TTC after MC - the best shit place to be!

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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Thanks everyone, much appreciated. After 2 mcs this year my fingers are crossed hard! But MC2 was a trisomy so statistically this one should be ok. Hopehopehope!

haribo no I'm not, I'm 2nd cycle since WTF cycle. I used to ovulate day 14 before mc though but last month I didn't ov until day 19. But didn't get any EWCM until then either so I'm hoping my ov is moving back forward again!

I was hoping to start TTC on the WTF cycle but now I have found a lump in my labia. Had 3 previously in the (11 week) pregnancy and GP felt likely to be bartholian cysts but they went down by time I got in to see them. Well I've booked in for tomorrow and hoping for some answers. Now wondering if they could be linked to the infection (nnaturally occurring not an STI) and in turn the MC. Just questioning everything atm. And I'm sure I'm ovulating from the pains in my side.

Oh that sounds worrying eggs, i hope they can get it sorted quickly. It'sa good sign you're ovulating though, how many days since your MC?

Errr, id say 8 from when the red blood started, 11 from spotting. I normally ovulate around day 11 though and have had 27 day cycles for years. Probably leave it though with seeing dr tomorrow. Doubt we will try over Christmas, so my hope of both children being in primary school together is lost. I think that's what I'm struggling with.

chasing how did the second appointment go?

charlie a very whispered congrats

eggs I often get those lumps and they've never been a cause for concern for my gp so hoping all is ok with yours too. If they're clearing up I doubt they're anything worrying x

This is how ridiculously crap I am. I went on a hen do this year - back when I was still pregnant - and we got pregnancy tests in our goodie bags -where did goodie bags being essential come from- and oh how I laughed at the time "bit too late for me I won't be needing one of those'

I confess I dug it out and used it tonight!! I'm only 7 dpo!! WTF was I thinking?

Unsurprisingly it was negative. I then read the instruction, "use 7 days after a missed period"

Hah its that cheap and crappy you can only use it after you are 7 days late!!!!

So 7 dpo too early then??

Oh Brummie - I think I'd be more concerned if I managed a BFP at 7dpo on a test that isn't meant to give you a BFP until 21dpo than if I got a BFN!!

On the plus side, you're definitely not out this month!

Oh brummie you're definitely not out. I am tho, stupidly poas on a frer this morning and bfn. Af due tomorrow or Tuesday. Finding it very tough this weekend.

Yesterday I went with DP to meet an old friend of his, who left the uk a few years ago and is back for a visit with his new wife and child. I was hungover and feeling fragile anyway as had had a very vivid dream about my dad (he gave me a hug ) the night before. Anyway, as we approached them I spotted the baby and just could tell it was about four months old. Sure enough, he was born in July. Like my little boy I had to terminate would have been. They were lovely, just very PFB about him, fussing all the time, writing down how much of a bottle he drank, he was in a pram and they refused to carry him up and down even five steps, we had to find a flipping lift every time. It just got right on my t*ts - I know it shouldn't have but I wanted to scream my head off at the unfairness of it all. At one stage the friend asked DP whether we wanted kids. On the train home I just sobbed and sobbed.

I'm so sorry to read your news chasing. How awful. When do you have to decide?

So sorry monten :(
Well done you for getting through it though x
I've been listening to Xmas songs. Heard one the other day and was in tears (due to my december due date) so decided I need to get it all out my system before I'm forced to listen to them in public.

Oh Monten massive hugs and well done for getting through it

I know that jealous bitter feeling of unfairness all too well x

Monten - As Brummie said, well done for getting through it. It's so very difficult. Enormous hugs

Got asked the infamous 'when are you having kids' question over lunch today - the second time I've been asked it in a week. Admittedly, my friendship group is full of babies and bumps at the moment, so I can see why people are curious, not that this makes it any easier...

monten that sounds REALLY hard. You are incredible for getting through it.

I had a 2nd injection yesterday evening. I feel extremely sick this morning. So so tired and I feel so emotionally fragile today.

The next two days with work will be so hard

monten What a tough meeting. Well done for holding it together.
chasing really hope this last injection works. Its a shame you've not been able to take time off.
Back to work for me today. Everyone already knows but I'm sure there'll be questions. Tbh I prefer to talk about it than keep it bottled up but there'll no doubt be tears.
Hugs to all.

eggs good luck for today. Hope you have good colleagues who help you through the day x

Good luck today Eggs - I'm a real talker too as I was quite open and honest about everything and people at work were fantastic.

