherwise it's just sh*t. I had nothing and my pregnancy was textbook (until the slightly scary delivery but remember that my internal organs are kind of fused together so something was likely to be complicated). Will be thinking of you tomorrow xx

critter sorry for continuing issues. I'm sure they are exacerbating the fear despite the very positive scans. So pleased to hear that all is well though.

Great news for an organised round cos and I'm looking forward to ray's natural round success too Grin

Buzzybee123 · 10/12/2014 21:02

berry interesting about the hypno, I had a colleague who did it to improve her self esteem and confidence, hope all goes well on Friday

nelly very excited for you :)

sam sometimes stepping back is good, its such a shite journey

ray hope AF plays ball

critter glad the scan showed the twibling doing well

cos I know Reprofit sometimes use the pill for cycles, they gave me all the info in advance, I remember thinking what happen if things don't go to plan, but all did thankfully :)

star yay to getting on with IVF at last

hello to newbies, I'm having a bad run with bloody migraines so feel like I am off my face most of the time Hmm

MuddyWellyNelly · 10/12/2014 22:23

A quick post to everyone to say thanks (again) for the reassurance, I'm still terrified but I will know soon enough. Actually trying to decide if I feel a bit nauseous tonight but my guess is it's nerves.

Yay Cos for impending IVF with a clear plan. That will definitely make it easier. And double yay for Critter and a good scan.

Will post more tomorrow once my hands stop shaking. This level of menkulling is unsustainable; but at least I've been ok up until the last day.

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MuddyWellyNelly · 10/12/2014 22:24

Buzzy sorry about the migraines, I've a headache tonight that is bad enough to make me grumpy (as I can't take ibuprofen), a migraine must be hell :(

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berrygoround · 11/12/2014 07:58

Sorry for lack of posting this week. I am in work hell.

Just wanted to pop on to wish Nelly good luck for today. I'll be thinking of you.

So pleased to see you've had another good scan too Critter and that cos has a clear plan for the next steps.

Lap is tomorrow so you may not hear from me for a couple of days but I'll be back!

lovesLemonDrizzleCake · 11/12/2014 08:21

Good luck today for scannage, Nelly!

And to you too for your lap, Berry! My op was a lap for completely different reasons two weeks ago and for the post-op check up I cycled here this morning. And I had a really tough time. So recovery can be fast!

Love to the rest of you!

FluffyNut · 11/12/2014 09:37

berry, I was up and walking the next day after my lap, and would say 4 days you'll be back to normal. whatever you prepare yourself for, if the gas works it's way like mine did then you feel like a really bad stitch. peppermint tea really does work wonders. be brave - thinking of you.

Nelly - everything crossed for you x

joy and critter, thanks for the advice and nice words. I currently feel like my ovaries are expanding to the size of tennis balls! ouch! it feels like terrible period pains! I'll find out tomorrow morning.

foxinorangesocks · 11/12/2014 12:01

At work and can't post much but have to say good luck nelly! Thinking of you.

MuddyWellyNelly · 11/12/2014 12:58

Quick post to say scan went well!! There is a heartbeat (just one Wink) and measurements are fine. Had an interesting chat with consultant which I will post more about later.

Thanks for the vibes. I think they work. Just having lunch as haven't been able to eat yet today!

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berrygoround · 11/12/2014 13:41

Yay, so pleased to read that Nelly!

akuabadoll · 11/12/2014 13:58

Brilliant nelly love to you.

CritterPants · 11/12/2014 14:16

Yay nelly for a healthy little bean! Brilliant brilliant news.

cos that all sounds excellent and how nice to have a clear plan of action for once. You're back on the conveyor belt with more information this time. I did the pill before my round too. I have a good feeling about this round for you - it sort of feels different, more positive, like joy's was.

fluffy I hope they watch you carefully after EC for OHSS - I got very overstimulated and was very uncomfortable after they'd collected the eggs - spent a long time sitting on the sofa and drinking lots of sports drinks to help with the bloating. You're nearly there! Make sure your OH is looking after you.

berry massive good luck for your lap tomorrow. Will have everything crossed that the op goes smoothly and the recovery is quick.

ray has AF arrived? Am willing it to appear for you so you can get on with your round!

missjane welcome and sorry you find yourself here. The waiting is a huge pain.

sam hope you're managing ok - thinking of you.

