TTC for 10 months, and all the rest. 10 plussers welcome.

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New thread full of the most amazing women.

Cos - I am sorry to hear about the sad family news. That's not what you need right now. I am glad you are able to get started soon. A different protocol is great news. But what do these antibodies mean? Does this explain why you got pregnant with progesterone support? Anyway I am glad they are going to put you on progesterone after saying they don't do that. I hope you are ok.

Star - fab news, at last!! This is a great step forward and how many rounds do you get?

Berry - that's good hypno did something for you. Do you feel any different?

Fluffy - sorry to hear about gramps nursing home. That's horribly hard.

Absolutely agree with ray that if you're feeling down don't hold back from expressing here. You won't bring the mood down. It is important to get it off chest. Seriously this thread is nearly 4 years old now and we all know what those horrible feelings feel like. We have all been there far too often.

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Nelly, I will be keeping an eye out on you and any bump stroking. to be fair I am sure it's impossible not to stroke them when you're really big but I still find it stingy seeing it. Also totally agree with you. I feel very reticent about things and wouldn't dream of talking prams before a birth. I know how quickly things can change.
Will be here for you Thursday - what time is your scan??

Joy it's a bit vague. I've to see the midwife in EPU at 10, then go to X-ray for the scan . Then back to see the consultant at EPU; but I might just have to wait as long as it takes, as he's on call. I've to have a full bladder for the scan but I don't know exactly when it is, so that could be fun. It could be a long day hanging about. I will update when I can though if I'm not a sobbing wreck

Hi ladies,
I posted on here last month and was very warmly welcomed.
I’m 11dpo on cycle 12 and not feeling positive but we will see. Learnt of two accidental pregnancies at the weekend (a friend and a friend of a friend) everyone I know seems to fall pregnant instantly or accidently.

I have just read back through the thread, Nelly and Critter I was reading through the earlier pages hoping for the best for you both and am so pleased that things are looking good.

Nelly, I think it was you who at the end of the last thread suggested I post my results to have a look at (which is very kind of you) I have dug them out and here goes;
I had my scan and blood tests on CD7
Have detailed measurements of my uterus and ovaries – says all is normal.
Antral follicle count is 13 + 18
AMH was 34.8
FSH, LH and something I’ve not heard of called 17-beta oestradiol were all within normal ranges though the LH is 0.1 over which I wouldn’t have thought would be an issue.
DH analysis was normal with 45% progressive. I do think we may have a bit of an issue with DH getting stage fright (so to speak) over ov time.

I have my HSG on what should be CD9 next cycle (if AF arrives when I expect her to on Wednesday)

It is reassuring to hear that lots of people conceive within 12-18 months. I said to DH that we should wait until 18 months but he is keen to start IVF sooner rather than later. I’ve started the ball rolling with the GP and booked an appointment – not sure if there are other tests they can offer or what the deal is here with IVF on the NHS but we will see. It all sounds very daunting.

Hi to the other newbies who joined this thread since I last posted.

nelly take a bottle of water with you and drink while you are there,nothing worse than sitting there waiting with a full bladder

Thinking of you for Thursday, nelly! Good tips from buzz! Full bladder is incidentally not bursting --lembie was v squashed at the 12 week scan, before. Also if it's not easily visible, they can always dildocam you (and it's not like that's an issue for us longtermers).

Btw I still feel like a fraud when I buy nappie rash cream and lembie's not with me to prove I actually have a baby. It doesn't go :)

Hurrah for movement towards ivf Star! It's time they took you seriously. We did ivf exactly three years after starting ttc, lembie was born (my first frostie) at exactly 4 years after starting...

Trixie those numbers look very good to me.

Re:bump stroking - I was guilty of that. Mainly to wake up lembie to check he was still there, or because he'd just done a massive kick. I felt very self conscious but couldn't stop myself.

What is great is that at this precise moment in time I do not hate mothers or feel jealous of differs. I'd love another one at some stage so the envy might return but I am loving not feeling it.

Re: negativity, I've seen none. I am glad we're all still here waiting to see us all come thru the hell that is longterm ttc. All feelings belong here, but especially those that are unacceptable off-thread.

So please feel free to rant, moan, soul search and chat about other things.

