TTC after MC - the best shit place to be!

[Treaclepie19]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

I think you should go for it Treacle, you would probably be so happy to get that bfp that you will take the rest in your stride. Really hope it's your month.

7 dpo here and no symptoms. But then maybe there wouldn't be necessarily yet...

Sounds like implantation though for you Daisy, will keep my fingers crossed for you.

Thank you Purple you're definitely right! :)
Keeping my fingers firmly crossed.

Thanks purple :) the first BFP I got I had no symptoms at all so was really surprised so you never know! Fingers crossed for you too :) when are you planning to test?

Good luck to the 2ww! Only cd8 here.. I've decided no opks this month.

Not sure Daisy, I have worked out that af is due somewhere around the 2nd Nov and I have never had an early positive before but I have a night out on the 31st involving lots of wine and rare steak so not sure if I should do it before then. Pretty sure I will get a negative then though whatever the eventual outcome so not sure it will help. How about you?

I'm due around 3rd nov, gonna try and wait until the 4th to test but my willpower is usually rubbish! Maybe test next Sunday but the same as you I've never got an early BFP! Maybe just try and take it steady on the wine and drink really slowly! It's so hard :(

Yep that's probably the way forward but I love my steak red. Do I give that up for such a small chance. Going to Gaucho as a late birthday treat from my friends so should be a good one.

I always have an early positive - before both mc's I tested on cd 22 - tested today cd 21 with a FRER and it was negative :-( I know it's not over until AF arrives but my cycles are so short that its worked before. I admit I'm sad.

It's been 6 months since we started trying and in that time 2 x mc so I can't even go to doc for help to says its been 6 months.

Next cycle will be 4th cycle since 2nd mc - what am I doing wrong? We caught so quickly the last 2 occasions so I'm frustrated now. I'm agonising that we had so much sex on hols that I must have ovulated early and just by being too tired for sex one night we missed. FFS

I agree Daisy it's so hard

So sorry brummie :(
I know what you mean. This is my 6th cycle since the mc. No idea what Im doing wrong compared to last time :(

I have to keep reminding myself of Broodys wise words, each AF is a new start and a chance to try again, we have to believe that!!!

Here you all are!! I have been looking at the old one thinking it had gone really quiet!

Will read through and catch up but can see some testing/AF due this week. Fingers crossed for all.

It's just over a week since my mc. .
I'm feeling really guilty over bring ready to try again. I thought wanted time out but it's almost just confirmed for me that I really want this. . But it feels like I should be mourning it longer. I'm deeply sad, but I knew it wasn't right from the word go so didn't get a deep attachment, I couldn't.

Anyone recognise these feelings? X

Totally Chasing I was desperate to try again almost immediately, I still am more obsessed with the whole thing so much more than I ever was before. But my mc was at 5 weeks, if it was later I might have felt differently but I feel like I would still have been keen to try. At that stage I think I mourned the idea of what I thought was happening more than anything else.

I've just had to violate myself with a progesterone thingy. It's made me want to fart...

Chasing I was exactly the same. I was 6 weeks when I mc and thought I wanted a break... Went and got the pill and everything then cried loads when I got home cos couldn't face taking it and realised I wanted to try again, that was all within a week! You just have to do what feels right for you and listen to your body.

Treacle I don't think its anything were doing "wrong" I think it's just shit luck :(

YY mourning the idea ... The potential.

I look at my dc1 and feel so sad that that little bean didn't get to be another little amazing person like the one I have. But that bean wasn't mine. I wanted them to be. . But they weren't and I felt it from the start. Now I just feel ready to have that person. I have my worries. And I'm scared. Having a 2nd is definitely more of a change than one for me. And during the few weeks I knew I was pregnant again and then the mc, I almost convinced myself that I wasn't ready. . Wasn't sure I wanted another. But now. .. I feels time. . Ready. I don't know.

But it's been so long ttc this one.. I'm worried it's not going to happen again .. I need that bfp. A healthy pregnancy. . A other empowering beautiful birth to heal the shit I've been dealt the last 18-24 months.

Oh Chasing I'm sure it will - and when it does it will be the perfect little bean with the right egg, the right sperm at the right time. So bloody down hearting each month when it doesn't happen though :(.

Morning ladies. I too have taken longer this time than previous attempts to get pregnant again. I just keep trying to remind myself - it is really totally random and down to luck. Just because it's taking longer doesnt mean my body is screwed up in any way. It's hard though.

Charlie just had a look at the City Pregnancy place. Really interesting that it is specifically for our situation. It's actually extremely close to my office so I may go. How are you finding it? Presumably you can talk about other stuff too, not just the pregnancy loss? I find these thing never tend to be as black and white as that! I saw a therapist after my dad died and found it extremely helpful, although it ended up being about all sorts of stuff, as well as the bereavement.

So 8dpo and not a symptom in sight. Exactly the same as all the non-pregnant cycles that have gone before . I wasn't exactly optimistic but I guess I hoped using the lube might have helped. What I would give for something to get excited about! A speck of blood, some creamy discharge, a uterine twinge. But nope. Nothing. Well I have a spot! I guess I could get excited about that lol

Grrrr. Stupid body.

monten basically you go for an initial evaluation with the leader there, who then allocates you a therapist. They are pretty busy, but I think there's a lot of patient turnover. They allocate you 10 weekly sessions initially then you can reevaluate with the therapist. I spend a lot of time talking about DH/work etc as a lot of those issues are tied up with TTC/MC. The weird thing to me is that it's a charity so it's a pay-what-you-can-afford deal which I find massively awkward. I'd rather they just tell me what I need to pay.

4-5 dpo here with AF-type cramps this morning and tiredness. Really sore bbs. Really hope these are positive signs! Had a CP at the start of September and only just ovulated again last week (got a positive on opk and ewcm so think I did!) Can you start a 'cycle' without having AF? If so, this cycle started on Oct 6th I think (i.e. just skipped one period) so oved on CD 16-17 (earlier than last time) and having symptoms earlier too. Do you think these are good signs? Gah wish I could stop fretting!

Hi ladies,
Could you help?
I had a miscarriage 4 months ago, my normal period started 28 days later and regular thereafter, this month I started to lose a light brown discharge 7 days before period was due and 9 days after ovulation and has continued. I haven't got my period and am now 2 days late! Could I be pregnant ?

Nic89 yes, you definitely could be pregnant. TEST!!!!

MaGrat you can indeed ovulate without AF coming first after MC. It does depend on how soon you clear the pregnancy hormone. For me I cleared it very slowly so I had AF first. Other people miscarry very quickly and test negative soon afterwards. They then can ovulate before their first AF and so get a positive hpt without ever getting their first period.

MaGrat these sound very positive When can you test?