AFM all is fine but I got a horrible shock yesterday when I read about an online friend of mine, a girl who lost her baby son after birth to perinatal oxygen deprivation in very similar circs to me, a month before I lost J. She just had a second baby (she got pregnant again in March, 3 months after her c section) and the little girl has died due to complications following a minor breathing problem. It has massively shaken me and I am just consumed with sadness and horror for her and her husband. She's a lovely, friendly person who I've been chatting to for 9 months through this closed Facebook group for women who've had HIE loss. I just can't understand how you could lose two healthy full term babies within one year - how would you ever recover from that. It is literally my worst nightmare come true and I can't stop thinking about her.

lovesLemonDrizzleCake · 11/12/2014 14:28

Oh no, critter, how awful. That is a nightmare and I really don't know how you go on after something like that :( Tightest hugs

Hurrah for the flickering heart beat, nelly!!! You are pregnant for very real now :)

Buzzybee123 · 11/12/2014 14:52

critter that is awful and unimaginable, she must be totally and devastated and most likely frightened to ever try again. But lovely critter although it is terrible what has happened to her, it doesn't mean it will happen to you too, you will have your baby next year, big hugs

MuddyWellyNelly · 11/12/2014 15:22

Critter what a horrendous tragedy for your poor friend :(. Life doesn't get much harder than that. Oh that makes me want to cry for her. But sweetheart, Buzzy is right. This is not going to happen to you. You are going to be under such very close care; you've given your body time to heal; and the odds of that happening must be incredibly microscopically tiny. Be there for your friend, as I know you will, but please don't let it eat away at you. Tightest of hugs for you.

Thanks everyone for the cheers. It isn't really sinking in. I don't feel worried any more (yeah yeah, give it a couple of days), but I feel no more pregnant than I did this morning.

Berry, good luck for tomorrow. Lemon has hopefully reassured you about recovery!

Fluffy, is it your first scan tomorrow. Huge scan-vibes for you too. Critter is right to keep an eye out for OHSS so loads of water and after EC I think you need milk to replace the fluid. But the fact your ovaries are painful is a good sign for quantity! Mine never hurt a bit.

Oh hilarious anecdote from scan Hmm (I always have them, don't I?). The sonographer, who was lovely, had clearly forgotten I'd said DE. So just as she was finishing she said "do you have hyper stimulated ovaries I need to check?" I actually laughed and just said "Eh No, they are pretty much dead". Cheers for that.... Luckily, the excitement at the white flash on the screen over-rode any upset about this reminder of barren-ness.

Oh yes also now going for flu jab tomorrow. More needles. Goodie.

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loopylou1984 · 11/12/2014 18:27

Nelly - yay for the scan! That's fantastic news Smile

Critter - I'm so sorry for your friend, that's just awful. Nobody deserves that bad luck, thinking of you.
I'm ok thank you, spoke to (cried at) a friend yesterday as she knew we'd been trying for a while... She didn't have any advice as she got pregnant immediately, but she's a very good listener and it's nice to know she's there if I want to talk to someone.

Waves to everyone else, Xx

Deeray · 11/12/2014 18:37

Nelly wonderful, wonderful news.

Critter, that has made me feel quite tearful. It's hard to understand how such awful tragedy could happen not once but twice. I don't know how you would get through that. Your doctor sounds lovely, and from what youve said he's going to be keeping a very close eye on you all the way through.

I had a dream last night that I got a bfp. I was so happy and dh was in the dream too and he was so happy as well. Then I woke up and remembered it wasn't true, it has really affected me today. Combined with spotting and pmt hormonal crash I'm feeling very weepy today. Dh is going to phone clinic tomorrow to see about timing for the natural round.

Buzzybee123 · 11/12/2014 20:30

ray dreams that seem real are hard especially about BFP's but soon very soon it will be a reality for you :) I usually have nightmares and wake up screaming Blush that happened about 6 weeks ago

sam a good listener is a good friend and in this game they can be hard to come by.

berry good luck for tomorrow

Cosmonaut1 · 11/12/2014 21:09

Ray, I would take that as a subconscious belief that you will get your bfp. And your subconscious must know things about your body that you can't know.

Critter that's so tragically sad it's incomprehensible. Thank goodness she has a network of people who understand. I'm glad you're not her only contact though as you have to simultaneously protect your little twibling. Thank goodness you have such a fab doctor and will get such close monitoring and care. It's a very scary business. I can only hope that they will get untold happiness at some point in the future.

Sammy sorry for the tears. Im glad you have a friend you can open up to.