I loved silly or daily yoga on that front. I got really fit the six months post-mc (handy pre-ivf fatness). Although the op I just had an concomitant fasting for about a week have brought me back to pre-ivf size.

Tight squeezes, esp for fox, ray, cos and poutster

Hi Trixie
Hope you're ok?

I'm taking a bit of a break from mumsnet after month 13 bfn as I think some of the conversations were sending me a bit crazy... but this is the one thread I have to keep reading.

Nelly - good luck for the scan! ??

Xx

Thanks Lemon.

Hi Sammy. I'm not great, thinking along the same lines of you about a break. It's getting harder to stay positive each month. Focussing on doing some good deeds hoping that will make me feel better.
Not feeling at all festive...have said to DH that if we're still trying next Xmas we will spend it somewhere hot and sunny, would do that this year if we hadn't already told our parents we will visit. I really went over board last year on booze and stuff you can't eat when pregnant and told everyone we were ttc thinking by this Xmas we'd have a baby/be pregnant.

sam and trixie; sorry to hear you're both feeling 'meh' only you can make the decision to have a break. Love the sound of a sunny xmas. ww have too many family members we have to take care of to up sticks.

Nelly, excited about the scan. good luck.

quick question, I'm stimming and on day 6 and have tons of ewm (sorry if tmi) i normally don't get a lot. is this part of the deal or should I be worried?
thanks x

Fluffy - thats very normal. It's all the Fsh being pumped into you. I would get loads too.

Tricks - welcome and 12 months is hard and depressing and Oddly I felt worse then than I did on the 4 year mark but loads of people fall pregnant between years 1 and 2.

Hi ladies just wondering if anyone is in same boat as me. Iv been TTC for over 2 years in fact my next period is due on 13/12/14 which will be cycle 26 without success. I am 28 and have been on waiting list to be referred for initial gynacology appointment for last 5 months. I have had 21 day blood test which came back fine. I'm just feeling totally fustrated

Thanks for Scan wishes everyone. Terrified. Can't picture a good scenario. I keep reading how MS is such a strong indicator of a healthy early pregnancy.,,As I scoff down whatever takes my fancy.

Sorry about the tricky 12 month mark Sam and Trixie. Like Joy I found it easier later as you learn coping strategies, but I doubt either of you will get this far! Trixie your numbers sound good but did you have a day 21 progesterone test? HSG is a good next step but confirmation of ovulation is important too. Good
Luck.

Lemon it heartens me to hear you've got a break from the anger. Hurrah.

nelly I think only about 50% of women get morning sickness. Ravenous hunger and dizziness are also symptoms! Good luck for tomorrow, I have a really good feeling about it twins but I know how terribly scary it is.

trixie welcome again, great that you're getting the HSG test - anecdotally, a lot of women get pregnant right after having it as it can apparently flush out any gunk that's blocking up your tubes. Christmas is hard, it's such a milestone and it's natural that you're feeling so sad. Can you do something creative? That has always helped me in my lowest moments.

sammy lovely so sorry you're feeling blue. It's the awful feeling of being left behind as everyone else around you moves on with their lives. Big big hug to you, I am sorry it's so painful.

fluffy joy is right, loads of ewcm is totally par for the course when stimming. Sounds like you're managing brilliantly and your body is responding beautifully.

joy oh wow about two boys. How absolutely lovely.

star I still look at pregnant strangers and new mums with - I don't know, not hatred exactly, but a very weird and twisted feeling, kind of wistful and bitter. Especially when they have babies around the same age mine should be. It's ok to feel like that - I think it just shows we are human. Fantastic news that you can move forward with IVF so quickly.

AFM all ok, still 'drizzling' watery rust-coloured stuff as lemon put it, on and off, but had a final (I hope) scan at the clinic this morning and everything was ok. Doc thinks the bleeding and cramping is coming from where the placenta is starting to implant. Frightened but grateful the twibling is unaffected for the moment. Love to all.

Day 31 here, waiting for af to show up so I can see about doing the natural round this month. Waiting, waiting, waiting is the story of my life.

Critter, great news that twibling is doing well.

Nelly, good luck for scan. I'm predicting twins too.

Critter – yippee at twibling being ok. that’s great!