My own team already knew I'd had 1 mc so they were gutted for me at a second so we sat and chatted about it, tears and hugs. But it really helped

Mc is isolating enough and no one talks about it enough

Thanks ladies.

Good luck today eggs. I told my close colleagues, the others definitely guessed the second time. The feeling like you're not supposed to talk about it is so isolating, if you feel like talking do. Hope it goes okay.

chasing you are being a complete hero about all of this. So brave. Have you got any leave you could take or do you have any holidays coming up? I really don't think I could cope having to work through it. I had two weeks off with mine. I was okay to go back but could equally have had longer. It's a very hard thing you are going through, emotionally and physically. Be kind to yourself

monten hugs to you and well done for getting through it

chasing I second what everyone else has said above and wish you luck today, really hope it goes okay

eggs I feel so much better since telling everyone about my mc, they've all been really supportive so I hope you get the same from your work colleagues

cariad me too :( I just want to hit the person and run away and cry, but unfortunately society doesn't allow that so I have to make a joke of it and quickly change the subject :(

I'm not sure on these Internet cheapy OPKs... So up to yesterday they've been stark white, no second line at all, then yesterday I got a second line probably half as dark as the control line in the evening so I though yayyy maybe tomorrow I'll get a proper line but it's back to stark white! I'm really sure I've ovulated/on the brink. still got EWCM but yesterday had slightly tender bbs and right sided cramps making me think I ovulated... I'm just confused!

Oh monten well done you but how hard...you would have been looking at their little PFB and aching so much inside. I really feel for you. (They sound a little intense too, ugh!)
I am totally dreading this. Like you, we decided to terminate my pregnancy -at 15 weeks- and the dd was January 5th. I had made this pact with the universe that I'd be ok as long as I was pg again by then, but now all I keep thinking is that even if I am, I won't be past the dreaded 12 weeks so anything could happen.
Chasing I'm thinking of you at this incredibly tough time. How difficult. How worrying. You're doing so well.
Today, for the first time in forever (there'll be music, there'll be liiiiight!) I've woken up with a lighter heart. I'm going to take that, even if it lasts a few minutes or hours only, and make the most of it. I'm ditching absolutely every single piece of ttc madness paraphernalia as it's driving me insane and I am sure contributing to my anxiety and therefore lack of getting pregnant. We will just aim to dtd eod if we can and not worry if not. Well, that's the plan anyway! I will probably take a backseat with MN too as again, it makes me overthink everything and panic. Mwah to all of you and see you all on the a/n threads in a few months, ey?

Morning ladies, hope you are all well.

Monten what a brave lady you are. I couldn't have done it!

Eggs Hope work is going OK!

Chasing Thinking of you.

Having a horrendous day today. We decided to name our baby last night. I always had a feeling we would be having a little girl, and we both had a name we loved but were never gunna call the baby as no one else in the family on either side liked it! However, it felt right, and so we called her Addison. I couldn't sleep last night though for thinking of a life she could have had (silly I know its just torture really). I didn't want to come into work today but I would have had to seen as though almost everyone else is off! I then had our very worst client on the phone who spoke to me so bad I was in tears and after giving him a mouthful hung up on him... then felt awful all morning in case I would get wrong. Turns out my boss was on my side so feeling a bit better now!

MademoiselleG Good on you! Grab the opportunity, and enjoy being free from all the ttc paraphernalia! I'm jealous, I wish I could do the same... It must be such a relief to be able to get on with things. Wishing you all the luck in the world, and yy to hopefully meeting again on an a/n thread in the very near future.

daisy I found that with the cheapie internet OPKs, I can't go with the line having to be darker or the same as the test line - in my experience, if there is any second line, it's a positive. The has been confirmed so many times with the results from temping and the Clearblue fertility monitor.

Sorry for Monten and Cariad or having to face people with and questions about babies - it is so tough. And also to everyone else how is having a hard time!

I'm in another 2ww now, will test on Sunday so that if I get a BFP, I can race to the docs on Monday to get the meds Trying to be optimistic...

ooo good luck Cloud keep us updated!

Thank you cloud maybe that's the same with me as it would make sense! I did use the clearblue once before but the strips are SO expensive I thought i'd give the internet cheapies a go... maybe if no joy this month i'll go back to clearblue. Keep us updated on Sunday!

Amyyy So sorry you've had a rubbish morning. That's a beautiful name though and I hope it brings you some peace

Mademoiselle Good luck in your TTC journey.. come back and let us know if 'ditching all' results in a BFP though please... that'll be my next method! :)