Berry very best of luck for tomorrow. Let us know how it goes. The day after mine I could have done my usual stuff but I felt a lot better for taking it very easy for a few days. They decided not to touch the slight septum didn't they?

Nelly I am still glowing about your news. Who cares about duff nurses when there are twinkling heartbeats!

Joy and Fox thinking of you.

Cosmonaut1 · 11/12/2014 21:11

And Critter thanks for your comment to me. As I hold you as wise beyond your years, I will take that as a good omen!

Deeray · 11/12/2014 21:21

Good luck tomorrow berry. I felt truly crap for two days after the lap and 4 days later I was back to more or less normal.

ThatWayMadnessLies · 12/12/2014 06:58

Hooray Nelly!! I foresee a tenplusser shopping trip in the future Grin

critter there are no words to describe such a loss. Your poor friend. It is natural to be terrified but this will not happen to you again.

ray I was going to say the same as cos. Maybe it's a premonition about your next round. Horrible feeling waking up from it though Sad.

berry good luck today. I was up and walking right away but took me a while to feel myself again. I think it depends on the extent of the adhesions. You may feel quite crampy for a while. My first lap also followed acute illness for the abscess so my recovery was as much about that as it was the lap itself. I am sure it will all go smoothly and you'll emerge in a much better condition to get that elusive bfp.

Must dash but waves to all and apologies for neglecting the newbies. I'm struggling to keep up these days.

FluffyNut · 12/12/2014 13:04

Had my stimming scan (day 8) i have 7 folies on the left and 17 (!!) on the right. They took bloods and may stop or reduce the stimming. I'll find out later. ec might be Tues or wed. lining is looking good. I'm just feeling disappointed as there's too many they may abandon to avoid ohss. now drinking 3 litres - it's so hard to drink that much water!!!

will throw myself into nice Christmassy things this weekend until my scan Monday.

ToesAndFingersCrossed · 12/12/2014 14:06

Hi all,

I'm currently sitting in the hospital with a cup if tea having a wee cry so I hope it's ok if I so a me me me post. I promise I've been following everyone's progress, even if I haven't posted recently - life has been hectic and then there were a couple of announcements that threw me for six (also one that I'm very happy about - why is it that some of them make you want to punch people and others make you so, so happy).

So today I have my mock transfer and scan of my ovaries. I was mostly worried about my first dildo cam experience, but it was totally fine - Had a wee giggle at the fact that they use a condom on it but it makes total sense.

The they went to do the mock transfer. And she couldn't get the catheter in. Then she called another doctor who tried for ages and couldn't get it in either. Eventually they gave up and I went for a wee. They said they were going to do it in theatre, but it was pretty full so sent me away for an hour. I had a cup of tea and biscuit and wandered around the hospital. I was feeling quite emotional, which didn't help when a choir of little angels turned up to sing Christmas carols. I left pretty sharpish.

Then I was back in the gynaecology wing, and in theatre. The nurse I had was just lovely, so kind and sweet. The doctor put the speculum etc. in and then was still struggling to thread the catheter through. It seems that the neck of my womb is a) unable to keep still and b) quite bendy, so they had to get the catheter through two curves instead of one like with everyone else. In the end they had to get the most senior gynaecologist in the building to get it through, while holding the neck of my womb still with some clampy type things. I'm a bit fuzzy at this point in what happened because it was horrendously painful and I was gulping down the gas and air like no tomorrow. They were about to give up (after about half an hour of trying) but then he said let's try one more time, and I was trying to say please no through my mask, but they didn't hear me and went for it. They FINALLY got it in. He's making very detailed notes about how he did it so that it's easy to replicate, but did say I'd need the gas and air again for the ET. Whew.

Now that's all been done, I'm just sitting in the waiting room, I have no idea what's happening next but I've called Mr Toes to come to the hospital because I need a cuddle. Also just noticed a leaflet right next to my head called "are you facing a life without children?" Which is what I think set me off crying. I've turned them all over for now. Don't know if I should turn them back before I leave because people might need them, or leave them because I imagine most women like me will just start blubbing at the sight of it...

FluffyNut · 12/12/2014 14:48

Oh toes, that sounds so awful! Poor you. I hope you get to recover with loads of tlc from oh. The only thing I can say is thank goodness they did a dress rehearsal because image if you were going through all of that on the real thing. I know you had a horrible time but try to see a positive from the experience. big hug and handing you a tray of choccies.
and for what it's worth I wouldn't want to see that leaflet either -it's not for you! x

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