Nelly – i don’t think any of the successful 10 plusser grads went to their scans expecting to see anything. It is terrifying when you have absolutely no idea what is going on. But you have got the same problem as me, wanting MS for some reassurance and finding those annoying posts and articles saying MS is a sign of a healthy pregnancy. Honestly so many people don’t get MS and have healthy pregnancies that all this does is to scare monger. Anyway, I expect, you would probably still feel terrified even if you were throwing up. And not that I’m there by any stretch of the imagination but don’t forget i had nothing. The doctor was telling me bad sickness would kick in and it never did. Some people just don’t get it and many people get it later. Anyway, this will do nothing to reassure you but hand hold for tomorrow. I’m perfectly useless in the week before a scan. I can’t focus on anything but the fear of something having gone wrong.

Welcome missjaneo – many of us on here have been trying for at least 4 years so lots in the same boat. Have you got a date in the diary for an appointment. 5 months seems incredibly long time to see someone. Always worth chasing especially after 2 years and I’m not surprised you feel frustrated.

Ray – so much waiting, it is very frustrating. Hopefully it turns up soon. is there a deadline that it needs to come by or will you be able to fit a cycle in at the end of Dec?

Hi Joy,

Yeah iv phoned practically every month since I was referred on 15th June and have been repeatedly told the waiting list is 6 months as standard for a gynacology. appointment. I live in wales so not sure if it's just the waiting list here. I'm not even entirely sure what to expect when I do get an appointment as my GP who I originally saw sent me for 21 day blood test which came back ok then just said she would refer me. So im just waiting at the moment. Anyone shed any light on what I can expect at initial appointment

Thanks Critter, Nelly and Fluffy.

I'm ok, it's just the end of the 2ww... The hormone crash sends me a bit crazy. That combined with the baby dust and symptom spotting on the other threads is not good! I think I'm going to stay away from them for now...

Trixie - I'm throwing myself in to Christmas, decorating, parties, wrapping presents, Xmas fairs - I'm there! Distraction is definitely the way forward! Xx

Missjaneo

I'm waiting for my referral too, although I don't think the wait is as long as yours.
Has your dp had semen analysis? That was our next step after my day 21 bloods. X

No nothing was really said after my 21 day test other than she would refer me. It's just so fustrating having to wait so long for an initial appointment. I knew there was gonna be an element of waiting involved but never imagined it would be 6 months just to see someone. Part of me wishes I'd gone to doctors sooner now but my sister in law took a year to conceive her first baby and 9 months on second so I just assumed in time it would happen but after the moths started to fly by with no success I'm beginning to lose hope of it ever happening. I'm currently on day 25 of a 28 day cycle but can feel AF is on her way.

Had my (rearranged) appt at new clinic today. The fact they'd cancelled the other day did not fill me with confidence, but turned out to be very straightforward. Because they use pill as part of downregging to control the cycle they even booked my 4 scan appts in! So I know dates and times for all except EC. Have you ever heard of such a thing! Will start when af arrives in next couple of days then stimming will be in jan.

Nelly very best of luck for tomorrow, I will be crossing everything and more for you.

Critter fab fab news about latest reassuring scan. Sorry for the worrying rust drizzle hope it goes away soon so you can relax a bit.

Ray I would love this round to turn out to be a bit if an ironidiff for you.

Berry the hypno sounds really interesting. I think the whole mind / body connection is fascinating.

Hello to the newbies, sorry you find yourself here, it's a really tough journey.

Nearly scan time, nelly! Being petrified is part of the deal for 10+ers. I certainly didn't dare to believe something would be there. The only thing that helped was feeling movement (from about week 25 for me, which is quite late). I am excited for you!

As I am for cos, starting very soon. I did the pill as part of my DRing and got totally depressed on it, like I did before but it is an easy way to control your body and having some dates set instead of the continuous unpredictability! Massive fingers crossed for this round.

Critter, so sorry about continued drizzling but hurrah for the twibling doing well in the midst of it. This is your time again My heart breaks when I think how it must feel seeing new mums and babies at what should be J's age. Tight squeeze!

Ray, loving the pics elsewhere! And keeping everything crossed for a straightforward natural round. The numbers don't sound to bad to me, I think I got quoted something not to dissimilar for frostie rounds.

Waves at the newbies, the year mark is tough :(

I did get pregnant via iui after a lap&dye (part of which was a hsg) but miscarried. I hope a quick diffment is in store for you.